https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 15 Apr 2026 20:52:48 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-need-some-help/page/3#post-1543211 Thu, 03 Apr 2014 14:03:18 +0000 deerylou 1543211@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My doctor strongly encourages a year between pregnancies for optimal health and healing, physically and mentally. She also mentioned recent correlation between back-to-back pregnancies and specific developmental delays. Of course, opinions differ on this front, but I'd personally take some additional time to process. We were riding high on endorphins that first month or two, but have totally mellowed out on our timeline, since. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-need-some-help/page/3#post-1543197 Thu, 03 Apr 2014 14:00:47 +0000 Mrs. Jump Rope 1543197@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@anonysquire: we had major problems with my ILs and it put TTC talks on hold. I was given the OK to try for another at my annual, I was 14m PP, and it wasn't something we were ready to do. It caused a lot of stress and anxiety for both of us and wasn't a situation we wanted to bring another child into. </p> <p>I would enjoy your sweet baby, figure out a long term plan on handling the ILs and work out your anxiety. Didn't you recently mention your MWs wanted to fire you? Postpartum hormones can mask symptoms of depression and anxiety (not always, but can) and if it were me, I'd want all my sucks in a row before trying for a second -- mental health, family, reducing stressors, etc etc. marriage and individual counseling, etc </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-need-some-help/page/3#post-1543178 Thu, 03 Apr 2014 13:54:59 +0000 anonysquire 1543178@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsMcD: Thank you :)</p> <p>@Mrs. Jump Rope: Well according to DH they threw a fit when I said they could not come for the actual birth, and now that we are getting ready to have her baby blessing (like a christening or baptism and pretty big in my religion) we have given them 2 different weekends we could do it and all of a sudden no one wants to show up. Which is fine, but then why throw a fit that you didn't get to come when you wanted to come? Anyways baby Zuma has some awesome local grandparents who gush over her every move and sound and toot. That is all she needs :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-need-some-help/page/3#post-1543140 Thu, 03 Apr 2014 13:48:18 +0000 Mrs. Jump Rope 1543140@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@anonysquire: how are things with your ILs? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-need-some-help/page/3#post-1543136 Thu, 03 Apr 2014 13:47:00 +0000 deactivated_account 1543136@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@anonysquire: Phew! Thought you were serious. :silly: Best of luck with whatever you decide. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-need-some-help/page/3#post-1543124 Thu, 03 Apr 2014 13:44:29 +0000 anonysquire 1543124@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Ash: :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-need-some-help/page/3#post-1543097 Thu, 03 Apr 2014 13:38:56 +0000 Ash 1543097@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@anonysquire: I thought the turkey baster was funny! :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-need-some-help/page/3#post-1543088 Thu, 03 Apr 2014 13:36:50 +0000 anonysquire 1543088@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LindsayInNY: For real 10. </p> <p>@MrsMcD: Oh sorry, I was being sarcastic about the turkey baster! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-need-some-help/page/3#post-1542830 Thu, 03 Apr 2014 12:45:03 +0000 deactivated_account 1542830@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@anonysquire: At 25, you are still pretty young. I don't see why you need to rush into making another baby especially if you don't feel ready for sex and are already mentioning turkey basters. Why not wait until you physically feel ready? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-need-some-help/page/2#post-1542476 Thu, 03 Apr 2014 11:23:07 +0000 thepinksuperhero 1542476@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>There are some risks to pregnancies that close together, both for you and for the baby. Read more here:</p> <p><a href="http://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-living/getting-pregnant/in-depth/family-planning/art-20044072" rel="nofollow">http://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-living/getting-pregnant/in-depth/family-planning/art-20044072</a> </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-need-some-help/page/2#post-1542310 Thu, 03 Apr 2014 10:50:15 +0000 LindsayInNY 1542310@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@anonysquire: For real 10+? Or in a perfect world 10+? What does DH think? I haven't had a baby so I don't know what happens afterwards... But, I think the points about your health, baby getting a little older (sleeping, eating, etc. issues) and breastfeeding and whatnot are all very valid. I wouldn't wait simply so you could lose weight or anything first but for health concerns I would. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-need-some-help/page/2#post-1542104 Thu, 03 Apr 2014 10:11:55 +0000 Maysprout 1542104@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We started TTC when LO was a little over a year. I was still breastfeeding and wasn't fertile yet so it was kind of frustrating thinking we were TTC but there was just no way it was going to happen since I wasn't having my period. We ended up getting pregnant 6 months later (so I haven't had my period in a really long time) but I'd rather have waited when I knew fertility was returning then mentally going through a bunch of negatives pregnancy tests. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-need-some-help/page/2#post-1542054 Thu, 03 Apr 2014 09:57:33 +0000 jetsa 1542054@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@anonysquire: I haven't lost much weight breastfeeding! Also I've been ready to ttc number 2 but my body hasn't figured it out yet and DS is now 6.5 months. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-need-some-help/page/2#post-1541919 Thu, 03 Apr 2014 09:35:05 +0000 Mrs. Blue 1541919@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@anonysquire: I know my situation is different since I never had only one child, but I wanted to weigh in with my 2 cents. I would advise to give yourself until Z is at least 3 months old to decide when to start TTC. The first few weeks in some ways are a lot easier because they haven't really "woken up" yet, even though they may be waking up a lot more at night still. Babies change soo much the first 3 months, and that will give you time to get settled in, really establish your supply for BF, give your body a chance to thoroughly heal, and frankly, to just bask in the beauty of your little girl! Even though your first pregnancy was smooth, your next one might be a little rougher, and it would be so nice to have at least a couple months just enjoying the wonder of being a mama! You're 25, and you can have a lotta babies in the next 10-15 years even if you give yourself 3 months after each pregnancy. I'm 32, and we think we want 4 kids, so I get the idea that when you want several kids you can feel time pressure even when others tell you that you "have time." Not to get all cliche, however, but they grow up so insanely fast and you'll want to remember every second of her tiny days! </p> <p>Now, that said, I LOVE having my two littles. I love, love, love watching them as they start to notice each other and interact. Sibling love is just the best thing in the world. Having 2 under 1 (now under 2) is really challenging, but you get twice the giggles, twice the slobbery kisses, twice the joy in watching them discover new things. If I had only one the first time, I think I would have been ready around 8-10 months to try for another. </p> <p>At the end of the day, we can all weigh in and tell you our opinion, but you have to go with your heart and do what's right for Z, you, and your DH! Enjoy those newborn snuggles. I miss them!</p> <p>ETA: Plus, you might get twins next time and have 3 under 1! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-need-some-help/page/2#post-1541716 Thu, 03 Apr 2014 08:46:30 +0000 Running Elley 1541716@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>P.S. Oh, another pro though- back to back pregnancies don't necessarily have to be really hard on your body. I've bounced back (with a lot of work, but still) fairly quickly from my second pregnancy and I don't feel like being pregnant for essentially 2 years in a row has "ruined" me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-need-some-help/page/2#post-1541712 Thu, 03 Apr 2014 08:45:12 +0000 Running Elley 1541712@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Coming from someone who actually has kids 13.5 months apart, there are definite pros and cons either way.</p> <p>Yes, it was easier for me to be newly pregnant with a fairly young baby. He still napped 3 times a day and I'd nap with him when I was exhausted in the first tri. He was just barely starting solids so his meals were easy (purees)- on the days I was feeling really sick I didn't have to worry about preparing him food. Yes, I love how close together my kids are. Elliot was young enough when Emery was born that I don't think he really understood to be jealous. He adapted quickly to having her here and he ADORES her. </p> <p>But....being pregnant with a young toddler who was old enough to want to be independent but too young to communicate well was very very challenging. The end of my pregnancy was very difficult because he didn't understand (obviously) why I couldn't play with him on the floor, etc. I had a LOT of mommy guilt about it. I kind of wish that I could've enjoyed those early toddler days more instead of just being pregnant and miserable.</p> <p>I also had my hard baby first. Elliot was very difficult and if Emery was the same way that he was I'm pretty sure I wouldn't be surviving right now. Luckily she's the easier baby. But every baby is different and even though your first is easy that does not guarantee that your second will be easy and you never know how challenging of a toddler #1 will be (and you'd be potentially dealing with those challenges while caring for a newborn). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-need-some-help/page/2#post-1541674 Thu, 03 Apr 2014 08:32:18 +0000 T.H.O.U. 1541674@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Honestly, even after a 2+ year break between pregnancies I'm still not where I would LOVE to be! </p> <p>I think the one thing that I am happy about in waiting is that a) I was able to really enjoy and learn the infant/baby stage with her. It was all so new and changing so fast, I can't imagine really being able to enjoy another pregnancy and that stage at the same time. Totally can be done, but I like to shop and research things and plan and with them that close I wouldn't have been able to. and B) I think waiting a bit will be better for our family and still be able to get out because my daughter is a bit more independent. She can put on her own shoes, go to the bathroom, etc. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-need-some-help/page/2#post-1541653 Thu, 03 Apr 2014 08:27:42 +0000 swurlygurl 1541653@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Heck, I say if you want it, go for it! There are plenty of moms who have Irish twins and love it! My mom and her sister were 13 months apart - my Granny kept pushing em out for a couple more years!</p> <p>I'm up 30 pounds with pregnancy #2, and the weight isn't a huge issue for me. Yeah, I wish I had less weight = less pressure on my body, but I couldn't wait any longer. Plus, no guarantees you'll get pregnant right away, so it might not even be an issue. I know a lot of people have trouble getting pregnant while breastfeeding, so you could be looking at 5+ months.