https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 07 Apr 2026 22:37:49 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-have-my-babys-gender-in-an-envelopewhat-should-i-do#post-2414289 Fri, 08 Jan 2016 17:21:33 +0000 snowjewelz 2414289@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lov2teach: Aww. Whatever you do, "it" will be loved :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-have-my-babys-gender-in-an-envelopewhat-should-i-do#post-2414288 Fri, 08 Jan 2016 17:19:37 +0000 lov2teach 2414288@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@snowjewelz: That's what I was thinking too..but then I remember how I felt when my kids were born. I don't see how I would be disappointed after holding the baby and am finally able to connect. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-have-my-babys-gender-in-an-envelopewhat-should-i-do#post-2414285 Fri, 08 Jan 2016 17:18:05 +0000 lov2teach 2414285@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks so much for your input! I'm surprised that I haven't opened it yet either. I just want to make sure I will be 100% ok with either gender as this baby deserves nothing else. He/she deserves to be celebrated. &lt;3 If I do open it, I will come back here to update! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-have-my-babys-gender-in-an-envelopewhat-should-i-do#post-2413726 Fri, 08 Jan 2016 09:45:36 +0000 lilyann 2413726@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Don't open it!!!!!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-have-my-babys-gender-in-an-envelopewhat-should-i-do#post-2413720 Fri, 08 Jan 2016 09:42:02 +0000 snowjewelz 2413720@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Now I just want you to open it hahaha! </p> <p>I think I would in your situation; I rather be disappointed now and work out my feelings now, then to find out when the baby came out and God forbid the disappointment washes over me then :bummed: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-have-my-babys-gender-in-an-envelopewhat-should-i-do#post-2413666 Fri, 08 Jan 2016 08:48:17 +0000 Bubbles 2413666@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would open it!! But I have no patience whatsoever - I don't know how you have even managed to have it in your possession this long without opening it. :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-have-my-babys-gender-in-an-envelopewhat-should-i-do#post-2413577 Fri, 08 Jan 2016 03:16:47 +0000 mrschickpea 2413577@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Keybee: high five! Great answer!<br /> @lov2teach: what she said 👆🏻 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-have-my-babys-gender-in-an-envelopewhat-should-i-do#post-2413563 Fri, 08 Jan 2016 01:38:16 +0000 lov2teach 2413563@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Keybee: I like the way you think, lol! </p> <p>So, I haven't opened it! Still not sure if I will...ahhh!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-have-my-babys-gender-in-an-envelopewhat-should-i-do#post-2413544 Thu, 07 Jan 2016 23:43:28 +0000 Keybee 2413544@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Give it to a bakery and make a reveal cake! If you are disappointed you can eat cake to feel better, if you are more excited you can eat cake to celebrate! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-have-my-babys-gender-in-an-envelopewhat-should-i-do#post-2413503 Thu, 07 Jan 2016 22:40:29 +0000 ms.line 2413503@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@pastemoo: agree! burn! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-have-my-babys-gender-in-an-envelopewhat-should-i-do#post-2413488 Thu, 07 Jan 2016 22:21:34 +0000 pregnantbee 2413488@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>What @Finfan: said! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-have-my-babys-gender-in-an-envelopewhat-should-i-do#post-2413459 Thu, 07 Jan 2016 21:39:57 +0000 Finfan 2413459@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>OPEN IT AND TELL US!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-have-my-babys-gender-in-an-envelopewhat-should-i-do#post-2413439 Thu, 07 Jan 2016 21:12:39 +0000 californiadreams 2413439@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would open it in a heart beat. I've had gender preferences with both my pregnancies and found out each time I was having the opposite. The disappointment was hard because I'd already had 20 weeks of high hopes to have my preference. If there was a way to find out at the same time I got my BFP what gender I'm having, I'd take it. I'm 35 weeks now and over my disappointment and excited for this baby as is :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-have-my-babys-gender-in-an-envelopewhat-should-i-do#post-2413402 Thu, 07 Jan 2016 20:50:13 +0000 Reese 2413402@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would look if I had a preference. I think it will give you time to connect and accept the gender ...or you might be pleasantly surprised! You could stop wondering "what if and have your answer! sooo you should just open it and then tell us :grin: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-have-my-babys-gender-in-an-envelopewhat-should-i-do#post-2413370 Thu, 07 Jan 2016 20:20:49 +0000 lady baltimore 2413370@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't look. I had a (slight) preference for a boy, but we were team green, and any disappointment I felt when my daughter was born was completely overwhelmed by all of the other amazing feelings I had when I looked at and held her for the first time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-have-my-babys-gender-in-an-envelopewhat-should-i-do#post-2413300 Thu, 07 Jan 2016 19:12:00 +0000 Ash 2413300@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd toss it. Wait until baby is born to find out. :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-have-my-babys-gender-in-an-envelopewhat-should-i-do#post-2413256 Thu, 07 Jan 2016 18:35:34 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2413256@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Given all that you have said I wouldn't open it. At least not until your curiosity becomes greater than your gender dissappoint fear. Just 18 more weeks til total baby bliss. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-have-my-babys-gender-in-an-envelopewhat-should-i-do#post-2413255 Thu, 07 Jan 2016 18:35:28 +0000 skipra 2413255@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Rip it up! You won't care when he/she arrives and you won't have to dwell on it over the next 4 months or so if it's not your preference. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-have-my-babys-gender-in-an-envelopewhat-should-i-do#post-2413244 Thu, 07 Jan 2016 18:26:34 +0000 Torchwood 2413244@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lov2teach: Do you think it would be easier for you to deal with gender disappointment now or later? Some feel like it's better when the baby is here, because you love them so much it doesn't matter anymore. I wanted to know before, because I would have felt guilty of I'd felt even a twinge of disappointment while holding my baby. After losing a girl, I really wanted a girl, so I would have been very sad if we had had a boy, even though in the long run I would have loved him just as much. I didn't want to be processing those feelings while trying to bond with a new baby. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-have-my-babys-gender-in-an-envelopewhat-should-i-do#post-2413240 Thu, 07 Jan 2016 18:23:43 +0000 Cherrybee 2413240@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh my word, I would tear that envelope open!! I'm impatient! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-have-my-babys-gender-in-an-envelopewhat-should-i-do#post-2413230 Thu, 07 Jan 2016 18:14:35 +0000 Bao 2413230@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lov2teach: don't look!!! I wish I would have gotten that surprise experience. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-have-my-babys-gender-in-an-envelopewhat-should-i-do#post-2413226 Thu, 07 Jan 2016 18:12:06 +0000 lov2teach 2413226@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@pastemoo: Good point. And I've never really connected before to the baby when I was pregnant, nor did I ever have a preference. It wasn't until they were in my arms that I fell head over heals in love. I guess I just need to see that baby to really connect. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-have-my-babys-gender-in-an-envelopewhat-should-i-do#post-2413224 Thu, 07 Jan 2016 18:09:13 +0000 lov2teach 2413224@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ShootingStar: The main reason why I have a preference is because it's been (in my opinion) a long time since I've had this gender. I'm blessed as I have one of each gender already, They are BOTH equally amazing and wonderful. I wouldn't trade them for anything. Boys and girls have such amazing qualities. My first one is almost 10 and my 2nd is almost 4. So I guess I want to experience that again, if that makes any sense? I know that once baby is here I won't feel disappointment, which makes me wonder about holding off. I always say I wish I was having twins so I could get one of each. Win win. ha </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-have-my-babys-gender-in-an-envelopewhat-should-i-do#post-2413217 Thu, 07 Jan 2016 18:03:54 +0000 Mrs.KMM 2413217@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would look! That way if it is the gender you aren't hoping for, you have time to come to terms with it before baby is here. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-have-my-babys-gender-in-an-envelopewhat-should-i-do#post-2413213 Thu, 07 Jan 2016 18:02:07 +0000 pastemoo 2413213@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Burn it<br /> I think the disappointment will be less to none when you have a real baby in your arms.</p> <p>Eta I completely disagree that having more time is better for sex disappointment. Part of why I don't want to find out the sex is because it is one more reason everyone else connects with baby, and makes me feel worse for not connecting more. But just go with your gut, mama. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-have-my-babys-gender-in-an-envelopewhat-should-i-do#post-2413211 Thu, 07 Jan 2016 18:01:08 +0000 ShootingStar 2413211@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think you should sit down and think about why you have a gender preference - is it because you want to buy cute clothes for one sex? Or because you're scared to parent a certain sex? And then maybe write down all the wonderful things about having your less preferred sex. Ask here if you need inspiration! There's several threads on the pros of having boys, since most women seem to want girls. </p> <p>Then sit down with DH and open the envelope. If it's your preference then yay! If it's not then take a minute to be sad, it's ok to be disappointed. Then read the list of great things about having that gender. And maybe even celebrate by buying them the cutest gender specific thing you can find. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-have-my-babys-gender-in-an-envelopewhat-should-i-do#post-2413208 Thu, 07 Jan 2016 17:58:44 +0000 Mrs. Champagne 2413208@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ClairHuxtable: agree!</p> <p>Look :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-have-my-babys-gender-in-an-envelopewhat-should-i-do#post-2413207 Thu, 07 Jan 2016 17:58:10 +0000 erinbaderin 2413207@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Open! If it's not the gender you're hoping for better to find out now so you can get over the disappointment. Also maybe starting to put a gender and a name to the baby might help you bond a bit? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-have-my-babys-gender-in-an-envelopewhat-should-i-do#post-2413203 Thu, 07 Jan 2016 17:56:52 +0000 ClairHuxtable 2413203@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Jess1483: LOL!</p> <p>@lov2teach: I think you should look. If the baby is not your preferred gender, at least you would have time to come to terms with it before the actual birth. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-have-my-babys-gender-in-an-envelopewhat-should-i-do#post-2413194 Thu, 07 Jan 2016 17:47:06 +0000 lov2teach 2413194@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@antigone: And I know that's how i will feel when this baby is here. It won't matter if she/he is not my "preferred" gender. I will want no other baby. I guess I'm being so much harder on myself because of how unaccepting I was of this pregnancy. </p>