https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 06 May 2026 02:29:29 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-are-a-one-and-done-dropout#post-2362827 Thu, 19 Nov 2015 10:37:03 +0000 Aimed121 2362827@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thank you ladies for your input. I love that there was so many changes of heart! Our LO is almost 3 and we may be starting to have a change of heart too - but still comfortably on the fence.! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-are-a-one-and-done-dropout#post-2341768 Sun, 01 Nov 2015 20:17:30 +0000 erinbaderin 2341768@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband was pretty much one and done, and I had always seen myself with two but after 5 years of infertility I didn't think it was going to be an option (wasn't going through IVF again). Having one also was working well for us, we'd gotten into a good rhythm. Then I got surprise-pregnant, so the decision was kind of made for us. It's actually taken me a while to come to terms with having two (which is weird because I'd always thought that I wanted a second but wouldn't get to have one) - I'm anxious about changing a family dynamic that works great. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-are-a-one-and-done-dropout#post-2341749 Sun, 01 Nov 2015 19:52:06 +0000 2littlepumpkins 2341749@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was only truly one and done for the first maybe six months, maybe a little less. Then I felt like maybe I could survive it again. :P I don't think that really counts though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-are-a-one-and-done-dropout#post-2341680 Sun, 01 Nov 2015 17:48:39 +0000 OhCaptain 2341680@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We were never 100% one and done, and our second was an oopsie. When I was pregnant I was sure I didn't want another and now I can't quite close the door on the idea of a third. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-are-a-one-and-done-dropout#post-2341627 Sun, 01 Nov 2015 15:59:08 +0000 MoonMoon 2341627@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We said we were one and done before having kids. But literally the day LO was born, I was like um... I want another! But DH isn't on board, though he's not 100% against it either. Now it's a matter of timing. We're both getting older, and I'm about to start a nursing program and embarking on a dramatic career change! So I have no idea if it'll happen, or when, just that I really want it to! Sigh... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-are-a-one-and-done-dropout#post-2341576 Sun, 01 Nov 2015 14:49:22 +0000 Tanjowen 2341576@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Change of heart. And our son getting to a point in being independent enough where I can actually visualize having another and it doesn't stress me out. Currently trying to get pregnant! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-are-a-one-and-done-dropout#post-2341409 Sun, 01 Nov 2015 10:40:27 +0000 sorrycharlie 2341409@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I always wanted more, but after LO1, my husband decided he was one and done. We actually had a LOT of intense fighting over it, because I felt lied to (we had pre-marriage talks of 3!). He actually had a change of heart when our LO was 18 months, and we got pregnant try #1. So there was no changing minds again ha. We are definitely done now, though - we both are happy with our two! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-are-a-one-and-done-dropout#post-2341400 Sun, 01 Nov 2015 10:24:19 +0000 lovehoneybee 2341400@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>There were several factors. My husband was 98% sure we were one and done. I went back and forth a lot, but he wasn't on board I didn't want another. I just asked him that he not completely shut the door yet....no permanent measures until we had both been 100% sure for at least a year. </p> <p>Couple things that changed his mind: I went back to work, so he didn't feel the pressure of being the sole provider. We were in the process of looking for a larger house. Evan was becoming very independent and is almost potty-trained. My mom was planning on retiring and moving up, so she'd be around to help me (D works second shift so I do evenings alone).</p> <p>Apparently he'd been thinking about it a while. In late September we were at a wedding and he told a friend that there was a 50/50 chance he'd want another. In mid-January he told me he was ready for another. I had been thinking about it too...I was trying to come to peace with only having one. I thought I might always have a little bit of regret, but I had a long list of positives. I was in a "I'm okay with one" state of mind when he told me wanted another. </p> <p>I decided to go with it...I wasn't gung-ho about it at the time, but figured it took us over a year to conceive our first, so I'd have time to get excited about it. I got my IUD out in late February, had my first period in mid-March and got a BFP in mid-April. So no real transition period, lol. </p> <p>I was in disbelief for a while, but we're excited about it now! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-are-a-one-and-done-dropout#post-2341370 Sun, 01 Nov 2015 09:37:00 +0000 MrsH 2341370@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Change of heart. Wanted LO to have a sibling for later in life. No transition really. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-are-a-one-and-done-dropout#post-2341328 Sun, 01 Nov 2015 08:18:03 +0000 Aimed121 2341328@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If you are a one and done dropout - what changed for you? Was it a financial situation change or other practical change, a change of heart or an oppsie! Also how was the transition to your new plans? </p>