https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 23 Apr 2026 20:55:05 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-think-im-going-to-quit-the-search-for-mom-friends/page/2#post-1386894 Thu, 30 Jan 2014 08:40:48 +0000 looch 1386894@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think part of the problem is that you're looking specifically for mom friends...don't! You might be surprised. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-think-im-going-to-quit-the-search-for-mom-friends/page/2#post-1386666 Thu, 30 Jan 2014 00:23:07 +0000 mrskc 1386666@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@stine_ciro: I would think as a leader you would make an effort to let people know who's is part of the group. That's nice that you would have a sign. Much more welcoming and considerate to new members. :) It happened to me twice with the same meetup group so I think I'm going to join another one and see if it's any better. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-think-im-going-to-quit-the-search-for-mom-friends/page/2#post-1386543 Wed, 29 Jan 2014 23:13:00 +0000 NurseMommy 1386543@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Katrocap: awww, thanks! :grin: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-think-im-going-to-quit-the-search-for-mom-friends/page/2#post-1386482 Wed, 29 Jan 2014 22:34:28 +0000 doodlepoodle 1386482@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Bookish: I accept that challenge. @HLK208: yaaaaaaay! Pick me up girlfran!!!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-think-im-going-to-quit-the-search-for-mom-friends/page/2#post-1386163 Wed, 29 Jan 2014 20:47:35 +0000 mrs.shinerbock 1386163@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@fancyfunction: @mrskc: this happened to me recently too! I "think" the organizer was there, but she came to the baby yoga class late and took off as soon as it ended. Aren't we there to meet new people? When I ran a meetup group several years ago, I always made a sign if there were any new people coming because it's so awkward asking people "are you in meetup?" And they look at you like you are crazy.</p> <p>I'm just starting out on my meet new mommy friends journey, but I'm glad to see that I'm not the only one with no mommy friends.</p> <p>@running ellie: I always feel that way after my college roommates and I get together. I really miss having a group of girls where we all click and do fun things together. We are all spread across the country, so we only see each other about once per year. :crying: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-think-im-going-to-quit-the-search-for-mom-friends/page/2#post-1386078 Wed, 29 Jan 2014 20:30:54 +0000 Synchronicity 1386078@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think once you are beyond school-age, it becomes so much more difficult to meet people! I can only imagine that it would become harder still when you are on mat leave and away from adults 99% of the time. </p> <p>I find it difficult, too, because most of my friends from school (I graduated from yet another program in December) are a few years behind where I'm at. I've settled down with SO, bought a house a couple of years ago, we are tied down by jobs and a dog, and I LOVE it. They are still flying free and partying and traveling all over the place without big plans for the future. We are in different places, which makes things hard. </p> <p>I wish more HB members lived in my area! How easy would that make things... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-think-im-going-to-quit-the-search-for-mom-friends/page/2#post-1385985 Wed, 29 Jan 2014 19:59:16 +0000 Bookish 1385985@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Amen. I posted about this on another thread but I basically have no mom friends, especially since @rawrasaur: is leaving meeee! :'(</p> <p>@babyjmama: I'm seriously just going to kidnap you and make you move down here. Tell DH sorry, but I clearly need you more than he does. HAH ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-think-im-going-to-quit-the-search-for-mom-friends/page/2#post-1385905 Wed, 29 Jan 2014 19:37:37 +0000 Katrocap 1385905@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I completely understand. It's so hard to even find possible mom friends out there. I've met some moms at library story times and we've even exchanged numbers but nothing ever happened. I figured they didn't want to hang out since they didn't call me (who knows - maybe they were thinking the same thing!). The awkward aspect of getting to know someone is so intimidating. When there is a lull in the conversation I often think it's my fault for not being interesting or cool enough. I try to remind myself that the few close friends I have were worth going through the awkward phase for, so it's worth the effort.</p> <p>And it can be so difficult if you are a WOHM (even though it was difficult in a different way when I was a SAHM on maternity leave). Like @maplemoose said, there is so little time. I can barely juggle work, house, husband, baby, and my own interests, let alone new friendships - even though I want them! I even have been trying to connect with an awesome Bee in my area who probably thinks I'm flaking out on her.