https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 01 Jul 2026 09:17:09 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-really-never-comprehended-how-hard-a-new-born-is/page/2#post-2195644 Mon, 01 Jun 2015 17:51:33 +0000 Mrs. High Heels 2195644@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I remember feeling the exact same way!! Everyday felt like a never-ending loop of the twilight zone that I couldn't escape from. But I promise you, it really does get better!! Soon it will be a blurrrrr...!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-really-never-comprehended-how-hard-a-new-born-is/page/2#post-2195627 Mon, 01 Jun 2015 17:08:58 +0000 soyjoy222 2195627@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Around 8 weeks I woke up and thought "I feel so much better!"...but before that? Insane! I can't believe we actually made it through! DS is 5 months now and I can barely remember how hard the first month or two is...mother nature is smart in making us forget! Hang in there. Soon baby will sleep better, eat a little less often, and you will feel like a new, and improved (cause you are a mama!) you :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-really-never-comprehended-how-hard-a-new-born-is/page/2#post-2195609 Mon, 01 Jun 2015 16:34:35 +0000 Miss Flamingo 2195609@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes! It is so hard. Nothing can prepare you for that baby boot camp. Even though I didn't believe it when I was in the thick of it, it does get so much better! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-really-never-comprehended-how-hard-a-new-born-is#post-2195601 Mon, 01 Jun 2015 16:26:49 +0000 Boogs 2195601@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's the hardest thing you'll ever do. But I promise it will get better. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-really-never-comprehended-how-hard-a-new-born-is#post-2195597 Mon, 01 Jun 2015 16:20:57 +0000 plantains 2195597@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@dc yoga bee: hahaha, funny how no one tells you about the random leakage before hand. At least you have tons of milk though! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-really-never-comprehended-how-hard-a-new-born-is#post-2195463 Mon, 01 Jun 2015 14:16:55 +0000 dc yoga bee 2195463@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@plantains: That sounds tasty! I've been doing pbj, and a grilled cheese for lunch. Still hungry! I'll send DH out for some avocados. Oh, and every time I eat I leak like a faucet lol! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-really-never-comprehended-how-hard-a-new-born-is#post-2195459 Mon, 01 Jun 2015 14:11:46 +0000 plantains 2195459@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@dc yoga bee: avocado everyday in a wrap with chicken breast. The combination of protein and good fat was the only thing that kept me sated for a decent amount of time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-really-never-comprehended-how-hard-a-new-born-is#post-2195453 Mon, 01 Jun 2015 14:07:14 +0000 dc yoga bee 2195453@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Sylvia: Yes! I had my baby girl May 24! I hadn't planned on breastfeeding, but I tried it and loved it. Er, maybe those we just the feel good hormones, because now at one week in of on demand nursing and cluster feeding- I'm ready to grab that jar of formula. For me, it's the constant cluster feeding. Someone make it stop! Oh- and I can't get full no matter how many fruits and snacks I eat! I feel drained. No advice since I had my baby girl 3 days after you- but know you're not alone!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-really-never-comprehended-how-hard-a-new-born-is#post-2195406 Mon, 01 Jun 2015 13:26:14 +0000 whenoceansrise 2195406@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>it's so hard, but it does get better! my lo is 5 months and sometimes i miss the newborn stage. it goes by so fast! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-really-never-comprehended-how-hard-a-new-born-is#post-2195403 Mon, 01 Jun 2015 13:23:39 +0000 artsyfartsy 2195403@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hugs!!! We've all been there. Nothing and I mean NOTHING can prepare you for the reality of it. You aren't alone. This phase is only temporary! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-really-never-comprehended-how-hard-a-new-born-is#post-2195372 Mon, 01 Jun 2015 13:09:46 +0000 dolphin 2195372@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Totally normal! First few months are the hardest! It will get better! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-really-never-comprehended-how-hard-a-new-born-is#post-2195298 Mon, 01 Jun 2015 12:01:17 +0000 Mae 2195298@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I seriously hated life for the first 4 weeks. And it wasn't due to hormones or PPD or any of that stuff. It was because life with a newborn SUCKS a lot of the time. For me it started to get a lot better at 6 weeks when LO started smiling. Just that little bit of "give back" makes all the other crap seem so much better. It just got progressively better from there. Hang in there mama :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-really-never-comprehended-how-hard-a-new-born-is#post-2195278 Mon, 01 Jun 2015 11:46:25 +0000 Greentea 2195278@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Sylvia: the newborn stage was insanely hard! LO wanted to nurse 24/7 and ate at least every hour and a half and it took that long! It WILL get better. Plus she didn't sleep... and screamed a lot. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-really-never-comprehended-how-hard-a-new-born-is#post-2195211 Mon, 01 Jun 2015 11:04:44 +0000 Mamasig 2195211@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You just can't comprehend it until you live it! But I have to say as time passes it gets easier. I've done it twice now and realize it's a phase that passes. It went so much faster the second time because I knew it eventually would end! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-really-never-comprehended-how-hard-a-new-born-is#post-2195200 Mon, 01 Jun 2015 10:56:28 +0000 Kemma 2195200@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's definitely hard but the biggest thing I took from it and applied when I had my second was to just embrace / accept it and stop fighting it! It WILL pass and it will get easier and believe it or not, you probably will miss it at some point in the future!</p> <p>Hang in there, Mama - you're doing great!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-really-never-comprehended-how-hard-a-new-born-is#post-2195198 Mon, 01 Jun 2015 10:56:07 +0000 daniellemybelle 2195198@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I definitely felt that way! It is really, really hard but it gets better and it is so worth it! Hang in there!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-really-never-comprehended-how-hard-a-new-born-is#post-2195196 Mon, 01 Jun 2015 10:55:34 +0000 autumnlove 2195196@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hugs, the first month was really stressful for me! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-really-never-comprehended-how-hard-a-new-born-is#post-2195193 Mon, 01 Jun 2015 10:51:16 +0000 2littlepumpkins 2195193@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yup, I think more people than not feel that way unless you have tons of help maybe!! It does get much much easier and much more fun too! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-really-never-comprehended-how-hard-a-new-born-is#post-2195188 Mon, 01 Jun 2015 10:48:54 +0000 snowjewelz 2195188@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh yeah, you're not alone! I mean, I knew it was going to be hard, but you def have to live it to really understand it! I think a lot of it is the pp hormones too.. I was a hysterical person, so emotional, so sensitive, etc! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-really-never-comprehended-how-hard-a-new-born-is#post-2195183 Mon, 01 Jun 2015 10:46:29 +0000 plantains 2195183@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh yes, somewhere around 4.5 weeks I would wake up to nurse and just cry asking myself 'what was I thinking?' It will get much better though, much better. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-really-never-comprehended-how-hard-a-new-born-is#post-2195159 Mon, 01 Jun 2015 10:24:12 +0000 cat620 2195159@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes! The beginning is very hard! I know for me, I felt like I never got a second to myself. The baby was either nursing every two hours, needed a diaper change, or wanted to be held. He rarely let me put him down and would scream if I tried to. I know it's hard, but they do outgrow that phase. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-really-never-comprehended-how-hard-a-new-born-is#post-2195157 Mon, 01 Jun 2015 10:23:22 +0000 As Time Goes By 2195157@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Sylvia: I totally get what you mean! My son is 8 weeks tomorrow and it has already gotten so much better. He has a bit of a routine so things are more predictable and I'm consistently sleeping at night (with wake-ups). I found the routine and sleep have made a world of difference. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-really-never-comprehended-how-hard-a-new-born-is#post-2195133 Mon, 01 Jun 2015 10:02:26 +0000 sleepybear 2195133@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It does suck, and seem impossible to make it some days. I know I had times where I would just cry because I didn't think I could do it, but now that my son is 9 months the newborn days are a blur. Plus, in a few weeks she'll look at you and smile and you'll just forget how exhausted you are. I'd just take it day by day and remember it will slowly but surely get better.