https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 18 May 2026 21:27:02 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-thought-sleep-was-supposed-to-get-better#post-2072524 Mon, 16 Feb 2015 21:05:10 +0000 Crisark 2072524@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>18months was the start of it. A is 22 months now and her sleep still sucks to be honest. I think she sleeps more in my bed then I do lol </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-thought-sleep-was-supposed-to-get-better#post-2071430 Mon, 16 Feb 2015 09:14:43 +0000 ALV91711 2071430@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>18 months was a horrible sleep regression. It seemed to last a couple months. That along with sickness and we created some bad sleeping habits. It did get better though.</p> <p>I'm sorry you are going through this. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-thought-sleep-was-supposed-to-get-better#post-2071358 Mon, 16 Feb 2015 08:26:34 +0000 Foodnerd81 2071358@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@GrapeCrush: yes- it's just a phase (we hope!!)</p> <p>She has been a bit better the last two night- cries when she goes down but STTN until after 6 am. I also saw she is getting or just got the SIX remaining teeth, so I guess that was part of it too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-thought-sleep-was-supposed-to-get-better#post-2071310 Mon, 16 Feb 2015 06:47:41 +0000 GrapeCrush 2071310@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>A is acting the same way right now! It's slowly killing us! She turned 18 months in the 1st and is doing the exact same things. And she doesn't quit. She has cried for over an hour, we figured she'd settle, but no, she kept going. She only calms down if we hold her, immediately, as if nothing happened. I'm hoping it's a phase. We don't remember DS being like this at age, but A was 3 months old, so not a hit sleeper, so we don't think e realized it was bad since we were already up constantly. We just keep saying 'it's just a phase' over and over and over again too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-thought-sleep-was-supposed-to-get-better#post-2071298 Mon, 16 Feb 2015 05:28:17 +0000 Mrs. Deer 2071298@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We too struggled at this age (she was waking at 4-4:30 AM constantly). For us it turned out that we went from two to one naps too soon. Once we went back to two naps she started going down easier, sleeping better, and not waking until 6:30 or 7:00. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-thought-sleep-was-supposed-to-get-better#post-2071283 Mon, 16 Feb 2015 02:52:48 +0000 gracecat 2071283@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We also had a sleep regression around 16 months that lasted about a month, it was bad but stopped on its own. We just went through another way worse one at 24 months that lasted around 6 weeks. :(. Try to just strike a balance between doing what it takes to stay sane while trying not to start bad habits... And hopefully when lo snaps out of it they will go back to sleeping how they did before. Hang in there, if they slept consistently well before, it is most likely a temporary sleep regression but it feels like forever I know... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-thought-sleep-was-supposed-to-get-better#post-2069865 Sat, 14 Feb 2015 13:38:06 +0000 Foodnerd81 2069865@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@blackbird: I could actually handle 6 weeks of taking turns sleeping in her room, if I knew it would go back to normal. But I'm also really worried about having to break the habit later on. </p> <p>@Pirouette: I guess I'm lucky because generally the anxiety isn't bad during the day. It's just at night. She's pretty fine when I leave the room at a friends house or whatever, and some of our baby friends freak out about that. And she's still napping ok. I guess I need to start napping too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-thought-sleep-was-supposed-to-get-better#post-2069681 Sat, 14 Feb 2015 09:33:44 +0000 Pirouette 2069681@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Foodnerd81: yea i cant even imagine how exhausting that must be without ever getting a break!!! :( i will say I've heard separation anxiety can disappear as quickly as it comes, so hopefully that happens soon! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-thought-sleep-was-supposed-to-get-better#post-2069643 Sat, 14 Feb 2015 08:44:03 +0000 blackbird 2069643@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We hit a brutal regression at 18 weeks that lasted about 6 weeks. It was the worst ever. All we could do was ride it out. Then one night, she went back to normal with a 30 min later bedtime and that was that. Hang in there. We had to retrain away some of the co sleeping and bad habits we let her get into </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-thought-sleep-was-supposed-to-get-better#post-2069642 Sat, 14 Feb 2015 08:43:40 +0000 Foodnerd81 2069642@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs Green Grass: this is my fear- if we keep giving in and having one of us sleep with her, it becomes the norm. And that's fine for people who don't mind, but we do mind!