https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 11 May 2026 04:34:03 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-roles-were-reversed#post-940503 Thu, 18 Jul 2013 06:23:59 +0000 T.H.O.U. 940503@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@PrincessBaby: Hahah... Yes I think lack of research and education on the topic would hinder men! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-roles-were-reversed#post-940490 Thu, 18 Jul 2013 05:53:30 +0000 PrincessBaby 940490@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My DH is super patient and absolutely finishes everything he does (I think it's his military background- you remove emotion/negativity from a task and just get it done bc it has to be done). So he'd probably do it for at least a year. </p> <p>He'd have to get way more educated about it though. His best friend/&amp;wife had a baby 3 weeks after H was born. The wife also BF'd. DH told me a few weeks ago that his friend told him the wife was no longer BFing bc she quit producing milk. They talked about it and decided that I had always had bigger boobs than the wife, and that must be why I am still able to make enough milk.</p> <p>I laughed so hard at this conclusion they invented. I was also mildly amused that they discuss things like that at all. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-roles-were-reversed#post-940485 Thu, 18 Jul 2013 05:46:44 +0000 PrincessBaby 940485@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@scg00387: Lol that he is a BF advocate to everyone:)<br /> @Corduroy: Haha!! Touche is right! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-roles-were-reversed#post-940461 Thu, 18 Jul 2013 04:32:48 +0000 Kemma 940461@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My DH said three months - so we could get pregnant again and have another baby! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-roles-were-reversed#post-940460 Thu, 18 Jul 2013 04:02:24 +0000 Cherrybee 940460@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The NHS recommends breastfeeding for 6 months so my DH would do 6 months exactly. Whatever the issues, he would keep going and he probably wouldn't moan. He gets on with things!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-roles-were-reversed#post-940444 Thu, 18 Jul 2013 02:48:52 +0000 cheert16 940444@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My DH was so anti BF at the beginning I think he woulda tried it once and then given up! He is a little more supportive now, but sill doesn't "get" it! He was pushing formula from day 1 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-roles-were-reversed#post-940207 Wed, 17 Jul 2013 21:32:28 +0000 MusicaV 940207@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I just asked him - less than a month! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-roles-were-reversed#post-940202 Wed, 17 Jul 2013 21:30:14 +0000 MrsScottish 940202@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have never breasted but every month when my AF rolls in he tells me that if guys got it the world would end and they would not leave the bathroom for 5 days. I said yep, so that shows you how strong women are, and we push babies out! He always cringes at that. So with that I voted 1 month because I think we would try but he would not be able to continue! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-roles-were-reversed#post-940200 Wed, 17 Jul 2013 21:29:56 +0000 cmomma17 940200@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Corduroy: LOL at your DH's comment, mine would probably say the same!<br /> I think my DH would last less than a month. He doesn't have the patience I think it takes to get the hang of breastfeeding or being "on demand." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-roles-were-reversed#post-940153 Wed, 17 Jul 2013 21:10:44 +0000 silver1 940153@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Some very supportive DHs here.. mine was pushing for formula! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-roles-were-reversed#post-940107 Wed, 17 Jul 2013 20:44:09 +0000 Ginabean3 940107@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't know if he would have BF for a year, but I bet he would have pumped for a year! Since LO was in the NICU and I was recovering, he was the one who went and rented the pump and figured it out for us. He considers himself a pumping expert. It's actually quite cute. When we got home from the hospital, he printed out pictures of LO and played classical music for me to listen to while I pumped. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-roles-were-reversed#post-940101 Wed, 17 Jul 2013 20:41:34 +0000 IcebergMom 940101@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@dagret: we're lazy too. I just asked DH and he said super long time cause he could watch tv and relax and it chills LO out </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-roles-were-reversed#post-940078 Wed, 17 Jul 2013 20:33:03 +0000 T.H.O.U. 940078@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Physically I think DH would do the 18 months I did. But I don't think he would have the same emotional desire (aka mommy guilt) that we have. Meaning he would do it if he had to but I don't think he would do it that long (especially pumping) by choice for that long. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-roles-were-reversed#post-939994 Wed, 17 Jul 2013 19:54:41 +0000 Corduroy 939994@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I asked DH how long he thought he would go. He said he'd like to think 1 year. I could see that if he could get past the first couple weeks. Would he have my inverted nipple or his own nipples?</p> <p>I response to my question DH asked how long I would patiently wait for sex if I were a man. Touche DH. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-roles-were-reversed#post-939963 Wed, 17 Jul 2013 19:43:55 +0000 Weagle 939963@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>He's super supportive of BFing, but I don't think he could have handled the demand of the first few months. LO was an every 1.5-2 hour eater basically until she started solids. