https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 29 Apr 2026 20:40:48 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-check-in-911/page/2#post-1867177 Wed, 17 Sep 2014 21:28:02 +0000 FliegepilzHut 1867177@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@alohaorchid: Definitely! I'm ready. :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-check-in-911/page/2#post-1866079 Wed, 17 Sep 2014 12:18:11 +0000 LindsayInNY 1866079@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@alohaorchid: Thanks for sharing your background story!!! Talk about a nut job... Yikes! I can see how your husband would be affected now though. &lt;3 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-check-in-911/page/2#post-1865788 Wed, 17 Sep 2014 10:12:59 +0000 alohaorchid 1865788@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@FliegepilzHut: You weren't at all so no worries, everything is good :happy: It does sound like we're very similar, that's probably why I have always been drawn to your posts. I really hope that we don't have much longer to wait, I think we have both waited long enough! :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-check-in-911/page/2#post-1865344 Tue, 16 Sep 2014 21:48:35 +0000 FliegepilzHut 1865344@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Leialou: Mine are totally different! Left is great (large, straight, easily visible) and the right ones are all smaller, diagonal, and screwy! :silly: Having said that...I'm a little worried about developing lab-draw track marks. :meh: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-check-in-911/page/2#post-1865342 Tue, 16 Sep 2014 21:45:17 +0000 FliegepilzHut 1865342@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@alohaorchid: I knew part of your story...but thank you for sharing how positively traumatic your DH's previous circumstances must have been. I feel like I understand where you're coming from a lot better now. I think I see myself in you...same age (I think), started TTC around the same time, 1 prior loss for both of us (until recently)...and it just seems like success may be so close for you! :heart: Of course, none of us really knows...and there are definitely no guarantees...so we all just have to "know ourselves" enough to make the decisions and take the risks that we feel comfortable with. Sending lots of love and a hug to you and your DH!!! Again, thank you for sharing...and I'm sincerely sorry if I've come across as crass or insensitive. :heart: :goodluck: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-check-in-911/page/2#post-1864736 Tue, 16 Sep 2014 14:17:49 +0000 sweetooth 1864736@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Leialou: Not irrational at all! I feel a little bit like my right arm is my lucky arm and I know what to expect too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-check-in-911/page/2#post-1864726 Tue, 16 Sep 2014 14:10:34 +0000 alohaorchid 1864726@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sweetooth: thank you :heart: I definitely think an RE is the way to go and I think now is the time... I'm in my 30's and I want to at least give things a shot while I'm still young enough. Or, at least find out if everything is ok with me. Maybe I don't have good enough eggs to sustain a pregnancy?! Who knows! But I do think I need to know and do all I can before I give up. </p> <p>It makes me upset just thinking about what he went through and to think that all of it took place over less than 2 yeas is insane to me! But he's no longer in that situation and that's what matters now. I definitely see how it has scarred him though and I understand why I sometimes am living in the shadows of his past. For the record, she has since remarried and I hope she is able to have the baby she has so badly wanted for so long. </p> <p>I'm actually excited to move forward and hopefully get some answers and make a decision! </p> <p>@PurplePumps: I agree completely. When my husband and I have talked about it he said she became a totally different person and was completely uncontrollable. I guess we never know how much something can affect a person. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-check-in-911/page/2#post-1864710 Tue, 16 Sep 2014 14:02:07 +0000 sweetooth 1864710@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@alohaorchid: Thank you for sharing your story again. Here I am suggesting TI and you are well aware of all of the options. I'm amazed your husband survived his ex. That's quite a relationship to be a part of. </p> <p>As far as the feeling of <i>"maybe if I had seen an RE sooner"</i> I think we all feel that way when there are ??? instead of BFPs. The good thing is that you know you don't want to throw in the towel, and you want to work towards some answers. I still say that an RE is going to be the best place for you to get those answers. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-check-in-911/page/2#post-1864235 Tue, 16 Sep 2014 10:02:01 +0000 PurplePumps 1864235@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@alohaorchid: Holy cow, your DH's ex sounds like a real gem. I understand the frustrations of TTC, but honestly, she just doesn't sound mentally stable and would wonder how she would react if she had a kid that didn't conform to her perfect kid image. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-check-in-911/page/2#post-1864165 Tue, 16 Sep 2014 09:24:06 +0000 alohaorchid 1864165@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@fliegepizhut: I’m sorry for your m/c’s…. it’s such a horrible, unfair thing to go through and I really, really hope that you don’t have to wait much longer. You didn’t say the wrong thing at all, everything is good! I think it’s just an overly sensitive subject! :crying: Our Plan B is childfree, I feel somewhat ok with that… before I met my husband I always thought I would be CF and I know we will have a great life with or without kids. But, I just don’t feel like I’m ready to give up on not having them yet. We have always been on the same page of only wanting one child so I feel like somehow we can make that happen. </p> <p>@sweetooth: thank you. I’m trying so hard not to blame myself but it’s difficult. I keep thinking that there should have been more I could have done… maybe if I had seen an RE sooner to figure out my issues then maybe. But I know you’re right, and I know I will stop blaming myself eventually. I’m going to ask my doctor for a referral to an RE. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-check-in-911/page/2#post-1864147 Tue, 16 Sep 2014 09:19:00 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 1864147@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sweetooth: I always use my right arm. I have this weird hang up about using my left now. I think it's because I know what to expect with the right arm. Maybe the veins in my left are different?! Totally irrational. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-check-in-911/page/2#post-1864141 Tue, 16 Sep 2014 09:17:01 +0000 alohaorchid 1864141@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think most of the people who know my story are now pregnant and no longer in here, so I thought it might be helpful to let you guys know why things are so weird for me.</p> <p>My husband was previously married to someone who desperately wanted kids, he whole identity was created around becoming a mother… after a while of trying they found out that they are dealing with MFI. Before they started any treatment they were doing TI, and she would scream and throw things if for whatever reason they didn’t end up BD. </p> <p>She had a strict set of rules that he had to follow at all times… no drinking (not even one once in a while), no being around people who smoke, no spending time with friends (in case they ended up doing something that would hurt his fertility), she had to approve everything he wore to make sure it “let him breathe”, their entire house was completely renovated (and it was brand new!) to be “fertility friendly”, they weren’t allowed to use deodorant or shaving cream, he wasn’t allowed to play sports (he loves sports!). Their life was all about TTC and was very regimented. She spent $500/month on vitamins. She would lock him out of the house and send him texts saying how much she hates him if he didn’t come home from work during the day when she was ovulating. She was seriously depressed and would threaten to kill herself if she didn’t pregnant soon or if they split up.</p> <p>They did 4 rounds of clomid, 4 rounds of IUI, an additional 4 rounds of IUI with injectables and then finally, a round of IVF, all with no success. He decided that it had gotten to be too much all at once and wanted a break, he wanted 3 months where they didn’t stress about TTC. When he said this to her, she threw her wedding rings out, and started yelling at him, throwing things telling him that she hates him and will never forgive him for ruining her life. Their marriage lasted two years.</p> <p>So needless to say, he hasn’t had the best experience with IF and he is extremely cautious of venturing into that world again. He was open with me since the beginning of the relationship about his MFI and experiences with IF, and since I was on the fence about kids for years, I knew that we would make it work no matter what. </p> <p>In the 3 years we have been TTC/NTNP, we have done about 2 years of actual TTC with TI, temping, charting, etc and the rest has been NTNP. I went to my doctor for some fertility tests and I have ovarian cysts and “possible” lean PCOS. I have had a couple of monitored cycles, which confirm that I ovulate but I don’t know anything past that. I don’t know why my mc or cp happened. </p> <p>I feel like even though we’re not planning on extensive treatments, I’m not ready to throw in the towel just yet. My husband is great with kids, he loves them and I know how much he wants one of his own, and the cp has definitely kicked that feeling into high gear for me. So, here we are! