https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 17 Apr 2026 08:50:34 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-think-im-losing-it#post-613591 Tue, 05 Mar 2013 10:02:03 +0000 twoofeverything 613591@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Although my babies are only 13 weeks, I totally understand what you're going through. My DS is exactly as you describe your DS -- pretty cranky, pretty much around-the-clock. When he's happy, the world is his oyster; when he's not...watch out. DD, thankfully, is VERY easy, thank goodness.<br /> I guess my only advice is to hire some sort of mother's helper, if you can swing it. We can barely afford it, ourselves, but I have someone come for 3 hours a week and pay her $12/hr, (less than we would pay a regular nanny, since I'm usually home when she's here). I look forward to those stupid 3 hours all week! It's a time when someone else is in "charge" of the crankiness for a short period of time so I can recharge my batteries and get things done around the house without a screaming baby in the Bjorn. For $120/month, it's worth every penny :-) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-think-im-losing-it#post-613466 Tue, 05 Mar 2013 09:16:40 +0000 Anagram 613466@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@zippylef: Get help, from anyone you can. I know that's easier said than done, but it seems like you need a regular break from her and that's okay!--it doesn't make you a bad mom at all!</p> <p>My sister had an "easy" first baby and then a very difficult second baby (a boy). My nephew would scream allllll the time, for no reason, would NEVER sleep for the first 2 years of his life, would scream his head off anytime he was in his carseat--these were major problems because my BIL (her husband) is in the airforce and was also deployed three times in his first two years of life.</p> <p>My mom would offer to take him for the weekend, but at first my sister resisted, because I think she felt guilty subjecting anyone else to his constant screaming, but finally my mom convinced her that she (my mom) wouldn't die with a screaming baby for one weekend--after all, my mom raised 6--- and so my sister dropped him off FOR THE ENTIRE WEEKEND and yes, the first time he screamed a lot (but he was doing the same thing at home). The second overnight with my mom, he slept!! And he never slept with my sister.</p> <p>Soon, those overnight visits starting happening every-other-week or so, just so my sister could rest and catch up on errands and do all the things she couldn't do with a screaming child.</p> <p>He's in 1st grade now, and he DID grow out of it, but it took a long time. They never did figure out what was wrong---the doctors never found a reason, he was always healthy---just a screaming baby. Now he's a super energetic, totally normal 6 year old. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-think-im-losing-it#post-613448 Tue, 05 Mar 2013 09:09:33 +0000 meredithNYC 613448@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@zippylef: I've been thinking about you and wondering how things are going. When I read this post a week ago my 9 month old was her typical happy-go-lucky self and I was like, oh my God, please don't let her go through this! Well, lo and behold, as of the past 3 or 4 days she is SOOO whiny and clingy. She's really testing my patience. Anyway, I was hoping things were looking up for you! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-think-im-losing-it#post-592076 Mon, 25 Feb 2013 13:55:49 +0000 pinkcupcake 592076@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@zippylef: I feel ya. I remember feeling so overwhelmed when my LO was around 11 months old. I don't know what it was. I think I was really struggling with her transition from baby to toddler (here's a post I wrote then: <a href="http://boards.hellobee.com/topic/struggling-wtransition-to-toddler)" rel="nofollow">http://boards.hellobee.com/topic/struggling-wtransition-to-toddler)</a>. She is super active and constantly on the move. Even though we baby-proofed the entire living room, she somehow manages to get into trouble every single second my back is turned. </p> <p>She is also very, very attached to me (I'm a SAHM) and there are days when I get absolutely nothing done because she's constantly attached to me. My DH is really busy with work + school so it's usually just me alone with her. There was a two month point when everything was just really difficult for me. I can't really put it into words. But as I'm sitting here typing this today, I just realized that things somehow got a lot better. I didn't even notice that I don't feel as overwhelmed, stressed, tired, etc anymore. So I guess it was a phase and it passed. I hope it's the same for you :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-think-im-losing-it#post-591443 Mon, 25 Feb 2013 10:43:45 +0000 loveisstrange 591443@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@meredithNYC: Im from the Midwest too, lol. St Louis. England is a beautiful country but DAMN is it gray all the time. I'll ask her pediatrician about it too, he'll probably just tell me to take Vit D supplements.</p> <p>@anbanan15: She could be teething. She could be almost walking. I never know. She stands and cruises, so I guess walking is the next logical step. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-think-im-losing-it#post-591417 Mon, 25 Feb 2013 10:37:20 +0000 meredithNYC 591417@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@zippylef: Ha! I didn't even realize that @Cherrybee suggested the same thing. I mean, it is a serious thing. I grew up in the Midwest and am now in the Northeast, so it's not like I'm a stranger to shitty winters. But man, UK winter was a new experience for me. Maybe something to bring up w/ your doctor? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-think-im-losing-it#post-591409 Mon, 25 Feb 2013 10:36:15 +0000 anbanan15 591409@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My first thought would be allergy or reflux (silent reflux maybe?)?! Also is she working on any developmental milestones like crawling/cruising/walking? Or teething? </p> <p>Hang in there. One day she will surprise you. Part of it is the age I think and developing her independence and voice. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-think-im-losing-it#post-591401 Mon, 25 Feb 2013 10:34:25 +0000 loveisstrange 591401@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We have an appointment with her ped on Monday, so I'll be sure to ask him. </p> <p>@Cherrybee: @meredithNYC: It is absolutely possible that the weather has been contributing. It's been so freakin cold and dreary. