https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 25 May 2026 03:29:10 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-want-my-bed-back#post-2756954 Mon, 10 Jul 2017 19:51:32 +0000 MrsSRS 2756954@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm with @gingerbebe. I'd do the talking about it ahead of time, plus the door monkey, and maybe a sticker chart. We had good luck with buying a clock that shows a bunny asleep or playing depending on the time. Night wakings got a calm, "bunny is sleeping, everyone is sleeping, you stay in your bed until bunny wakes up." There were tears, but we were super consistent and it worked! I'd do the routine you want to have and just stick with it for two weeks. Then reassess. If you're worried about him throwing things strip his room down to the minimum for now (bed, tethered furniture, soft toys). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-want-my-bed-back#post-2756753 Mon, 10 Jul 2017 12:46:14 +0000 bubblegum 2756753@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@gingerbebe: I actually did the baby gate in front of his door and the little bugger climbed over it!! Maybe a door monkey would work. The crying doesn't bother me. I just don't want him throwing all this crap and then end up breaking something. This kid is like the hulk when he's pissed lol </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-want-my-bed-back#post-2756719 Mon, 10 Jul 2017 12:08:24 +0000 gingerbebe 2756719@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yeah, I'm definitely a tough love kinda parent on this stuff and I'd probably put a baby gate or Door Monkey on his door and handle the screaming for a bit, but if you're not comfortable with this, I have also had friends have success with the "you can come in and sleep on this cot/sleeping bag but you cannot wake me up" solution others have posted. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-want-my-bed-back#post-2756631 Mon, 10 Jul 2017 10:36:04 +0000 bubblegum 2756631@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@littlebug: how cute is he!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-want-my-bed-back#post-2756618 Mon, 10 Jul 2017 10:08:22 +0000 bubblegum 2756618@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@looch: Fingers crossed I get an answer. Lately when I ask him something I get "because" as an answer lol. Yeah he has three lights he can control, two on his wall with a switch which his reach and another on his dresser also with a switch within his reach. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-want-my-bed-back#post-2756605 Mon, 10 Jul 2017 09:47:35 +0000 littlebug 2756605@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Our 4yo has a sleeping bag on the floor of our bedroom. He comes in, carrying his blanket and blankie, and lays himself down and goes right back to sleep. Most of the time, I don't even know he's there until I wake up. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-want-my-bed-back#post-2756598 Mon, 10 Jul 2017 09:40:39 +0000 looch 2756598@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bubblegum: I would ask him why he leaves his room at night, if there is something in his room that he is not sure about...leading questions, but without putting ideas in his head. For example, I wouldn't ask if there is something in his room that scares him, but I might ask if there is something in his bed that he is not sure about. Is there a light he can control on his own? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-want-my-bed-back#post-2756566 Mon, 10 Jul 2017 08:46:26 +0000 bubblegum 2756566@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@psw27: Thanks love!</p> <p>@looch: That's a great point. I honestly don't know what the issue is. DS has a language disorder and just recently we've been able get him to make requests, like I want juice please. But as far as expressing himself and his feels it's not as easy. At time he'll state that he's sad or hurt depending on the situation but I'm not sure how the convo would go if I asked why he wants to sleep with us. I don't think I'll get an actual answer but I for sure want to know what's going on and what I can do to help him transition smoothly into his room. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-want-my-bed-back#post-2756545 Mon, 10 Jul 2017 08:13:55 +0000 looch 2756545@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>What is the reason that he gives for coming in, is it that he is scared, doesn't like something in his room, etc? I think you can try all the things in the world, but if you don't know the root cause, you might be trying things that aren't addressing the real issue.</p> <p>For my son, the reason was he wanted to spend "time" with one of us. Both of us worked, and laying down together with us at night was his way of spending quality time with us. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-want-my-bed-back#post-2756542 Mon, 10 Jul 2017 08:09:04 +0000 psw27 2756542@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't have experience with this (knock on wood) but my friend did a cot on the floor of her room. She said he could only come in if he didn't wake her or DH up and he slept on the cot. It worked and eventually he stopped coming in. Good luck! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-want-my-bed-back#post-2756540 Mon, 10 Jul 2017 08:03:12 +0000 bubblegum 2756540@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Jass: @ScarletBegonia: @Revel: All pro sticker chart! I like it. He does enjoy getting stickers as a reward which we did with potty training. It didn't even dawn on me to try it for bedtime. I'm gonna give it a go. </p> <p>@charlotte: That's a great idea!! His bed doesn't fit in our room because it's huge but his toddler bed that I have in storage will. I might try that as well. I'm honestly willing to try anything at this point.</p> <p>Thanks ladies! