https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 11 Apr 2026 07:39:43 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-wish-more-people-felt-this-way/page/2#post-1249374 Thu, 28 Nov 2013 17:36:14 +0000 sorrycharlie 1249374@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@JoyfulKiwi: yes! I'm a "helicopter" parent because I'm an anxious person. That doesn't mean my LO gets whatever she wants, whenever she wants. We have lots of tantrums around here ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-wish-more-people-felt-this-way/page/2#post-1249366 Thu, 28 Nov 2013 17:22:38 +0000 Greentea 1249366@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@JoyfulKiwi: I am with you on that.<br /> Personally I find the mom blogger's post a bit insensitive, unintelligent and mildly offensive. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-wish-more-people-felt-this-way/page/2#post-1249365 Thu, 28 Nov 2013 17:19:55 +0000 Greentea 1249365@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@googly-eyes: I agree. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-wish-more-people-felt-this-way/page/2#post-1248429 Wed, 27 Nov 2013 21:16:53 +0000 JoyfulKiwi 1248429@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I get that she's trying to say some kids cry "bully" unnecessarily (I teach elementary and some kids can't handle when someone just doesn't prefer their company). However, her example is seriously lacking perspective. Kids these days use social media to torment each other and the victims who commit suicide (how she could even begin to victim-blame is beyond me!) have been dealing with far worse than names. </p> <p>It strikes me that she took some fairly common sense ideas and added controversial statements to make it seem "passionate". It's nothing new, sister, and I'm not even sure helicopter parenting is really running rampant as she suggests. I think kids' entitlement comes more from lazy/thoughtless parenting behaviors than hovering/center of my world parenting. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-wish-more-people-felt-this-way/page/2#post-1248408 Wed, 27 Nov 2013 21:02:23 +0000 Kimberlybee 1248408@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I get nostalgic time and time again thinking of my latchkey days growing up in the 80's &amp; 90's but those days are days long gone. But that era was far from perfect either. I dealt with racism, bullies, and spoiled rotten kids back then too. Change is inevitable with modern technology so we have to do the best we can to raise responsible citizens. We have to work with the resources we have as parents. </p> <p>I often say my baby is "the center of my universe" but that is just an expression. I am not going to spoil her rotten or coddle her. I will teach her that life isn't far, to be kind to others, power of hard work...etc. The author has some valid points but bullying is a serious issue. Kids can be so mean and cruel! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-wish-more-people-felt-this-way#post-1248258 Wed, 27 Nov 2013 20:06:12 +0000 Arden 1248258@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@googly-eyes: Preach it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-wish-more-people-felt-this-way#post-1248204 Wed, 27 Nov 2013 19:37:01 +0000 Fronkinzankinsbride 1248204@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@jedeve: Exactly.</p> <p>@googly-eyes: nail, meet head. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-wish-more-people-felt-this-way#post-1248179 Wed, 27 Nov 2013 19:26:38 +0000 MoonMoon 1248179@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@googly-eyes: ding ding! I agree with you! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-wish-more-people-felt-this-way#post-1248172 Wed, 27 Nov 2013 19:22:28 +0000 swedishfish 1248172@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sorrycharlie: very true! I was bullied myself and I teach upper elementary school. It's truly heartbreaking the way some children treat others. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-wish-more-people-felt-this-way#post-1248163 Wed, 27 Nov 2013 19:18:09 +0000 sorrycharlie 1248163@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@googly-eyes: haha! seriously. there's some new fad blog post all over facebook every other week. </p> <p>I'm not a huge fan of all her points. Esp the bullying..that hits very close to home and I just don't like it. Easy to say when you've never dealt with it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-wish-more-people-felt-this-way#post-1248161 Wed, 27 Nov 2013 19:18:07 +0000 mrs. bird 1248161@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@googly-eyes: right! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-wish-more-people-felt-this-way#post-1248116 Wed, 27 Nov 2013 19:03:27 +0000 Boheme 1248116@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@googly-eyes: ha! I love it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-wish-more-people-felt-this-way#post-1248067 Wed, 27 Nov 2013 18:24:57 +0000 birdofafeather 1248067@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: i agree. i'm not sure how being bullied relates to being able to take workplace constructive criticism. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-wish-more-people-felt-this-way#post-1248029 Wed, 27 Nov 2013 17:57:35 +0000 Lindsay05 1248029@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I love this! All of this! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-wish-more-people-felt-this-way#post-1248027 Wed, 27 Nov 2013 17:57:24 +0000 illumina 1248027@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@wheres_c: I forgot about that... The UK and US are pretty different. I did wonder why the blogger chose playing with guns as an example! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-wish-more-people-felt-this-way#post-1248000 Wed, 27 Nov 2013 17:31:23 +0000 swedishfish 1248000@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@googly-eyes: hahahaha, I agree!</p> <p>Today's bullying has risen to new levels with the advent of social media. It is literally out of control in some aspects. Access to technology + lack of self-control + immaturity is a bad thing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-wish-more-people-felt-this-way#post-1247986 Wed, 27 Nov 2013 17:24:13 +0000 wheres_c 1247986@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@illumina: we used to play like that too...but being a kid in the UK is far different than being in the US.<br /> In the UK growing up, we only ever saw guns in the movies, or rifles in the country.</p> <p>Here in the US, 35% of households have at least one real gun. Teaching kids here that guns can be used for play can be very dangerous.</p> <p>I'm not saying you're wrong! I'm just saying if we lived in the UK where there was little chance my child would ever access a real one, I would totally let them play cops and robbers and cowboys with guns like we used to.<br /> Here in the US, I just don't think its wise. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-wish-more-people-felt-this-way#post-1247912 Wed, 27 Nov 2013 16:20:54 +0000 googly-eyes 1247912@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think spoiled children are anything new. </p> <p>You know what part of modern parenting I don't like? Self important mommy bloggers who write "controversial" blog posts as though they're the first person to have thought about an issue and taken a side. Sorry if that makes me sound like a huge b. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-wish-more-people-felt-this-way#post-1247793 Wed, 27 Nov 2013 15:31:22 +0000 jedeve 1247793@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It makes me sad that if her sons ever DO bully someone, it sounds like she would excuse if and blame the kid for not being tough enough to take it. To me, that is coddling. You have to be willing to admit your kid can do wrong. That is the harder than letting your kid play on his own while you do dishes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-wish-more-people-felt-this-way#post-1247765 Wed, 27 Nov 2013 15:17:11 +0000 Crisark 1247765@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was expecting this really off the wall blog post when I opened that link. However, what I read wasn't so off the wall at all.<br /> I don't think she's wrong for how she believes and how she's raising her sons.<br /> I can't really say as far as the 'toy guns' thing because I have three girls and no boys so this isn't really an issue in my house. I have told all of girls at one time or another (not the baby but the older two) that we don't pretend to kill people or hurt people and things along those lines.<br /> I probably wouldn't be keen on toy gun play in my household.<br /> But, as far as the bullying and things along that line, I kinda get what she's saying.<br /> There is a line where teenage girls are going to be bitches (sorry if that bothers you) it's just life. I was 'bullied' in school. I didn't run to my mom or school and have someone suspended and all that exaggerated stuff. I'm not saying real bullying doesn't happen. Because it does and it's absolutely NOT acceptable. But, what I think she's trying to explain is that not everything that happens is bullying.<br /> Her other points on her children not being the center of her world and her not coddling isn't something I think is wrong either.<br /> I am more than a mother. I am a wife and a woman outside of those two titles. I would die for my children, but I will not drop everything every time my children think they need something. Having older LO's makes this easier to accept and to see her point of view I think.<br /> All that aside, I don't think it's a bad blog post and I agreed with way more than I disagreed with. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-wish-more-people-felt-this-way#post-1247763 Wed, 27 Nov 2013 15:16:28 +0000 illumina 1247763@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My friends and I used to love dressing up in "army" type clothes and hiding out in the bushes with play guns. We turned out ok! I wouldn't dream of not allowing my LO's to play with guns. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-wish-more-people-felt-this-way#post-1247744 Wed, 27 Nov 2013 15:02:55 +0000 loveisstrange 1247744@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm not going to get into the details of her post but I absolutely, 100% agree that the super attached, helicopter parenting thing is extremely prevalent in this generations of parents and I find it detrimental to the children and society as a whole. