https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 23 Apr 2026 09:25:10 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-just-got-my-first-maternity-leave-relaxing-comment-grr#post-2213973 Fri, 19 Jun 2015 19:40:04 +0000 catomd00 2213973@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes because nothing says relaxing like postpartum bleeding, vag stitches, cracked nipples, engorged, leaking boobs, the smell of spit up and rotten milk everywhere, sleep deprivation that will make you delusional,oh yeah and having to take care of the human you just birthed! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-just-got-my-first-maternity-leave-relaxing-comment-grr#post-2213917 Fri, 19 Jun 2015 18:34:25 +0000 Mrs. Microscope 2213917@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>New moms rarely have time to shower, clean their homes, grocery shopping and cook, let alone relax! Boo to your co-workers! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-just-got-my-first-maternity-leave-relaxing-comment-grr#post-2213907 Fri, 19 Jun 2015 18:27:50 +0000 pinkb 2213907@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It infuriates me when co-works refer to my mat leave as some kind of vacation. They seem to think I owe them something for being gone and them not being able to take a leave. It wasnt and f***ing vacation! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-just-got-my-first-maternity-leave-relaxing-comment-grr#post-2213730 Fri, 19 Jun 2015 14:55:29 +0000 sweetooth 2213730@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ElbieKay: ahahahhahahahaha!!! That feeder is hilarious!</p> <p>I feel like the majority of my first maternity leave was spent googling, "breast pain" "battling thrush" "switching to formula" - but I did watch a fair share of Netflix TV shows. Still, I had a mini list of "what I'd like to accomplish on maternity leave" prior to the start. And then the reality hit that I wouldn't have time to paint a mural or organize my recipes.</p> <p>This time around, maybe those recipes will get organized. Or - maybe I'll just do my best to soak up every minute of the newborn haze because this is my last rodeo. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-just-got-my-first-maternity-leave-relaxing-comment-grr#post-2213722 Fri, 19 Jun 2015 14:51:09 +0000 sunny 2213722@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes I had some male coworkers (who are fathers??!) ask me how my "vacation" was. This is just another reason why corporate America sucks for moms. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-just-got-my-first-maternity-leave-relaxing-comment-grr#post-2213718 Fri, 19 Jun 2015 14:47:24 +0000 Mrs. Lovejoy 2213718@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>LO2 was 2 weeks and LO1 was 2 years (this was a few weeks ago) and my sister asked "if it felt like I was on vacation". I hadn't slept more than 2 consecutive hours since his birth. I proceeded to laugh in her face then want to cry. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-just-got-my-first-maternity-leave-relaxing-comment-grr#post-2213711 Fri, 19 Jun 2015 14:42:34 +0000 Mrs.KMM 2213711@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LuLu Mom: yeah - I'm with you. I have a 3 week old and am EPing and I find life to be pretty relaxing. I spend lots of time on the couch snuggling LO and watching TV. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-just-got-my-first-maternity-leave-relaxing-comment-grr#post-2213135 Fri, 19 Jun 2015 08:24:24 +0000 ElbieKay 2213135@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Well I assume you registered for one of these: </p> [attach=3982/15/nq71af.600x450.crib-dribbler.jpg] https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-just-got-my-first-maternity-leave-relaxing-comment-grr#post-2213132 Fri, 19 Jun 2015 08:22:00 +0000 Anagram 2213132@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ElbieKay: It's a middle school but yeah--maybe he thinks it's like having just one middle schooler at home as opposed to 25 in your class every period--newborns can feed themselves and just sleep all the time, right? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-just-got-my-first-maternity-leave-relaxing-comment-grr#post-2213127 Fri, 19 Jun 2015 08:15:02 +0000 ElbieKay 2213127@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Anagram: Don't you work in an elementary school? How could your colleagues of all people think it's relaxing to hang out with children 24/7?? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-just-got-my-first-maternity-leave-relaxing-comment-grr#post-2213068 Fri, 19 Jun 2015 07:45:31 +0000 gilmoregirl 2213068@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ellewoods84: the good news might be that after a week or so home with a newborn going to work might feel like a vacation :) I was soooo jealous of my husband when he went back to work and I was home with a 3-week-old screaming newborn. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-just-got-my-first-maternity-leave-relaxing-comment-grr#post-2213062 Fri, 19 Jun 2015 07:41:46 +0000 wrkbrk 2213062@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Anagram: OMG. He's lucky your brain didn't explode ... On him. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-just-got-my-first-maternity-leave-relaxing-comment-grr#post-2213059 Fri, 19 Jun 2015 07:39:16 +0000 LuLu Mom 2213059@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Anagram: We did send her part time, the first few weeks she went fulltime until I got a schedule going. </p> <p>@bluestriped bee: This is how I felt, anything was more relaxing than my job (which I'm not really a fan of anyway!) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-just-got-my-first-maternity-leave-relaxing-comment-grr#post-2212373 Thu, 18 Jun 2015 13:54:39 +0000 Foodnerd81 2212373@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Anagram: I seriously have never understood how EPing moms do it. I think it's amazing- but yeah, that does not sound relaxing. </p> <p>With this second one I'll have my then almost 2.5 yo home too, so I doubt I'm going to be doing much reading. More likely I'll be putting on episode after episode of Daniel tiger while I nurse. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-just-got-my-first-maternity-leave-relaxing-comment-grr#post-2212331 Thu, 18 Jun 2015 13:33:33 +0000 BSB 2212331@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LuLu Mom: I know nothing about how my mat leave will be when my twins arrive. (Yeah, I know having twins will be even harder.) I am thinking that it will be a mini vacation (or better word, mini break) because I won't have to go to work (don't have to worry about commuting, don't have to deal with work deadlines, etc.) Granted, I'm sure I'll be tired and exhausted and having 2 newborns will be really hard. </p> <p>I'm thinking that these comments are from people who are thinking of your mat leave as a break from work. Which it is. Though, I agree with others that 'relaxing' shouldn't be in the same sentence as mat leave.