</p> <p>Being able to get some coffee (alone) or even just take a nice long shower definitely helps, too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-really-never-comprehended-how-hard-a-new-born-is#post-2195116 Mon, 01 Jun 2015 09:53:15 +0000 MK0180 2195116@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I remember when DS was just a week old and I fell asleep while eating dinner. I was so so exhausted but it truly will get better - it doesn't seem like it now I know but these weeks will fly by and time will slow down at the same time. I've had the same reaction to motherhood as you do. Take any offers of help you can get.<br /> Congratulations to you - you've got this! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-really-never-comprehended-how-hard-a-new-born-is#post-2195108 Mon, 01 Jun 2015 09:39:33 +0000 Cherrybee 2195108@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh yes!! Hardest thing I have ever done! The funny thing is, not only does it get easier but the horror of the newborn period fades from your memory.... I remember wondering why anybody ever signs up to do it again and now I'm planning #2! </p> <p>Hang in there mummy! You've got this! And if you ever need to vent or feel like you might be getting a bit depressed, please do come and talk to us here! I had PPD and I didn't realise until my friends here told me to get help! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-really-never-comprehended-how-hard-a-new-born-is#post-2195102 Mon, 01 Jun 2015 09:30:35 +0000 edelweiss 2195102@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i had a really hard time the first three months. you are definitely not alone. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-really-never-comprehended-how-hard-a-new-born-is#post-2195087 Mon, 01 Jun 2015 09:18:18 +0000 SweetiePie 2195087@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lovehoneybee: I had that thought too! Except mine was about returning him the way I return shoes to zappos. I thought "wouldn't it be great if I could go to a website and select a reason and just send him back?" It was silly and fleeting but I definitely felt it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-really-never-comprehended-how-hard-a-new-born-is#post-2195080 Mon, 01 Jun 2015 09:07:06 +0000 SweetiePie 2195080@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@gracecat: I second her advice! Take ANY offer of help you get. I turned it down for a while because I felt like I was failing if I needed to get away. Bad idea! Those small breaks for a walk or coffee or even grocery shopping without the stress of a baby helped immensely! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-really-never-comprehended-how-hard-a-new-born-is#post-2195078 Mon, 01 Jun 2015 09:04:57 +0000 SweetiePie 2195078@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was SHELL SHOCKED when we brought my son home. I was like "why did no one tell me it would be this hard and suck so much!!!!" And then I realized that people did tell me, I just chose not to listen/believe them :silly: And you also just have no clue until you actually have one. No book or pep talk can prepare you.<br /> I think that leading up to your first baby it's just such a "honeymoon" phase and it's hard to believe it'll be anything but amazing. </p> <p>Hang in there! I got sick of hearing it, but it DOES get better! 6 weeks when they start smiling is amazing. Just hang on for 6 weeks and then it'll keep getting better from there. For me each month was a significant improvement over the last. It's not like you wake up the next day and you're like "oh this is easier today!" But you'll slowly start to realize with passing time that it has gotten easier and you didn't realize it.<br /> Newborn days suck! But it's worth it and one day when you're not expecting it you'll be missing pieces of the newborn days!<br /> Lots of hugs to you! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-really-never-comprehended-how-hard-a-new-born-is#post-2195075 Mon, 01 Jun 2015 09:03:42 +0000 gracecat 2195075@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Absolutely! I felt the same way. And I was blown away and totally incredulous when I asked my other first time mom friends if they were as dumbstruck by first time motherhood and they would say, "oh it hasn't been too bad". For me it was like my life turned over, it was the hardest thing and I went through so much turmoil. I didn't settle into motherhood until DD was 1 year old though of course it was getting gradually better. If you have help, it can make a huge difference. IF you have people you trust around you, I highly recommend you take up heir help. Get out of the house, go out for a coffee break, you will see light at the end of the newborn days tunnel. Good luck!! </p>