Hellobee Boards Topic: If you are one and done, how do you feel about moms with LOs your age going on to have #2/#3?

Hellobee Boards Topic: If you are one and done, how do you feel about moms with LOs your age going on to have #2/#3? https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 05 May 2026 22:27:52 +0000 twodoghouse on "If you are one and done, how do you feel about moms with LOs your age going on to have #2/#3?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-are-one-and-done-how-do-you-feel-about-moms-with-los-your-age-going-on-to-have-23#post-2000350 Sun, 28 Dec 2014 21:04:31 +0000 twodoghouse 2000350@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I'm not one and done, as I had twins, but I am one pregnancy and done. I'm worried that I'll get pregnancy jealousy when my new mom friends move on to baby #2+. I didn't even enjoy pregnancy that much, but that anticipation of meeting a new little person you created is so incredible. I'm sad I'll never go through that again. But then I remind myself that I'll never go through those terrible exhausting newborn days again. Never have to go through post partum recovery or figuring out the pain of breastfeeding again. When my LOs get out of diapers, we will be done forever. When they finally sleep through the night (please god let that happen someday) we won't ever have to do the sleep deprivation again. That stuff is pretty awesome, you know? I keep telling myself that! ElbieKay on "If you are one and done, how do you feel about moms with LOs your age going on to have #2/#3?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-are-one-and-done-how-do-you-feel-about-moms-with-los-your-age-going-on-to-have-23#post-2000319 Sun, 28 Dec 2014 20:40:37 +0000 ElbieKay 2000319@https://boards.hellobee.com/ We're not sure yet if we will have a second. That being said, I don't really relate to the concept of mom friends. I know some women from the new moms group I attended during maternity leave. They're nice and all, but having babies the same age is not enough of a basis for friendship for me. I feel much closer to my longstanding best friends, and I have so little free time that I would rather spend it with people who I have known for a long time than with people I just met this year. Many of my older friends have kids who are older than my son. Some of them have more than one kid. We manage to relate to each other just fine either way. Mrs. Jacks on "If you are one and done, how do you feel about moms with LOs your age going on to have #2/#3?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-are-one-and-done-how-do-you-feel-about-moms-with-los-your-age-going-on-to-have-23#post-2000251 Sun, 28 Dec 2014 19:59:50 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 2000251@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I'm obviously not one and done, but based on my demographic ( older moms) and interests (environmental, political), many of my friends are one and done. I love hanging out with those moms and dads because of the calm and organization they bring to my life. I'm afraid that they won't want to hang out with us any more once we have the third! I hope that's not the case and don't think it will be for good friends. MamaBehr on "If you are one and done, how do you feel about moms with LOs your age going on to have #2/#3?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-are-one-and-done-how-do-you-feel-about-moms-with-los-your-age-going-on-to-have-23#post-2000207 Sun, 28 Dec 2014 19:14:40 +0000 MamaBehr 2000207@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I'm not a one and done mom, but I have gone on to have three kids, where most of my mom friends only have two. I was a little worried I would be forgotten by all of them, but it has been nice. My mom friends who are done having kids have LOVED the baby cuddles from my youngest, and I still get to see my friends. Of course I have no mom friends that have LOs the same age as my youngest, but I figure those will come once my older ones start school etc. ps I hope you don't mind me posting on your thread, since I'm not one and done Mrs. Fox on "If you are one and done, how do you feel about moms with LOs your age going on to have #2/#3?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-are-one-and-done-how-do-you-feel-about-moms-with-los-your-age-going-on-to-have-23#post-2000202 Sun, 28 Dec 2014 19:07:10 +0000 Mrs. Fox 2000202@https://boards.hellobee.com/ God, everything you're saying feels so true to me. I could have written your post almost word for word. lawbee11 on "If you are one and done, how do you feel about moms with LOs your age going on to have #2/#3?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-are-one-and-done-how-do-you-feel-about-moms-with-los-your-age-going-on-to-have-23#post-2000122 Sun, 28 Dec 2014 18:14:33 +0000 lawbee11 2000122@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I feel like finding mom friends is hard whether you have one kid or five. My closest mom friend was my friend before we had kids so I don't worry as much about how it'll affect that relationship. It's hard getting together as it is so I can see how it would be even more difficult if she has more LOs. I think there are a lot of ways moms can relate to one another no matter the age of their children. I just try to focus on all the positives of being done :) looch on "If you are one and done, how do you feel about moms with LOs your age going on to have #2/#3?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-are-one-and-done-how-do-you-feel-about-moms-with-los-your-age-going-on-to-have-23#post-2000108 Sun, 28 Dec 2014 18:04:28 +0000 looch 2000108@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I don't worry about it too much, truth be told. I like the calm of my home and the ability to make decisions without having to consider a million things. As for making mom friends, I love the ones in my son's preschool, but I have a tough time scheduling things outside of the school week. It is something I am working on, though. DillonLion on "If you are one and done, how do you feel about moms with LOs your age going on to have #2/#3?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-are-one-and-done-how-do-you-feel-about-moms-with-los-your-age-going-on-to-have-23#post-1999620 Sun, 28 Dec 2014 17:45:00 +0000 DillonLion 1999620@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I have been firmly in the "one and done" camp since becoming a mom. I am an only child, so the current family dynamic seems very natural to me. I also had a traumatic birth experience as well as an extremely challenging breastfeeding experience. I don't care to repeat those. I also feel like our financial situation can provide a very good life to LO that would be tampered if we were to have more children. I do struggle slightly knowing that my fellow moms are kind of moving on without me when having more children. I know that having 2+ babies is going to be much more challenging than just one, so I worry we won't be able to relate as much. I already have had a very difficult time finding mom friends because we don't have time to get together and have different work statuses, making it hard to connect. I worry that being the mom of an only will further isolate me in the realm of making mom friends. Can any one-and-done moms relate to these feelings?