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-think-im-losing-it#post-591377 Mon, 25 Feb 2013 10:29:52 +0000 meredithNYC 591377@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry to hear that things are tough. I definitely think it sounds like a phase, though I think it's a good idea to talk to the pediatrician just to maybe rule out anything more serious that might be making her grumpy.</p> <p>Are there any local playgroups you can join? That might help with the clinginess and it would just get you out of the house. The other thing is, and I may be way off-base here, but are you still in the UK? Because when I was there the winter months affected me really badly - like the extreme short days and the dreariness. I loved it there, but I did find the seasonal depression hard to take. On the other hand, the spring and summer were glorious. So if that's getting you down, it will change soon! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-think-im-losing-it#post-591372 Mon, 25 Feb 2013 10:29:11 +0000 Cherrybee 591372@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@zippylef: I think that's a really positive step, going home for some help and some TLC. I really don't know how you military wives cope - I'd be permanantly on edge, stressing and worrying all the time. It must be so hard being so far from home, too - there's no wonder you feel down sometimes. You'er in the UK aren't you?? The weather alone is enough to put anyone in a funk! I neeeeeeed some sunlight right now!!!! </p> <p>You know, if you do start to feel like it's really getting on top of you, you can always see the doctor about it. Did you get medication or any othe help for your PPD? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-think-im-losing-it#post-591336 Mon, 25 Feb 2013 10:21:40 +0000 loveisstrange 591336@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I dont even think it's anything out of the ordinary on her part, to be honest. I know this is a rough age for them with all the new developmental milestones and everything. I think she's really picking some of it up from me too, because Ive been so stressed out. </p> <p>Im flying home while hes gone to stay with my parents, which will be good. My mom doesnt work, so I'll have plenty of help. I dont think I'd make it through his deployment by myself, in a foreign country.</p> <p>@T.H.O.U.: She really is a very sweet girl. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-think-im-losing-it#post-591305 Mon, 25 Feb 2013 10:15:43 +0000 Cherrybee 591305@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh no, that sounds awful. Big, big hugs for you. I wonder if part of how you're feeling about it all is made worse by the fact that your hubby's leaving for a few months? I suspect it makes everything just seem even harder to cope with. </p> <p>I can't stress enough that this phase will not last forever. Nothing like this ever does. I dunno if that helps.... but I hope it does!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-think-im-losing-it#post-591290 Mon, 25 Feb 2013 10:12:09 +0000 MaisyMay 591290@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This too shall pass. Is there anybody who can give you a break? An on base day care or mommy group who can watch her for a few hours? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-think-im-losing-it#post-591289 Mon, 25 Feb 2013 10:11:32 +0000 immabeetoo 591289@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My mom reminds me all the time thy everything's a phase, good or bad. I completely commiserate with feeling overly negative, we've been struggling with sleep ourselves. But im sure your husbands deployment adds a layer of stress I can't imagine! Hoping things get easier for you and LO soon. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-think-im-losing-it#post-591285 Mon, 25 Feb 2013 10:09:44 +0000 Bao 591285@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Do you have someone that can watch her so you can get a break? Now, or even when your DH is gone? A few hours away on your own can make a world of difference. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-think-im-losing-it#post-591284 Mon, 25 Feb 2013 10:09:36 +0000 sera_87 591284@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It probably is but if you need help, don't be afraid to get it. Therapist? Doctor? Babysitter/mothers helper? Remember that PDD hormones can affect you for years. I'm sorry you're having such a rough time :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-think-im-losing-it#post-591283 Mon, 25 Feb 2013 10:09:29 +0000 T.H.O.U. 591283@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am sorry. She always looks so sweet and happy. I guess the first question would be if you had her checked medically to make sure nothing is wrong like an allergy. Next what does make her happy? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-think-im-losing-it#post-591269 Mon, 25 Feb 2013 10:05:45 +0000 loveisstrange 591269@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>C will be 11 months old on the 3rd. I don't know what is going on, but I'm losing my grip on it. </p> <p>She was an extremely.... difficult newborn. We had issues breastfeeding and bonding and she spent 99% of the time she was awake SCREAMING, like hysterical screaming. It was a constant, if she was awake then she was probably crying. I was dealing with PPD at time, my husband was still reeling from the fact that we even had a baby (she was very unplanned) and was little help and it was just not a good situation all around. We lived like we had a ticking time bomb in our house.</p> <p>Around 3 or 4 months old, it was like a switch flipped and she was a different baby. She turned into this STTN, happy, smiling, cheerful little angel. She was very independent, napped well, slept well, played on her own. We had a happy family.</p> <p>Things were good until recently. I would say it started around Christmas, so about when she was almost 9 months old. She stopped sleeping, she started being really clingy and REALLY whiny, she cries all the time, she fights eating bottles and real food, she screams any time we put her in her carseat. I feel like we're back to square one and all she does is cry and drive me nuts. She is just SO grumpy all the time, I don't even recognize her anymore. </p> <p>My husband is getting deployed to the Middle East in a pretty short period of time. He's leaving next week to be gone for a month for some mandatory training, he'll be back a couple of weeks and then he's gone until December. I don't know what I'm going to do. Her attitude has done such a drastic 180, I'm hardly sleeping and I can feel myself just being negative and angry all the time again. </p> <p>Someone please tell me this is a phase. </p>