https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 07 May 2026 10:58:02 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-awareness-how-much-have-you-spent-so-far-on-trying-to-get-pregnant/page/4#post-1963684 Sat, 29 Nov 2014 09:15:21 +0000 BSB 1963684@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Updating my numbers. After my 6 IUIs, I spent $10k out of pocket. Now in the middle of my IVF cycle, I'm at $28k, total. The IVF single plan was $15k plus $3k meds. (BTW, call WinFertility for a quote for meds. Cheaper than any other pharmacies I called.)</p> <p>Ugh! Make me sad I spent a car or college education and I'm not even pregnant yet. Oh, do I wish people who don't even have to think about getting pregnant realize how lucky they are.</p> <p>I know it will be worth it when I do have a child in my arms but I don't think I'll ever get over the money I spent. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-awareness-how-much-have-you-spent-so-far-on-trying-to-get-pregnant/page/4#post-1775915 Wed, 23 Jul 2014 12:09:59 +0000 Jenn23 1775915@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've now doubled my costs since this post was written. Now we are paying another $15,000 or so this week for IVF #2. So darn expensive and wish all states would cover IVF already! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-awareness-how-much-have-you-spent-so-far-on-trying-to-get-pregnant/page/4#post-1774281 Tue, 22 Jul 2014 13:08:18 +0000 GreenThumb 1774281@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Shutterbug: That is interesting about the loophole in MA for companies that are out of state. I was wondering about that because we are moving to MA but my husband's insurance policy specifically says that we do not have IF coverage (other than diagnosis). That must be why... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-awareness-how-much-have-you-spent-so-far-on-trying-to-get-pregnant/page/4#post-1774227 Tue, 22 Jul 2014 12:43:33 +0000 PurplePumps 1774227@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bluestriped bee: @ShootingStar: Yup, I'm in MA. But that is all I get. Apparently there are people in states with mandated IF coverage like MA, that don't even have coverage according to my doctor. I'm not sure how that is possible though, but that is what she told us yesterday. </p> <p>I am on my husband's insurance now, so we if comes down to another round, I will get on my own plan next year, which should give me coverage for another round. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-awareness-how-much-have-you-spent-so-far-on-trying-to-get-pregnant/page/4#post-1774175 Tue, 22 Jul 2014 12:25:09 +0000 Shutterbug 1774175@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ShootingStar: you're right, I didn't have trouble getting coverage. I know that there are loopholes, like if the company is based out of state, for example. I have BCBS, which (as PurplePumps said) covers 6 cycles of IVF. My job is sort of sucking lately (overworked and underpaid) but I will not leave because of the great IF insurance. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-awareness-how-much-have-you-spent-so-far-on-trying-to-get-pregnant/page/4#post-1774067 Tue, 22 Jul 2014 11:31:32 +0000 ShootingStar 1774067@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@spaniellove: I didn't have a problem getting coverage, I don't think @Shutterbug: did either (but I could be wrong). But that really sucks about the loopholes :(. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-awareness-how-much-have-you-spent-so-far-on-trying-to-get-pregnant/page/3#post-1774062 Tue, 22 Jul 2014 11:27:11 +0000 spaniellove 1774062@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ShootingStar: Don't know if it's this way in MA but in the mandate states there are loopholes in the coverage! I'm in NJ but don't get coverage through the mandate and a lot of people don't. :sad: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-awareness-how-much-have-you-spent-so-far-on-trying-to-get-pregnant/page/3#post-1774060 Tue, 22 Jul 2014 11:26:48 +0000 BSB 1774060@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: Thanks!! :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-awareness-how-much-have-you-spent-so-far-on-trying-to-get-pregnant/page/3#post-1774056 Tue, 22 Jul 2014 11:25:52 +0000 Adira 1774056@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bluestriped bee: Oh, I see! In that case, I hope the 3rd time (with knowledge and meds) is the charm! Still - it sucks you underwent those first three IUIs where your diagnosis was unexplained, so their chance of working was already probably less than it could have been. Really hoping this pans out for you, especially given how long you've been trying at it AND the cost of IVF! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-awareness-how-much-have-you-spent-so-far-on-trying-to-get-pregnant/page/3#post-1774045 Tue, 22 Jul 2014 11:21:44 +0000 BSB 1774045@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: While I do count this as IUI #6, I really think of this as IUI #3 because these 3 IUIs were under a diagnosis and meds. The first 3 IUIs were at another clinic and had me at unexplained. So the last two wasn't too bad. This last one though has really got me remembering that this is my 6th one. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-awareness-how-much-have-you-spent-so-far-on-trying-to-get-pregnant/page/3#post-1774038 Tue, 22 Jul 2014 11:19:20 +0000 Adira 1774038@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bluestriped bee: Ugh, that just sucks you've already done so many unsuccessful IUIs! Fingers crossed that 6th time in the one that works! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-awareness-how-much-have-you-spent-so-far-on-trying-to-get-pregnant/page/3#post-1774033 Tue, 22 Jul 2014 11:15:39 +0000 BSB 1774033@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: Yup, this next IUI is #6 and is the last and final IUI. </p> <p>@ShootingStar: Definitely! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-awareness-how-much-have-you-spent-so-far-on-trying-to-get-pregnant/page/3#post-1774023 Tue, 22 Jul 2014 11:10:38 +0000 ShootingStar 1774023@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bluestriped bee: Let me know when you come to this area! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-awareness-how-much-have-you-spent-so-far-on-trying-to-get-pregnant/page/3#post-1774021 Tue, 22 Jul 2014 11:09:51 +0000 Adira 1774021@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bluestriped bee: Yeah, I can't even imagine how difficult this whole process has been for you. It must be hard to try to stay positive after so many failures. :( Is this IUI #6? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-awareness-how-much-have-you-spent-so-far-on-trying-to-get-pregnant/page/3#post-1774012 Tue, 22 Jul 2014 11:02:48 +0000 BSB 1774012@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: Thank you. I'm hoping my IUI works but knowing my luck, it won't. Trying to think positive, but not too positive to get my hopes up when it doesn't. </p> <p>@ShootingStar: My former boss is now in MA and I was job hunting in MA and other areas about 6 months ago. But I decided that I'm going to get pregnant this year then job hunt &amp; move back east. Maybe I can use MA's IF coverage for baby #2!! FX </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-awareness-how-much-have-you-spent-so-far-on-trying-to-get-pregnant/page/3#post-1773984 Tue, 22 Jul 2014 10:48:40 +0000 ShootingStar 1773984@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bluestriped bee: Move here to MA. It's required by law to have IF coverage included in insurance plans. </p> <p>@PurplePumps: Aren't you in MA? You should have better coverage than that for IF treatment. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-awareness-how-much-have-you-spent-so-far-on-trying-to-get-pregnant/page/3#post-1773956 Tue, 22 Jul 2014 10:38:15 +0000 Adira 1773956@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bluestriped bee: It sucks that it costs so much for some people to get pregnant. I really hope this IUI is successful for you and you don't have to move on to IVF! My fingers are crossed for you! &lt;3 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-awareness-how-much-have-you-spent-so-far-on-trying-to-get-pregnant/page/3#post-1773940 Tue, 22 Jul 2014 10:34:12 +0000 BSB 1773940@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@PurplePumps: Oh, wow. Which part of the country do you live in? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-awareness-how-much-have-you-spent-so-far-on-trying-to-get-pregnant/page/3#post-1773931 Tue, 22 Jul 2014 10:32:16 +0000 PurplePumps 1773931@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bluestriped bee: Yikes, those are both scary numbers. I really hope your iui works!</p> <p>We just had the IVF consent meeting yesterday. We found out that the clinic charges 5-6k per round and it's about 2k in meds, they advertise a complete package for around 8k. I also found out that the insurance my company USED to carry, BCBS, covered up to 6 rounds of IVF. I'm so mad they switched to United now. United has a 7500 medical lifetime cap and 7500 meds cap. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-awareness-how-much-have-you-spent-so-far-on-trying-to-get-pregnant/page/3#post-1773887 Tue, 22 Jul 2014 10:20:49 +0000 BSB 1773887@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Since writing this post, I've added about $2k to my total (cryopreservation costs, lab tests, meds and acupuncture). If this last IUI is unsuccessful, I'll be moving on to the IVF plan. So the one IVF plan costing $16K + meds or the guaranteed IVF plan costing $28K + meds. My wallet is trembling now. :/ </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-awareness-how-much-have-you-spent-so-far-on-trying-to-get-pregnant/page/3#post-1607831 Fri, 02 May 2014 08:28:21 +0000 ChiCalGoBee 1607831@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bluestriped bee: Thinking of you, and sending you love and light :heart: . </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-awareness-how-much-have-you-spent-so-far-on-trying-to-get-pregnant/page/3#post-1602159 Wed, 30 Apr 2014 12:09:01 +0000 Jenn23 1602159@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Happygal: I love being there, too. But really, as I said before, I don't want to upset anybody by being there. I'll still read all of your updates as always and chime in perhaps here and there. :) And I'll be around on all of the other infertility boards as always. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-awareness-how-much-have-you-spent-so-far-on-trying-to-get-pregnant/page/3#post-1599905 Tue, 29 Apr 2014 14:23:58 +0000 BSB 1599905@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Happygal: You're talking about IFers or non-IFers who are pregnant? Or are you talking about anyone who is pregnant regardless of if they have or had IF? Just curious. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-awareness-how-much-have-you-spent-so-far-on-trying-to-get-pregnant/page/3#post-1599859 Tue, 29 Apr 2014 14:12:12 +0000 Happygal 1599859@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Jenn23: I like having you there! Please don't go away!</p> <p>Edited to avoid confusion. :happy: </p> <p>@bluestriped bee: really, I like when the IF grads answer questions or offer support. When a pregnant bee shares their updates on the IF thread, sometimes I feel like I don't have much to say b/c I haven't experienced pregnancy (yet!). But you'll see me often ask IF grads how their pregnancy is going b/c I really am happy for them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-awareness-how-much-have-you-spent-so-far-on-trying-to-get-pregnant/page/3#post-1599704 Tue, 29 Apr 2014 13:30:26 +0000 Jenn23 1599704@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bluestriped bee: Thanks, and I know you are OK with it, but if even one woman is upset by my posting there, then I just don't feel right about it now. :( I know back in my Weddingbee days in the infertility group I belonged to, we had a few women that already had a child and were trying to have another and I didn't mind them being there most of the time at all, but there were some times where I did feel jealousy that they already had a kid (at that point, I just didn't think I'd ever have a baby) so now looking back in hindsight, I feel like I shouldn't be a part of the weekly thread. I'll still post on the other infertility threads, though. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-awareness-how-much-have-you-spent-so-far-on-trying-to-get-pregnant/page/3#post-1599588 Tue, 29 Apr 2014 13:00:59 +0000 BSB 1599588@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Jenn23: I don't feel upset at all when I see previous users with IF posting on the IF boards. Please don't feel that way. I think once you have IF, you always have IF. The thought of what ifs will probably always be in my head. (Even if I magically conceive naturally for the 2nd child, I will still have doubts of miscarriage or anything.) I know you conceived your LO through IVF and have never felt like you don't belong. I don't want you to leave our weekly group or feel like you don't belong on the IF boards. Please stay!</p> <p>My intention of this thread was not to divide IF graduates and current IFers. Actually, I don't want to divide non-IFers, either. </p> <p>There was another thread created about not feeling liked you belong in a certain group but I think you can post wherever you feel like posting. For me, I sometimes don't even feel like I belong in the 6 month plus threads because how I felt at 6 months of TTC was way different when I reached 12 months of TTC. I'm sure once I hit 24 months of TTC in 3 months, I'll feel even more isolate. I read this on another IF FB board that I'm involved in and I'm sure people who have been TTC for more than 3, 5 or 7 years, feel like they are in a different spot than 'younger' IFers. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-awareness-how-much-have-you-spent-so-far-on-trying-to-get-pregnant/page/3#post-1599498 Tue, 29 Apr 2014 12:33:10 +0000 Jenn23 1599498@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@swedishfish: I'm so glad you started that new thread for TTC #2 for those with infertility.</p> <p>I feel horrible now after reading these comments about posting in the weekly IF threads since I already have a son from IVF. I had considered that it may upset people but thought if I didn't mention it at all (I never mention my son on the infertility boards unless somebody specifically asks something about him) that it would be OK. But I will stop posting there and just post on SwedishFish's thread because I don't want anyone at all to feel upset with my posting there. I don't want it to be any harder for anyone that is trying so hard to have a baby.</p> <p>Nice to see those outside the world of infertility supporting women here. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-awareness-how-much-have-you-spent-so-far-on-trying-to-get-pregnant/page/3#post-1598387 Tue, 29 Apr 2014 02:55:11 +0000 BSB 1598387@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@dc yoga bee: @Mrs. High Heels: Aww, thank you ladies!! From the bottom of my :heart: , I'm so touched! Thank you!! Beautiful words!! Just what I needed to hear!! I love the HB community! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-awareness-how-much-have-you-spent-so-far-on-trying-to-get-pregnant/page/3#post-1598351 Mon, 28 Apr 2014 23:29:49 +0000 tequiero21 1598351@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@meganmp: I'm with u. I haven't hidden anything, but I don't find it offensive that other people hide what they don't want to see. Just like people w if could hide pregnancies n due dates. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-awareness-how-much-have-you-spent-so-far-on-trying-to-get-pregnant/page/3#post-1598319 Mon, 28 Apr 2014 22:12:10 +0000 Mrs Green Grass 1598319@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@meganmp: I agree. There wasn't a large IF community here at they beginning so I rarely came on. And I definitely was not reading pregnancy stories or following baby boards! I totally understand both sides, but I think we come to the internet for what we are needing...so I find hiding unrelatable boards natural and not offensive. </p> <p>It is VERY hard to be on a baby forum while dealing with IF. And I think it's awesome that such a good community has developed on here and also hope there are many more graduates soon! </p>