https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 01 May 2026 23:31:19 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-havent-told-dh-im-having-baby-fever-aka-ready-to-ttc#post-909777 Sat, 06 Jul 2013 13:16:08 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 909777@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@DiamondEyes: lol! Don't chicken out! Hehe. But, you know, I am glad you didn't tell him when he was stressed. My husband *always* has bad reactions if I catch him at a bad time. If I catch him at a good time, he is much more receptive to my ideas.</p> <p>When we began TTC, my husband would say he was "ready" but, he wasn't. I knew he was nervous and I knew that every month we didn't get pregnant, he wasn't sad. He was kind of like, "oh, that buys us another month".<br /> But, once I got pregnant and it came closer and closer, his excitement went through the roof. Within 15 minutes of LO's birth, he whispered to me, "I was 10 more!" To which I laughed and told him to "keep dreamin'" :) Funny how the tables turn once they lay eyes on their kiddos :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-havent-told-dh-im-having-baby-fever-aka-ready-to-ttc#post-909607 Sat, 06 Jul 2013 10:41:38 +0000 HellOnHeels 909607@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So far, I've chickened out. What else is new. DH was a little stressed out the other day and then worked a night shift, slept two hours, then worked again all day. So when he got home last night and we actually were sitting down relaxing, I couldn't figure out how to bring it up without him saying, "I'm super tired, lets talk about it later."</p> <p>He's still asleep, so maybe I'll get a chance later this morning? No excuses!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-havent-told-dh-im-having-baby-fever-aka-ready-to-ttc#post-907014 Thu, 04 Jul 2013 20:23:04 +0000 wonderstruck 907014@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Good luck, let us know how it goes if you do get the courage to bring it up! My DH kept changing his mind about whether or not he was ready, that was hard - like the first time we had sex without any BC, he pulled out halfway through and said he couldn't do it. That hurt. Then when we really stopped using BC, the next day he started having a freak out about whether or not he was ready - and luckily he changed his mind back the next day, because it turned out that I got pregnant from that very first time. But once that happened and it was a for sure thing he was excited and stopped with all of the doubt (thank goodness!) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-havent-told-dh-im-having-baby-fever-aka-ready-to-ttc#post-906917 Thu, 04 Jul 2013 19:22:57 +0000 HellOnHeels 906917@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks everyone! I really just needed to get it out there and here some other people's stories!! </p> <p>I might bring it up tonight, if I can get enough courage, lol. Just get an idea where he's at.</p> <p>A lot of his friends are having babies now, too. I know the biggest thing holding him back is that he doesn't want to give up the freedom he has. He's a very "fly by the seat of his pants" kind of guy and wants to be able to sleep in (when he can), take those quick, last minute trips and all those other things that come with being child-free. With that said, a couple of his friends were mentioning how much things have changed after baby, they don't have time for a lot of the things they liked to do, etc. and I could see that was really putting him off. But now that those friends' LO's are a little older, they have a groove/schedule going, it seems that has settled down.</p> <p>I had talked to DH about above, scared that his friends were putting him off kids entirely, but he reassured me that he still wants kids, just not anytime soon. That was during that one conversation.</p> <p>I absolutely don't want to pressure him into anything he doesn't want. I think I have to psyche myself up that he won't be ready and agree with my timeline and be prepared so that I won't get upset. I also have to make sure he actually gives me SOME kind of more specific timeline... the last minute type thing comes into play there again. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-havent-told-dh-im-having-baby-fever-aka-ready-to-ttc#post-906871 Thu, 04 Jul 2013 18:46:46 +0000 Colee 906871@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was in the same situation! I was ready, but my husband was still thinking we could wait a few years. It was hard at first, but he came around and now were expecting a baby girl in September! </p> <p>If you want to go off the pill, I recommend telling your DH about how long it can take for your body to regulate and that you want to use alternative birth control methods. I bought a big box of condoms to reassure him that although I wanted a baby soon, it wasn't going to happen right away. I also recommend telling him you have baby fever so he knows how you are feeling, but don't overdo it. If you swoon at every single baby you see and talk about kids non-stop, he might get overwhelmed and feel pressured. I noticed that gradually my DH started pointing out cute kids or saying things like, "when we have kids..." It also helped that his friends started to haves babies, so he didn't feel like he was the first one. </p> <p>I think the biggest turning point was when he opened up about his own fears of being a parent. He has had a rocky relationship with own father and didn't want to make the same mistakes. I reassured him that he is nothing like his father and that he would be a great dad. After that, he was ready to start trying. </p> <p>I admit that in those first few months off the pill, using condoms, I hoped for an "oops" too. But I'm glad we waited until he was ready. I didn't want him to resent me and feel like I made the decision for him.</p> <p>Good luck to you! Baby fever can be rough, so hang in there! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-havent-told-dh-im-having-baby-fever-aka-ready-to-ttc#post-906865 Thu, 04 Jul 2013 18:33:01 +0000 delight 906865@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I didn't think my DH was ready but I approached him anyways and he surprised me. He was ready too. Maybe your DH will be ready too! I'd tell him that once your BC is up, then you'd like to take a few months to monitor your cycles and then start trying. Maybe hearing that you are still a few months away from TTC will make it easier for him? You may be surprised though and be on the same page! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-havent-told-dh-im-having-baby-fever-aka-ready-to-ttc#post-906864 Thu, 04 Jul 2013 18:31:50 +0000 Foodnerd81 906864@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was ready before DH, even though we had talked about it before we got married and had a pretty solid time line (start trying about 2 years after our wedding). We did talk about how I was ready, a few times, but I respected that he wasn't yet and that we had agreed on an admittedly arbitrary timeline. </p> <p>I would say you should talk about it, even if it doesn't change the timeline. Otherwise, if you are anything like me, it will just eat at you and you'll get mad at him for stupid things he has no idea about because you are dwelling.! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-havent-told-dh-im-having-baby-fever-aka-ready-to-ttc#post-906842 Thu, 04 Jul 2013 17:58:31 +0000 HellOnHeels 906842@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>...and I think about it everyday. </p> <p>We've had one real discussion about it and that was quite a few months ago. At the time, he just said he wasn't ready yet. Didn't set a timeline, might have said "in a couple years". I wasn't ready at that time either, but for the past couple months I keep thinking to myself that I won't be anymore ready then I am right now.</p> <p>Ideally, I think I'd like to really start TTC towards the end of the year. My prescription for BC is done come the fall so I would give myself a couple months to get my body back in to the groove, probably start charting and go from there. </p> <p>How do I not blindside the guy, though? I'm pretty sure MY timeline won't coincide with his, and I think that scares or upsets me? I know I just need to sit him down and tell him all of this, but I guess I need some encouragement. </p> <p>TBH, it would probably be easier if we just had an "oops" so we couldn't dwell on the stuff that scares us... just get thrown into it. And DH couldn't put it off, like he does most everything else. </p>