https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 17 Jun 2026 17:47:12 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-think-i-need-help#post-1194322 Mon, 04 Nov 2013 08:11:46 +0000 babycanuck 1194322@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Just from an anxiety point of view - I don't have kids, but I do suffer with pretty bad anxiety. Take B6 when you're beginning to feel weepy. It made a huge difference for me, before I went on medication, and I still use it if things are really bad. I can usually tell how I'm feeling when I wake up and take the B6. Also, if you do go see a doctor, I'm on something called Cipralex - my doctor has ensured me it's find to take while pregnant and afterward.</p> <p>Anxiety can be very scary. My doctor weaned me off my meds after a year to see if I could handle it because I hated being on pills, and it just didn't work. There is no harm in getting help, no matter the form. Your health and sanity is important to your beautiful LO so you need to be there fully for her. It doesn't make you a bad person, a bad mother or anything. You need to do what's right for you and your family. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-think-i-need-help#post-1194297 Mon, 04 Nov 2013 07:50:24 +0000 MrsF 1194297@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Glad you have a plan and a support system here and at home. *hugs!* :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-think-i-need-help#post-1194291 Mon, 04 Nov 2013 07:48:34 +0000 Adira 1194291@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Arden: So glad your mom was able to come back to help support you!!! I hope things continue to get better for you! &lt;3 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-think-i-need-help#post-1194288 Mon, 04 Nov 2013 07:47:00 +0000 Smurfette 1194288@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Arden: Glad you have a plan and you are doing better! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-think-i-need-help#post-1194240 Mon, 04 Nov 2013 06:34:59 +0000 lamariniere 1194240@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm glad you are getting help. Big hugs and lots of support your way. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-think-i-need-help#post-1194237 Mon, 04 Nov 2013 06:17:25 +0000 Cherrybee 1194237@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Arden: I'm glad things are looking up for you and you are paving a way forward with your mum's help. I have been thinking about you a lot. Sometimes, just admitting to yourself and those around you (and on HB!) that you're not okay and you can't go on feeling this way is the big kick start you need to begin the healing process. More hugs. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-think-i-need-help#post-1194135 Sun, 03 Nov 2013 23:06:13 +0000 Arden 1194135@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Update:</p> <p>My mom came back and we started working on a plan to get through this before she leaves to go back overseas this month. I'm doing better. I have bad days with a ton of anxiety now and then but I just want you guys to know that having a support system here on hellobee means so much to me. Thank you, everybody! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-think-i-need-help#post-1155809 Thu, 17 Oct 2013 14:37:37 +0000 Kimberlybee 1155809@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Arden: Hi Just wanted to check up on you. How are you feeling today? Hope you find your safe and happy place soon! Hugs, hugs, hugs!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-think-i-need-help#post-1154307 Thu, 17 Oct 2013 08:08:06 +0000 Mrsbells 1154307@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Arden: Sorry you are dealing with this, please do try and seek help from a medical professional who can help you through this </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-think-i-need-help#post-1154259 Thu, 17 Oct 2013 07:41:54 +0000 blackbird 1154259@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I hope you get some help! :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-think-i-need-help#post-1154255 Thu, 17 Oct 2013 07:39:57 +0000 MsLipGloss 1154255@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Arden: Oh, hon! Please don't be afraid or ashamed. How you feel today is not who you are - it is only a temporary state of being! Getting help is the best thing you can do for you and your LO. And there are medications you can take that are safe for BFing. ((Hugs)) and ((Hugs)) and ((Hugs)) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-think-i-need-help#post-1154250 Thu, 17 Oct 2013 07:38:51 +0000 avivoca 1154250@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No advice, just big hugs for you. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-think-i-need-help#post-1154180 Thu, 17 Oct 2013 05:22:00 +0000 imbali 1154180@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>:heart: so glad you decided to reach out. PP mental health stuff can take many forms and, while I couldnt (wouldnt) diagnose over the internet (I'm a psychologist), @mrbee: sounds like he may be right with something about PP OCD. I think pps have been spot on suggesting therapy/drs on sliding scales - there are definitely therapists here who will take income into account and make a plan to offer an affordable service.</p> <p>Hugs mama. will be thinking about you. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-think-i-need-help#post-1154084 Wed, 16 Oct 2013 23:02:42 +0000 birdofafeather 1154084@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Lots of hugs mama. Please don't be afraid to get help! We're here. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-think-i-need-help#post-1154046 Wed, 16 Oct 2013 22:19:30 +0000 Kimberlybee 1154046@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Arden: I am so sorry you are going through this. I am sure I can say this for the majority of the beehive mommies when I say there's no judgement here on this forum. Vent to us anytime and whenever you need to. (Big hugs). Btw, Vi is such a beautiful name, that's part of my LO's middle name. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-think-i-need-help#post-1154004 Wed, 16 Oct 2013 21:15:10 +0000 shopaholic 1154004@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sorry mama! I have no idea about this - maybe speak with a doctor? Just wanted to give you {{{HUGS}}}. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-think-i-need-help#post-1153978 Wed, 16 Oct 2013 20:54:51 +0000 QueensBee 1153978@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You are so brave and such a great mama to proactively seek support. I think the other bees have given great advice. Big hugs to you. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-think-i-need-help#post-1153954 Wed, 16 Oct 2013 20:39:42 +0000 mrbee 1153954@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am not a doctor, but thought I'd mention that the symptoms you describe sound similar to postpartum OCD? Intrusive thoughts, concern of your baby being hurt, extreme anxiety, not wanting to be alone with your child... they are all symptoms of PP OCD! More here:</p> <p><a href="http://www.steveseay.com/postpartum-ocd-fear-of-harming-your-baby/" rel="nofollow">http://www.steveseay.com/postpartum-ocd-fear-of-harming-your-baby/</a> </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-think-i-need-help#post-1153941 Wed, 16 Oct 2013 20:31:57 +0000 Happygal 1153941@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Big hugs to you, Arden. You will get through this. Others have given you great advice, so I won't repeat what has already been said. But I do want to repeat that there are options out there, and things will get better. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-think-i-need-help#post-1153861 Wed, 16 Oct 2013 19:47:45 +0000 googly-eyes 1153861@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Bigs hugs to you. I have been there. I know how utterly alone and dismal it can feel. Make yourself a priority. I chose meds over breastfeeding and I don't regret it for a second (but bf was already going badly), but there are also meds that are supposed to be ok with breastfeeding. I also stayed with my parents (1000s of miles away) a couple weeks and we three stayed with my MIL for a little bit, because I was terrified of being alone with LO. I also wanted her to be around people who were excited to be around her when I couldn't be. Seek out help ASAP. I honestly am afraid to think about what would have happened if I didn't get help. At 6 weeks pp I was considered "severe" with ppd (doctor's words) and also had anxiety problems. One fed into the other. There is light at the end of the tunnel even if it doesn't seem that way. Make yourself a priority! &lt;3 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-think-i-need-help#post-1153858 Wed, 16 Oct 2013 19:46:33 +0000 mamabolt 1153858@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hugs hugs hugs. It took me 7 months to realize that things were not right for me and advocate for my own health, and I wish I had done it many months earlier. I've been taking Zoloft while BF for 8 months now. It really turned things around for me and made me not overwhelmed and anxious and depressed all the time. I hope you can find the help you need somehow. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-think-i-need-help#post-1153845 Wed, 16 Oct 2013 19:41:16 +0000 heartonastring 1153845@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am so, so sorry you're going through this. I also had a traumatic birth and it has only started affecting me recently (I'm almost 6 months pp) and in different ways than yours is affecting you, but nonetheless I have an idea of where you're coming from.</p> <p>You're a doula, right? Do you have any resources through the birth support community who could help you? I know my LC (who's also a doula and runs a pre- and post-natal support and education centre) runs classes on processing and healing from your traumatic birth. I plan to take the class the next time it's offered. Is anything like that available in your area?</p> <p>Also, this list might be of use to you. Perhaps you could find someone who could base their fees on a sliding scale?: <a href="http://www.solaceformothers.org/professionals.html" rel="nofollow">http://www.solaceformothers.org/professionals.html</a></p> <p>Big, big hugs. I really hope you can find someone to talk to to help you heal your trauma and its after-effects. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-think-i-need-help#post-1153842 Wed, 16 Oct 2013 19:39:48 +0000 Honeybee 1153842@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I know you're young; is there anyway you can go onto your parent's insurance for a while so you can get some treatment? Many states/counties also have free or reduced cost doctor's appointments and treatments for people without insurance; they may only be open for very limited hours, but that may be a place to start. You can call 211 on your phone, which will put you in touch with a state informational organization who should be able to tell you what resources are available in your area/ for your situation.