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-check-in-911/page/2#post-1864043 Tue, 16 Sep 2014 08:34:25 +0000 sweetooth 1864043@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Shutterbug: That's what I feel like is happening - I feel like I can see all three pokes on my right arm. I usually have the best luck on my right arm and it's like autopilot when I go in, I just plop down my right arm. I hope I'm done after these two remaining draws this week.</p> <p>@PurplePumps: There was one guy I used to have often and I wanted to HUG him after the bloodwork. I hardly felt a thing, he was so good - man I miss him now. I actually do thank them if I feel they did a good job. I don't know how I'd keep my cool if it took them three tries. Thanks for the tip about the needle - I'll ask tomorrow. I usually guzzle 2-3 large bottles of water in the AM before my appointment. I thought I had emptied my bladder enough yesterday but it's always so awkward when you go in for the ultrasound and the tech can comment on how full your bladder is. // That's interesting about superstitions. I hope she does come and visit you at your place the next time she visits. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-check-in-911#post-1864021 Tue, 16 Sep 2014 08:23:14 +0000 PurplePumps 1864021@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sweetooth: Thanks, I did see her but didn't bring it up why she didn't want to come over, my mom didn't push it either so she must have her (i think good) reasons. I think it has to do with superstitions since she mentioned my cousin wanting her to come see her new place and she said not for another month. (Its been a month since my grandfathers funeral and Asian are super superstitious).</p> <p>I do try to switch arms everytime, but the last few times my veins on the right were easier, and I think they're numb now from all the poking so I keep using that one. As long as it's a different spot it should be ok. I'd switch it up if the right is starting to hurt. And ask them if they are using the smallest needle they have, it made a huge difference for me. And drink lots and lots of water before the blood draw, supposedly that's supposed to help make the veins bigger and easier to find. The blood work is the worstttt... i've dreaded it ever since this one nurse took like 3 tries to get it, god I wanted to punch her. :-\ </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-check-in-911#post-1863968 Tue, 16 Sep 2014 07:58:24 +0000 Shutterbug 1863968@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sweetooth: I have crappy veins, so I would offer up both arms every time and say 'take your time and pick whichever one looks best, because I don't wanna be stuck twice!' I had one (IVF) cycle where the phlebotomist kept using the same vein and making holes in a line (seriously, I could see them all!) If you're getting bruised I'd probably offer up the other arm to give your bruised arm a break. Hope you're almost done! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-check-in-911#post-1863943 Tue, 16 Sep 2014 07:24:23 +0000 sweetooth 1863943@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have a question for those of you that have had 5 or more monitoring appointments during a medicated cycle. Do you switch arms every time you get your blood drawn? I never did before, but my right arm is really achy and bruised and I'm kind of dreading going back in for more tomorrow. I'm also anticipating one more draw after tomorrow. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-check-in-911#post-1863940 Tue, 16 Sep 2014 07:21:49 +0000 sweetooth 1863940@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@PurplePumps: I hope your visit with your grandma was good and that you were able to talk with her. I hope you don't mind if I cross post, but I saw your news over on the IVF thread, and your current decision that you have to make. I know it's hard to wait, and I know that the age thing is a part of the decision process. I will say this, taking a break right now with the changing seasons, and the holidays, could be a really positive thing. The mental aspect of all of this is such a big part of the process. And giving yourself some time and space to go for it again, with a reset insurance max, might be just what your body needs. I also hear you though, it's so hard to wait and tempting to just jump back in, if your doctor says you can. <i>(I'm not really helping here, am I? :) )</i></p> <p>@FliegepilzHut: Thank you for the good thoughts :)</p> <p>@alohaorchid: It's so hard to work through the pain of a loss, and the reality of how long it can take some of us to get pregnant. Please don't blame yourself for your loss. :heart: I do think an RE would be your best bet to get a full round of testing to get some answers and see what's going on in your body. I'm sure you will have to discuss possible treatment, but they would never force you to do that if you aren't interested. There's always the TI (timed intercourse) method too. It's not IVF or IUI, but it does involve monitoring and meds.