Hellobee Boards Topic: If you are done having kids,

Hellobee Boards Topic: If you are done having kids, https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 03 May 2026 01:57:33 +0000 bushelandapeck on "If you are done having kids," https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-are-done-having-kids#post-2503907 Wed, 23 Mar 2016 07:22:30 +0000 bushelandapeck 2503907@https://boards.hellobee.com/ We have two and had always talked about possibly having a third....but now that DD is 17 mos, I think we can safely say we are good with the two we have. She is JUST now starting to STTN, and I don't think I could mentally go through another year or more of not sleeping. I'm going to give it until she turns two to make a firm decision, but I don't see anything changing at this point. looch on "If you are done having kids," https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-are-done-having-kids#post-2503872 Wed, 23 Mar 2016 06:23:47 +0000 looch 2503872@https://boards.hellobee.com/ We are parents of an only child and I knew that it would likely be our only child. I guess the way I look at it is a bit different, I never planned to have a certain number of children, I know it isn't really under my control anyway, so I tried to enjoy every moment as it came. Mentally, I didn't really prepare...it was more the path my life took I guess. sometimesshesings on "If you are done having kids," https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-are-done-having-kids#post-2503839 Tue, 22 Mar 2016 23:39:39 +0000 sometimesshesings 2503839@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @hellobeeboston: we're in the exact same place. We both feel totally done at two! We have lots of adult hobbies and things we want to do once we're out of the young children fog. I'm enjoying the baby phase, but I'm looking forward to having older kids, too. Also, pregnancy makes me miserable! JennyD on "If you are done having kids," https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-are-done-having-kids#post-2503805 Tue, 22 Mar 2016 22:04:00 +0000 JennyD 2503805@https://boards.hellobee.com/ We're one and done. We talked about how many kids we wanted before I was pregnant. I had it in my head that we had to decide how many kids we were going to have before we started. My husband suggested we just start with one and see how it goes. Which led to us contemplating the merits of only having one child. The I got pregnant quickly and hated pretty much every minute of it. Through my whole pregnancy we talked more about having only one. By the end of my pregnancy we were both 90% one and done. I didn't want to make any rash decisions and I half expected to change my mind once she was born. We split parental leave (Canadians) and neither of us loved it. Neither of us liked the baby phase. We sold or gave away pretty much all the baby stuff as she outgrew it. We revisited it every so often (like every time someone else had a baby), but neither of us ever had any interest. By the time she was 2 we felt pretty confident we were done. Neither of us was really sad or mourning anything. We're just not baby people. We are loving having a little kid though! One kid suits us and our selfish lifestyle just fine. NavyRN2012 on "If you are done having kids," https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-are-done-having-kids#post-2503064 Tue, 22 Mar 2016 12:33:17 +0000 NavyRN2012 2503064@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I've got 3, and the baby will be a year old next week. I just look ahead to all of the fun things well be able to do as a family that we struggle to do now. We're big wimps, so super fun vacations and the like have been put on the back burner until the kids are older. Also, we have no family close by, and my husband refuses to allow a non family member to babysit since they're so young, so I'm looking forward to when they're "old enough" for a sitter so we can have some kid free time. hellobeeboston on "If you are done having kids," https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-are-done-having-kids#post-2502971 Tue, 22 Mar 2016 11:29:55 +0000 hellobeeboston 2502971@https://boards.hellobee.com/ We both just feel totally done. There isn't really any part of us saying we're not sure if we want a third. I feel lucky that we're both on the same page in this regard because I think it would be really hard if I wanted another and he didn't, or vice versa..... My new baby is only 5 months old though, so it's easy to say now, but I can't see us changing our mind at all. Plus DH is probably going to get snipped so that will be that! jetsa on "If you are done having kids," https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-are-done-having-kids#post-2502940 Tue, 22 Mar 2016 11:14:10 +0000 jetsa 2502940@https://boards.hellobee.com/ We are done my youngest is 10 months and we have closed the gates. We very much considered being one and done but sis was a great