</p> <p>I know this is scary, but if you can't do it for yourself, do it for Viv. You both deserve health and happiness. You can do this, momma! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-think-i-need-help#post-1153834 Wed, 16 Oct 2013 19:37:30 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 1153834@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Arden: you are NOT a downer and you shouldn't be sorry!!!<br /> I can't give you the exact answer I want to give you right this minute, but I am posting so I don't forget. Hang in there and I am really, really glad that you have decided to do something to change things. You deserve to be 'real' happy, not just fake happy or kind of happy. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-think-i-need-help#post-1153829 Wed, 16 Oct 2013 19:34:22 +0000 Cole 1153829@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am so sorry to hear you are struggling right now. I agree with the others that getting some help will go a long way. Try googling your town's name and postpartum depression, you might find some free or low cost options for help that way, planned parenthood might be another option. If your husband doesn't have benefits it might not be a possibility but often large corporations have deals with counseling networks and they offer free sessions to their employees and their families (I used the one through my husband's company when my dad died and it was remarkably easy once we knew it existed.) </p> <p>Do you have a La Leche League group near you? It might help to find some like minded women even if they don't become your best friends instantly. </p> <p>I wish I could come and sit with you, I haven't been exactly where you are but after my dad passed away I was terrified to be alone, mostly because it meant my loved ones weren't with me. It was a scary and lonely time because it didn't make sense but I was still stuck with the feelings. </p> <p>Lots of hugs to you, if you want me to help with finding some resources for you let me know. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-think-i-need-help#post-1153827 Wed, 16 Oct 2013 19:33:31 +0000 Smurfette 1153827@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hugs!! I agree with PP, going to a doctor's should be your first priority. I am sure that there are some medications that you can take while breastfeeding. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-think-i-need-help#post-1153816 Wed, 16 Oct 2013 19:27:31 +0000 MamaMoose 1153816@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Arden: don't be afraid! There are resources out there to help. You just need to find the right help and support. Maybe your mom can help you get an appointment set up before she goes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-think-i-need-help#post-1153811 Wed, 16 Oct 2013 19:25:11 +0000 mrs. bird 1153811@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>oh hun, i wanna reach through my screen and give you i giant hug! :heart: </p> <p>if you ever feel like you're losing touch with things, put vi in her crib (even if she's screaming, she will be okay!), text DH to come home, go in another room and call 1-800-PPD-MOMS or (877) PPD-HOPE</p> <p>that said, i think you are right on the money, help is needed and WILL help you feel better, you will feel BETTER. it might mean some meds, it might not. there are meds you can take while breastfeeding. taking meds while breastfeeding isn't always ideal, but having a mommy that is happy and better able to interact with baby is far better for baby and the benefits of you feeling better will outweigh any negatives from taking a med approved by the dr while nursing. </p> <p>mental health can be tricky to afford without ins, but not impossible. are there any universities near you with counseling programs? often students will provide low cost or no cost appts. calling one of those hotlines might be a great place to start- they might be able to refer you to resources in your area. there are a lot of inexpensive generic medications (many for as little as $4/month). the dr might also be able to get you samples or there are some companies that you can apply for financial assistance to help cover the cost of the name brand medication (these are a lot of paperwork and take awhile before they start, but can still be worth a try if you find something that works for you).</p> <p>i hope you're able to find some resources near you soon! if you ever need to chat, feel free to wall me. i've got lots of free time and ears willing to listen :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-think-i-need-help#post-1153810 Wed, 16 Oct 2013 19:24:27 +0000 Arden 1153810@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MamaMoose: Photoshoot is already paid for (gifted), but I can try to figure another way. I guess I'm also afraid. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-think-i-need-help#post-1153809 Wed, 16 Oct 2013 19:24:18 +0000 Adira 1153809@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wish I had some advice for you... I just want to give you a HUG! &lt;3 I definitely agree with @MamaMoose: that getting help should be your priority! It's not good for you or your baby to continue to feel like this and not be able to get the help you need!!! &lt;3 </p>