</p> <p>ETA: I'll admit that I am looking forward to mat leave because I can turn off my work brain for 3 months. Also, I might even be naive to think I can job hunt while on mat leave. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-just-got-my-first-maternity-leave-relaxing-comment-grr#post-2212322 Thu, 18 Jun 2015 13:25:19 +0000 Mamaof2 2212322@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LuLu Mom: I'm with you I thought it was pretty relaxing as well. With DS he nursed all.day.long so I sat on the couch and watched TV or read books.</p> <p>With DD, DS was in DCP full time, so again I just sat around - LOL</p> <p>I was exhausting but not doing any work </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-just-got-my-first-maternity-leave-relaxing-comment-grr#post-2212315 Thu, 18 Jun 2015 13:21:43 +0000 Anagram 2212315@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@birdofafeather: right? sign me up for that kind of maternity leave. I sometimes feel like I have slight PTSD from my last maternity leave just because of all of LOs feeding issues and sleeping problems. I would just never, ever put "maternity leave" and the word "relaxing" into the same sentence together. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-just-got-my-first-maternity-leave-relaxing-comment-grr#post-2212304 Thu, 18 Jun 2015 13:13:09 +0000 birdofafeather 2212304@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This whole thread makes me laugh thinking of maternity leave as vacay. Can I move to the St Regis in Kauai for 3 months with a nanny to bring my kids to me when they need me? That's a maternity leave vacay!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-just-got-my-first-maternity-leave-relaxing-comment-grr#post-2212303 Thu, 18 Jun 2015 13:13:03 +0000 avivoca 2212303@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yeahhhhh... I think someone asked me about that, and then I went pregnant woman ragey on them. They didn't ask that again. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-just-got-my-first-maternity-leave-relaxing-comment-grr#post-2212302 Thu, 18 Jun 2015 13:13:02 +0000 Anagram 2212302@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LuLu Mom: Did you have your older one in daycare? Right now, I'll have my toddler at home as well...although we are looking into a preschool for her 2x a week. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-just-got-my-first-maternity-leave-relaxing-comment-grr#post-2212301 Thu, 18 Jun 2015 13:12:10 +0000 Anagram 2212301@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Foodnerd81: the benefits of breastfeeding! Since I EPd, I was usually pumping while rocking LO in the Rock n Play (because she would inevitably cry if I couldn't hold her for 25 minutes), and then I had to fill the bottle, feed her, wash the bottles.</p> <p>No time for reading the first few months. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-just-got-my-first-maternity-leave-relaxing-comment-grr#post-2212300 Thu, 18 Jun 2015 13:11:26 +0000 LuLu Mom 2212300@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I actually thought this maternity leave (my second) was very relaxing! And I read a book a week for pleasure if not more...She would sleep on me and I would read, besides the night wake ups it was pretty relaxing! &lt;holds head down sheepishly&gt; </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-just-got-my-first-maternity-leave-relaxing-comment-grr#post-2212287 Thu, 18 Jun 2015 13:01:53 +0000 ValentineMommy 2212287@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yuuuup. Heard that a few times in the past few weeks. There is literally nothing relaxing about recuperating from being cut open (csec) while taking care of a clingy toddler and a newborn. Not one thing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-just-got-my-first-maternity-leave-relaxing-comment-grr#post-2212255 Thu, 18 Jun 2015 12:40:01 +0000 Foodnerd81 2212255@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Anagram: I will admit, once she got her latch down pat, I actually did get a good amount of reading on my kindle done while nursing- she was a comfort nurser who occasionally would only sleep actually in the boob. But not at 6 weeks. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-just-got-my-first-maternity-leave-relaxing-comment-grr#post-2212234 Thu, 18 Jun 2015 12:29:48 +0000 .twist. 2212234@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>One of my old co-workers used to say "when is your year vacation?" or "how was your year vacation?" or "but, you get a whole year of vacation!" </p> <p>grrrrr. go jump off a bridge you old fart. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-just-got-my-first-maternity-leave-relaxing-comment-grr#post-2212229 Thu, 18 Jun 2015 12:26:49 +0000 mfa_lady 2212229@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ellewoods84: HAHAHAHAHA. Your poor brother. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-just-got-my-first-maternity-leave-relaxing-comment-grr#post-2212220 Thu, 18 Jun 2015 12:21:23 +0000 psw27 2212220@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ha I got this all the time from my admin... and she has 4 grown children. Does she not remember?! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-just-got-my-first-maternity-leave-relaxing-comment-grr#post-2212219 Thu, 18 Jun 2015 12:21:13 +0000 Anagram 2212219@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Foodnerd81: I actually thought I would have so much time to read. I've never read (books, I mean) less in my whole life than after I had LO. I used to be an obsessive reader--I'm a librarian! I've maybe read 3 full length books in the last year. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-just-got-my-first-maternity-leave-relaxing-comment-grr#post-2212216 Thu, 18 Jun 2015 12:19:54 +0000 Anagram 2212216@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Charm54: everyyyyyyone knows a baby's first year is EXACTLY like going to Jamaica and sipping Mai Tais.</p> <p>People. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-just-got-my-first-maternity-leave-relaxing-comment-grr#post-2212213 Thu, 18 Jun 2015 12:19:09 +0000 Anagram 2212213@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ellewoods84: He has no idea what he's in for. </p>