surprise. We always knew we'd never have more than two so as soon as I got pregnant we knew we were done. I truthfully don't enjoy the newborn stage so for me so far I have not minded her getting older the closer she gets to a year and becomes more toddler a mourn it a little bit but I just keep looking forward to interacting with her when she's our sons age. He's wild and crazy but so much fun, I can't wait to see the 2 of them together and I know I'll enjoy it more since I won't be pregnant. ladybee on "If you are done having kids," https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-are-done-having-kids#post-2502859 Tue, 22 Mar 2016 10:11:38 +0000 ladybee 2502859@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @runnerd: my exact feelings. DH is 100% done, I'm 90%. I don't know if I could miscarry again, or spend another 12 weeks on the couch while my boys watch tv, or suffer through my depression and anxiety during pregancy to only have it get worse when I was done. Emotionally it's too much on me but I am so sad I'll never have a daughter it makes me think maybe. I keep thinking how great it would be to have two boys to look after their little sister. runnerd on "If you are done having kids," https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-are-done-having-kids#post-2502831 Tue, 22 Mar 2016 09:50:06 +0000 runnerd 2502831@https://boards.hellobee.com/ We were always planning for 2, then I had several months where I wanted to keep the door open for 3, and DH couldn't decide either. Then we had another miscarriage when TTC #2, and a rocky start to my current pregnancy. Once we got past the scary stuff, we just knew we couldn't emotionally do this stuff again. Plus neither of us love the baby stage, so we aren't mourning that. I just occasionally mourn that I will not have a daughter, and that we won't have large holidays get togethers where large family comes home to see us. wrkbrk on "If you are done having kids," https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-are-done-having-kids#post-2502820 Tue, 22 Mar 2016 09:42:37 +0000 wrkbrk 2502820@https://boards.hellobee.com/ We are 90% one and done and even though DS is still small, I already feel sad! I know it's (most likely) the right decision, but like a PP said, I kept my very favorite of his newborn things anyway just ... because. :) ModernDayJibarita on "If you are done having kids," https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-are-done-having-kids#post-2502787 Tue, 22 Mar 2016 09:11:12 +0000 ModernDayJibarita 2502787@https://boards.hellobee.com/ We started TTC knowing that we planned to be one and done so I've been treating this pregnancy as my only chance and have enjoyed savoring every second. We are only 26 so we are giving ourselves until our LO's 3rd birthday to permanently decide whether we will TTC again, pursue adoption or be done at 1 (Options 2 and 3 are more likely) catlady on "If you are done having kids," https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-are-done-having-kids#post-2502758 Tue, 22 Mar 2016 08:53:46 +0000 catlady 2502758@https://boards.hellobee.com/ We are not done yet (TTC #2) but I am already mentally prepared to be done. I don't know if it's because my LO is already so independent (2.5 years now) or because I've already had a couple losses with what should have been my "last pregnancy", but I am ready to say goodbye to this stage of my life. On a practical note, we are running out of space in our attic and I keep having to donate or throw away baby things that I meant to keep for our second child. ShootingStar on "If you are done having kids," https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-are-done-having-kids#post-2502749 Tue, 22 Mar 2016 08:49:17 +0000 ShootingStar 2502749@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I am pregnant with LO2 and we are sure we are done done done. DH said yesterday that it was going to be sad when we were totally done with the baby stage. So I told him we need to try to enjoy the next 1-1.5 years as much as we can. We have 5 more months to enjoy DS being our only child, then another year or so of having a baby, then that stage of our lives is over. I can't handle being pregnant again (I hate it) and between our work situations and toddlers being toddlers, we just can't do any more than 2. So I'm going to soak up the newborn snuggles as much as I can, and I'm going to look forward to all the fun stuff we'll do as a family with bigger kids. ValentineMommy on "If you are done having kids," https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-are-done-having-kids#post-2502720 Tue, 22 Mar 2016 08:38:03 +0000 ValentineMommy 2502720@https://boards.hellobee.com/ We aren't done (hopefully), but I'd imagine once we're done, it's going to feel REALLY good to get rid of all the baby stuff, clothes, etc that are taking up our entire house. I can't wait for that. Everything else I think I'm going to be really sad