</p> <p>If you want babies close in age (or want to hurry up and be done having all your babies - that's where I am right now!), then that's what you want :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-need-some-help/page/2#post-1541556 Thu, 03 Apr 2014 07:55:54 +0000 Cole 1541556@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>While the idea of back to back is hard for me to wrap my mind around personally, I think if I were in your shoes I would not try but not prevent for three more months. During that time I would focus on exercise and building a freezer stash in addition to just soaking up your tiny baby. After that, start paying attention to TTC. I figure the first few months I personally won't be up for tons of baby making activities plus it's doubtful your body will be starting that process again so why add the extra stress of TTC? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-need-some-help/page/2#post-1541495 Thu, 03 Apr 2014 07:24:28 +0000 purrpletulips 1541495@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@anonysquire: if you want to try go for it. I wanted to truly enjoy the newborn/first year with each of mine before actively trying for another. Not everyone loses weight while BF. My body seems to think when I'm BF that it can't let even an ounce of weight go so I never lost anything and was jealous of those who do. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-need-some-help/page/2#post-1541437 Thu, 03 Apr 2014 06:36:19 +0000 Adira 1541437@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@anonysquire: Well then! If you're only using 6 of your 12 weeks, you're guaranteed to have 6 available to you for baby #2! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-need-some-help/page/2#post-1541395 Thu, 03 Apr 2014 04:32:32 +0000 Penny Lane 1541395@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@anonysquire: i feel ya, lady. my kids are 16.5 months apart and I LOVE it. they're so much fun. LO2 is 3 months, and i would happily ditch the BC now (which, honestly we're not even being that careful about right now!), if I wasn't so determined to EBF LO2 until 12 months. my supply tanked right when I got my BFP, and stopped all together at the end of my 1st tri. something to think about if you're set on EBFing I guess :)</p> <p>as for the weight thing, i wouldn't worry about it. i think you look amazing already. there's no rule that says you can't work out and get fit while KU anyway. it might be harder, but not impossible, right? :) :) so basically my vote: do whatever feels right! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-need-some-help/page/2#post-1541381 Thu, 03 Apr 2014 03:14:27 +0000 Bao 1541381@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I say do what you think is right! I didn't lose my supply while nursing when I get pregnant with E. A was 10 months old at the time. Good luck! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-need-some-help/page/2#post-1541375 Thu, 03 Apr 2014 02:22:40 +0000 loveisstrange 1541375@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think you should very seriously research the dangers of back to back pregnancies.... I know people do it, but it carries far more risks than I think people are aware of, both immediate and long-term.</p> <p>I got baby fever when C was about 6 weeks old and I wanted to get pregnant right away. I am so, so, so, so glad I didn't.</p> <p>Probably not what you wanted to hear, but that's what I have to say. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-need-some-help/page/2#post-1541327 Wed, 02 Apr 2014 23:43:16 +0000 anonysquire 1541327@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@chopsuey: No I wish! Before I got pregnant I had only had like 2 periods that year. I can only hope they come back regular!!!</p> <p>@MrsB2012: Yikes I hope it doesn't take a long time for my period to come back. Good luck!</p> <p>@Corduroy: No not yet. Just got the OK today. Just hypothetically thinking at the moment :)</p> <p>@LindsayInNY: 25 and I ideally want 10+ kids. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-need-some-help/page/2#post-1541297 Wed, 02 Apr 2014 22:35:00 +0000 LindsayInNY 1541297@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Out of curiosity, how old are you and how many LOs do you want to have? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-need-some-help/page/2#post-1541264 Wed, 02 Apr 2014 22:02:57 +0000 Corduroy 1541264@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@anonysquire: Maybe I missed it above but have you had sex pp yet? That was a much rougher road for me than I anticipated and has impacted my TTC #2 timing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-need-some-help/page/2#post-1541232 Wed, 02 Apr 2014 21:45:36 +0000 MoonMoon 1541232@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@cascademom: I'm glad you're feeling better and back to your old self! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-need-some-help/page/2#post-1541224 Wed, 02 Apr 2014 21:42:09 +0000 MrsB2012 1541224@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm the same way as you. DH and I both wanted another one asap. It didn't help our case that our dd is a very easy baby. We haven't been using any protection since we started dtd 3 weeks PP. We were both hoping it would just happen. Now, I'm 8 months PP and I just got my first PP period back. I had to drop a feed ( now I'm only breast feeding 3 times a day ) to get my cycles back. We're going all in with OPK's temping, everything this month. It can take a long while for your body to regulate back to a normal cycle. My advice is just take it easy for a little while longer, make sure having a newborn and possibly being pregnant is something you can really handle. When you get your cycles back, if you feel ready, go for it! I thought that as B was STTN since she was a month old that my cycles would have come back much quicker. I was shocked it took this long. Good luck! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-need-some-help/page/2#post-1541222 Wed, 02 Apr 2014 21:40:44 +0000 cascademom 1541222@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MoonMoon: this sounds exactly like me and my experience. I gained weight during breast feeding and hated my body for quite a few months. With sleep training at 6 months and healing from my tears, life got more normal. I've been on WW since last June to get down to a healthy weight. I'm happier now than I was before sleep training and the excess weight I was carrying. I feel like I'm healed 19 months pp to consider pregnancy and newborns again. </p>