https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 26 Apr 2026 05:44:47 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-someone-is-having-their-2nd-lo#post-1684159 Fri, 06 Jun 2014 09:00:16 +0000 HLK208 1684159@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oops, I haven't! Just the new baby. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-someone-is-having-their-2nd-lo#post-1684143 Fri, 06 Jun 2014 08:57:32 +0000 aegie 1684143@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't normally give a gift for the second baby .... unless they're having a different gender from their first. Otherwise, I just bring diapers, meal. If I'm close to the parents, then I'll also add a gift card to target or amazon and yes, I will bring a small "i also remembered you" gift but it's usually a sticker book or coloring books ... something that won't make noise! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-someone-is-having-their-2nd-lo#post-1684080 Fri, 06 Jun 2014 08:39:07 +0000 yin 1684080@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't know anyone with 2+ kids, but I would consider buying something small for the older sibling (maybe a coloring book or puzzle). When I had my second, DS1 didn't receive gifts from family and friends, but we did get him a gift from his baby brother. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-someone-is-having-their-2nd-lo#post-1684078 Fri, 06 Jun 2014 08:37:55 +0000 Radish 1684078@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-someone-is-having-their-2nd-lo#post-1684068 Fri, 06 Jun 2014 08:35:13 +0000 MaryM 1684068@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Generally I don't, but if it's my nieces and nephews, I'll try to get a group gift for the older kids to keep them busy for a while (or get them outside and out from under Mom's feet) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-someone-is-having-their-2nd-lo#post-1684067 Fri, 06 Jun 2014 08:35:11 +0000 loveisstrange 1684067@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not really. Generally just the new baby. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-someone-is-having-their-2nd-lo#post-1684061 Fri, 06 Jun 2014 08:33:57 +0000 autumnlove 1684061@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't but a few of my friends did this. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-someone-is-having-their-2nd-lo#post-1683976 Fri, 06 Jun 2014 08:16:06 +0000 Alivoo01 1683976@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope. I only buy two gifts if it's a holiday. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-someone-is-having-their-2nd-lo#post-1683971 Fri, 06 Jun 2014 08:14:59 +0000 littlek 1683971@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@avivoca: oh I don't give two gifts for bdays, only baby showers. And usually the gift is very small, under $5. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-someone-is-having-their-2nd-lo#post-1683964 Fri, 06 Jun 2014 08:12:44 +0000 avivoca 1683964@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't, but that's based on seeing my niece/nephew growing up thinking that they have to get a present too on the other one's birthday. I don't want that for my kids and I don't buy sibling gifts when I'm giving a new baby gift.</p> <p>It's also not very common where I live to do that, so I was surprised when my husband's family did it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-someone-is-having-their-2nd-lo#post-1683944 Fri, 06 Jun 2014 08:06:32 +0000 HeartAbandoned 1683944@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My friends are still just having LO #1, so I haven't had to think about it. My guess is that if it's for a shower or sprinkle, I'll just give something for the new baby. I agree with others, though, that my relationship with mom &amp; baby might change that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-someone-is-having-their-2nd-lo#post-1683940 Fri, 06 Jun 2014 08:05:53 +0000 jedeve 1683940@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I gave my niece a few books on being the older sibling. </p> <p>I don't feel any need for people to get my LO something when #2 comes. He is too little to really understand gifts, he would just like an extra snuggle. And also, second kids don't often get anything new, so I think it's nice to celebrate the kid by him/herself. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-someone-is-having-their-2nd-lo#post-1683938 Fri, 06 Jun 2014 08:03:37 +0000 sheskrafty 1683938@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I will get a 2nd gift if its a niece or nephew or close friend. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-someone-is-having-their-2nd-lo#post-1683931 Fri, 06 Jun 2014 08:01:14 +0000 littlek 1683931@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@septca: I normally give a coloring book and crayons. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-someone-is-having-their-2nd-lo#post-1683928 Fri, 06 Jun 2014 08:00:17 +0000 littlek 1683928@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mamimami: That was my moms reasoning as well. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-someone-is-having-their-2nd-lo#post-1683927 Fri, 06 Jun 2014 08:00:12 +0000 mrsjyw 1683927@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Depends on how close we are to the family, as a personal choice. </p> <p>Regionally around here most ppl just gift the new baby </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-someone-is-having-their-2nd-lo#post-1683925 Fri, 06 Jun 2014 07:58:42 +0000 mamimami 1683925@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not necessarily, but I did think it was amazingly kind when people did it when I had my second child, so if it's someone I know well, yes. </p> <p>I don't think it's teaching children they "deserve" something whenever someone else gets a gift, but when you have a new addition to the family, you know it can be a difficult transition and a little detail like that helps. As does carefully acknowledging the older child when you go to see the baby. I think a lot of people are like "THE BABY! THE BABY!" and that sucks for the older sib. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-someone-is-having-their-2nd-lo#post-1683918 Fri, 06 Jun 2014 07:55:43 +0000 Cole 1683918@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It depends on who it is, I agree with @septca: though that my goal is to pick something for the older kid that they can do independently. It is no help to the parents if I get their 2 year old a 400 piece Play Mobil set... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-someone-is-having-their-2nd-lo#post-1683915 Fri, 06 Jun 2014 07:54:55 +0000 Silva 1683915@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope. But- I rarely buy gifts for a second baby, unless the mom and I are very close. Too many babies. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-someone-is-having-their-2nd-lo#post-1683911 Fri, 06 Jun 2014 07:53:09 +0000 Boheme 1683911@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I generally don't unless I'm very close to them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-someone-is-having-their-2nd-lo#post-1683907 Fri, 06 Jun 2014 07:51:08 +0000 LBee 1683907@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I echo what other people said.. it depends on my relationship with the mom / the child. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-someone-is-having-their-2nd-lo#post-1683897 Fri, 06 Jun 2014 07:47:17 +0000 MsLipGloss 1683897@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It depends on the person, and how well I know them/their first LO. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-someone-is-having-their-2nd-lo#post-1683895 Fri, 06 Jun 2014 07:46:28 +0000 Smurfette 1683895@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sometimes I do, sometimes I don't. Just depends on the person. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-someone-is-having-their-2nd-lo#post-1683888 Fri, 06 Jun 2014 07:43:25 +0000 winniebee 1683888@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sometimes I do sometimes I don't. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-someone-is-having-their-2nd-lo#post-1683886 Fri, 06 Jun 2014 07:42:42 +0000 Mamaof2 1683886@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sometimes I do and sometimes I don't!</p> <p>When my 2nd was born a friend sent both my kids a new bath towel - DS loved that he and his new sister matched! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-someone-is-having-their-2nd-lo#post-1683883 Fri, 06 Jun 2014 07:41:02 +0000 looch 1683883@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No, I do not. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-someone-is-having-their-2nd-lo#post-1683880 Fri, 06 Jun 2014 07:37:00 +0000 septca 1683880@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I do. But I also agree with @Anagram. I like to get the older child something small, but something they can *do* - a small interactive toy or crayons and a coloring book. For me, getting the older child something isn't as much for the child as it is for the parents when you give the child something that will entertain them while the parents are busy with the new baby. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-someone-is-having-their-2nd-lo#post-1683875 Fri, 06 Jun 2014 07:33:25 +0000 Anagram 1683875@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't, generally speaking. If the other child were super-close to me (like my neices and nephews) I might get them something small like a coloring book.</p> <p>I know this goes against the grain of modern parenting trends, but I personally don't like to teach children that they deserve something for themselves anytime someone else gets a gift. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-someone-is-having-their-2nd-lo#post-1683871 Fri, 06 Jun 2014 07:31:35 +0000 littlek 1683871@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If someone is having their 2nd LO, do you buy two gifts? One for the newborn and one for the older child? My mom always told me that was the polite thing to do. Just curious what other people do... </p>