https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 22 Apr 2026 03:14:13 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-i-hear-youre-spoiling-that-baby-one-more-time#post-617833 Wed, 06 Mar 2013 14:10:26 +0000 Arden 617833@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@grizz: Ha. Ha. Ha. I might have to use that on FIL when he starts getting on to me about eating habits again. He's thin as a rail, but all of his children (except DH) are morbidly obese. DH was very overweight when we met to and is now very fit, because of me helping retrain his eating habits.</p> <p>FIL is always whining about how we have to force our children to clean their plates, eat anything that is put in front of them, etc.<br /> I always want to say "Yeah, because that worked so well for your kids. It took years to get DH to realize he needed to stop when he was full - I'm not going to ruin my kids the same way." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-i-hear-youre-spoiling-that-baby-one-more-time#post-617734 Wed, 06 Mar 2013 13:44:09 +0000 MsLipGloss 617734@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@grizz: Doh! annnnd Huzzah! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-i-hear-youre-spoiling-that-baby-one-more-time#post-617705 Wed, 06 Mar 2013 13:37:17 +0000 Boheme 617705@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MsLipGloss: My sister told her MIL "Thanks, but I live with a child you raised and there's definitely room for improvement. Please let me parent my own children as I see fit." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-i-hear-youre-spoiling-that-baby-one-more-time#post-617575 Wed, 06 Mar 2013 13:08:50 +0000 littlebittyhouse 617575@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I just smile at them and snuggle my baby.</p> <p>@MsLipGloss: heh heh assvice </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-i-hear-youre-spoiling-that-baby-one-more-time#post-617496 Wed, 06 Mar 2013 12:45:56 +0000 MsLipGloss 617496@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrs. wagon: If you are referring to the *assvice* (which there seems to be a surplus of these days!), I can't take credit for the genius. I discovered that little gem from one of my favorite bloggers, Amalah. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-i-hear-youre-spoiling-that-baby-one-more-time#post-617492 Wed, 06 Mar 2013 12:44:48 +0000 ladyfingers 617492@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ugh. My dad is all about CIO from birth. Don't even get me started. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-i-hear-youre-spoiling-that-baby-one-more-time#post-617484 Wed, 06 Mar 2013 12:42:37 +0000 mrs. wagon 617484@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MsLipGloss: omg. you are genius.</p> <p>I usually just smiled and shrugged it off, but if I felt the need to respond, I said "you can't spoil a newborn." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-i-hear-youre-spoiling-that-baby-one-more-time#post-617324 Wed, 06 Mar 2013 11:49:36 +0000 NovBaby1112 617324@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>this is my biggest pet peeve, and i STILL get it all the time at almost 4 months. so i like holding my adorable baby, sue me!! she is only going to be little for so long, and i love holding her and cuddling with her. i'm sure when #2 comes along, i will not be able to devote as much time to them, so i really want to enjoy her and cuddle her up! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-i-hear-youre-spoiling-that-baby-one-more-time#post-617301 Wed, 06 Mar 2013 11:41:59 +0000 littlebug 617301@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My mom hasn't said it to me (though I know she's thought about it), but I did overhear her say it to my step dad, who kept picking up my LO (6 weeks old) whenever he fussed. I yelled to her from upstairs, "It is psychosocially impossible to spoil a 6-week old baby! All he understands is that he is safe and loved, which is exactly what we want him to feel!" </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-i-hear-youre-spoiling-that-baby-one-more-time#post-617246 Wed, 06 Mar 2013 11:32:36 +0000 Ms.SK 617246@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I like to say that their Doctor told me that with twins you need to get to the point with each of them that you are spoiling them because twins loose out on the individual attention a singleton has with Mom. Either that or I'm their Mom you had your chance already. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-i-hear-youre-spoiling-that-baby-one-more-time#post-617182 Wed, 06 Mar 2013 11:18:15 +0000 sorrycharlie 617182@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>grr i hate this. i just say either "oh well!" and smile or if I'm feeling wordy, go into an explanation about the 'fourth tri'! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-i-hear-youre-spoiling-that-baby-one-more-time#post-617104 Wed, 06 Mar 2013 10:58:45 +0000 MsLipGloss 617104@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This isn't advice, this is *assvice* (!) and it's promptly ignored. My last response was something along the lines of *you've already raised your children, let me raise mine* </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-i-hear-youre-spoiling-that-baby-one-more-time#post-617101 Wed, 06 Mar 2013 10:58:08 +0000 mediagirl 617101@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Arden: I used that response, too. I held my lo as much as I wanted during her first 3 months (and after). I'm only having one so my other response was, "If I'm only having one, I'm going to spoil her with as much love as I want. If it means trouble later, we'll deal with it. Thank you for your concern." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-i-hear-youre-spoiling-that-baby-one-more-time#post-617081 Wed, 06 Mar 2013 10:53:09 +0000 Bookish 617081@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>LOL seriously, how exactly do you spoil a 6 week old who is completely reliant on you for food and care? That's ridiculous. Sorry I don't have any advice, just think that's crazy!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-i-hear-youre-spoiling-that-baby-one-more-time#post-617069 Wed, 06 Mar 2013 10:50:29 +0000 Arden 617069@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@grizz: Haha! Well if it is any consolation, I also lose my nerve sometimes and just mumble something as I walk away. But then I get mad at myself and vow to stand up to them the next time! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-i-hear-youre-spoiling-that-baby-one-more-time#post-611136 Mon, 04 Mar 2013 11:53:15 +0000 Dandelion 611136@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd just say, "well, I'm the one who will have to live with it, and I'm ok with that." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-i-hear-youre-spoiling-that-baby-one-more-time#post-611123 Mon, 04 Mar 2013 11:49:09 +0000 Boheme 611123@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Arden: I love your responses to rude people! I get a kick out of them on every thread. I feel like I need to make a set of Arden flashcards because I just freeze and smile awkwardly when people say dumb things to me :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-i-hear-youre-spoiling-that-baby-one-more-time#post-611122 Mon, 04 Mar 2013 11:48:46 +0000 dagret 611122@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Arden: yah, that's the route I have been going without success! That answer gets a "oh, you'll see in a few months..." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-i-hear-youre-spoiling-that-baby-one-more-time#post-611119 Mon, 04 Mar 2013 11:47:52 +0000 dagret 611119@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@travelgirl1: that's a good response. I need something nicer to say than "actually, you can't spoil a baby this young." Bc they just don't believe it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-i-hear-youre-spoiling-that-baby-one-more-time#post-611118 Mon, 04 Mar 2013 11:47:38 +0000 Arden 611118@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>They will get a dirty look and something along the lines of "Science has proven that you cannot spoil a newborn. This is called love, and it helps her develop." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-i-hear-youre-spoiling-that-baby-one-more-time#post-611114 Mon, 04 Mar 2013 11:47:06 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 611114@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@travelgirl1: great response.</p> <p>I feel that statement is a mean spirited compliment more like a playful tease. You are taking care of your baby so well, what a lucky baby! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-i-hear-youre-spoiling-that-baby-one-more-time#post-611104 Mon, 04 Mar 2013 11:43:02 +0000 travelgirl1 611104@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I just say "she's my first, I'm allowed to" and cuddle her tighter, ha ha. I refuse to apologise for treating my child well. my family can suck it up :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-i-hear-youre-spoiling-that-baby-one-more-time#post-611100 Mon, 04 Mar 2013 11:40:56 +0000 dagret 611100@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>...I might just lose it. L is 6 weeks old. </p> <p>How did you cope with this fantastic helpful advice? </p>