https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 03 May 2026 10:17:33 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-think-my-so-has-de#post-47005 Thu, 05 Jan 2012 10:52:57 +0000 MamaMoose 47005@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: I think the first step is definitely for him to talk to his doctor. I know it's kind of an awkward topic so he may not want to, but push him to do so. Even just for your sex life if not for TTC. Just bring is up to him in a calm and relaxed manner and tell him it's important to you that he look in to it. Hopefully he'll be on board. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-think-my-so-has-de#post-47000 Thu, 05 Jan 2012 10:48:58 +0000 Adira 47000@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@oliviaoblivia: No, he hasn't talked to his doctor about it. Honestly, I don't even think he thinks it's a problem, because this is what's normal for him. I haven't even talked to him about the possibility that he has DE (I honestly just found the term today because I'm freaking out). He isn't on any medication, so I know that's not the problem... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-think-my-so-has-de#post-46996 Thu, 05 Jan 2012 10:46:02 +0000 oliviaoblivia 46996@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I dated a man with DE once, it was related to blood-pressure medication. Has your DH talked with his doctor about it? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-think-my-so-has-de#post-46987 Thu, 05 Jan 2012 10:39:06 +0000 Adira 46987@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@eupenmalmody: Thank you for your advice! My husband is only 28, and as far as I know, he's always had DE (at least he's always taken a long time to reach climax in the 8 years since we've been together). I never really thought about it before, just thought it was a little strange because it seems the more common problem is men climaxing too early. That has never been the case for us. It's just now that we're close to TTC, I'm worried. Charting is definitely a good idea, given his DE. Thank you for suggesting that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-think-my-so-has-de#post-46982 Thu, 05 Jan 2012 10:35:23 +0000 eupenmalmody 46982@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>How old is your husband? I ask only because my husband was 38 when we started trying to conceive and while DE wasn't an issue for us, there were other issues at play. Because of his age, my OBGYN scheduled a sperm analysis for my husband VERY early on in our TTC process (at my insistence - think 3 months in). I spent many hours stressed over whether I thought he would have issues during our TTC - and stress does not help TTC. If you could have your OBGYN prescribe a SA early on, you will at least know whether he has good motility, mobility, etc - which may help you to stress less over the DE. If knowing what comes out is OK, that may bring you some comfort. It also will help to identify any other problems that may be at play early on. Once I learned that my husbands sperm was a-ok, it allowed me to stress less. Also, if you know that you may not be having sex as often as you would like due to DE, charting will be your best friend so that you can ensure you are hitting the prime time as best as possible. It only takes 1 time... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-think-my-so-has-de#post-46976 Thu, 05 Jan 2012 10:29:59 +0000 Adira 46976@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is a hard post for me to write and I'm not really sure that any of you will be able to offer me any advice...</p> <p>I think my husband has DE (delayed ejaculation). We've been together for eight years, and it always always takes him a long time to reach climax, if he does at all. He doesn't seem to mind, but now that it's almost time for us to start TTC, I'm scared we won't be able to get pregnant because of this issue. Often, we'll have sex and I'll climax, but he won't. I've read that most men can reach climax with 5-10 minutes of having sex, but this is almost never the case with my husband...</p> <p>Has anyone had experience with this? Does anyone have advice? I've mentioned my concern to my husband, that his inability to orgasm will mean that we will never get pregnant, but he keeps telling me not to worry, and that when the time comes, we'll figure it out. But this has been an ongoing issue (at least for me) for years... I don't know what to do. </p>