about. Baby snuggles....all the "firsts"....etc. Interested to see what others have to say, because I'm afraid it's going to be a hard transition for me. meredithNYC on "If you are done having kids," https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-are-done-having-kids#post-2502695 Tue, 22 Mar 2016 08:25:16 +0000 meredithNYC 2502695@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Same boat as you! I'll be 35 in June, my second LO is 11 months old and I'm SO back and forth - though about 65% leaning towards having a third. I am dreading pregnancy and newborn time, but I keep reminding myself that it's a tiny amount of time in the grand scheme of things. No idea if/when I'll be ready to take the plunge, honestly. Periwinkle on "If you are done having kids," https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-are-done-having-kids#post-2502680 Tue, 22 Mar 2016 08:15:00 +0000 Periwinkle 2502680@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I struggle with this too- I'm 12 weeks pregnant now and have a pretty good feeling that this is our last and am trying to take special care to savor this pregnancy. I definitely don't feel "totally done" but who knows how I will feel as this pregnancy progresses. I sort of thought I would feel so over it even early on and that would be the signal to me that this was it, but I actually like being pregnant (most of the time!). T.H.O.U. on "If you are done having kids," https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-are-done-having-kids#post-2502665 Tue, 22 Mar 2016 08:03:30 +0000 T.H.O.U. 2502665@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Even though we weren't sure after 2 if we were done, I was done with some of the baby stuff. We did a pretty big purge once he got through most of the newborn stage and just kept our favorite things. Little things like extra rattles, silly hats, extra burp cloths, etc all got passed on. Now that we are pregnant with #3 I dont feel like I am missing any of that stuff. and its nice to know that I just have my favorite toys/gear remaining without so much clutter. edelweiss on "If you are done having kids," https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-are-done-having-kids#post-2502662 Tue, 22 Mar 2016 08:00:57 +0000 edelweiss 2502662@https://boards.hellobee.com/ i'm trying to savor these blissful baby days--LO2 is 8.5 months, so more than a lump, but not a moody toddler like LO1. knowing it is my last, i'm trying to take it all in but things are so busy and i will feel bittersweet no matter what. i ask my husband sometimes if we should have another, just to put it out there, knowing that we won't. he laughs and asks if i'm trying to kill him. winniebee on "If you are done having kids," https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-are-done-having-kids#post-2502645 Tue, 22 Mar 2016 07:46:31 +0000 winniebee 2502645@https://boards.hellobee.com/ We were a 2, maybe 3 family. I hated not knowing if everything was my *last*. Now that I'm pregnant with #3, this is DEFINITELY our last. I can't say I'm savoring the first trimester, but I'm definitely happy it will be my last : ) Mrs. Sunshine on "If you are done having kids," https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-are-done-having-kids#post-2502642 Tue, 22 Mar 2016 07:42:24 +0000 Mrs. Sunshine 2502642@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I'm only 7 weeks pregnant with #3. We were also in the maybe 3 camp and this pregnancy came earlier than we planned but the second that test came up positive I knew I was done. Ash on "If you are done having kids," https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-are-done-having-kids#post-2502628 Tue, 22 Mar 2016 07:31:14 +0000 Ash 2502628@https://boards.hellobee.com/ We're in the same boat as you! Adira on "If you are done having kids," https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-are-done-having-kids#post-2502623 Tue, 22 Mar 2016 07:28:58 +0000 Adira 2502623@https://boards.hellobee.com/ We always planned to only have two, so while pregnant with my second, I knew he would be my last. I've just tried to embrace it as much as possible and look forward to the future. I'm sad that Logan is my last baby, but I look forward to him and Xander being old enough to enjoy many of the same things together. We have a fun future ahead of us! mrsjyw on "If you are done having kids," https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-are-done-having-kids#post-2502613 Tue, 22 Mar 2016 07:20:42 +0000 mrsjyw 2502613@https://boards.hellobee.com/ how did you prepare emotionally? Did you know you were done when you were last pregnant? We're a maybe three camp and we waffle back and forth. DS2 is only 8 months so we have plenty of time to make the final decision, but I also prefer to be done with pregnancy and NB days earlier, so there's that to consider as well. I was pregnant most of last year and a part of me misses it! I know I'm crazy.