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-wish-more-people-felt-this-way#post-1247707 Wed, 27 Nov 2013 14:49:32 +0000 Fronkinzankinsbride 1247707@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have a feeling plenty of people feel the same way she does...as the only exemption to the huge generalizations of "parents these days." ;)</p> <p>I could stand behind "my kids are not the center of my world" if her argument was about her individual identity. But this had nothing to do with that. I found the whole thing disjointed and a bit off the mark. The solution to our societies response to violence is to ignore our children more? I can imagine what her response will be when her kids do get suspended for bullying other children. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-wish-more-people-felt-this-way#post-1247693 Wed, 27 Nov 2013 14:44:58 +0000 looch 1247693@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I generally refrain from reading those kinds of blog posts, they're usually true to a point but then they lose me on some broad comment and then I can't get to the end of the article.</p> <p>On the toy gun issue, kids will make anything a gun, a branch, a banana, their hands, so it isn't so critical to me to limit access to toy guns as much as it is to explain what happens when people use guns and to always get a trusted adult if they feel uncomfortable. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-wish-more-people-felt-this-way#post-1247608 Wed, 27 Nov 2013 14:13:59 +0000 Mae 1247608@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree with almost everything in the article. I think she paints with too wide a brush on bullying though. I do think that kids should be allowed to work things out amongst themselves if things are minor, and also that we should be teaching our kids to ignore assholes (sorry-- bullies.. whatever) rather than internalize their comments. But I do think that social media has taken bullying to a whole new level that can't be ignored. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-wish-more-people-felt-this-way#post-1247561 Wed, 27 Nov 2013 13:55:31 +0000 mrs. bird 1247561@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Beyond2: my brother &amp; i never pretended things were guns and that was before toy guns were shunned. i don't think it's inevitable that children will turn other things into toy guns. guns are for the purpose of causing death, why would that be something you'd want to play? i wouldn't give my kid a rope tied as a noose and say it's appropriate to pretend to hang people as an opportunity for them to practice killing bad guys or because i need to provide a toy one to teach them the dangers of hanging or strangulation (which may seem silly, but now they do have to teach kids about it because of the number of kids that die accidentally each year when intentional strangulation goes further than they anticipated). i find toy guns to be in very poor taste. perhaps if i lived somewhere that people went out and shot animals to feed their families i'd feel differently, but around me, cops and drug dealers have guns and maybe a few people that believe they can protect themselves from home invasions, but i've never seen any numbers that support that idea. i absolutely agree with you that teaching children about guns is important though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-wish-more-people-felt-this-way#post-1247560 Wed, 27 Nov 2013 13:55:19 +0000 mrsmate 1247560@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@pinkcupcake: I agree with you about the guns. DH is a hunter and has a license to carry a concealed weapon, so we are not anti-gun by any means. And we still think that pretend play with guns is not appropriate; in fact, it diminishes respect for guns. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-wish-more-people-felt-this-way#post-1247551 Wed, 27 Nov 2013 13:51:47 +0000 SugarplumsMom 1247551@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>She lost me at the bold text. I'm not pro-guns, my little girl's my world, and no that doesn't mean I coddle her. I couldn't finish reading the whole thing because I'm definitely not in the same camp. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-wish-more-people-felt-this-way#post-1247531 Wed, 27 Nov 2013 13:42:01 +0000 Freckles 1247531@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think all parents these days are helicopter parents whose lives revolve around their children. I also roll my eyes at those parents, at the participation ribbons, at the crazies who do everything for their kids. But she's a bit all over the place and i don't really find her blog post to state anything new.</p> <p>I was impressed that the boy knew there would be possible consequences by bringing a toy that may look like a gun. </p> <p>Her simplification and ignorance of bullying really annoyed me. It's actually the adults who like to overuse the word bully, and the things kids go through now (especially with social media) is scary. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-wish-more-people-felt-this-way#post-1247530 Wed, 27 Nov 2013 13:41:12 +0000 mrsjazz 1247530@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Coddling and doing everything for your children, I agree, I'm not into. But I basically disagree with almost every single example she used and I don't wish more people felt this way. </p>