https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 17 May 2026 03:00:36 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-ciosleep-training-didnt-work-for-you-why-not#post-2065681 Thu, 12 Feb 2015 08:06:22 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 2065681@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We didn't want our girls to go through that kind of stress. Our first daughter was a terrible sleeper, so we tried it, but she would escalate to the point of vomiting and self-injury. It just doesn't work for every kid... And once we figured out how to help our older daughter without CIO, we used those same techniques on younger daughter and didn't need CIO! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-ciosleep-training-didnt-work-for-you-why-not#post-2065676 Thu, 12 Feb 2015 08:02:29 +0000 Meridian 2065676@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mae: thanks for the link to your thread, that's helpful! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-ciosleep-training-didnt-work-for-you-why-not#post-2065121 Wed, 11 Feb 2015 17:26:37 +0000 Mae 2065121@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had this exact same thread before I did CIO so if you'd like to see more responses, here is that thread: <a href="http://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-youyour-lo-was-a-cio-drop-out" rel="nofollow">http://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-youyour-lo-was-a-cio-drop-out</a></p> <p>Ultimately we DID try CIO (well, a lightly modified ferber version) about a month after I made that post. </p> <p>What happened was that we could tell our LO was just about ready to roll over in her swaddle and when she did, it was game over in terms of decent sleep. Our ped had recommended we do swaddle weaning and sleep training at the same time, just rip off that bandaid. So we tried it the first night (the week of that post) and she cried until the 5 min check and then until the 10 min check then she had pooped. So then I had to change her and put her back down and she cried for 5 min and check and then around 5 more minutes she vomited everywhere and I freaked out and rescued her. So only about 25 min total of crying and I gave up, basically. But it was a particularly rough go of it I think due to the poop and then vomit. </p> <p>So we gave up and 3 days later she DID roll in her swaddle. We did the merlin suit the next day and that worked for us for about a month then her sleep went to shit anyways so we decided to try again and moved her from her merlin suit to sleep sack. That time it took her a total of 2 hours to fall asleep. 45 minutes of that 2 hours was crying (the rest was just rolling around the crib). No pooping or vomiting although for the first week or two she did tend to spit up a bit when she was crying (she's a reflux baby so that is not that terribly unusual) and it wasn't really on her clothes so we'd just move her away from the wet spot during the next check. </p> <p>So attempt 1 was a fail. Attempt 2 was a success. I think a big part of our failure was just that I gave up pretty fast. But also she seemed less upset (even when crying) the 2nd time than the 1st. I feel like going from swaddled to total freedom + sleep training was just an awful lot for her. I think that the second time her having been used to the merlin which is sort of a half step between swaddling and sleep sack made the transition a bit less harsh. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-ciosleep-training-didnt-work-for-you-why-not#post-2065079 Wed, 11 Feb 2015 16:56:01 +0000 travellingbee 2065079@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It did eventually work, but it didn't stick. A few months later he was back to waking up throughout the night. The actual sleep training took a couple weeks of crying it out, and it was pretty hellish. But we stuck with it and it eventually worked. But like I said, he went back to his old ways after a case of croupe. We didn't have it in us to do it again. :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-ciosleep-training-didnt-work-for-you-why-not#post-2065070 Wed, 11 Feb 2015 16:53:23 +0000 chibee 2065070@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was weak! Actually it worked, he only cried max 8 min but it still killed me and I pulled the plug on it the third night. I am really weak and too attached to my child. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-ciosleep-training-didnt-work-for-you-why-not#post-2065008 Wed, 11 Feb 2015 16:09:36 +0000 rattles 2065008@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think DD1 was too young and just wasn't ready. Her ped said he thought she was old enough, but we didn't have lasting results the first two times we tried. At nine months, it worked like a charm. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-ciosleep-training-didnt-work-for-you-why-not#post-2064969 Wed, 11 Feb 2015 15:59:56 +0000 looch 2064969@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We had trouble doing naps and overnight separately. Once I realized that we needed to nap and night train at the same time, it worked. