https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 26 May 2026 08:27:15 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-just-cant-do-it-all/page/2#post-1786971 Tue, 29 Jul 2014 11:18:09 +0000 artsyfartsy 1786971@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Grizzly Bear: Thank you for sharing. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-just-cant-do-it-all/page/2#post-1786970 Tue, 29 Jul 2014 11:16:32 +0000 artsyfartsy 1786970@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@avivoca: today is going much better! T woke up at 5 like usual to eat and then again at 6:30 and was still asleep when it was time to leave this morning so he was in a great mood and well rested. He was so thrilled to see his regular babysitter and couldn't stop smiling if he tried. Work sucks but work just always sucks. It's a much better day today! Thank you for asking!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-just-cant-do-it-all/page/2#post-1786961 Tue, 29 Jul 2014 11:13:15 +0000 artsyfartsy 1786961@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@grizz: I really like that!!!!! I'm going to start using that all the time. "Fed and Loved". :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-just-cant-do-it-all/page/2#post-1786929 Tue, 29 Jul 2014 10:59:46 +0000 Boheme 1786929@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sorrycharlie: You do not suck! I think you're pretty awesome :heart: :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-just-cant-do-it-all/page/2#post-1786915 Tue, 29 Jul 2014 10:52:39 +0000 avivoca 1786915@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Grizzly Bear: :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-just-cant-do-it-all/page/2#post-1786903 Tue, 29 Jul 2014 10:47:49 +0000 sorrycharlie 1786903@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@grizz: i love that rule. that seriously just felt like something clicked when I read that. "fed and loved"...I need to stop obsessing, worrying, stressing and make my husband feel more loved, I think. agh. I suck! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-just-cant-do-it-all#post-1786857 Tue, 29 Jul 2014 10:32:08 +0000 Mrs. Grizzly Bear 1786857@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I can't do it all either, sweets. People tell me all the time how I'm doing so well and I smile but internally I think, "Oh my god, have you even seen my house??" Yesterday I had to go out for an appointment and had set up to have a dear friend watch the children for me. Would have been great except hubs and DS had decided to get a stomach bug on Sunday and I was a wreck. Hubs was staying home yesterday from work because he was so ill, DS had just thrown up, I called the sitter and asked if she still wanted to chance it since they might be contagious and she thankfully came anyways so I could go to my appointment. </p> <p>But you have no idea the relief I felt when I came home to a clean kitchen (it had been a wreck before I left), a meal, and a relatively content - if ill - household. The sitter said the most heartwarming thing had been seeing hubs curled up on the couch with DS and when DS had fallen asleep on her chest because he was just so ill. I was beyond grateful that someone had managed what I couldn't. I wouldn't have been able to handle that situation as well as she had. I'm not super woman although some people seem to think that I am and my house is a wreck nearly 24/7/365. I often feel overwhelmed and at a loss at what to do but we soldier on. It's not a comfort but I have and am and will probably always be there. You're not alone hon. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-just-cant-do-it-all#post-1786797 Tue, 29 Jul 2014 10:07:12 +0000 avivoca 1786797@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Danizaur: How is today going? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-just-cant-do-it-all#post-1786789 Tue, 29 Jul 2014 10:05:41 +0000 Anagram 1786789@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I posted something similar about a month ago---I was also having a tough working mom week (like you, just the logistic of making things work), but I made it through the week and things feel back into a rhythm I could handle.</p> <p>You can only do so much. Hang in there---hope things ease up for you soon! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-just-cant-do-it-all#post-1786781 Tue, 29 Jul 2014 10:03:30 +0000 .twist. 1786781@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hang in there mama. Know that feeling exactly. It does get easier. Things start to fall into place. Don't worry so much about the house! It can wait, for real!</p> <p>ETA: and I agree on a few hours of baby free, alone time! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-just-cant-do-it-all#post-1786778 Tue, 29 Jul 2014 10:02:32 +0000 bunnylove08 1786778@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Danizaur: hugs remember you can't do it all. If the house work piles up but your sanity is stable let it pile up. </p> <p>I think you might need some alone/baby free time to recharge </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-just-cant-do-it-all#post-1786771 Tue, 29 Jul 2014 10:00:47 +0000 Boheme 1786771@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Danizaur: Hugs! I feel that way all the time. We decided the new rule in our house was "fed and loved". As long as we're all fed and loved, nothing else matters. That sounds way nicer than "we drastically lowered our standards" lol! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-just-cant-do-it-all#post-1786462 Tue, 29 Jul 2014 08:18:10 +0000 alohaorchid 1786462@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>*hugs* I don't have kids but I still have days like that. </p> <p>Just remember that it's ok to not be able to do it all sometimes. If there's something that can wait until tomorrow, or that your husband/friend/family member can do, let them do it. I hope your day gets better! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-just-cant-do-it-all#post-1786459 Tue, 29 Jul 2014 08:17:59 +0000 catomd00 1786459@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think we have babes around the same age (5 months?) just wanted to say I totally get you! I'm having that type of day toda. We all have our moments. Hang in there! You can do this! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-just-cant-do-it-all#post-1786457 Tue, 29 Jul 2014 08:17:34 +0000 mrs.shinerbock 1786457@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm right there with you. We've had cereal or hummus and pita bread for dinner at least 4 nights a week for the last three weeks because I just gave up cooking on weeknights. I've outsourced what I can and just not caring about a lot for now, until we can get back on an even keel. And I've got a countdown going until we are done with the clusterf#$@ and we can switch to WCM. </p> <p>(((Hugs!))) Here's to hoping it gets better soon! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-just-cant-do-it-all#post-1786435 Tue, 29 Jul 2014 08:07:29 +0000 MamaMoose 1786435@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Any working mom who claims she never felt this way is a dirty liar. But it gets better. I promise!! Just do the bare minimum you need to survive, and give yourself some slack until you get in a groove. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-just-cant-do-it-all#post-1786390 Tue, 29 Jul 2014 07:53:57 +0000 Alivoo01 1786390@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>*hugs* &lt;3 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-just-cant-do-it-all#post-1786298 Tue, 29 Jul 2014 07:10:13 +0000 artsyfartsy 1786298@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thank you all! Your words always make me feel better. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-just-cant-do-it-all#post-1786268 Tue, 29 Jul 2014 06:49:42 +0000 edelweiss 1786268@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>many hugs. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-just-cant-do-it-all#post-1786153 Tue, 29 Jul 2014 00:14:46 +0000 Skadi 1786153@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>:heart: I say this gently...that's why DH and I made the decision for me to stay home. Between my emotional state and the cost of childcare, it just made more sense for our family.</p> <p>Can you hire a housekeeper to come in once per week or every other week? That way you'd at least be freed up in one aspect of your lives after you get home. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-just-cant-do-it-all#post-1786145 Tue, 29 Jul 2014 00:02:40 +0000 plantains 1786145@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Danizaur: hang in there mama! Once I stopped pumping life got so much better, easier and less stressful! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-just-cant-do-it-all#post-1786114 Mon, 28 Jul 2014 23:24:58 +0000 autumnlove 1786114@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hugs! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-just-cant-do-it-all#post-1786094 Mon, 28 Jul 2014 22:43:36 +0000 sandy 1786094@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Big hugs and sorry it was a tough day! We have all been there! You are doing an amazing job...and it will get better as LO gets older. Hang in there :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-just-cant-do-it-all#post-1786084 Mon, 28 Jul 2014 22:29:47 +0000 78h2o 1786084@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I feel ya!!!! Just tonight I was thinking how sick I am of everything with LO falling to me. I do 95% because I have to and it gets old. However, I've basically accepted that I can't do it all...I just do the best I possibly can and that has to be good enough...and deep down I know it is. Hugs. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-just-cant-do-it-all#post-1786083 Mon, 28 Jul 2014 22:29:32 +0000 MamaCate 1786083@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Danizaur: hugs! We all have days like this, and it seems more frequent when LOs are younger. I agree that this is a blip on the big picture and you should do what you need to take care of yourself--order pizza, leave the dishes etc. tomorrow is a new day! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-just-cant-do-it-all#post-1786079 Mon, 28 Jul 2014 22:26:42 +0000 MrsMccarthy 1786079@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So sorry sweet pea! I know the feeling. It can be very hard to find balance. You are doing a wonderful job! It's okay to let the dishes pile up for a day and take a breather. Also Chocolate! Hugs. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-just-cant-do-it-all#post-1786049 Mon, 28 Jul 2014 22:07:31 +0000 Corduroy 1786049@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hugs! I've had those days, we probably all have. When I'm feeling like an overwhelmed mama I find it's helpful to remind myself to do my best and ONLY my best. You can't do anything more than your best. Try to let go of any pressure or guilt for the difference between your best and some ideal. Your best includes help, sleeping, naps, breaks, etc - whatever you need to operate. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-just-cant-do-it-all#post-1786048 Mon, 28 Jul 2014 22:07:31 +0000 Corduroy 1786048@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hugs! I've had those days, we probably all have. When I'm feeling like an overwhelmed mama I find it's helpful to remind myself to do my best and ONLY my best. You can't do anything more than your best. Try to let go of any pressure or guilt for the difference between your best and some ideal. Your best includes help, sleeping, naps, breaks, etc - whatever you need to operate. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-just-cant-do-it-all#post-1785984 Mon, 28 Jul 2014 21:19:07 +0000 Katrocap 1785984@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hugs :heart: I don't really have anything useful to say other than to tell you that you are definitely not alone in feeling this way! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-just-cant-do-it-all#post-1785973 Mon, 28 Jul 2014 21:15:06 +0000 singingbee 1785973@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Danizaur: hang in there momma! We've all felt like that or still feel like that. </p>