https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 03 May 2026 14:04:42 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-previously-mc-when-will-you-announce#post-108595 Sun, 01 Apr 2012 20:25:58 +0000 lovehoneybee 108595@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The last time we hadn't really told anyone except my mother and sister-in-law. This time, we told the two of them right away, DH's family at Christmas, which was around 7 weeks, my parents after our first ultrasound at 8 weeks, and everyone else at 13 weeks. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-previously-mc-when-will-you-announce#post-108588 Sun, 01 Apr 2012 20:17:12 +0000 sslm 108588@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@spaina96: I'm glad you're able to slowly become more positive! I hope I'm able to do the same when the time comes.</p> <p>@Jennimac: Your husband is right, this is absolutely not your fault. I feel the same way though, maybe I did something, maybe I had too much coffee when it was implanting, maybe my showers were too hot, etc. etc. I keep trying to stop myself and realize there wasn't anything I could have done. Absolutely nothing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-previously-mc-when-will-you-announce#post-108318 Sun, 01 Apr 2012 12:29:17 +0000 spaina96 108318@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Due to my miscarriage we did not announce to anyone until 13 weeks after my nt scan, pretty much only family and close friends are aware. With my last miscarriage only my husband and i knew we had not told anyone. </p> <p>It is still hard to think positive, but everyday i will get worried or upset. The feelings of negatively slowly decrease every week, but are still there. Stay positive and remind yourself it is ok to have a bad day. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-previously-mc-when-will-you-announce#post-108303 Sun, 01 Apr 2012 11:56:42 +0000 singingbee 108303@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sslm: that's exactly how I feel. I said something last night how I would take more folic acid or really watch my nutrition more since cord abnormalities are something the march of dimes looks to prevent, etc. My husband said people who are drug users can have healthy babies. Stop thinking this is something you did. It's just one of those things. He is right. I can't go through the next pregnancy like that. I'll be a basket case otherwise. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-previously-mc-when-will-you-announce#post-108078 Sat, 31 Mar 2012 22:48:36 +0000 sslm 108078@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oops. That should have said parents/siblings. We won't tell friends early next time. </p> <p>@Jennimac: I can't even imagine. I guess you're never truly in the clear, but at some point you have to think positive. I'm not sure how I'll be able to get excited about our next pregnancy, at least not in the beginning. I feel robbed of the innocence of it all to be honest. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-previously-mc-when-will-you-announce#post-108073 Sat, 31 Mar 2012 22:41:58 +0000 singingbee 108073@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sslm: I know exactly what you mean. I really thought we were in the clear. I don't think that we will do any big announcements with anyone other than family. We will be on pins and needles the whole time until there is a baby in our arms. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-previously-mc-when-will-you-announce#post-108059 Sat, 31 Mar 2012 22:18:43 +0000 sslm 108059@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We told our parents/siblings within a few days of finding out. We told a few friends around 7 weeks and then miscarried at 8w4d. Next time, we will still tell parents/friends early but not anyone else until after the first trimester. It was too hard telling people we lost it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-previously-mc-when-will-you-announce#post-108053 Sat, 31 Mar 2012 21:59:54 +0000 singingbee 108053@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hubby and i talked about this the other night. We told everyone very early... and miscarried at 20 wks, which is unusual, but not unheard of. We know that when we are pregnant again we will tell family right away, but not really ever make a formal announcement. I told him I was even fine with not putting anything on facebook until we have the baby. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-previously-mc-when-will-you-announce#post-12980 Wed, 09 Nov 2011 19:25:32 +0000 Weagle 12980@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We didn't tell many people the first time, just really close friends and family at around 8 weeks. Then it was awkward to tell people that we had a miscarriage when they never knew we were pregnant. When we got pregnant after that miscarriage we decided that we wanted to really enjoy this baby no matter how long or short we got him/her. So we started telling people at around 6 weeks. I was a little worried about how I would handle a pregnancy after a miscarriage, but I've loved having people know earlier because they've been so supportive. I think it has helped me not be so anxious. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-previously-mc-when-will-you-announce#post-12956 Wed, 09 Nov 2011 19:04:41 +0000 heffalump 12956@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We still told our families pretty early. I figured if something happened I still wanted their support. But we waited till our 12 month apt. to tell everyone else. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-previously-mc-when-will-you-announce#post-12919 Wed, 09 Nov 2011 18:24:15 +0000 tequiero21 12919@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>yes. it totally did! we told a lot of church members by 8 weeks with our first. lost the baby at 9. now i'm 18 weeks and only family and some friends know. although now my parents' churchmembers all know lol. but that was my parents telling them. i've only actually told like 4 people (aside from family)..... (we told our parents as soon as doctors confirmed) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-previously-mc-when-will-you-announce#post-12911 Wed, 09 Nov 2011 18:11:59 +0000 MaisyMay 12911@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hubs and I told everybody within 3 weeks of us finding out that we were pregnant in July and when we miscarried it was hard to have people asking and having to tell them. Now we are TTC again, and I am wondering how long we will wait to tell them. Because we chart, we'll know when we are about 4-4 1/2 weeks pregnant. We told our families at 6 weeks last time. I don't know that we would wait any longer than we did last time. Hubs and I were talking about it, and I told him that Thanksgiving will be right around O time, and he replied with "then we can tell people at Christmas" which would be 7 weeks (assuming we get pregnant this cycle).</p> <p>If you miscarried before, did it change when you announced your good news second time around? </p>