https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 13 May 2026 13:02:44 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-swear-dh-would-never-buy-a-gift-for-any-of-his-family-if-it-wasnt-for-me#post-1626423 Sat, 10 May 2014 12:11:15 +0000 Andrea 1626423@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH never does this so I do it. I send gifts out to his family and don't even bother telling him anymore. I've just taken it on as my job and he doesn't need to know about it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-swear-dh-would-never-buy-a-gift-for-any-of-his-family-if-it-wasnt-for-me#post-1626410 Sat, 10 May 2014 11:50:10 +0000 woodentulip 1626410@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband said this to me last week "I literally never feel like or think of giving gifts to people."<br /> So sweet :P </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-swear-dh-would-never-buy-a-gift-for-any-of-his-family-if-it-wasnt-for-me#post-1626407 Sat, 10 May 2014 11:44:45 +0000 Applesandbananas 1626407@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Haha yep. DH is the same way. I made his mom a photo book of our LO and he barely looked at it before I mailed it and his mom was like "oh thank you and tell DH thank you!" Heh. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-swear-dh-would-never-buy-a-gift-for-any-of-his-family-if-it-wasnt-for-me#post-1626397 Sat, 10 May 2014 11:40:22 +0000 deactivated_account 1626397@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Most men aren't good about buying gifts. I consider this a "wife job" in my house. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-swear-dh-would-never-buy-a-gift-for-any-of-his-family-if-it-wasnt-for-me#post-1626369 Sat, 10 May 2014 11:11:07 +0000 sorrycharlie 1626369@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>my DH is like this, too. but, he was raised without birthdays and holidays..so it was foreign to him at first. but we've been together almost 7 years, get with the program buddy! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-swear-dh-would-never-buy-a-gift-for-any-of-his-family-if-it-wasnt-for-me#post-1626367 Sat, 10 May 2014 11:10:37 +0000 regberadaisy 1626367@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>aw that's a bummer! I do all the gift shopping but when I wasn't around he would still do it. Just the day before! :P</p> <p>I love shopping so it works out. ;) I'll usually present him with a few options and we'll narrow it down. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-swear-dh-would-never-buy-a-gift-for-any-of-his-family-if-it-wasnt-for-me#post-1626364 Sat, 10 May 2014 11:08:59 +0000 kentuckygirl 1626364@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH doesn't even buy gifts for me :( So far we have done a bigger joint gift for the house for Christmas and that has been fine. But I would like him to buy me something for my birthday. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-swear-dh-would-never-buy-a-gift-for-any-of-his-family-if-it-wasnt-for-me#post-1626297 Sat, 10 May 2014 10:18:51 +0000 blackbird 1626297@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>None of the men are because the women probably take care of it and always have. If I want DH to buy a gift, I tell him to, and it's his problem. But I like buying gifts. I do expect him to buy cards for his own family. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-swear-dh-would-never-buy-a-gift-for-any-of-his-family-if-it-wasnt-for-me#post-1626284 Sat, 10 May 2014 10:04:49 +0000 NCSUchick27 1626284@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@wonderstruck: His mom and sister are great with gift giving, but none of the men in his family are. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-swear-dh-would-never-buy-a-gift-for-any-of-his-family-if-it-wasnt-for-me#post-1626276 Sat, 10 May 2014 10:01:59 +0000 lazypanda 1626276@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@NCSUchick27: my DH is the same way! He wouldn't think to give anything to others because he thinks it's frivolous, he actually would prefer to give practical items to people if they happen to need it. If it weren't for me, he would totally forget family &amp; friends' birthdays, even worse he doesn't even think of his own birthday! His family has seen him change significantly when we first started dating. It was the first time he bought gifts for his younger cousins, I had suggested he buy them gift cards to clothing stores since he did not know what they liked. He went on his own &amp; ended up purchasing them each a gift card worth $250! He's definitely very generous but I explained to him that it was a bit excessive, especially for middle schoolers! We give them a more reasonable amount in gift cards each Christmas now that they're in college. :silly: he's gotten better in starting to understand the sentimental value of knowing that one is being thought of when giving a gift for special occasions. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-swear-dh-would-never-buy-a-gift-for-any-of-his-family-if-it-wasnt-for-me#post-1626259 Sat, 10 May 2014 09:55:14 +0000 wonderstruck 1626259@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My DH can be like this too, but so is his whole family - that's where he gets it from, so I don't feel super obligated to make sure to get them a thoughtful gift since that's just not their family's thing. Are his mom and sister good about it and he's just kind of clueless, or is it the whole family? I agree with you about kids though, I make an exception there - I still make sure we get our nephew a nice birthday present. But they don't do much for the adults. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-swear-dh-would-never-buy-a-gift-for-any-of-his-family-if-it-wasnt-for-me#post-1626246 Sat, 10 May 2014 09:47:18 +0000 NCSUchick27 1626246@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Our only niece is turning one today, but we live 5 hours away and couldn't make it down for the party. I bought a couple of outfits, a Melissa &amp; Doug puzzle, and a board book for her birthday present. Since we can't make it down for the party I decided to mail them to her. I made DH stop by the post office while we were out running errands, and he griped about having to stop and waiting in line. I was annoyed with him so I told him that I was just going to put my name on the package (I still put both of our names on it) since he had no part in any of it, other than standing in line with me. If it was up to him he wouldn't have even acknowledged that it was her birthday. I know that our niece is too young to care, but this is his sister's little girl. He just doesn't think about things like that, and unless you tell him that you specifically want something, which I have learned to do, you will get nothing.</p> <p>I have also been bugging him the last couple of weeks about what we should get his mom for Mother's Day, and he never committed to anything so we never sent anything. He kept telling me to get ideas from his sister because he didn't know what his mom would like. I'm sure he will call his mom tomorrow, but I would have liked to send flowers or something.</p> <p>He just doesn't see much value in giving and receiving gifts, which is fine, but I feel like we should at least give some kind of gift even if it is small. I will have to get used to it though because I don't think he is going to change. He has may other awesome qualities, but gift giving isn't one of them. </p>