https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 12 Apr 2026 23:51:36 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-one-lo-is-invited-to-a-birthday-party-and-the-other-is-not-what-do-you-do#post-2071314 Mon, 16 Feb 2015 06:54:36 +0000 lamariniere 2071314@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it would depend on if I am friends with the family, or if LO is just friends with the child. However, in most cases the invited child would probably go to the party with one of us, and the other parent would take care of the other LO. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-one-lo-is-invited-to-a-birthday-party-and-the-other-is-not-what-do-you-do#post-2071277 Mon, 16 Feb 2015 02:29:27 +0000 tequiero21 2071277@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So far, only parties we've been invited to are my friends kids (so all my kids are invited) or preschool kids (both kids are in same class so so far, both invited to all parties and my second son is too young to participate). But if they don't say siblings welcome, I wouldn't bring the child who wasn't invited. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-one-lo-is-invited-to-a-birthday-party-and-the-other-is-not-what-do-you-do#post-2070955 Sun, 15 Feb 2015 19:44:50 +0000 Mrs. Chocolate 2070955@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We leave the other at home with the other parent. Its common since Drake started school and attends birthdays regularly. Juliet is too young to care luckily and also naps so its rarely a big deal at this stage </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-one-lo-is-invited-to-a-birthday-party-and-the-other-is-not-what-do-you-do#post-2070934 Sun, 15 Feb 2015 19:19:13 +0000 Madison43 2070934@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Assuming that we are talking about a peer party (like a friend from school, sports or other activity), I would only bring the invited child and think it's pretty standard that siblings are not invited. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-one-lo-is-invited-to-a-birthday-party-and-the-other-is-not-what-do-you-do#post-2070920 Sun, 15 Feb 2015 19:03:01 +0000 looch 2070920@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think this is so weird when you're talking about classroom parties if the kids aren't in the same class. We just went to a party yesterday, no siblings were there, just the kids in the class. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-one-lo-is-invited-to-a-birthday-party-and-the-other-is-not-what-do-you-do#post-2070825 Sun, 15 Feb 2015 17:09:35 +0000 autumnlove 2070825@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Andrea: same answer! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-one-lo-is-invited-to-a-birthday-party-and-the-other-is-not-what-do-you-do#post-2070823 Sun, 15 Feb 2015 17:08:19 +0000 mrbee 2070823@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We usually check if both are invited, since they're pretty close in age! If not, then we probably wouldn't go - unless our LO is really close to the birthday boy/girl. Then we'd split up and each take one kid (if we're both free). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-one-lo-is-invited-to-a-birthday-party-and-the-other-is-not-what-do-you-do#post-2070820 Sun, 15 Feb 2015 17:06:05 +0000 catomd00 2070820@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>unless #2 is a non participating infant, I would bring only the invited child. I would never ask to bring another child and put the hostess in that awkward position, </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-one-lo-is-invited-to-a-birthday-party-and-the-other-is-not-what-do-you-do#post-2070752 Sun, 15 Feb 2015 15:28:18 +0000 MamaBehr 2070752@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>For right now, I assume both (well I guess all three, but the baby doesn't count yet). If I am not sure, I'll ask the party host, but 9 times out of 10 I assume both of mine are invited. At 4 and 2, they don't really have many separate friends anyways.<br /> Next year, when DD is in school I would not assume that my boys are also invited. I would probably leave the boys home with DH, who hates going to parties anyways. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-one-lo-is-invited-to-a-birthday-party-and-the-other-is-not-what-do-you-do#post-2070654 Sun, 15 Feb 2015 12:52:54 +0000 Mrs. Blue 2070654@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Leave one with dad, but I must admit I already dread the day that someone invites one of the twins to their party and not the other. That seems like it will be hard to explain to littles. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-one-lo-is-invited-to-a-birthday-party-and-the-other-is-not-what-do-you-do#post-2070642 Sun, 15 Feb 2015 12:32:13 +0000 pinkcupcake 2070642@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm kinda going through something similar right now. I'm throwing a third bday party for my daughter, and didn't realize that so many people would bring their other siblings. I totally understand why they would bring babies, but I was surprised that they wanted to bring older siblings and spouses as well. </p> <p>It stressed me quite a bit because we're having double the amount of adults (since almost everyone is bringing their spouse), and at least 4 more (older) kids than I originally anticipated. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-one-lo-is-invited-to-a-birthday-party-and-the-other-is-not-what-do-you-do#post-2070631 Sun, 15 Feb 2015 12:15:06 +0000 mamimami 2070631@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Maybe it's because I'm in a different culture, but I generally assume both my kids are invited. Of course I ask, but I have never had any answer but, "of course!!" At my kids' age (2 and 4), parties are still family parties. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-one-lo-is-invited-to-a-birthday-party-and-the-other-is-not-what-do-you-do#post-2070629 Sun, 15 Feb 2015 12:12:41 +0000 Andrea 2070629@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would just bring the child who was invited. I wouldn't hire a sitter though. So if the party was during DH's working hours (and not drop off) I would ask if I could bring my other DD, too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-one-lo-is-invited-to-a-birthday-party-and-the-other-is-not-what-do-you-do#post-2070626 Sun, 15 Feb 2015 12:10:20 +0000 78h2o 2070626@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't know, I think it depends on the age of the kid and the location. I had a friend ask if she could bring her older son to my daughter's 2nd birthday, and I didn't think twice about it. The party was at home and I knew we'd have more than enough space and food. It might be a different story though if it was at a place where you pay per child or if my daughter was old enough to care. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-one-lo-is-invited-to-a-birthday-party-and-the-other-is-not-what-do-you-do#post-2070624 Sun, 15 Feb 2015 12:09:19 +0000 Dandelion 2070624@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd bring one kid and not the other. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-one-lo-is-invited-to-a-birthday-party-and-the-other-is-not-what-do-you-do#post-2070620 Sun, 15 Feb 2015 12:04:51 +0000 brownie 2070620@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>One invitation means one kid, the one on the invitation. With one possible exception being young (under 7) twins. My sister has twins and had this debate last year and really just wanted someone to tell her that she could RSVP no. And typically those invitations are coming from less close friends like school mates. If I was close to the family and expected they knew siblings I may (maybe) ask about it. Parties are expensive and often they are per kid so I wouldn't expect anything. There are going to be so many things that siblings will have to learn to do separately. The little one won't always be able to do what the older ones and vice versa. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-one-lo-is-invited-to-a-birthday-party-and-the-other-is-not-what-do-you-do#post-2070619 Sun, 15 Feb 2015 12:04:11 +0000 wonderstruck 2070619@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would not be the parent asking to bring all of my kids, I don't feel like that is fair to the host; if everyone brings an extra kid that is a LOT of extra kids! Assuming it's not a drop-off party, DH and the other kid would hang out, or maybe get to spend some time with grandma. I don't think I'd hire a babysitter though, I'd probably decline before paying a babysitter for a kid party. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-one-lo-is-invited-to-a-birthday-party-and-the-other-is-not-what-do-you-do#post-2070602 Sun, 15 Feb 2015 11:43:40 +0000 jedeve 2070602@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I guess I would have DH watch one. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-one-lo-is-invited-to-a-birthday-party-and-the-other-is-not-what-do-you-do#post-2070600 Sun, 15 Feb 2015 11:42:04 +0000 BSB 2070600@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I saw one of my friends on FB post about this. I didn't realize that this could be a problem if you have more than 2 kids.</p> <p>Do you ask if you can bring both LOs?<br /> Do you find a babysitter for the other LO?<br /> Do you bring both to the party and take the other one home with you? </p>