</p> <p>@Pirouette: seems separation anxiety related here too, only its me she is obsessed with. She would even let Dh hold her last night until she was sufficiently calmed down, which made him feel pretty crappy. As if I don't spend enough time with her during the day??? (I SAH and we are together all. Day. Long. ) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-thought-sleep-was-supposed-to-get-better#post-2069632 Sat, 14 Feb 2015 08:14:18 +0000 lawbee11 2069632@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Foodnerd81: So sorry you're going through this :( Hope it gets better soon! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-thought-sleep-was-supposed-to-get-better#post-2069616 Sat, 14 Feb 2015 07:29:02 +0000 Pirouette 2069616@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It really terrifies me that this is an 18 month regression because we are really going through the exact same thing and I'm losing my mind. Yet she's 4 months away from this. </p> <p>Last night she went to bed at 7:30, woke up at 1:30 and I nursed and she shuffled around a bit and went to sleep. But then she woke at 4:30, whined in the crib until 5:15 then escalated to crying, I brought her to our room at that point and we've all been up since 4:30. Part of it seems separation related - she's super attached to dh right now and asks for him at 5am, but I'm just feeling like we're failing miserably at the whole parenting thing right now!</p> <p>So, long story short, I have no advice but I feel your pain! And this better not be a 4 month regression!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-thought-sleep-was-supposed-to-get-better#post-2069553 Sat, 14 Feb 2015 01:42:02 +0000 Mrs Green Grass 2069553@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>18 months was the worst sleep time for us. Not much fixed it besides time, but consistency helped. Anytime I gave an inch, it took a week to undo. One thing that's been working really well for us is counting to 10 before putting him in his bed. But we started that later than 18 months. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-thought-sleep-was-supposed-to-get-better#post-2069510 Fri, 13 Feb 2015 23:55:25 +0000 Foodnerd81 2069510@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Blue: I remember some of your threads about this. They scared me. And here I am. I slept in her room last night (we have a queen bed in there so Lo slept in there with me). Dh is in there now. I am at my wits end and Dh and I are at each other's throats. Happy valentines day. @ShootingStar: we always wait five minutes at least. Tonight she woke up around 10:30 and I let her cry for a solid half hour. I'm so tired of this. </p> <p>Ugh. It's just a phase. It's just a phase. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-thought-sleep-was-supposed-to-get-better#post-2065427 Wed, 11 Feb 2015 22:02:47 +0000 erinpye 2065427@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When DD1 was 18 months old, she woke up by 5 AM for the day, no matter how late she went down. It was brutal and lasted months. Then sleep got better, and then really bad for a few months at 2.5 yrs. I think we'll all just finally get decent sleep when our youngest LOs are about 10 years old :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-thought-sleep-was-supposed-to-get-better#post-2065405 Wed, 11 Feb 2015 21:42:54 +0000 Mrs. Blue 2065405@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That period of time was HORRIBLE for the twins. I shudder just thinking about it. The only thing that finally worked I get some improvement was to put them to bed earlier and just absolutely not go in the room the rest I the night. I think it started with teething (1-year molars) and then we just let them develop some terrible sleep habits while we were trying to survive the whole regression, and finally, full on sleep training again helped them start going to sleep on their own again and not waking up for hours in the night.</p> <p>Lots and lots and lots of sympathy!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-thought-sleep-was-supposed-to-get-better#post-2065378 Wed, 11 Feb 2015 21:15:58 +0000 AprilFool 2065378@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Phase - Happened in this house too. Lasted a good few weeks and nothing we did helped. We came out the other side though :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-thought-sleep-was-supposed-to-get-better#post-2065357 Wed, 11 Feb 2015 20:49:18 +0000 GreenThumb 2065357@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@travellingbee: Yup! We go through all the family members (and their pets). I think the thought of everyone else sleeping is really calming plus I'm sure the repetition helps, too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-thought-sleep-was-supposed-to-get-better#post-2065350 Wed, 11 Feb 2015 20:46:24 +0000 littlejoy 2065350@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@travellingbee: That's awesome! My kiddo isn't verbal yet, but I still love that idea! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-thought-sleep-was-supposed-to-get-better#post-2065349 Wed, 11 Feb 2015 20:45:55 +0000 littlejoy 2065349@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry. Our baby was an ace sleeper until 6 months, then it went to shit. We are dealing with serious sleep issues at 13 months. We get a few all night sleeps per month, but yeah, I'm in zombie mode. </p> <p>This isn't much help, but just know you are doing awesome. It HAS to get better, right?? Sending sleepy thoughts. Remember, one day, we'll have to drag these kids out of bed. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-thought-sleep-was-supposed-to-get-better#post-2065344 Wed, 11 Feb 2015 20:44:01 +0000 travellingbee 2065344@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@GreenThumb: that's exactly what we do! I calmly list everyone he knows and say they are sleeping, lol. Meema is sleeping, papa is sleeping, teacher is sleeping, etc... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-thought-sleep-was-supposed-to-get-better#post-2065335 Wed, 11 Feb 2015 20:38:56 +0000 ShootingStar 2065335@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>D is about 15 months, but we had some sleep troubles for almost all of January. I think it was due to getting 3 teeth in. So my "rules" are:</p> <p>-Wait 5 minutes before rescuing<br /> -Soothe if it's a one-off thing, if he's gotten in the habit of waking up I let it go a little longer<br /> -If crying doesn't stop he probably is in pain and needs ibuprofen. </p> <p>Those are my guidelines for us because he's normally a great sleeper and something's usually going on if he wakes up. I also know from experience that a lot of the time he'll cry for a couple minutes and then go back to sleep. Different guidelines might work better for different babies :-). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-thought-sleep-was-supposed-to-get-better#post-2065328 Wed, 11 Feb 2015 20:33:32 +0000 GreenThumb 2065328@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh yes, 18 month sleep regression!! We just went through it and I read that it is one of the worst - sorry! We were back to crying at bedtime and up multiples times a night/ending up in bed with us. Bad for maybe even 4-5+ weeks, but then we decided that she was not allowed out of the crib and we would stay next to the crib until she fell asleep (I couldn't just do CIO - she really seemed like she was having separation anxiety, so I didn't feel like that kind of sleep training was going to be good for us). We got in the habit of just laying her back down each time she got up and saying that everyone was sleeping (Mommy is sleeping, Daddy is sleeping, Owly (her lovie) is sleeping, A is sleeping…). That seemed to calm her down and it worked so well that eventually we could then walk out without having to sit next to her crib. Bedtime is back to normal and we only have occasional (2-4 times a week) wake-ups, usually when she is over tired. Good luck - it DOES get better!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-thought-sleep-was-supposed-to-get-better#post-2065323 Wed, 11 Feb 2015 20:23:55 +0000 Foodnerd81 2065323@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Champagne: c was alternating screaming, crying, and sadly whining while I posted. :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-thought-sleep-was-supposed-to-get-better#post-2065317 Wed, 11 Feb 2015 20:19:52 +0000 Mrs. Champagne 2065317@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We aren't at that age yett but a bunch of my friends said 18 months was bad! </p> <p>We are actually having almost the exact same issues you described and my son is abot 11 months. He's screamin right now in fact... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-thought-sleep-was-supposed-to-get-better#post-2065311 Wed, 11 Feb 2015 20:14:44 +0000 Foodnerd81 2065311@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Pancakes: the worst part is feeling like I'm doing something wrong and having no idea how to fix it. It helps knowing that it happens to a lot of toddlers... Well, it helps a little. Coffee and wine help a lot. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-thought-sleep-was-supposed-to-get-better#post-2065304 Wed, 11 Feb 2015 20:09:59 +0000 Pancakes 2065304@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>18 months was a rough time...DD1 is about to turn 4 and I still remember her sleep at that age! I think the worst of it lasted 2-3 weeks. I hope it gets better soon! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-thought-sleep-was-supposed-to-get-better#post-2065290 Wed, 11 Feb 2015 20:00:08 +0000 Foodnerd81 2065290@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I feel like I've been misled! I thought once you got through those first bunch of months it would get better. Not so much these days!</p> <p>C is 18 months and her sleep just sucks lately. She has started crying when we put her down at bedtime again. She wakes up during the night and won't settle down unless Dh lays down in the bed in her room with her- if I lay down in there she wants to nurse and freaks out if I wont. She wakes up really early- anything after six I can deal with (though I prefer after 7 :) ). But 5 is not the day in this house. </p> <p>When we go in in the middle of the night, or if she's crying going to bed, she calms right down when we hold her but freaks when we put her in the crib. It's exhausting. </p> <p>Oh and we added a nightlight a few weeks ago, which seemed to help for a while. She had a cold and was teething but I don't think anything is really going on right now. I'm so tired of it. </p> <p>Anyone else? Just a phase? Some super tip that's going to fix it?? </p>