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-roles-were-reversed#post-939830 Wed, 17 Jul 2013 18:34:37 +0000 sotofamilia 939830@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Personally, I think he would have lasted a year if he had the same kind of breastfeeding experience that I have had (relatively straightforward once we got through the first REALLY HARD six weeks). He's very supportive of nursing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-roles-were-reversed#post-939824 Wed, 17 Jul 2013 18:30:36 +0000 mediagirl 939824@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I really don't think he could have made it a whole year. Maybe 9 months or until she was successfully eating solids and transitioning to whole milk. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-roles-were-reversed#post-939822 Wed, 17 Jul 2013 18:29:26 +0000 dagret 939822@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I dunno - we are both lazy and I think bf'ing is easier than bottle feeding in many respects. He was so excited for L to have solids until he changed his first post-solids diaper...and then he asked if I could breastfeed till L was 9. Ha. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-roles-were-reversed#post-939814 Wed, 17 Jul 2013 18:26:45 +0000 birdofafeather 939814@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH is very supportive, so I think he would have made it work to at least the 6 month mark. but with EMT and paramedic school, I dunno! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-roles-were-reversed#post-939813 Wed, 17 Jul 2013 18:25:48 +0000 runsyellowlites 939813@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If roles were reversed &amp; he experienced what I did... Probably not long! I didn't have mommy guilt prompting me to continue though, I'm just anti formula unless medically necessary. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-roles-were-reversed#post-939812 Wed, 17 Jul 2013 18:25:22 +0000 lomom 939812@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not at all! He was pushing formula big time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-roles-were-reversed#post-939804 Wed, 17 Jul 2013 18:21:09 +0000 immabeetoo 939804@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hmm I think he'd have similar goals as me, to 12 months at least. He's super supportive and has said he's a little envious of the breastfeeding bond and thinks it's neat that I'm sustaining our little critter. He is always talking up breastfeeding to anyone who will listen (you can imagine his twenty-something bachelor coworkers are impressed.. not!). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-roles-were-reversed#post-939790 Wed, 17 Jul 2013 18:13:34 +0000 LaineysMom 939790@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Running Elley: Most men (99%) don't understand mommy guilt.. again, not fair.</p> <p>@grizz: Doood.. if he tried to wake me up to pump I'd probably sock him.</p> <p>@highwire: Definitely. He was like "what's the big deal? there's more in the fridge.." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-roles-were-reversed#post-939780 Wed, 17 Jul 2013 18:09:09 +0000 DillonLion 939780@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LaineysMom: omg 10 oz!!! He might need pump punishment for that one </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-roles-were-reversed#post-939779 Wed, 17 Jul 2013 18:08:37 +0000 Boheme 939779@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrsjazz: @LaineysMom: Same! I get so annoyed with him because he gets ideas like that I need to pump every two hours around the clock to increase supply, etc. I'm glad he's supportive, but dang! Can he just let me sleep once in a while? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-roles-were-reversed#post-939777 Wed, 17 Jul 2013 18:06:51 +0000 Running Elley 939777@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It depends! If he had to deal with the same issues I did... Probably about a month. The only reason I continued was mom guilt really and he is not burdened with that at all lol. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-roles-were-reversed#post-939771 Wed, 17 Jul 2013 18:04:42 +0000 LaineysMom 939771@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@highwire: LoL. DH threw out 10 oz. of breast milk one day bc he thought he contaminated it with cleaning spray.. I started crying and was super pissed and he got upset that I was upset. I told him that I was going to hook him up to the pump for an hour and see how much he liked it. Men.. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-roles-were-reversed#post-939764 Wed, 17 Jul 2013 18:02:38 +0000 LaineysMom 939764@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrsjazz: Yup, mine WAS the same way. Before having Lainey he wanted her to be EBF for AT LEAST 2 years. Uhhh.. I told him that at the 18 month mark he could start hormones to start lactating, then we would talk..</p> <p>He has been really empathetic to my pumping journey, and has told me several times that I don't need to pump anymore if I don't want to.. </p> <p>I think he would want her to have breast milk for a year, but committing his life to the pump, or to feeding Lainey just wouldn't jive with his schedule.. I could see him doing some breast milk for a year, but definitely not exclusively. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-roles-were-reversed#post-939752 Wed, 17 Jul 2013 17:54:51 +0000 mrsjazz 939752@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH is kind of like one of those overzealous La Leche league lactation consultants, so he'd definitely do it for up to a year. Seriously, I have to tell him to tone it down sometimes as he doesn't have boobs or know what it's like to breastfeed. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-roles-were-reversed#post-939745 Wed, 17 Jul 2013 17:52:13 +0000 Pepper 939745@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@highwire: Haha! </p>