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-want-my-bed-back#post-2756525 Mon, 10 Jul 2017 06:36:56 +0000 Revel 2756525@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We had success with our 3 and a half, almost 4 year old with a sticker reward chart. We provided small prizes along the way and a larger reward after one month. 3 months later and she had not been in our bed once. She does wake a few nights a week and we settle her back in bed, but I didn't want to go with shutting the door and the crying, so this has worked for us, i think this depends on your tolerance for still having to get up at night, lol. We talked a lot about it during the day and there has been little protest and few tears. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-want-my-bed-back#post-2756511 Mon, 10 Jul 2017 00:14:27 +0000 ScarletBegonia 2756511@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Have you tried a sticker chart with a pretty significant reward? My son didn't get sticker charts at all until about 3 months ago (right around when he turned 3) - now he LOVES them and we can literally use them for anything!</p> <p>I would talk a ton during the day about the sticker chart (this works really well for my son, we show it to him seriously 20 times a day and read through all the criteria/responsibilities together), go to a craft store and buy stickers the he loves (for us its dinosaurs, always dinosaurs) - maybe glow in the dark ones since its nighttime stuff? Talk with him a lot about what the reward will be - a special toy? Lunch with you &amp; your husband? A movie? A special treat food he doesn't usually get? Water park? Find his motivation and dangle it in front of him for all you're worth. </p> <p>Then I would start by giving him stickers for minor successes (maybe coming to your bed later than he normally would, lying down without crying, etc) with more minor rewards, and work your way up to a sticker for a whole night in his own bed, and when he has 5 he gets a reward, then 10, then 15. </p> <p>Not sure if these will be as addictive to your son but for us its been a miracle to deal with the threenager tendancies. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-want-my-bed-back#post-2756500 Sun, 09 Jul 2017 22:01:37 +0000 charlotte 2756500@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Agree with poster above method but also think it could work if you transitioned by setting up a floor bed in your room first? Maybe he can get used to being in the same room but not in your bed and then move into his big bed after he's feeling more comfortable not sleeping right next to you guys ? Just thought of this as my DS is on a floor mattress next to my guest bed at my parents this weekend! I CANNOT share a bed with him- he goes sideways and takes up 95% of the room! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-want-my-bed-back#post-2756497 Sun, 09 Jul 2017 21:10:56 +0000 Jass 2756497@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Talk to him during day what is going to happen at bedtime. How he needs to sleep in his bed, may be make him a visual chart or book with routine on it. Do your bedtime routine minus the tv/movies. Close the door with a childproof lock. He is going to CRY. But consistency is going to be ur friend. Stay strong.<br /> P.S. i like this website <a href="https://www.preciouslittlesleep.com" rel="nofollow">https://www.preciouslittlesleep.com</a>.<br /> And if you are against crying may be try some reward system. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-want-my-bed-back#post-2756495 Sun, 09 Jul 2017 20:53:21 +0000 bubblegum 2756495@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>And my husband! We moved into our new house in July 2016 and DS did great and stayed in sync with his sleep schedule. Which was, bath time, laid to sleep in his bed in his room with milk, and a favorite movie playing on his tv. This had been our routine since he was about 1 but always the same minus the movie before being 1. When we moved into our new house he was 2. He slept in his new room with no problem up until October. </p> <p>I felt as though when winter kicked in, he got scared. Maybe the storms and having lower windows than our old place played a part in it. Here we are 8 months into him sleeping with us and it's amazing how small a king size bed becomes when you have a 3 year old invader. </p> <p>So since October 2016 we have attempted many changes to transition him back into his room. All which have failed. Here's the list and hopefully you ladies can suggest a solution that is not on this list. </p> <p>We redid his room completely! Since we have a king size bed we thought maybe he wanted a bigger bed because he had a toddler bed. So we got him a new bedroom, with a full size bed. Tons of fun night lights and overall a great new room. So we tried the old routine. And nope! We tried sleeping in the room with him. Nope. We tried just staying in the room with him until he fell asleep. Nope. We tried music (classical which he enjoys) instead of movies. Nope. We tried allowing him to fall asleep with him and transfer him to his bed. He stills come back to our room and even when we take him back once he falls asleep he still comes back. We tried that for about a month. No change. He would still come back every time. We tried just sticking him in there while we sat outside the closed door. HELL NO. He would go ape shit, throw all types of shit, and then open the door anyway. Soothing bath. Nope. Calming massage. Nope. Story time. Nope. Sleeping in his bed in his room is an all around nope nope and nope! </p> <p>I'm sure I'm forgetting something we've tried but can't remember. I need my bed back. I need my husband back. We have an almost three month old DD and we barely come by us time as it is but laying in bed together was that time for us. </p> <p>HELP ME!!!!! </p> <p>Super long I'm sorry! Ignore any typos I'm writing this on my phone. Thanks ladies!! </p>