https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 23 Apr 2026 15:21:01 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-staying-positive-amp-hopeful#post-838962 Fri, 07 Jun 2013 08:41:25 +0000 ineebee 838962@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Happygal: (You posted this days ago, but I just got myself updated on this thread) I think "hunger is the best sauce" is the best quote I've heard regarding TTC. On a not-so-great day like today, I'm really appreciating the humor and truth of that quote! It really made me LOL~ </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-staying-positive-amp-hopeful#post-836326 Thu, 06 Jun 2013 14:03:44 +0000 sweetooth 836326@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p><i>Hugs to all :)</i></p> <p>I remember what helped me was at the start of the year, when my first IUI failed I told my husband I needed to plan a vacation. I wanted it to be early in the year and for it to be a vacation where we were either celebrating pregnancy, or just taking a break from all of the cycles. So in January, I booked us a little getaway for April. It helped me have something to focus on. I wanted to do my best each day to "be present" and not wish my days away. But I know myself, and having that trip really gave me something happy to think about.</p> <p>Circle + Bloom meditations were my life preserver during my second and third IUI. And planning yummy indulgences at the end of each cycle that resulted in a negative was also something good for me.</p> <p>House projects are also a great distraction :) Plus, then you can't really symptom spot because you might just be sore from all of the yardwork, or from painting, or any other sort of exertion! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-staying-positive-amp-hopeful#post-833760 Wed, 05 Jun 2013 16:20:28 +0000 Mrs.Someone 833760@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Polish: Yes, please do! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-staying-positive-amp-hopeful#post-833693 Wed, 05 Jun 2013 15:59:06 +0000 mrsmate 833693@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This may sound like I was hopelessly in denial, but I never *really* considered us to be infertile, just unlucky. I never had any doubts we would become parents again. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-staying-positive-amp-hopeful#post-833667 Wed, 05 Jun 2013 15:52:40 +0000 Mrs. Polish 833667@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs.Someone: Would you mind if I wrote a blog post based on this thread? Orrrr you could guest post. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-staying-positive-amp-hopeful#post-828994 Tue, 04 Jun 2013 09:06:57 +0000 twodoghouse 828994@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>AF showed this morning (2 days late! Just enough to give an IF girl hope!!) so I really needed this thread. Right now I'm in a grouchy mood, so I'm having a hard time coming up with anything that keeps me positive and hopeful. However, what @Shutterbug: said has been one of the biggest things to keep me sane over the last 2.5 years of TTC while a lot of couples around us have gotten pregnant. Babies aren't rationed, so even though they might be pregnant AGAIN doesn't mean I can't get pregnant too.</p> <p>I'm trying to keep in mind today that at least a lot of the uncertainty is gone now. We have a plan of action. We will be starting IVF so soon and at least then I'll feel like we are moving forward instead of just sitting there stuck in the bog of infertility. And (on a much more superficial note) I'll be able to drink as much wine as I want in France at the end of the month and I'll be on BCP so I won't have to worry about getting my period on vacation. I guess it's just the little things that keep you going... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-staying-positive-amp-hopeful#post-828879 Tue, 04 Jun 2013 08:37:19 +0000 Mrs.Someone 828879@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@SweetMamaM: Not presumptuous at all :) Great idea! I consoled myself that by not getting pregnant last month, I won't be extra seasick on a 3hr boat ride we're taking in 2 weeks. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-staying-positive-amp-hopeful#post-828451 Tue, 04 Jun 2013 00:57:17 +0000 SweetMamaM 828451@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've been trying for six months with some complex issues but hope you don't think I'm too presumptuous commenting! What's getting me through is making plans for things we can do if we're not pregnant. If we're not pregnant this month, we're going to visit the Belgian Beer Cafe and get a cherry beer. If we're not pregnant by Oct, we're looking at booking a holiday to Fiji :) it helps, in an odd way. Takes the pressure off, so to speak. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-staying-positive-amp-hopeful#post-827750 Mon, 03 Jun 2013 16:39:52 +0000 Mrs.Someone 827750@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Happygal: Mine is just as boring! I find not charting pretty freeing, except for the very last day or so when you just want to know what the heck is going on. But its great for not worrying about every little up and down in the TWW. I think I'm going to put some ground cover in the parking strip, with some old stepping stones we were going to get rid of. Need to price it all out first though :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-staying-positive-amp-hopeful#post-827677 Mon, 03 Jun 2013 16:16:34 +0000 Mrs. High Heels 827677@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I just wanted to pop in and say I'm thinking of you all and hoping for good news soon!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-staying-positive-amp-hopeful#post-827669 Mon, 03 Jun 2013 16:12:41 +0000 Happygal 827669@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs.Someone: My FF chart was pretty boring this month! I decided to take a break from charting. It did make things a little easier for me, I must say, but it was strange not to chart! What are you doing to the parking strip? Take pictures and share! We just rent for now, so it's hard for me to get motivated with any home improvement projects. </p> <p>@JustDarling: Thank you for the husband appreciation reminder! I sometimes I wish my husband had more of a sense of urgency with TTC, but I realize his laid back and positive attitude really is a blessing. Today he hugged me and said, "Hunger is the best sauce," meaning we'll appreciate our baby all that much more when we finally do get pregnant. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-staying-positive-amp-hopeful#post-826857 Mon, 03 Jun 2013 11:49:42 +0000 Mrs.Someone 826857@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Another of my favorites that I just remembered... Having projects to do. At the moment, I'm working on rehabbing the parking strip in front of my house (the area between the sidewalk and the street). Its been bugging me for years, so I finally went outside and started ripping it apart when I was in a sad mood on Friday. Totally worked in making me feel better :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-staying-positive-amp-hopeful#post-826786 Mon, 03 Jun 2013 11:34:59 +0000 Mrs.Someone 826786@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Great responses so far, thanks ladies! </p> <p>@TheSwissWifeStyle: Travel and stress relief definitely count! One of my favorites too. We're going to be out of town around my O time this month, yay!</p> <p>@Happygal: Me too, friend. Glad this thread came at a good time for you too. It seems that you and I have been in sync for a few months, and I've been keeping tabs on you in FF :)</p> <p>@justdarling: I totally agree that doing stuff with DH is one of the best. I just need to learn to keep my mouth shut and stop talking about TTC :)</p> <p>@mrswin: Awesome! We're doing the same, giving ourselves 4 months with the ND before moving on to the "big guns" as we've been calling it.</p> <p>@mrs. bird: Not selfish at all! I totally understand. I don't consider myself "infertile" and I prefer to use "when" instead of "if" as well. You hit exactly why I started this thread, for positivity :)</p> <p>@regberadaisy: Thanks for sharing the story! I'm glad it worked out for them. I'm torn when I hear these types of stories though. On one hand, its great to hear success after trying so long. But on the other hand it scares me to hear that it *could* take that long.</p> <p>@Shutterbug: Great point! One of my BFFs just started TTC too, so this is a great reminder, as I'm convinced she will get knocked up quickly (since she thinks it will take a while).</p> <p>@TheReelDeal: Glad C+B has helped you too! I totally agree that we're all going to appreciate those sweet babies SO much when we finally have them, because of the struggle. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-staying-positive-amp-hopeful#post-826762 Mon, 03 Jun 2013 11:27:22 +0000 TheReelDeal 826762@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Like @Mrs.Someone, Circle + Bloom has really changed my outlook on staying positive. It feels good to take those 15-20 minutes a day and only think about myself.</p> <p>I also think that the things I've worked the hardest for in my life are the ones I appreciate the most and when my baby does get here they will be loved so much.</p> <p>Unfortunately I don't have anyone IRL to talk about my journey but sometimes I think that's better because I would probably go on and on every day and that's not good either. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-staying-positive-amp-hopeful#post-826705 Mon, 03 Jun 2013 11:11:55 +0000 LovelyPlum 826705@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Shutterbug: I love this. Thank you :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-staying-positive-amp-hopeful#post-826703 Mon, 03 Jun 2013 11:10:55 +0000 Shutterbug 826703@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I try to remind myself that others' successes do not add to my failures. There isn't a set inventory of babies in the world and someone else getting pregnant doesn't make me less likely to do so. My BFF is starting TTC this month, so this has been my mantra lately, since I know what's probably coming. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-staying-positive-amp-hopeful#post-826646 Mon, 03 Jun 2013 10:57:17 +0000 regberadaisy 826646@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs.Someone: I don't have experience but just wanted to let you know my brother &amp; SIL tried for almost 7 years and 3 IVF later my nephew is now 13 months! So don't despair! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-staying-positive-amp-hopeful#post-826641 Mon, 03 Jun 2013 10:56:13 +0000 mrswin 826641@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrs. bird: Don't be ashamed, I have been there and done the same thing. You need to do whatever works for you to cope with the situation. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-staying-positive-amp-hopeful#post-826636 Mon, 03 Jun 2013 10:55:11 +0000 mrs. bird 826636@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Love this thread! </p> <p>Mine is kind of selfish &amp; I'm a bit ashamed to admit this, I avoid things about 'infertility'. I wish I was strong enough to support others going through it- but often I'm just not. I'm easily effected by others' moods and events and sometimes it can just feel so bleak. It gets hard for me to stay positive when I surround myself with disappointment &lt;hangs head in shame&gt;. So I guess mine would be: avoid this that focus on infertility. I also try to be mindful of my phrasing- not 'if I get pregnant' but 'when I get pregnant' </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-staying-positive-amp-hopeful#post-826635 Mon, 03 Jun 2013 10:55:10 +0000 mrswin 826635@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>For me finding someone IRL to talk to about what I am going through has been helpful as @Mrs.Someone: mentioned</p> <p>The other thing that has helped that I wasn't really expecting was that I have taken a break from the RE and committed myself to the next 3-4 months with the ND. It has taken considerable pressure off the whole situation and I am much less stressed. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-staying-positive-amp-hopeful#post-826622 Mon, 03 Jun 2013 10:48:45 +0000 justdarling 826622@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Do little things for yourself - like get a pedicure or buy a nice pair of shoes! </p> <p>Also, what makes me happy and positive is just spending time with DH. Do things that we won't be able to do when we do get a bfp, like wine tasting. DH is my rock through all of this and his positivity really keeps me going. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-staying-positive-amp-hopeful#post-826614 Mon, 03 Jun 2013 10:45:23 +0000 Happygal 826614@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I needed to see this today! With my period about to show up and feeling unsure about what to do next, I'm in a funk.</p> <p>I've tried to think about what good can come from experiencing the tough stuff. Patience and so on. </p> <p>@TheSwissWifeStyle: I love to travel. Right now, I'd love to be at a resort where you do nothing but relax. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-staying-positive-amp-hopeful#post-826568 Mon, 03 Jun 2013 10:34:23 +0000 TheSwissWifeStyle 826568@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Travel! Might as well....</p> <p>Eta I guess this has more to do with trying not to stress too much, treating yourself, etc... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-staying-positive-amp-hopeful#post-826505 Mon, 03 Jun 2013 10:18:59 +0000 Mrs.Someone 826505@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I thought we could use a thread on how to stay positive and hopeful for our happy endings. Something I've been having trouble with the past few days! Here are my ideas:</p> <p><b>Find a friend(s) to talk to.</b> We of course have eachother here at HB! I've found it helps to have a few IRL friends who know whats going on too.</p> <p><b>Circle + Bloom meditations.</b> These meditations really helped me turn my moon around a few months ago. Its wearing off at the moment, but I think its because I haven't been taking it to heart as well.</p> <p>What do you have to add? </p>