https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 10 Jul 2026 23:57:43 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-love-my-baby-more-than-you-love-your-baby#post-2013048 Tue, 06 Jan 2015 23:23:57 +0000 littlejoy 2013048@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Kemma: Amen!! And, aren't those real life friends the ones that really matter!? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-love-my-baby-more-than-you-love-your-baby#post-2013006 Tue, 06 Jan 2015 22:54:30 +0000 Kemma 2013006@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@SugarplumsMom: it might just be my personal experience but sometimes I think that the "mommy wars" exist only on the Internet! In the Three years I've either been pregnant or parenting I've had very few people disagree with my choices or be openly critical of my parenting style. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-love-my-baby-more-than-you-love-your-baby#post-2012997 Tue, 06 Jan 2015 22:47:23 +0000 Mae 2012997@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@SugarplumsMom: agree. </p> <p>i don't think this is as big an issue as people make it out to be. Sure sometimes people come in all hardcore and bitchy about something in an unhelpful way, but I don't get down on myself/motherhood/community about that. I just think wow, what a bitch. Then I move on with my day. I think people take the internet too seriously. Take help where you find it and let the rest roll off your back. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-love-my-baby-more-than-you-love-your-baby#post-2012969 Tue, 06 Jan 2015 22:30:51 +0000 littlejoy 2012969@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@SugarplumsMom: That was part of my initial thought too. I keep "sensitive" topics to certain friends, and otherwise try to be kind and encouraging. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-love-my-baby-more-than-you-love-your-baby#post-2012825 Tue, 06 Jan 2015 20:51:54 +0000 SugarplumsMom 2012825@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I couldn't read all of it. I don't think it's a issue. Maybe I'm just oblivious to it - if so, I want to keep it that way :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-love-my-baby-more-than-you-love-your-baby#post-2012793 Tue, 06 Jan 2015 20:32:28 +0000 Maysprout 2012793@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it's often a tricky balance of having interesting discussion and not hurting feelings. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-love-my-baby-more-than-you-love-your-baby#post-2012718 Tue, 06 Jan 2015 19:53:03 +0000 Torchwood 2012718@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@littlejoy: It really is amazing seeing people change. My mom actually voted against an Amendment here in TN that the pro-lifers were pushing hard (unfortunately, it did pass), and she used to be super hard core anti-abortion. She's still against elective ones, which is not surprising since she's a fundamentalist Southern Baptist, but the fact that she was able to realize that there's more to the discussion than she originally believed was really impressive to me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-love-my-baby-more-than-you-love-your-baby#post-2012709 Tue, 06 Jan 2015 19:46:29 +0000 littlejoy 2012709@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Torchwood: Personally, I am all about women's pregnancy and birth rights. Your body, your choice. When I read your story, I hadn't before considered a situation like yours in the context of late term termination/abortion. While I wish you never went through that, I think it's amazing how your story was able to teach so many people. And, I am certain that someone from the pro-life side of things could have felt a connection to your blog, and it could have most definitely educated them and changed their minds. It's amazing how people can change. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-love-my-baby-more-than-you-love-your-baby#post-2012691 Tue, 06 Jan 2015 19:29:20 +0000 Torchwood 2012691@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Emsmems: I actually *have* changed the minds of more than one pro-lifer, but not by arguing with them. Blogging about our loss opened a lot of people's eyes. But the ones that read it and still think we were wrong? Never gonna convince them by arguing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-love-my-baby-more-than-you-love-your-baby#post-2012670 Tue, 06 Jan 2015 19:19:52 +0000 littlejoy 2012670@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Emsmems: That last paragraph is spot on!!! I always say my first year of parenting has been really humbling. I went into thinking I will do x,y,z, because "it's right". Ha! I learned that plans can go to shit, and you have to make the right choice for you and your family. I've learned that all of us (most parents, at least) are going through this. </p> <p>@blackbird: Ha! I know, I know. Saw this pop up on FB. I never read her blog, because I couldn't EBF, and it's still a big trigger for me. I'm always like, "Hey! I couldn't breastfeed, but I'm still a badass, right?" - Dumb, but the thought crossed my mind. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-love-my-baby-more-than-you-love-your-baby#post-2012638 Tue, 06 Jan 2015 19:00:48 +0000 blackbird 2012638@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I find this kind of ironic, having been filed under attachment parenting and the title of the blog being "the badass breast feeder", though </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-love-my-baby-more-than-you-love-your-baby#post-2012623 Tue, 06 Jan 2015 18:42:14 +0000 Mrs. Tiger 2012623@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Kind of weird to give the example photo of this not being a competition showcasing moms with big babies in carriers being breastfed! Almost like "well, we win!"</p> <p>I guess that's a snarky thing to say. Maybe she has a point! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-love-my-baby-more-than-you-love-your-baby#post-2012596 Tue, 06 Jan 2015 18:17:49 +0000 Emsmems 2012596@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>HB is the only parenting board I'm on. I feel like most people DO ask for advice or opinions on here, and everyone respectfully gives theirs. No one wants unsolicited advice, which is why those rare posts where someone just comes on and preaches about why something is bad or good aren't usually well received! </p> <p>My thought is if someone asks, and I have useful information to add, I will. Because I want multiple options so I can make an informed decision, and I think others do too. If they ask! But it's that person's life and they will make the best decision for them. </p> <p>Where you get in trouble is when you either assume the person didn't make an informed decision or doesn't know better. Maybe they don't, but you have to tread those waters carefully, and usually you shouldn't. But that's where the mommy wars and mud slinging begin. And it's really not worth the fight. I'm never going to say the one thing that changes the mind of an anti-Vaxxer or a pro-lifer that makes them say "oh my god, you're right. I am changing my stance." So why argue? You have reasons for your beliefs and I have mine. Unless you ask for my opinion, I'm keeping it to myself! And we can still be friends if we meet at a park one day while our kids are playing! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-love-my-baby-more-than-you-love-your-baby#post-2012567 Tue, 06 Jan 2015 17:56:24 +0000 jedeve 2012567@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think the tough thing is parenting opinions aren't always just "oh to each their own!" Like liking Gone Girl vs not liking it vs just having seen the movie vs having never heard of it. Of course some parenting is personal - my kid doesn't look good in the color orange. That doesn't mean no one else should ever wear it, and no one would argue that it should. </p> <p>But other stuff does matter. Like we can all agree letting kids play with knives is a bad idea (although my kid totally grabbed a knife the other day. Story for a different day). </p> <p>And then there is so much stuff that falls in the middle of the spectrum. But a lot of times use language that is for the knife-playing end of the spectrum for stuff that is close to the wearing-orange end of the spectrum. And vice versa. </p> <p>But my opinion is that usually voicing a dissenting opinion won't help. People don't tend to listen to why they are wrong and you are right even if it's "just an opinion, but you do what you want!" </p> <p>And know your audience. When my little sister (who is not near having kids) asks why avoiding a c section was important to me, I will tell her. But sounding off to someone I don't know online who I won't convince and I don't know their backstory? Kind of pointless. </p> <p>If I know I'm going to not be able to give the advice someone is looking for on a thread I just tend to skip it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-love-my-baby-more-than-you-love-your-baby#post-2011166 Mon, 05 Jan 2015 23:35:25 +0000 littlejoy 2011166@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Jacks: I thought that was an interesting point. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-love-my-baby-more-than-you-love-your-baby#post-2011161 Mon, 05 Jan 2015 23:30:54 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 2011161@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I liked her "challenge" to leave only supportive words. Interesting. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-love-my-baby-more-than-you-love-your-baby#post-2011159 Mon, 05 Jan 2015 23:26:54 +0000 littlejoy 2011159@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thoughts on this article?</p> <p><a href="http://www.thebadassbreastfeeder.com/i-love-my-baby-more-than-you-love-your-baby/" rel="nofollow">http://www.thebadassbreastfeeder.com/i-love-my-baby-more-than-you-love-your-baby/</a></p> <p>I liked it ... Personally, I find that nasty judgement (or jealously) creeping in from time to time. I've only been a mom for a year, and it's taken nearly that long for me to realize how to give advice (when solicited), and to trust that we all love our children. </p> <p>I tend to lean towards AP and natural living, and like the article suggested, I found my own "tribe" to talk about those specific issues. It makes me feel confident in my choices. I really liked that point in the article. </p> <p>What I didn't like was that I'm not sure it's as dramatic as the article makes it sound. Like, are these REAL issues? </p>