https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 23 Apr 2026 09:39:49 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-really-need-some-reassurance-about-leaving-lo-to-go-to-work#post-340708 Mon, 15 Oct 2012 07:54:20 +0000 mediagirl 340708@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Big hugs, mama. :( You are totally doing the right thing. Yes, going back to work sucks. I know it. I am away from M 48 hours a week and it is so, so hard. </p> <p>I can't help but wonder if there is anyway you can get some help elsewhere or have a sit down with his parents and explain that they are doing more harm than good. I would be so angry if the person I was leaving my lo with wasn't doing what was best for my lo. Especially if it was grandparents!!</p> <p>I would definitely do what @winniebee suggested. Just offer the bottle over and over again. If she gets hungry enough, she will take it. </p> <p>Have you tried having your husband offer the bottle on weekends and you pump (somewhere out of the room) to try and get her used to the bottle? </p> <p>I'm sorry you're going through this. :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-really-need-some-reassurance-about-leaving-lo-to-go-to-work#post-340697 Mon, 15 Oct 2012 07:45:06 +0000 winniebee 340697@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If you need to work for financial reasons, then working is the absolute best thing you can do for your LO! She will be OK! Babies are so resilient! When you have to leave her with grandparents, maybe try to be more assertive about schedules and sleep. Even though my mom is basically a baby whisperer, I still give her instructions for when she watches T - hey, I'm the mom, I know best! </p> <p>I know she does not take a bottle well. Perhaps you can start trying to introduce them every day regardless of if you work so that she can get more used to them. </p> <p>I'm going back to work in 2 weeks and will be away from T 40 hours a week. He naps terribly and I have not spent much time away from him. I have anxiety over it, but there's just nothing I can do about it right now. I'm going back and he will just have to adjust. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-really-need-some-reassurance-about-leaving-lo-to-go-to-work#post-340585 Mon, 15 Oct 2012 00:34:56 +0000 red_seattle 340585@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Glad that it helped. You'll figure things out and it will get better. Promise. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-really-need-some-reassurance-about-leaving-lo-to-go-to-work#post-340578 Mon, 15 Oct 2012 00:13:11 +0000 Rainbow Sprinkles 340578@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@red_seattle: Thank you so much for the tips! Those do help me.<br /> LO is only 5 months, so it is encouraging to hear that her naps could get better. Pretty much the only way I can get her to sleep now is if she falls asleep nursing (I know it's a bad habit) so of course no one else can put her down. She falls asleep in the swing at short intervals, but never longer than 20 minutes.<br /> Thanks so much for the encouragement. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-really-need-some-reassurance-about-leaving-lo-to-go-to-work#post-340570 Sun, 14 Oct 2012 23:14:17 +0000 red_seattle 340570@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So sorry to hear about this. I went back to work when Baby X was 12 weeks old, and worked until he was 7.5 months (when I quit to go back to school). While I was working, some things that helped--</p> <p> I had a post-it on my computer listing the reasons why it's good for me to work "He's spending time with other people who love him. Both me and baby being comfortable with other caregivers means that DH and I can go out for dates and trust that things will be ok. Working gives me something to talk to DH about, besides the number of poops I dealt with in a day...." So while it's hard, I just reminded myself over and over of the good things that came out of me working. And it got easier over time. Baby X still cries when I leave him with DH and my MIL, but he gets over it and in the end, it's better for the sanity of all of us if he has a few caregivers instead of just one.</p> <p>As for feeding-- Baby X took the bottle, but he isn't wild about it, and barely took it for the first month or 2 after I went back to work. What helped us was making the bottle really warm-- not scalding, but warmer than you'd think was ok, but that's how he wanted it. Also, switching to the faster flow nipples helped. I've always had a faster let-down, so matching your let down might help.</p> <p>And also-- I know it doesn't help you now, but even when I was home, Baby X was a horrible napper. It wasn't until 9 months or so that his naps really got into a good groove. Just give it time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-really-need-some-reassurance-about-leaving-lo-to-go-to-work#post-340450 Sun, 14 Oct 2012 20:49:13 +0000 Springtime 340450@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm sorry, that's got to be a tough situation! So your LO doesn't eat at all while you are gone? Does she take solids? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-really-need-some-reassurance-about-leaving-lo-to-go-to-work#post-340396 Sun, 14 Oct 2012 19:42:47 +0000 GrapeCrush 340396@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm sorry you feel like this. I've been back to work for 2 1/2 months and still hate leaving him :( have you tried a Sippy cup? The have the transition ones for 4+ months </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-really-need-some-reassurance-about-leaving-lo-to-go-to-work#post-340128 Sun, 14 Oct 2012 14:19:35 +0000 MamaBehr 340128@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry you are upset about all this :( Would it be easier if you knew your in-laws were taking care of the baby like she needs to be taken care of? Could you speak to your in-laws about giving her a nap no matter what? If you said that if she doesn't nap well when she is with them, then she is a disaster later, would they listen to you? </p> <p>My DD wouldn't take a bottle right away, we had to try a whole bunch of different kinds before she would finally drink from a bottle. Perhaps if you found a bottle she liked (we used the Breastflow Bottle by The First Years) she would take it! </p> <p>I hope things get easier for you :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-really-need-some-reassurance-about-leaving-lo-to-go-to-work#post-340071 Sun, 14 Oct 2012 13:04:23 +0000 LAGS 340071@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm sorry you're having a rough time :( I'm the same with leaving LO, I really only feel comfortable with her being with her Dad so I'm useless for advice.</p> <p>I know it doesn't help you in the meantime, but LOs are really adaptable so hopefully like krsmall said, it will just take some getting used to for her, then she'll be more at ease while away from you.</p> <p>Hang in there :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-really-need-some-reassurance-about-leaving-lo-to-go-to-work#post-340064 Sun, 14 Oct 2012 12:46:25 +0000 littlek 340064@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry. We leave our LO at daycare, the first day was rough on me and LO did not nap well. He's been going to daycare for 2 weeks now and his naps are much better now. I think it takes some time for LO to adjust to new surroundings. I hope things get better! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-really-need-some-reassurance-about-leaving-lo-to-go-to-work#post-340063 Sun, 14 Oct 2012 12:42:23 +0000 Rainbow Sprinkles 340063@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am having such a hard time. I hate leaving my LO to go to work. Usually it isn't so bad because her dad watches her, but today he had to work too so I am leaving her with the in laws. Last time I left her with them she was screaming inconsolably after only 45 minutes of being with them. It breaker my heart to know she will probably cry the whole time I am gone.</p> <p>I am feeling so depressed about having to work and I just wish our finances weren't so tight so I could stay home.</p> <p>My LO is a horrible napper and has a lot of trouble sleeping. My in laws are the grandparents that absolutely do not respect her sleep and will just keep her awake the entire three hours she is there. If she isn't crying they just say, "she is fine" and it ends up being disastrous latter in the day (although I am the one who has to pick up the pices).</p> <p>Also, she doesn't take a bottle. So days that I work I am u extra at night because she makes up for her feeding then. I know this is all over the place I am just feeling really really sad. </p>