</p> <p>@nursemommy: I have no idea how so many ladies on HB have become close friends. But I'll be your HB friend! :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-think-im-going-to-quit-the-search-for-mom-friends/page/2#post-1385856 Wed, 29 Jan 2014 19:22:18 +0000 mrskc 1385856@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Running Elley: awww this makes me sad. :( Because I think you an awesome chick. I really wish we didn't live 2 hours away from each other because I would love to hang out with you more. </p> <p>It is so hard to make friends. I have one close friend and she moved to Texas. I miss her all the time. I've been staying home now for almost a month and I'm not sure how to make the transition from chatting with moms at story time to meeting up and possibly becoming friends. I think having the LO's makes it hard because you focus a lot of energy on your LO and it doesn't give you the opportunity to really talk to the other mom. And you can't connect with every person so it probably takes meeting a lot of people. It sucks. :( </p> <p>Have you checked meetup.com for meetup groups? Usually people join those groups because they are in search of friends too. I haven't had much luck with one of the mom's groups but I'm hoping to try another and see how it goes. </p> <p>@fancyfunction: this happened to me recently too. There was supposed to be a meetup at story time but I had no clue who was part of the meetup. I asked a couple people and they had no clue what I was talking about so then I felt weird and didn't ask anyone else. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-think-im-going-to-quit-the-search-for-mom-friends/page/2#post-1385831 Wed, 29 Jan 2014 19:15:52 +0000 LovelyPlum 1385831@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Running Elley: hugs, mama :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-think-im-going-to-quit-the-search-for-mom-friends/page/2#post-1385725 Wed, 29 Jan 2014 18:51:52 +0000 fancyfunction 1385725@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I know, it's so hard. I clicked with two moms at library class, but we haven't hung out since before Christmas. Hopefully we can get the kids together soon and start things up again. But I went to the mall today as part of a Meetup group to meet some more moms - and no one showed up!! Apparently 9 people were supposed to be going. So M and I just walked around the mall. Sigh </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-think-im-going-to-quit-the-search-for-mom-friends/page/2#post-1385696 Wed, 29 Jan 2014 18:36:52 +0000 Greentea 1385696@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Running Elley: I know what you mean. It is exactly like dating! I don't have the time or energy anymore for friends. And my time is valuable to me now... I want to give it to my own family. It can be tough too when you put into something. .. and don't really get it back.</p> <p>I am pretty secure about it though. I have lived all over, lived alone, been very alone, moved all over and had lots of friends... I like having my own family as my friends. They are relationships worth investing in. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-think-im-going-to-quit-the-search-for-mom-friends/page/2#post-1385653 Wed, 29 Jan 2014 18:21:00 +0000 MapleMoose 1385653@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have no time for friends anymore. I know, what a terrible thing to say. But I am still trying to figure out how to juggle parenting with work, household duties, a relationship with my husband... Sheesh there's not enough time to find new friends lol </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-think-im-going-to-quit-the-search-for-mom-friends/page/2#post-1385641 Wed, 29 Jan 2014 18:18:02 +0000 rawrasaur 1385641@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ugh, I'm moving cross country in a few months and will know no one. This just made me realize how much looking for friends will suck. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-think-im-going-to-quit-the-search-for-mom-friends/page/2#post-1385625 Wed, 29 Jan 2014 18:09:49 +0000 .twist. 1385625@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Cherrybee: :( I am a Lego game addict.... I have every single Lego game. I have completed them all to 100% except batman and avengers, still working on those. It's shameful! Haha </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-think-im-going-to-quit-the-search-for-mom-friends/page/2#post-1385603 Wed, 29 Jan 2014 17:59:35 +0000 Cherrybee 1385603@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@.twist.: Getting Superhero on Lego Batman is so cool and if you collect all the red bricks you are awesome!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-think-im-going-to-quit-the-search-for-mom-friends/page/2#post-1385602 Wed, 29 Jan 2014 17:59:11 +0000 Dagny 1385602@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I seriously could have written this post myself! I've been trying so much and it just hasn't worked out... it is super frustrating. Sometimes I feel like such a loner. :-( I am also so baffled by the way certain moms will treat me (and others) for no apparent reason - I hate being judged as a mother, it's terrible. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-think-im-going-to-quit-the-search-for-mom-friends/page/2#post-1385585 Wed, 29 Jan 2014 17:54:08 +0000 HLK208 1385585@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@CupQuakeWalk: better yet, I have a mom car. I'll just pick up D and travel out to the mid-west, pick up A and head up your way, yeah? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-think-im-going-to-quit-the-search-for-mom-friends#post-1385575 Wed, 29 Jan 2014 17:47:50 +0000 loveisstrange 1385575@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have a couple, but not many. Most of the the "mom" women where I live are batshit crazy and full of drama. No thanks. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-think-im-going-to-quit-the-search-for-mom-friends#post-1385507 Wed, 29 Jan 2014 17:19:23 +0000 Ra 1385507@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@NurseMommy: We should start our own clique. The no social skills crew. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-think-im-going-to-quit-the-search-for-mom-friends#post-1385505 Wed, 29 Jan 2014 17:19:13 +0000 HLK208 1385505@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@NurseMommy: it's been years of talking to some users (through weddingbee and now hellobee) but I feel like I know a lot of them! I'm getting to know you and I think IG brings all of us closer too :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-think-im-going-to-quit-the-search-for-mom-friends#post-1385496 Wed, 29 Jan 2014 17:16:54 +0000 Mrs. Twine 1385496@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm there! I have *a* friend. One. Only one. So I hang with my "girls." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-think-im-going-to-quit-the-search-for-mom-friends#post-1385492 Wed, 29 Jan 2014 17:15:32 +0000 NurseMommy 1385492@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@rahlyrah: @.twist.: I'm the exact same. Obviously I don't know you ladies at all, but oddly I feel like I would click with both of you irl for some reason. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-think-im-going-to-quit-the-search-for-mom-friends#post-1385485 Wed, 29 Jan 2014 17:14:08 +0000 NurseMommy 1385485@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I feel the same way. And if it makes you feel better, I don't have HB friends either. And I have no idea how you ladies have all gotten so close! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-think-im-going-to-quit-the-search-for-mom-friends#post-1385474 Wed, 29 Jan 2014 17:11:30 +0000 Ra 1385474@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@.twist.: :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-think-im-going-to-quit-the-search-for-mom-friends#post-1385471 Wed, 29 Jan 2014 17:10:03 +0000 Lindsay05 1385471@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I hear ya! Its so awkward! So...do u like....stuff?? Kind of conversations. Thank goodness for HB and its ability to make it less awkward. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-think-im-going-to-quit-the-search-for-mom-friends#post-1385450 Wed, 29 Jan 2014 17:06:16 +0000 .twist. 1385450@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@rahlyrah: we are twinsies. I'm that kind of awkward too. I always feel like I say the stupidest things. Like, omg, it is not cool to brag about get 100% on Lego video games. Get a grip girl! I would love to be awkward with you. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-think-im-going-to-quit-the-search-for-mom-friends#post-1385444 Wed, 29 Jan 2014 17:05:08 +0000 Cherrybee 1385444@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Running Elley: I wanna be your IRL friend too! You're great! :heart: </p> <p>FWIW, I have several mum friends and I never see them!! We are all too busy being mums, babies are sick etc. We speak over FB - so we may as well be HB friends for all the difference it makes! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-think-im-going-to-quit-the-search-for-mom-friends#post-1385441 Wed, 29 Jan 2014 17:03:59 +0000 Ra 1385441@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I feel the same way! I am super awkward and have a difficult time making friends. I hate small talk and I am always worried that people don't like me. I always walk away from a friend "date" kicking myself because I feel like I blew it.</p> <p>@.twist.: My husband's the same way! He's been best friends with his group since high school. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-think-im-going-to-quit-the-search-for-mom-friends#post-1385437 Wed, 29 Jan 2014 17:03:37 +0000 lilteacherbee 1385437@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Running Elley: ugh I'm sorry you feel this way! I've been there too, mainly because most of my friends aren't in the same life stage anymore. I do have a couple of really close friends and to me, that's wayyy easier than trying to make new friends. I just dont have the energy right now to seriously attempt it. You're right- everyone else always seems like they have friends and they aren't interested in making new, deep friendships. :(</p> <p>Totally wish you lived closer!! :heart: </p>