https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 25 Apr 2026 18:33:02 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-like-the-way-you-handle-the-tantrums#post-1086407 Fri, 13 Sep 2013 20:27:57 +0000 Freckles 1086407@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@erinpye: My LO is also 17 months and lately i just handle tantrums by letting her cry for a bit. She doesn't talk (but i know she understands) so i'll just talk and acknowledge why she's upset. I'll then give her a hug, and pat her back until she calms down. This past week her naps have been super short because of all the newcomers to her daycare room so i know it's due to being tired. No point in yelling at her!</p> <p>@banana: Unbelievable. I'm sure these people were wonderful parents in their day. I think the other problem is that people forget what sort of discipline they used on their children at different ages. How i treat my 5 year old may be different from how i treat a 2 year old. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-like-the-way-you-handle-the-tantrums#post-1086333 Fri, 13 Sep 2013 19:15:12 +0000 erinpye 1086333@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Vegmama: so redirection is actually something different- it's when you take their mind off of being upset with a toy or by taking them outside or something. I do that first because my 17 month old doesnt understand a lot of explanation when she's upset. If that doesn't work, that's when I just sit with her and let her know I'm there for her. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-like-the-way-you-handle-the-tantrums#post-1086267 Fri, 13 Sep 2013 18:17:29 +0000 Vegmama 1086267@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@indi: Awesome parenting moment for them ... and awesome for you guys for giving them a little something to give 'football pats' for!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-like-the-way-you-handle-the-tantrums#post-1086265 Fri, 13 Sep 2013 18:17:05 +0000 Vegmama 1086265@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@erinpye: I didn't know it had a term: redirecting. I feel like I have so much to learn!!! :) And, I'm glad to know that it works!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-like-the-way-you-handle-the-tantrums#post-1086261 Fri, 13 Sep 2013 18:15:14 +0000 Vegmama 1086261@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@banana: You DO win!! You did what was best for you &amp; your son. I would have high fived you!! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-like-the-way-you-handle-the-tantrums#post-1083753 Thu, 12 Sep 2013 19:24:01 +0000 indi 1083753@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@scg00387: Agree! The other day DH and I were talking about how great we think some friends of ours have brought up their kids. A few days later, one was throwing a tantrum in front of us and the dad handled it well and the mom came over to apologized and you could tell she was embarrassed. We told her we had JUST been discussing how they deserve a gold star for handling their kids so well, and she nearly cried. Seriously. She gave her DH a little football pat on the way back to their other kiddo, you could tell they were both just tickled. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-like-the-way-you-handle-the-tantrums#post-1083665 Thu, 12 Sep 2013 18:52:24 +0000 LovelyPlum 1083665@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@banana: Cookie butter does that to ya!! On a spoon is the best :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-like-the-way-you-handle-the-tantrums#post-1083478 Thu, 12 Sep 2013 17:37:18 +0000 banana 1083478@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LovelyPlum: Dammit. Now I'm craving Cookie Butter. On pretzels. Or toast. Or on a spoon.</p> <p>@Arden: I was about to be all "You wanna see me get pissed? WELL, HERE I AM MOTHA F'ERRRR!!" Ok that would've gotten me kicked out of the store. But I was thiiiiiiis close. For realz.</p> <p>@Penny Lane: Yeah, it's pretty darn good. I didn't know what to expect when I first tried it. But it tastes just how it sounds. Cookie + Butter. yummmmmm </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-like-the-way-you-handle-the-tantrums#post-1083409 Thu, 12 Sep 2013 16:59:57 +0000 erinpye 1083409@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We handle tantrums that way. No sense in yelling, it doesn't accomplish anything and they don't listen. If redirection doesn't work for my 17 month old, I sit with her and tell her I'll talk to her and be happy to give her a hug when she's ready to calm down. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-like-the-way-you-handle-the-tantrums#post-1083370 Thu, 12 Sep 2013 16:41:25 +0000 Penny Lane 1083370@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@banana: I have no idea what cookie butter is, but it sounds aMAYzing. and I can't believe people had the nerve to tell you off for not yelling at your child?! rude!</p> <p>@Vegmama: i know a few mamas that are super calm like that, and I always wanna watch them while they're sorting out a tantrum, but feel like such a creeper! haha! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-like-the-way-you-handle-the-tantrums#post-1083339 Thu, 12 Sep 2013 16:31:02 +0000 Arden 1083339@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@banana: I can't believe people said that to you! I wouldn't have been so nice. I'd be all "He's my child and I'll parent him how I see fit thank you now move along." Lol </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-like-the-way-you-handle-the-tantrums#post-1083312 Thu, 12 Sep 2013 16:21:17 +0000 LovelyPlum 1083312@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@keiki_mama: @banana: seriously. Not the cookie butter! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-like-the-way-you-handle-the-tantrums#post-1083303 Thu, 12 Sep 2013 16:16:36 +0000 banana 1083303@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@keiki_mama: That's hilarious. It's like buying illegal merchandise from a street vendor. "Hey, you got the good stuff? You know...the CB. How much do you want for it?" :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-like-the-way-you-handle-the-tantrums#post-1083296 Thu, 12 Sep 2013 16:13:38 +0000 keiki_mama 1083296@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@banana: At my TJ's they hide the Cookie Butter behind the info desk some times because it sells out so fast. We have to go ask for it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-like-the-way-you-handle-the-tantrums#post-1083292 Thu, 12 Sep 2013 16:11:04 +0000 banana 1083292@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@keiki_mama: I totally LOL'd right now! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-like-the-way-you-handle-the-tantrums#post-1083287 Thu, 12 Sep 2013 16:09:43 +0000 keiki_mama 1083287@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@banana: Not the cookie butter!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-like-the-way-you-handle-the-tantrums#post-1083268 Thu, 12 Sep 2013 16:01:43 +0000 banana 1083268@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@BabyBoecksMom: Thanks! Oh I almost lost it at the strangers though. I was about to chuck my jar of Cookie Butter at them. But I frequent that TJ's way too much. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-like-the-way-you-handle-the-tantrums#post-1083181 Thu, 12 Sep 2013 15:38:20 +0000 BabyBoecksMom 1083181@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@banana: Ummm I can't believe people talked to you like that! And serious props for being calm during the tantrum and while explaining what you were doing to strangers. *high five* </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-like-the-way-you-handle-the-tantrums#post-1083169 Thu, 12 Sep 2013 15:36:44 +0000 BabyBoecksMom 1083169@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I really, really try to be that way, but I struggle with having a short temper. I'm getting better about it, just in time for DD's tantrums to get worse. ;-)</p> <p>@Danizaur: Oh I hear you on the vets office - my dog FLIPS OUT as soon as anyone comes near him. If you weren't in the room, you would think he was being beaten to death. Oye! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-like-the-way-you-handle-the-tantrums#post-1083103 Thu, 12 Sep 2013 15:16:06 +0000 cascademom 1083103@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Wow, way to go moms. We're working on the whole walking away or redirecting during tantrums. Toddler tantrums are hilarious to me, so when he throws them at home, I try not to laugh. DH mentioned one of the Happiest Baby books said that we should only say "No" to something that would harm him. Otherwise, redirect at his age. I'm still working managing the whole tantrum thing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-like-the-way-you-handle-the-tantrums#post-1083092 Thu, 12 Sep 2013 15:12:57 +0000 banana 1083092@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Vegmama: High five to those mamas!!!!!</p> <p>But you know what...I've experienced the opposite! I was at a Trader Joe's near my house and my son was throwing the BIGGEST tantrum everrrrrr. So I calmly picked him up and held him so that he would calm down. But he kept screaming and crying. So we walked over to a corner and I just saw there with him until he calmed down and I told him that once he calmed down, we would talk. Until then, we're just going to sit there until he calmed down. The whole time I was talking to him in a very calm manner. Well, I had a few people come up to me and tell me that I should be firmer with him and that it's unacceptable to act like that in public. They said I should be raising my voice so that he knows I'm upset. I told them that he's in his tantrum mood right now and any amount of yelling wouldn't help. And that I will have a firm talk with him once he's calmed down.</p> <p>I don't even know why I was explaining this random strangers. But I felt judged that I was actually trying to be calm and patient during his tantrum! Can't win!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-like-the-way-you-handle-the-tantrums#post-1083072 Thu, 12 Sep 2013 15:07:40 +0000 immabeetoo 1083072@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Vegmama: you should tell them that I bet they'd be flattered! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-like-the-way-you-handle-the-tantrums#post-1083057 Thu, 12 Sep 2013 15:04:37 +0000 swurlygurl 1083057@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I remember my mom picking me up and putting me in another room when I would throw a fit (4+, since I can remember it). It totally worked because I did NOT want to be alone. I learned how to effectively communicate that way. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-like-the-way-you-handle-the-tantrums#post-1082960 Thu, 12 Sep 2013 14:41:40 +0000 MapleMoose 1082960@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I hope I can handle tantrums that way too! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-like-the-way-you-handle-the-tantrums#post-1082953 Thu, 12 Sep 2013 14:39:26 +0000 artsyfartsy 1082953@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I hope so too!! I panic when my dog is too loud at the vets office. Really hoping I can play it cool during a tantrum! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-like-the-way-you-handle-the-tantrums#post-1082943 Thu, 12 Sep 2013 14:37:02 +0000 Vegmama 1082943@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I want to go high-five a few of my neighbors! </p> <p>We're on a street of old bungalows with big ol' porches, so most of our summer lives are spent outside ... I work from home, so I get to 'watch' the other mamas on the street during their day-to-day kid raising. This week, I've seen 3 of the kids on my street throwing huge tantrums, and the moms were so calm about it. No baby talk, no yelling ... just calmly letting the kid cry it out for a minute, then talking with them about it. </p> <p>I'd like to think I'll have the patience/forethought to just let my kid have their moments, and handle the tantrums as gracefully as these women. </p>