https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 08 May 2026 11:32:15 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ideally-how-many-times-a-week-would-you-have-sex/page/2#post-258873 Tue, 14 Aug 2012 22:49:09 +0000 mrs. wagon 258873@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ideally?? Every night! During good spells when we're both in the mood every day, our life is sooo much better. Less fighting, more intimacy, etc. But obviously life and fluctuating sex drive (for me) gets in the way. I had zero during this past pregnancy (first pregnancy I had plenty!) so poor wagon sr has been super patient... I am 4 weeks postpartum but I am just not anywhere near feeling it yet :-( fingers crossed by 6 weeks I'll be ready! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ideally-how-many-times-a-week-would-you-have-sex/page/2#post-258872 Tue, 14 Aug 2012 22:48:34 +0000 Mrs. Sunglasses 258872@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsBrewer: honestly, i get pregnant just sneezing.... and we are done! (with our two) so after a whole year... whats another few weeks. ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ideally-how-many-times-a-week-would-you-have-sex#post-258871 Tue, 14 Aug 2012 22:47:13 +0000 MrsBrewer 258871@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Sunglasses: wow! Kudos to the both of you for being so strict! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ideally-how-many-times-a-week-would-you-have-sex#post-258868 Tue, 14 Aug 2012 22:43:51 +0000 Mrs. Sunglasses 258868@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsBrewer: Yup!!! no kidding. DH has this thing he can't have sex while i'm pregnant. Total blockage. And now, I'm almost 3 months PP. I'm ready, but he hates condoms, so he has to wait! (til i get my IUD) hehe, I'm not taking chances. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ideally-how-many-times-a-week-would-you-have-sex#post-258866 Tue, 14 Aug 2012 22:40:45 +0000 MrsBrewer 258866@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Sunglasses: oh my! A whole year? </p> <p>For me? 1-2x. DH? 7!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ideally-how-many-times-a-week-would-you-have-sex#post-258863 Tue, 14 Aug 2012 22:37:34 +0000 Mrs. Sunglasses 258863@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>oh my.... we have zero sex. I think I'd be okay with 1x a week. We haven't had sex in almost 1 year. Time to get my mirena in so we can start it up again. but clearly we aren't in the norm. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ideally-how-many-times-a-week-would-you-have-sex#post-258847 Tue, 14 Aug 2012 22:10:26 +0000 PrincessBaby 258847@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think either of us has lost the "drive" per se, but a blossoming belly just makes the idea of sex, well...not sexy and a little weird to both of us! We have both done our best to overcome this...Prepreg, we did it 4-6 times a week. But since the belly has really exploded, we're more at like 2-3x. And the belly gets in the way when we're both trying to "pretend" like it's not there and that we're having a hot time without a baby in between us....DH didn't want to do missionary at all because he didn't want to be on top of the baby, for weirdness and safety reasons. I told him it would be okay and just to shut up and do it (lol) and sure enough, with every movement, my belly hit against him and we both ended up busting out laughing - kind of a mood killer when your baby is thumping your torso, haha! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ideally-how-many-times-a-week-would-you-have-sex#post-258689 Tue, 14 Aug 2012 20:04:01 +0000 mrsjyw 258689@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>probably 3x? right now it's 1x a week :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ideally-how-many-times-a-week-would-you-have-sex#post-258492 Tue, 14 Aug 2012 15:35:11 +0000 LuLu Mom 258492@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Shimmer: Sadly I am one of those that has a version to sex, it just doesn't not appeal to me at all. I have lost all drive. I really hope it comes back, I miss that intimate time with my DH and I think we will both be less edgy! haha </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ideally-how-many-times-a-week-would-you-have-sex#post-258483 Tue, 14 Aug 2012 15:31:32 +0000 Running Elley 258483@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Pre-pregnancy it was 4-5 times a week, during TTC it was more, now we’re on a steady 1-2 times a week. I’m currently 31 weeks pregnant. We’ll see what it balances out to once the little guy is here! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ideally-how-many-times-a-week-would-you-have-sex#post-258420 Tue, 14 Aug 2012 14:50:52 +0000 BabyBoecksMom 258420@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Wow.... I guess I'm boring, but I'm ok w/ just once a week. That might be because LO is 6 months old and still waking up every 2 hours. (I'll choose sleep over sex any day) *sigh* </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ideally-how-many-times-a-week-would-you-have-sex#post-258340 Tue, 14 Aug 2012 14:05:57 +0000 Crisark 258340@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ours is currently 3 to 5 since we are BD'ing like crazy people. I would be happy with 2 and he would be happy with 7 lol </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ideally-how-many-times-a-week-would-you-have-sex#post-258333 Tue, 14 Aug 2012 14:01:11 +0000 Adira 258333@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My number would be 1-2, his would be 5-7! I tried to compromise pre-pregnancy and do 3, but now we're down to 1 and I don't even want to do that! haha </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ideally-how-many-times-a-week-would-you-have-sex#post-258283 Tue, 14 Aug 2012 13:38:34 +0000 DpeachLu 258283@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Pre pregnancy it was everyday<br /> During 2 times the entire pregnancy :-(</p> <p>Now Ideally<br /> me: 3-4 times a week<br /> dh: everyday<br /> reality: about 5 times a week. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ideally-how-many-times-a-week-would-you-have-sex#post-255841 Sat, 11 Aug 2012 21:38:09 +0000 Mrs. Superhero 255841@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>my sex drive is crap right now, I hate trading sex for sleep.</p> <p>So in my normal life 2-3 (which would make us both happy) but right now I will barely manage 1. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ideally-how-many-times-a-week-would-you-have-sex#post-255809 Sat, 11 Aug 2012 19:24:12 +0000 anonysquire 255809@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>For me 7-10 times a week wouldn't be enough. For dh 1 time a week is good. Ugh! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ideally-how-many-times-a-week-would-you-have-sex#post-255808 Sat, 11 Aug 2012 19:22:09 +0000 MaisyMay 255808@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Right now I am more than okay with once a week, but I know Hubs would prefer 3-4 times a week. He's been sweet about it. He did ask if we can make-out a few times a week though, as another way of being intimate. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ideally-how-many-times-a-week-would-you-have-sex#post-255785 Sat, 11 Aug 2012 18:10:43 +0000 Mrs.B 255785@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Before pregnancy 3-4 times a weeks was good and DH would have liked it everyday. Now that I'm pregnant my drive has dropped ALOT. During my 1st and 2nd tri I wanted it 1-2 times a week and DH wanted it 4-5 times. Now at 31 weeks pregnant the logistics of having sex with my rather larger belly has dropped DH's drive :( Mine has increased though and right now I wou,ld like it almost daily but DH has stopped trying and we are down to maybe once a week. At this point I think he feels weird because my belly actually gets in the way of most positions we used to do. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ideally-how-many-times-a-week-would-you-have-sex#post-255784 Sat, 11 Aug 2012 18:05:48 +0000 Rainbow Sprinkles 255784@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We do it pretty consistently at 3 times a week. However before I had the baby and all throughout pregnancy we were doing it every single day. For some reason since having DD my drive just isn't as insane. I am great with 3 or 4 times a week now (since 6 weeks pp). DH would probably do it 5 times a week or more like we used to...but I am just not up for that right now! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ideally-how-many-times-a-week-would-you-have-sex#post-255733 Sat, 11 Aug 2012 14:14:56 +0000 photojane 255733@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>luckily we have about the same libido, and we both prefer 2-3 times a week. unfortunately the past couple of months have not been very "active" since i've been so, so sick. poor hubby. :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ideally-how-many-times-a-week-would-you-have-sex#post-255730 Sat, 11 Aug 2012 14:08:11 +0000 filly 255730@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>for me 2x a week is good. DH would of course probably prefer it to be 4-5. since getting pregnant it was not happening 1st trimester as I was super sick and that was the last thing on our minds. second trimester hit and I was horny, it was about 3-4. well, we just learned my cervix is measuring short so the Dr said no sexual activity. At the moment its nothing :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ideally-how-many-times-a-week-would-you-have-sex#post-255722 Sat, 11 Aug 2012 13:41:40 +0000 Bookish 255722@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I actually have a higher sex drive than DH, so for me it's 5-7, for him probably 4-5.. usually 5 is our good balance, so it works! We had a rough patch where my libido dropped to ZERO on one brand of BC pills, I was so much happier when I switched off and got back to our normal! We are also TTC, so hellooo good excuse for knockin boots! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ideally-how-many-times-a-week-would-you-have-sex#post-255721 Sat, 11 Aug 2012 13:29:44 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 255721@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>3-4x a week is ideal for both of us. We don't usually do it that much though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ideally-how-many-times-a-week-would-you-have-sex#post-255718 Sat, 11 Aug 2012 13:17:58 +0000 stargal 255718@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i would say 1-2 times a week, we cant have sex yet bc im only 4 weeks pp but we both miss it a lot! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ideally-how-many-times-a-week-would-you-have-sex#post-255716 Sat, 11 Aug 2012 13:15:10 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 255716@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@HeatherlovesKenny: exaaaactly. If we have to talk ourselves into having the energy and then, its just mediocre, I'll get irritated. I'd rather not at all. Dh still would. He doesn't even care if i'm awake or not:) So not me... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ideally-how-many-times-a-week-would-you-have-sex#post-255712 Sat, 11 Aug 2012 12:53:31 +0000 HLK208 255712@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ideally, 4x a week. DH is more every day. I'd rather have quality over quantity so 1-2 times a week is how its been. I hate lazy sex, it has to be all or nothing haha. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ideally-how-many-times-a-week-would-you-have-sex#post-255711 Sat, 11 Aug 2012 12:50:16 +0000 chrispygal 255711@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ideally in a perfect world with little stress, plenty of sleep, and young libido's I think both DH and I would be 3-4x week. In real life I'd say 2-3x a week but the reality is about 1 a week - sometimes more, sometimes less. Many times we both acknowledge the desire but feel too lazy or tired to see it through. haha. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ideally-how-many-times-a-week-would-you-have-sex#post-255706 Sat, 11 Aug 2012 12:42:15 +0000 doodlepoodle 255706@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Woah. Y'all are showing me up BIG time...lol! Even before we had J I was a once a week kind of gal...now? Once a month....? :/ Maybe I need to figure something out to up my drive. He'd like it 3-4x/week...HA that doesn't happen. Poor fella. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ideally-how-many-times-a-week-would-you-have-sex#post-255703 Sat, 11 Aug 2012 12:41:19 +0000 loveisstrange 255703@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had ZERO sex drive while pregnant and DH did not want to have sex with a pregnant lady... so yeah. lol</p> <p>My ideal number would be 2-4. Right now, it's like 0. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ideally-how-many-times-a-week-would-you-have-sex#post-255695 Sat, 11 Aug 2012 12:31:36 +0000 Shimmer 255695@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrs. bird: You're not lame - it's what works for you! Wish you could see each other more! </p>