https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 11 May 2026 03:56:39 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-the-next-two-iui-dont-work-we-are-thinking-about-adoption#post-474388 Tue, 01 Jan 2013 21:20:24 +0000 BabyBoecksMom 474388@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bluestriped bee: I don't have any help with adoption, but wanted to say to keep your head up and wish you luck with your next IUI. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-the-next-two-iui-dont-work-we-are-thinking-about-adoption#post-474362 Tue, 01 Jan 2013 21:04:23 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 474362@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bluestriped bee: When you are looking for an agency, it is good to look for an agency that guarantees the fees you've paid if the placement falls through.</p> <p>Ours had a pretty sweet agreement for adoptive parents. If the birth parents changed their minds, 100% of any fees that you already paid will roll into your next situation. Also look for agencies that don't require any fees upfront. We paid half at match and the other half at placement... but if you pay before match, you are then locked into some agency, whereas we were able to list with 2 agencies. This helped keep our wait very short and didn't have any financial impact on us except for having to make 2 copies of everything. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-the-next-two-iui-dont-work-we-are-thinking-about-adoption#post-474244 Tue, 01 Jan 2013 19:59:44 +0000 Mrs. Cowgirl 474244@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bluestriped bee: the international adoption timelines are preeeetty long right now. the payments are spaced out over time (initial application fee due when you first apply, homestudy fee due when you begin your homestudy, country fee due when you accept a referral, etc.), so you don't have to have everything up front. there are very, very, very few failed placements in international adoption (i can think of 1 in the Korea program over the last 5 years), but i think some fees are refundable and others are not.</p> <p>i hope that helps! PM me or email me at cowgirl [at] hellobee [dot] com.</p> <p>and hang in there...making a plan is a great start, and i agree with Mrs. Jacks -- one way or another, you *will* be a momma. and when you have that baby in your arms, you'll know you were meant to be *that* little one's momma. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-the-next-two-iui-dont-work-we-are-thinking-about-adoption#post-474238 Tue, 01 Jan 2013 19:53:08 +0000 BSB 474238@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@loveletter: @Mrs. Jacks: Wow? 9 months? I thought it was going to take two years. I think it might be because I was reading Mrs. Cowgirl's international adoption. That's good to know that a domestic infant adoption will take that long.</p> <p>@Mrs. Jacks: I did go back to your blog posts and started rereading them. Back when you wrote them, adoption was something we would consider after having our biological children. Boy! Things have changed! Something we didn't think of was using a sperm donation. I would like to try to get pregnant. We need to discuss this a little more.</p> <p>So I do have one question. If we go through the process and for some reason or another, the placement doesn't go through. Do we lose the adoption fees that we already paid? Or will that money go towards the next placement? </p> <p>I just want to be prepared on the financial aspects of adoption. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-the-next-two-iui-dont-work-we-are-thinking-about-adoption#post-474145 Tue, 01 Jan 2013 18:40:03 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 474145@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We're in the same boat. So far we have had two failed IUIs. When I go for my annual well woman exam this month, I'm going to speak to my gynecologist and get a referral to a RE. We're going to hear what they have to say and decide if we want to continue on with fertility treatments or adopt. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-the-next-two-iui-dont-work-we-are-thinking-about-adoption#post-474140 Tue, 01 Jan 2013 18:37:25 +0000 Mrs. Train 474140@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>While my husband was doing research on fertility treatments I was looking into agencies. The day we picked our agency I was the happiest person. All the stress of fertility treatments went away. I was gong o be a mother and my body wasn't going to stop us. For us the process took a year from initial contact with the agency to placement. It was nine months of waiting or a match. Go ahead an go though with your treatments but maybe some time looking into which route you want to go, like agency, lawyer, state foster to adopt. Once you pick that look into what services are in you area.</p> <p>We went with a full agency that did domestic infant adoption. Good luck on your next two treatments and know that if you end up adopting, there is no greater love than than a mother to a child and no matter how that child comes ino your life you will have that love! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-the-next-two-iui-dont-work-we-are-thinking-about-adoption#post-474046 Tue, 01 Jan 2013 17:23:25 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 474046@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@loveletter: I agree :). Our process took about 9 months, same as making a baby through gestation. </p> <p>I do have one tip that might be useful starting now BB. In a paper pregnancy, there is a lot of paperwork to gather. I think I've discussed some of the basics in my blog posts.... But if you started gathering some of the basic paperwork needs and filing them away now, you could save a lot of time during a home study. It might be therapeutic during the grueling two week waits, as well :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-the-next-two-iui-dont-work-we-are-thinking-about-adoption#post-474020 Tue, 01 Jan 2013 17:01:21 +0000 loveletter 474020@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We set a limit as to how far we would go with fertility treatment and decided to pursue adoption if it didn't work. It really helped me so much to know that as soon as X didn't work out, we would jump right into adoption and we could focus our attention to something that would definitely end in parenthood for us. I hope you feel the same way and it gives you hope and a light at the end of the tunnel!</p> <p>We are about 4 months into pursuing domestic infant adoption.. if that is something you are interested in, I'd love to answer any questions you have! And we're anticipating the whole process taking less than a year, so sometimes adoption doesn't take as long as you may think!</p> <p>Good luck with everything :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-the-next-two-iui-dont-work-we-are-thinking-about-adoption#post-472347 Mon, 31 Dec 2012 13:04:14 +0000 Foodnerd81 472347@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm glad you guys talked about it and agree on what you would do next. I hope it works out one way or the other soon for you!</p> <p>DH and I had talked about it before we even started TTC, and we had agreed the IUI was about as far as we would go before seeking adoption. But it's different talking about it in the abstract than when you are in the situation. Good luck. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-the-next-two-iui-dont-work-we-are-thinking-about-adoption#post-472346 Mon, 31 Dec 2012 13:03:37 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 472346@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have lots of tips and advice. :) </p> <p>You have my email right?</p> <p>Maybe thinking that you'll be a mom one way or another will help take some of the pressure off for the next few IUIs?</p> <p>You will be a mama no matter what sweetie! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-the-next-two-iui-dont-work-we-are-thinking-about-adoption#post-472325 Mon, 31 Dec 2012 12:58:58 +0000 Mrs. Pen 472325@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm sorry about the IUI :( I've heard the third time is usually most successful! I really hope they work and good luck :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-the-next-two-iui-dont-work-we-are-thinking-about-adoption#post-472321 Mon, 31 Dec 2012 12:57:15 +0000 autumnlove 472321@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Wishing you the best! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-the-next-two-iui-dont-work-we-are-thinking-about-adoption#post-472313 Mon, 31 Dec 2012 12:55:21 +0000 Mrsbells 472313@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I dont have much knowlege on the adoption process, just wishing you all the best for your next IUI </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-the-next-two-iui-dont-work-we-are-thinking-about-adoption#post-472302 Mon, 31 Dec 2012 12:52:39 +0000 T.H.O.U. 472302@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm sorry to hear this but I'm glad that you guys have a plan of action and are on the same page. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-the-next-two-iui-dont-work-we-are-thinking-about-adoption#post-472291 Mon, 31 Dec 2012 12:48:24 +0000 BSB 472291@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>With my first unsuccessful IUI this month, I got talking with the DH on our future plans if our next two IUIs don't work. We probably won't be trying IVF. We are thinking our next step will be adopting.</p> <p>Any tips or advice?</p> <p>I know there is still a chance the IUIs might work but I know the adoption process will be a long one. </p>