https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 27 Jun 2026 18:49:31 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-teaching-your-kid-a-lesson-costs-you-money-do-you-still-do-it#post-2472359 Wed, 24 Feb 2016 09:55:04 +0000 Maysprout 2472359@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Like some others that wouldn't be my go to. If they couldn't get their act together than I would but I'm not going to threaten to take away a class or preschool or other activity when there's just as effective ways of dealing with behavior. If it's an exercise related activity I'd just be punishing myself bc kids need to get out that energy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-teaching-your-kid-a-lesson-costs-you-money-do-you-still-do-it#post-2472212 Wed, 24 Feb 2016 08:48:08 +0000 winniebee 2472212@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@erinpye: same! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-teaching-your-kid-a-lesson-costs-you-money-do-you-still-do-it#post-2472158 Wed, 24 Feb 2016 07:58:47 +0000 looch 2472158@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, I have. I've removed my son from lessons before they were finished when he was negatively impacting the class.</p> <p>It's taught me that I can't just enroll my son in classes because I wanted to do classes as a child, he must want to as well. After trying both swimming and soccer with poor results, we've stopped lessons until he asks for them....which may be never, lol. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-teaching-your-kid-a-lesson-costs-you-money-do-you-still-do-it#post-2472098 Wed, 24 Feb 2016 02:03:28 +0000 Cherrybee 2472098@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If you make the threat, you have to follow through! </p> <p>I hate it when we are in a restaurant and DH tells E if she doesn't behave we will go home. Ummm..... I'm hungry, dude! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-teaching-your-kid-a-lesson-costs-you-money-do-you-still-do-it#post-2472057 Tue, 23 Feb 2016 22:45:38 +0000 PawPrints 2472057@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I hope I would. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-teaching-your-kid-a-lesson-costs-you-money-do-you-still-do-it#post-2472012 Tue, 23 Feb 2016 21:09:59 +0000 Eko 2472012@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DS is only 9 months old but I've watched my younger cousins and they always go through a 24 hour learning curve when they figure out they don't get away with as much as they do at home. We have definitely cut fun outings short and wasted money cause I've followed through on threats. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-teaching-your-kid-a-lesson-costs-you-money-do-you-still-do-it#post-2471993 Tue, 23 Feb 2016 20:48:40 +0000 reverie 2471993@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think I'd hedge my bets and not threaten a punishment that would cost me money... right now my kid is 2.5 and even now I pick my battle. Sometimes if he is misbehaving at bedtime I tell him he won't get a song if he keeps it up, but I really shouldn't b/c if we skip the song EVERYONE's night is bad type of thing. If the behavior was directly related to the thing I'm spending money on I'd have to reassess. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-teaching-your-kid-a-lesson-costs-you-money-do-you-still-do-it#post-2471990 Tue, 23 Feb 2016 20:47:45 +0000 2littlepumpkins 2471990@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Right now I wouldn't do those things for the most part because she is three, and I don't do those kind of punitive punishments yet. (It could be though, that she is throwing tantrums and as a result we do cancel something, but that's not necessarily a punishment.) But I would do this. I mean, lots of parenting costs money. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-teaching-your-kid-a-lesson-costs-you-money-do-you-still-do-it#post-2471983 Tue, 23 Feb 2016 20:36:44 +0000 Mrs. Lion 2471983@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Raindrop: this :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-teaching-your-kid-a-lesson-costs-you-money-do-you-still-do-it#post-2471903 Tue, 23 Feb 2016 19:33:02 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2471903@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: oh heck yeah he would have. My parents rarely (never) followed through with a consequence, so by then their arrangement was just a "dance." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-teaching-your-kid-a-lesson-costs-you-money-do-you-still-do-it#post-2471882 Tue, 23 Feb 2016 19:12:37 +0000 mrbee 2471882@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I hope that I would follow through!</p> <p>@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: In the case of your brother, I think if she had taken away the phone.. he would've started cutting the lawn pretty quickly!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-teaching-your-kid-a-lesson-costs-you-money-do-you-still-do-it#post-2471861 Tue, 23 Feb 2016 18:45:59 +0000 Foodnerd81 2471861@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It hasn't come to money yet, but this afternoon I definitely cost myself some sanity by following through. She through a huge fit over a diaper change when I wanted to take her to a music thing at the library that she likes. We are having our washing machine replaces and there is stuff all over the living room and I really wanted to get her out but after her behavior I had to follow through. It sucked way more for me than her. </p> <p>I'm careful about only making threats I will follow through on for that reason. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-teaching-your-kid-a-lesson-costs-you-money-do-you-still-do-it#post-2471858 Tue, 23 Feb 2016 18:41:59 +0000 Raindrop 2471858@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Consistency is key. You make a threat you follow through with it.</p> <p>With that... only make a threat you will want to follow through with! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-teaching-your-kid-a-lesson-costs-you-money-do-you-still-do-it#post-2471842 Tue, 23 Feb 2016 18:25:04 +0000 erinpye 2471842@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I try not to make suggest consequences that I won't follow through on, so I wouldn't use something expensive! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-teaching-your-kid-a-lesson-costs-you-money-do-you-still-do-it#post-2471841 Tue, 23 Feb 2016 18:25:02 +0000 Greentea 2471841@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Probably? I would probably value the lesson over the money. Not big on top down parenting, but I suppose if there was a pre-agreed consequence I would follow through. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-teaching-your-kid-a-lesson-costs-you-money-do-you-still-do-it#post-2471836 Tue, 23 Feb 2016 18:19:22 +0000 Mrs.KMM 2471836@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Well DD is only 9 months so we aren't there yet but in my opinion, the lesson is way more important than the money in the grand scheme of things. So yes, I don't plan to consider cost to me when my kids need to learn a lesson. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-teaching-your-kid-a-lesson-costs-you-money-do-you-still-do-it#post-2471796 Tue, 23 Feb 2016 17:29:25 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2471796@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The thread about chores made me think of this. Do you ever teach your kid a lesson even if it costs you money?</p> <p>When my bro got his first cell phone as a teen he promised to cut the lawn, which would have meant my mom no longer needed to pay for a lawn service. He may have cut the lawn 2 or 3 times with a lot of prompting before my mom gave up. She didn't confiscate the phone because the cost to get out of the contract was high. In this case my mom did not teach him a lesson- honor your commitments.</p> <p>Some younger kid examples would be...</p> <p>Bad behavior means cancelling a pre planned outting (sunk costs would tickets or fees)</p> <p>Bad grades means they no longer can participate in a sport/ extracurricular activity (sunk costs would be uniform, activity fees) </p>