</p> <p>@AmeliaBedilia: I hope you had a great time at the wedding and that you didn't ask your husband for the details! :) Also, OPKs at work would stress me out too. I'd stick to temping if you want that knowledge of your cycle. Ultimately, I had to stop doing all of that because it was making me crazy! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-check-in-911#post-1863620 Mon, 15 Sep 2014 18:36:41 +0000 FliegepilzHut 1863620@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@alohaorchid: No worries! I was just clarifying (I've actually never had a CP...just 2 m/c. :sad: ) I'm sorry if construing your CP as a hopeful thing was exactly the wrong thing to say under the circumstances. I think you should absolutely go get a work-up, if you think it would help (to have an idea of what the odds are, get to the bottom of the problem, etc). I would let your doctor know up-front what you'd like to know...and let them know that you want to hear all of your options, but may want to start significantly short of certain interventions. Hopefully they will be very understanding! :heart: Is your DH strongly opposed to treatment? You don't have to answer (DH and I have been talking a lot about this recently)...but have you decided on Plan B (adoption, child-free, whatever)? Again, you by no means have to answer that. I'm glad your DH is so sweet and supportive. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-check-in-911#post-1863506 Mon, 15 Sep 2014 16:43:43 +0000 alohaorchid 1863506@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LindsayInNY: Good to know! I'll ask my doctor for a referral. I'm nervous... we only have one RE clinic here and it doesn't have the best reputation :bummed: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-check-in-911#post-1863453 Mon, 15 Sep 2014 15:54:37 +0000 LindsayInNY 1863453@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@alohaorchid: ((hugs)) I think a RE/fertility clinic could definitely help you with the testing. I don't think their entire purpose is IF treatment. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-check-in-911#post-1863306 Mon, 15 Sep 2014 14:32:07 +0000 alohaorchid 1863306@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@FliegepilzHut: I'm sorry, I knew it was recent but I didn't realize it was that recent. Sorry if I came off as insensitive :heart: </p> <p>@AmeliaBedilia: thank you! </p> <p>@babycanuck: I hope things go back to normal soon!</p> <p>So I had a major meltdown Saturday night. Something that came up that made me think of what should have been the due date... I ended up crying alone at home (husband was out of town). He called me because he sensed something through text and was extremely supportive and calmed me down enough to enjoy the rest of the weekend.</p> <p>Question - we most likely will not do IVF or IUI, definitely not in the near future, but I do want to get some full fertility tests done. I want to know the extent of what we're dealing with. How do I go about this? My family doctor has been great, but only up to a point. I have a long luteal phase and I would like that to be looked into, but my doctor doesn't seem interested in going past the basic first steps. Would a fertility clinic still be able to help even if we won't be doing treatments with them? Or is there someone else I should see? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-check-in-911#post-1860954 Fri, 12 Sep 2014 20:17:49 +0000 babycanuck 1860954@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@alohaorchid: Definitely stress this cycle </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-check-in-911#post-1860774 Fri, 12 Sep 2014 15:52:14 +0000 AmeliaBedilia 1860774@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@alohaorchid: Nothing you could have done! Sending hugs and prayers. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-check-in-911#post-1860744 Fri, 12 Sep 2014 15:28:34 +0000 FliegepilzHut 1860744@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@alohaorchid: Actually this is still just the tail end of my #%!^ m/c. :meh: I'm sorry for your losses. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-check-in-911#post-1860635 Fri, 12 Sep 2014 14:42:29 +0000 alohaorchid 1860635@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@PurplePumps: I'm sorry about your grandmother. I know how that can feel, last time my Grandma was visiting (from another country), I invited her over and she said she didn't need to see my place. It was new at the time and I felt pretty bummed that she had no interest. Good luck on the transfer, I hope you get your date soon! :goodluck: </p> <p>@Sprite: Sorry that you're here (although you're always welcome! :) ) and so sorry about the cp. What is ademomyosis?</p> <p> @bluestriped bee: ooh vacation! Where are you going? I'm so excited and hopeful for you with the move to IVF and I hope things go by quickly and smoothly! :heart: </p> <p>@Leialou: That's great news that one of your background checks came back so quickly! I hope the rest of it goes by just as fast. I loved reading your blog and I can't wait for updates :)</p> <p>@FliegepilzHut: As much as my heart hurts for you for your cp, I'm so happy to hear that everything was normal. That's such a great sign for the future and I can't wait to hear the great news from your FET! :heart:</p> <p>@babycanuck: that's so strange! Maybe it's just one of those weird random cycles?! I hope that the spotting stops soon for you though... has there been any major changes in your life this cycle? Diet, exercise, stress?</p> <p>@LindsayInNY: I have everything crossed for you for Tuesday! :goodluck: </p> <p>@sweetooth: I hear you on the chef thing, it would be so nice to not have to decide what to eat every day. I'm having a similar day to you... I have no concentration or motivation today at all </p> <p>@AmeliaBedilia: I would probably ask, but I'm super nosy and things like that eat away at me </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-check-in-911#post-1860615 Fri, 12 Sep 2014 14:32:53 +0000 alohaorchid 1860615@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@FliegepilzHut: Thank you for that. I think what I'm struggling with the most is my m/c was 3 years ago (almost at the same time as the cp) and we have been TTC/NTNP ever since. It felt pretty heartbreaking to finally have it happen for us and then for it to be taken away so quickly. But you're right, it is definitely a good thing that I got pregnant, especially considering that we also have MFI and that proved that his part worked :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-check-in-911#post-1860494 Fri, 12 Sep 2014 13:35:30 +0000 FliegepilzHut 1860494@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@alohaorchid: You can take this or leave it...but there is ABSOLUTELY nothing you could have done to prevent your CP (shy of more aggressively preventing pregnancy I guess)! I still think it's a good thing...you *can* get pregnant. It just may take more time (and more work) to get there. I know it's rough... Wishing you healing! :heart: :goodluck: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-check-in-911#post-1860405 Fri, 12 Sep 2014 12:41:46 +0000 alohaorchid 1860405@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I just counted out of curiosity and we're now on cycle 35.... that is such a depressing thought!</p> <p>No update from me, as usual. I have been dealing with some pretty bad pains this week, which I think are related to the cysts I have. I called my doctor this morning to make an appoint, which is in a couple of weeks. </p> <p>I have to go to a meeting... I'll post replies when I get back!</p> <p>I'm still struggling with the CP... I keep thinking that if we were being more proactive it wouldn't have happened. I guess I'm just blaming myself for it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-check-in-911#post-1860331 Fri, 12 Sep 2014 12:07:51 +0000 FliegepilzHut 1860331@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@PurplePumps: I hate waiting... FX for good news! :goodluck: :heart: </p> <p>@AmeliaBedilia: I'm terribly nosy...and would probably ask again. But if there's a high likelihood that it's going to frustrate you...maybe it would just be better to let it go. Hard call... I don't know anything about Femara but have fun at the wedding! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-check-in-911#post-1860295 Fri, 12 Sep 2014 11:59:29 +0000 PurplePumps 1860295@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@FliegepilzHut: Yes... still (im)patiently waiting... :)</p> <p>@AmeliaBedilia: I drank and did everything as usual while on Femera and had no side effects. (Though I haven't really had any side effects with any of the meds I've taken) My first round of it I didnt O until CD25, and the second I O'ed CD13 (on the same dosage, 5mg). Good luck and have fun at the wedding tomorrow! </p>