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-ciosleep-training-didnt-work-for-you-why-not#post-2064714 Wed, 11 Feb 2015 14:43:17 +0000 littlebittyhouse 2064714@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>LO wod get too worked up and would be a nightmare to calm down. He just needed to grow out of it. Now her is a roack solid nap and nighttime sleeper. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-ciosleep-training-didnt-work-for-you-why-not#post-2064671 Wed, 11 Feb 2015 14:28:50 +0000 sorrycharlie 2064671@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>my DD just wouldn't fall asleep (CIO). it went on way too long. I was not going to do extinction, and I couldn't listen to it anymore so I threw in the towel. She started STTN on her own around 12 months. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-ciosleep-training-didnt-work-for-you-why-not#post-2064669 Wed, 11 Feb 2015 14:27:55 +0000 CakeLady 2064669@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It sort of worked for us. It helped a ton with bed time and helping DS to fall asleep on his own. It did not help with MOTN wake ups. He seems to be all over the place in that department. We've also had to start over several times because we've travelled and DS has been sick a bunch. :bummed: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-ciosleep-training-didnt-work-for-you-why-not#post-2064616 Wed, 11 Feb 2015 14:11:57 +0000 Maysprout 2064616@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>They both cried longer than I was comfortable with letting them cry and it made them super clingy for the next several days </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-ciosleep-training-didnt-work-for-you-why-not#post-2064451 Wed, 11 Feb 2015 13:25:11 +0000 Tanjowen 2064451@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I never felt comfortable with it, but I also felt my LO only got worked up at night when he was hungry because he was very good about eating and going right back to sleep, and dropped feedings over time. Now, at a year, I just can't do it. He escalates and gets so worked up that it's easier to bring him to bed with me than to spend an hour calming him back down the few times I tried CIO. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-ciosleep-training-didnt-work-for-you-why-not#post-2064436 Wed, 11 Feb 2015 13:20:34 +0000 JoJoGirl 2064436@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Depends on what you mean by "worked". I had unrealistic expectations of sleep training in that I thought it would teach them to STTN. It didn't.</p> <p>Sleep training succeeded at teaching my LO to fall asleep on her own AND connect her sleep cycles. So she went to bed by herself and when we did CIO in the MOTN, she dropped from 2 wakings per night to 1.</p> <p>However - that last one waking was a stubborn B and would not have anything to do with sleep training. She was waking up not because she needed mommy or couldn't fall asleep or needed her paci - but because she was hungry. We did two sleep consultations and tried EVERYTHING! Upping her milk during the day, CIO for that feeding, gentle weaning, dream feed, you name it. Kid needed to just grow out of it, which she did around 10 months. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-ciosleep-training-didnt-work-for-you-why-not#post-2064376 Wed, 11 Feb 2015 12:59:05 +0000 skipra 2064376@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>With LO1 it didn't work, maybe because I couldn't deal with it but more likely, it just plain old didn't work. We tried several times and he would cry for hours and never fall asleep. He started pulling up and cruising around the crib around 6 or 7 months and at that point he would do laps around the crib for hours until we gave up. It was ridiculous. He is almost 2.5 now and goes to sleep on his own, no problem.</p> <p>We really haven't tried cio with LO2 because it wakes up LO1 and seeing as how LO1 is such a great sleeper now without it, I would honestly just rather not even try. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-ciosleep-training-didnt-work-for-you-why-not#post-2064374 Wed, 11 Feb 2015 12:58:08 +0000 PurplePeony 2064374@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My DD would escalate and I just couldn't do it. She's mainly been pretty good at going to sleep but has had a few rough phases where I tried CIO for a day or two and quickly gave up. It just wasn't good for any of us. The last time, when she was about 11 months old, I randomly discovered that if I put her in the crib sitting up, with her bedtime book, she'll "read" for 5 minutes and then put herself to sleep. But if I try to lay her down, she'll scream for hours. Reading herself to sleep is a heck of a lot more pleasant than CIO was so that's what we do every night now! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-ciosleep-training-didnt-work-for-you-why-not#post-2064345 Wed, 11 Feb 2015 12:45:52 +0000 Meridian 2064345@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Was it because you caved? Your LO was too young? LO just wouldn't have it?</p> <p>I'm so, so, hopeful that sleep training will work for us in a few weeks (maybe end of Feb), but also nervous that it WON'T work!! We'll probably need to go the extinction route. I'm putting all my eggs in the sleep training basket. :crying: </p>