https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 17 May 2026 16:48:10 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-are-going-to-a-destination-wedding#post-2213878 Fri, 19 Jun 2015 17:46:12 +0000 HabesBabe 2213878@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If they flat out said, "no gifts" or "your presence is gift enough," then no, I would not send an additional gift. Otherwise, I would give them $, but not as much as I would for a local wedding. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-are-going-to-a-destination-wedding#post-2213861 Fri, 19 Jun 2015 17:16:18 +0000 DigAPony 2213861@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No way. My best friend and I both had destination weddings two months apart, and we were each other's maid of honor. We both spent a lot of money on each other's weddings and didn't get each other gifts. I wouldn't get a gift for a destination wedding unless I could easily afford it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-are-going-to-a-destination-wedding#post-2213793 Fri, 19 Jun 2015 15:40:07 +0000 Raindrop 2213793@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it depends on how close you are to the person. We went to a destination wedding and gave even more than we normally do because we felt close to the couple that was getting married. So it was the thousands of dollars + an even more expensive gift than normal since we like them a lot. My secondary love languange is gifts though so that might be the reason I do this. My main love languange is quailty time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-are-going-to-a-destination-wedding#post-2213753 Fri, 19 Jun 2015 15:12:06 +0000 birdofafeather 2213753@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i would do something small like a gift card to a favorite restaurant for a date night out. i've done that for friends and they loved it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-are-going-to-a-destination-wedding#post-2213672 Fri, 19 Jun 2015 14:04:55 +0000 Smurfette 2213672@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@2PeasinaPod: yeah that is what I am thinking something personal, which I know she likes that kind of stuff. I mean no one will bring a gift there, at least I hope so they don't have to figure out how to get home.<br /> Playa Mujeres, 30 mins outside of Cancun. It is a new resort that opened in Feb. DH and I didn't love Cabo but I heard this side of Mexico is totally different. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-are-going-to-a-destination-wedding#post-2213646 Fri, 19 Jun 2015 13:44:39 +0000 2PeasinaPod 2213646@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Smurfette: Where in Mexico? It's actually where we honeymooned and we loved it! As for the gift question, I always feel too weird not bringing a gift, so I would get something small or thoughtful. I turn to Etsy for those types of gifts! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-are-going-to-a-destination-wedding#post-2213639 Fri, 19 Jun 2015 13:39:18 +0000 Smurfette 2213639@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@wheres_c: Aruba! Loved it </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-are-going-to-a-destination-wedding#post-2213636 Fri, 19 Jun 2015 13:36:35 +0000 wheres_c 2213636@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Smurfette: Where did you honeymoon?<br /> We cancelled our honeymoon since I was so sick. We're going to MIL's 4th wedding this year and considering that our belated honeymoon. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-are-going-to-a-destination-wedding#post-2213634 Fri, 19 Jun 2015 13:33:09 +0000 Mrs.KMM 2213634@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would still gift as normal. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-are-going-to-a-destination-wedding#post-2213601 Fri, 19 Jun 2015 13:05:55 +0000 Andrea 2213601@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I still gift my normal amount since it's my choice to attend. It's a vacation for me anyway. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-are-going-to-a-destination-wedding#post-2213592 Fri, 19 Jun 2015 12:54:35 +0000 Smurfette 2213592@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@hilsy85: I have no desire to go to Mexico but it is one of my closest friends and I am a bridesmaid. I know we will have a blast so it will be worth the money. I just can't decide how I feel about the gift or no gift!<br /> @lemondrop: everyone is leaving their kids at home so it is going to be a blast to vaca with friends sans kids like we used to do. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-are-going-to-a-destination-wedding#post-2213567 Fri, 19 Jun 2015 12:24:02 +0000 lemondrop 2213567@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We are and we'll still gift towards their honeymoon, not extravagant, but we are also using the wedding as an excuse to take a vacation :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-are-going-to-a-destination-wedding#post-2213564 Fri, 19 Jun 2015 12:20:59 +0000 hilsy85 2213564@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Smurfette: we give money for weddings regardless of who it is... I would figure that the only was we would go would be is if it is a place we want to visit, and we could enjoy it--if we couldn't do those things, then prob wouldn't attend the wedding but would still send a check! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-are-going-to-a-destination-wedding#post-2213552 Fri, 19 Jun 2015 12:08:03 +0000 lamariniere 2213552@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We are going to be in this situation this summer. It's not a destination wedding, per say, but it's going to be a boatload of money since we have to travel so far to get there. I'm still going to give a cash gift, but I haven't decided how much yet. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-are-going-to-a-destination-wedding#post-2213532 Fri, 19 Jun 2015 11:51:17 +0000 NovBaby1112 2213532@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We had a destination wedding and I did not expect any gifts what so ever. Not only were we asking people to fly, stay at hotel, etc., which is expensive, but I also didn't want to take a bunch of gifts home or on honeymoon! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-are-going-to-a-destination-wedding#post-2213528 Fri, 19 Jun 2015 11:47:02 +0000 Smurfette 2213528@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrsjyw: @wheres_c: our 5 year anniversary is the day before they get married so it is a get away for us. We planned on going back to where we honeymooned, but Mexico instead now. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-are-going-to-a-destination-wedding#post-2213524 Fri, 19 Jun 2015 11:43:13 +0000 MoonMoon 2213524@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When I say no gift, I really mean it, so I'd honor their wishes too! But of course I'd give a card. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-are-going-to-a-destination-wedding#post-2213493 Fri, 19 Jun 2015 11:18:43 +0000 MrsBrewer 2213493@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When we went to our friends destination wedding, DH was a groomsman, and they had a reception back home. We just gave a gift at the reception back home. Nothing at the wedding itself. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-are-going-to-a-destination-wedding#post-2213488 Fri, 19 Jun 2015 11:15:37 +0000 looch 2213488@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would give something, but I am not sure what, specifically. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-are-going-to-a-destination-wedding#post-2213483 Fri, 19 Jun 2015 11:12:20 +0000 .twist. 2213483@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If I were invited to the shower (and gave a gift there) I wouldn't give a gift at the wedding and I'd just bring a card. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-are-going-to-a-destination-wedding#post-2213481 Fri, 19 Jun 2015 11:10:11 +0000 wheres_c 2213481@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrsjyw: Ditto!</p> <p>We think of it as our little vacay too. If we can't afford the trip and the gift, we just send the gift. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-are-going-to-a-destination-wedding#post-2213436 Fri, 19 Jun 2015 10:35:33 +0000 mrsjyw 2213436@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I still gift normally. The people we would go on a destination wedding for are close friends and family, so my gifting wouldn't change because of travel costs. DH and I think of it as part of our own lil getaway too! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-are-going-to-a-destination-wedding#post-2213433 Fri, 19 Jun 2015 10:34:26 +0000 cat620 2213433@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would probably buy a small gift or bring something with sentimental meaning. I hate showing up empty handed. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-are-going-to-a-destination-wedding#post-2213308 Fri, 19 Jun 2015 09:33:39 +0000 autumnlove 2213308@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I still gifted. They had a registry and they were very open about wanting cash! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-are-going-to-a-destination-wedding#post-2213289 Fri, 19 Jun 2015 09:23:16 +0000 psw27 2213289@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>none of my destination wedding brides have ever said no gifts! So yes, I still got a gift, but probably just cash. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-are-going-to-a-destination-wedding#post-2213286 Fri, 19 Jun 2015 09:21:56 +0000 Smurfette 2213286@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@yoursilverlining: I would give it to them before.<br /> @hilsy85: Yep, in Mexico. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-are-going-to-a-destination-wedding#post-2213268 Fri, 19 Jun 2015 09:14:01 +0000 Alivoo01 2213268@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd get something small because I feel weird not gifting. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-are-going-to-a-destination-wedding#post-2213217 Fri, 19 Jun 2015 08:55:23 +0000 raspberries 2213217@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had a destination wedding and told people the same thing, and most just gave us cards with a $25 or $50 gift card inside - still way more generous than I was expecting, and easy to transport home! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-are-going-to-a-destination-wedding#post-2213209 Fri, 19 Jun 2015 08:53:55 +0000 CakeLady 2213209@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd probably get something small and personal/sentimental rather than a typical cash/household item. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-are-going-to-a-destination-wedding#post-2213204 Fri, 19 Jun 2015 08:53:14 +0000 hilsy85 2213204@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Destination like we have to fly? Or like a tropical island? Either way I doubt we would give less as a gift...maybe a little less? </p>