https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 24 Apr 2026 20:24:30 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-god-forbid-you-ever-lost-dh-would-you-remarry#post-296407 Sat, 15 Sep 2012 09:50:03 +0000 Bookish 296407@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yeesh, I don't know. I don't think anyone could ever fulfill me the way my DH does. I've never met anyone else like him. If he were to go, I don't know if I could bring myself to find another husband. I'd be afraid I would constantly be measuring any new man to my DH. </p> <p>I really don't know. It would depend on my age, if I had kids, etc. I hate being alone but I think it would take a very, very long time to even consider someone in a serious way. As for DH, I think he would have a hard time re-marrying as well. He doesn't get into relationships lightly, and I know we are truly the love of each other's lives. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-god-forbid-you-ever-lost-dh-would-you-remarry#post-296353 Sat, 15 Sep 2012 08:23:26 +0000 Andrea 296353@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Depends when it happens. If it is tomorrow, then yes, I am young enough to want to remarry. If it is when we're much older, then I might not unless I found someone really spectacular. I feel like I still have a lot of life to live and I don't need to be without a partner forever (if it were to happen tomorrow). </p> <p>I would want DH to remarry and he would want the same for me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-god-forbid-you-ever-lost-dh-would-you-remarry#post-296288 Sat, 15 Sep 2012 04:34:55 +0000 looch 296288@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would probably remarry, and I would want him to remarry. Death is most difficult for those that get left behind, so I would want him to find happiness with someone else. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-god-forbid-you-ever-lost-dh-would-you-remarry#post-296266 Sat, 15 Sep 2012 01:46:14 +0000 tequiero21 296266@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrs. wagon: haha i said that in another post - i hope my hubby and i die together in our sleep holding hands.</p> <p>@chopsuey119: i'm with u on this.... before kids, i would have remarried. now that i got my 2 babies, i can live on for them! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-god-forbid-you-ever-lost-dh-would-you-remarry#post-296264 Sat, 15 Sep 2012 01:41:39 +0000 Mrs. Superhero 296264@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If I found someone I loved who loved my girls? Yep. And I wouldn't want him to spend the rest of his life alone if I died. We're only 30!</p> <p>Not to be cold, but people do fall in love again.</p> <p>And now I'm sad. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-god-forbid-you-ever-lost-dh-would-you-remarry#post-296230 Fri, 14 Sep 2012 23:58:49 +0000 Grace 296230@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I love my husband to bits and I hate the thought of him being alone. I hope he would find someone to love. Besides I wouldn't be replaced. I would always be his first real love and the new woman would be loved for different reasons. As for me, while I can't imagine finding someone else, if there was someone as good for me as my DH is, I'd be a fool to pass that up. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-god-forbid-you-ever-lost-dh-would-you-remarry#post-296217 Fri, 14 Sep 2012 23:37:08 +0000 MsMini 296217@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think both of us would. DH lost his Dad when he was 13, and his Mom just re-married a few years ago. DH and his siblings really wanted their Mom to re-marry and have a partner. I don't believe that there is just one person for every person. I think love is situational and depends on a lot of factors, and that you can have many loves at different times of your life. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-god-forbid-you-ever-lost-dh-would-you-remarry#post-296201 Fri, 14 Sep 2012 23:20:03 +0000 daniellemybelle 296201@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think both of us would. I wouldn't want him to have to be alone, and I think he has so much love to offer, it would be a shame for him to just keep it to himself the rest of his life. As for me, right now, without kids, I would want the opportunity to have a family - even if it is not the family I dreamed of with him. And after kids, I would want my kids to have a father figure, although we would always remember and love their dad. </p> <p>I'm going to go cry now. :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-god-forbid-you-ever-lost-dh-would-you-remarry#post-295610 Fri, 14 Sep 2012 14:02:41 +0000 MrsTiz 295610@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would!</p> <p>I love DH to bitts but I get lonley haha, if I was 20-60 I would. If I was 84, no. Similar to @pastemoo </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-god-forbid-you-ever-lost-dh-would-you-remarry#post-295583 Fri, 14 Sep 2012 13:45:48 +0000 pastemoo 295583@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH says 1: You promised to let me die first! And then, no.</p> <p>I would though because I don't want to raise my kid all by myself. I think that being with someone is really important.</p> <p>Although if he dies when he is 80 I probably won't remarry because he would be my "real" husband and anyone else would just be a boyfriend. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-god-forbid-you-ever-lost-dh-would-you-remarry#post-295550 Fri, 14 Sep 2012 13:20:26 +0000 Mrs. Pen 295550@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@FutureMrsMcK: agreed. I would need a guy to adore my son. I think having a father figure is SO important to a boy... and a girl - for different reasons. I know that men in my life would step up to be that for DS (my dad, BIL, brothers) but that would be a make it or break it for me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-god-forbid-you-ever-lost-dh-would-you-remarry#post-295535 Fri, 14 Sep 2012 13:12:55 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 295535@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@FutureMrsMcK: "loved Evan as his own" &lt;&lt;&lt;OK this might sell me. That is the winning ticket right there. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-god-forbid-you-ever-lost-dh-would-you-remarry#post-295486 Fri, 14 Sep 2012 12:50:50 +0000 Weagle 295486@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@blackbird: Agreed.</p> <p>I love, LOVE my husband. And it's a downward spiral for me to even think about something happening to him, but I don't think marrying someone else would negate my love for DH. I would want him to remarry too. Especially now that we have LO. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-god-forbid-you-ever-lost-dh-would-you-remarry#post-295472 Fri, 14 Sep 2012 12:42:59 +0000 lovehoneybee 295472@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If I stumbled someone who was as well-suited to me as DH and loved Evan as his own I'd consider it. That's DH;s requirement, that if I get remarried the guy marry the both of us, not just me. I don't think I'd go looking for it, though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-god-forbid-you-ever-lost-dh-would-you-remarry#post-295469 Fri, 14 Sep 2012 12:42:35 +0000 mrs. wagon 295469@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We talk about this a lot. Well, I talk about it and Wagon Sr. reluctantly answers my questions. I'm very realistic and Wagon Sr. doesn't like to think about situations like this, but I think it's important for both of us to know each others' wishes in case something happens to one of us (God forbid!). </p> <p>I'm actually the opposite of some of you-- before having kids, I think my answer would have been no, I wouldn't remarry because I'd have lost the love of my life and he could never be replaced. But now that we have kids, I would want both of us to remarry. I'm a big believer in moving on and if something happened to me, I would want my kids to have a mother figure in their everyday life. Plus I would want the emotional and logistical support for Wagon Sr. </p> <p>That being said, this is one of my biggest fears. When I can't get in touch with him, I always picture a robber in an ATM vestibule, I don't know why... and Wagon Sr. bleeding out from a gunshot wound... bahhhhhhhh</p> <p>ETA: We always talk about how we want to die at the same moment, super old and holding hands so we can walk into heaven together holding hands! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-god-forbid-you-ever-lost-dh-would-you-remarry#post-295467 Fri, 14 Sep 2012 12:42:16 +0000 Minnie_Girl 295467@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I honestly don't know. I've always had this feeling about DH that he was someone special for me, a real Godsend. I've only had this feeling of being specially connected with DH, like we're the same person and meant to be family. Remarrying would mean another Godsend. </p> <p>My mom actually experienced this. She lost her first husband to cancer a few years into their marriage, when my sister was a toddler. She reconnected with my dad, a childhood sweetheart, and they married. Each husband was important to her for various reasons, but sometimes I wonder if she ever experienced that special connection. (Of course, she's a saint in my book, so it would be tough to match her!) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-god-forbid-you-ever-lost-dh-would-you-remarry#post-295463 Fri, 14 Sep 2012 12:41:16 +0000 Mrs. Pen 295463@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@JessicaMcB: oh my gosh... that is so sweet. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-god-forbid-you-ever-lost-dh-would-you-remarry#post-295453 Fri, 14 Sep 2012 12:37:14 +0000 JessicaMcB 295453@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I can honestly say that I could never bring myself to remarry if DH were to pass away. How could you ever replace the love of your life? I'd feel like I was lying to myself. I wouldn't have any issues with DH remarrying though, and he probably would because he has a lot of trouble being alone.</p> <p>My great aunt lost her fiance in the tail end of WW2 and said she couldn't ever consider another man again because she had lost the only one that ever mattered. She's now 93, has never seen another man and still remembers him to everyone as "the great love of her life.". </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-god-forbid-you-ever-lost-dh-would-you-remarry#post-295423 Fri, 14 Sep 2012 12:27:40 +0000 Mrs. Champagne 295423@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@TurtleDoves: ahh so agreee. Totally makes me sound mental, but I don't want to be here if he isn't either. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-god-forbid-you-ever-lost-dh-would-you-remarry#post-295418 Fri, 14 Sep 2012 12:26:28 +0000 Mrs. Pen 295418@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@TurtleDoves: lol I wasn't forcing you to answer ;) lol I hate it too... kinda reminds me of @mrbee's question about if your SO ever cheated on you... lol!! </p> <p>Actually I think it is kind of good to talk with your SO about what you would do, to be respectful of them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-god-forbid-you-ever-lost-dh-would-you-remarry#post-295417 Fri, 14 Sep 2012 12:26:24 +0000 Honeybee 295417@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@oliviaoblivia: @Coco Bee: I guess it depends on the situation, but my aunt was remarried within about 8 months of my uncle's death. He had been suffering from cancer for years, so by the time he passed, she had already worked through a lot of the grief of losing her husband. I think, in instances of years of disease/illness, it's not unusal to "mourn" the person's death before they actually succumb. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-god-forbid-you-ever-lost-dh-would-you-remarry#post-295413 Fri, 14 Sep 2012 12:25:44 +0000 winniebee 295413@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I really don't know what I would do. On the one hand, DH is the love of my life and we have been together for 11 years and life would be terrible without him. On the other hand, I'm only 32 and have a lot of life to live, so who knows.</p> <p>My MIL is a widow - has been since age 45 (12 years) and I don't think she'll ever remarry or find another partner. Seeing her go through that makes me hope that if I pass before my time, DH finds someone to share life's joys with. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-god-forbid-you-ever-lost-dh-would-you-remarry#post-295407 Fri, 14 Sep 2012 12:23:47 +0000 blackbird 295407@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have no doubt that I eventually would. There's no point being alone for the rest of my life and I don't believe there is only one person for us. I would, most certainly, want him to move on and find someone else. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-god-forbid-you-ever-lost-dh-would-you-remarry#post-295404 Fri, 14 Sep 2012 12:23:20 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 295404@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not to sound dangerous or insane but I think I would inflict harm to myself. I seriously can't fathom this. I get super upset if it is raining and I call him and he doesn't answer. I always assume the worst...and I pray to God none of us are ever in this situation in our young age.</p> <p>I don't think I would remarry...at least not while I was young. I like being independent and I am OK being a loner. DH is my type and I only married HIM because I love him, not because I love the general notion of being married. So, I'd do fine single I think. My mom raised us as a single mom for 9 years before she remarried and she said she LOVED it. But, now she is older and loves being remarried too.<br /> I'm not going to think about him getting remarried because it breaks my heart but hey, if i'm dead--who cares? But then again, I know it would hurt my family so much to see him remarried because he is like a son to them (way before we got married: my DH had a very close relationship to our family).<br /> Ugh.....I HATE this subject! Why @Coco Bee , WHY?! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-god-forbid-you-ever-lost-dh-would-you-remarry#post-295398 Fri, 14 Sep 2012 12:19:25 +0000 Mrs. Pen 295398@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@oliviaoblivia: yeah that's totally weird. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-god-forbid-you-ever-lost-dh-would-you-remarry#post-295395 Fri, 14 Sep 2012 12:17:58 +0000 Mrs. Pen 295395@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bluestriped bee: I have a really hard time seeing DH "pull the plug on me". I honestly don't think he could do it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-god-forbid-you-ever-lost-dh-would-you-remarry#post-295394 Fri, 14 Sep 2012 12:17:57 +0000 oliviaoblivia 295394@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think eventually I would remarry. God forbid anything ever happens to DH, I think he wouldn't want me to be lonely. And if I were to die, I'd want him to share the rest of his life with someone....but I would want him to wait a while.<br /> My mom's co-worker died a few years ago and her husband was remarried within the year. That kind of freaked me out. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-god-forbid-you-ever-lost-dh-would-you-remarry#post-295391 Fri, 14 Sep 2012 12:17:01 +0000 BSB 295391@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I told my DH that if something were to happen to me that I would want him to be happy.</p> <p>I did tell him that if I was in a coma, that I would like him to wait a couple months. (I've heard too many stories about people waking after months or years of being in a coma. LOL! I believe in miracles!! Haha.)<br /> With that, I did tell him that if it gets too expensive then he can pull the plug on me. </p> <p>Yeah, if I'm in the ground, I want him to be happy. So remarrying is all good in my book.</p> <p>I can't remember if he ever told me his answer. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-god-forbid-you-ever-lost-dh-would-you-remarry#post-295385 Fri, 14 Sep 2012 12:12:55 +0000 chopsuey 295385@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH and I have talked about it. I definitely wouldn't remarry. DH says he wouldn't either.<br /> If I didn't have a daughter and son on the way, I probably would remarry. But now that I have kids, I wouldn't. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-god-forbid-you-ever-lost-dh-would-you-remarry#post-295378 Fri, 14 Sep 2012 12:07:49 +0000 Mrs. Pen 295378@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@jholler25: this is the sweetest post ever... seriously made me want to cry!!</p> <p>You and I feel similarly, losing DH is my biggest fear ever as well. Not only because I'm hopelessly in love but also because I'm a SAHM without the means to provide for me and DS. We would get insurance $$, yes, but I have no job, never had a career or the credentials to get one. We don't own a house. It would be devastating on multiple levels for me. </p>