https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 03 Apr 2026 22:54:33 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-conceived-after-a-loss#post-1866517 Wed, 17 Sep 2014 14:53:28 +0000 Mrs. Detour 1866517@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've had two chemicals and am not pregnant 2 cycles after the most recent loss. I'm just over 20 weeks and I still worry all the time. Honestly, the 3D ultrasound pictures, baby kicks, and the heartbeat have made my worries worse since now I know what I would be losing. This journey is a long one. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-conceived-after-a-loss#post-1866278 Wed, 17 Sep 2014 13:22:51 +0000 MCD919 1866278@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So sorry for your loss. We started trying right away after my mc (D&amp;C) at 9 weeks and got pg on the second cycle. Unfortunately, that was an early mc also, which was really difficult. We conceived again 6 cycles after that. It was so hard at the time, but unbelievably worth it now that LO is here. For me, the worry started to subside around 20 weeks.. But some anxiety is always there. I got a Doppler, which helped. Sending lots of positive thoughts your way!<br /> ETA: I also had multiple beta tests &amp; a 6 week viability ultrasound. Not sure if the extra monitoring helped my anxiety or made it worse :bummed: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-conceived-after-a-loss#post-1866216 Wed, 17 Sep 2014 12:58:02 +0000 Torchwood 1866216@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>After my first at 9.5 weeks, they recommended we wait a couple cycles, but only for emotional reasons (that's all they told us at the time), so we only waited until I got AF back (so basically skipped the first ovulation). Conceived immediately, but lost that one also, at 5 weeks. We waited until some testing was done to see if I had clotting issues or anything (all negative) and were told to wait one more after that (to allow my endometrial lining to recover), so I believe it was a total of 3 months before we tried again. That time it took a little longer, but not much, we conceived on the second month trying. Because that one made it so far (33 weeks), we were told to wait at least 3 months after AF came back before trying again. But a pregnancy that lasts that long is much harder on your body than a short one, so I'm actually surprised we don't have to wait longer. </p> <p>And I agree with what several above said, that you never really stop worrying entirely, but you can still enjoy the pregnancy. Even once we found out about our daughter's issues and knew there was a good chance we'd lose her, I still was able to enjoy it some of the time. I just found I had to choose to enjoy the moment. Especially with my showers, which happened to fall right after we got the news that things were looking pretty bad, I decided that every baby deserves to be celebrated, and that I was going to celebrate her life, no matter how short it might turn out to be. </p> <p>Though, all that being said, I'll probably pursue some counseling to keep my anxiety under control next time, and there's definitely no shame in that if you wind up more stressed than you expect in the future. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-conceived-after-a-loss#post-1865383 Tue, 16 Sep 2014 22:52:50 +0000 PawPrints 1865383@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I miscarried at 6 weeks, and jumped right back into TTC immediately. We conceived 2.5 months after the miscarriage, and so far it seems to have stuck. The miscarriage didn't change my approach to HPT testing, I still started testing at 11 DPO each cycle. </p> <p>I've spent most of the first trimester memorizing miscarriage statistics, but now that I'm 11 weeks along, I am starting to relax and really embrace the reality that an actual baby is going to be a part of our lives. I didn't think I would ever get here, but I am feeling confident and optimistic at last. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-conceived-after-a-loss#post-1865104 Tue, 16 Sep 2014 18:28:47 +0000 maddyz 1865104@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I miss carried at 8 weeks just after christmas, waited about a month and then had a D&amp;C. We ended up waiting a few months because that just felt right. I got pregnant in June and realized at about 10 weeks that I needed to let myself fall in love with this little bean. I deiced that taking the risk and feeling the joy and hope was what I needed. I wasn't until i heard a heartbeat at 15w that I really let myself relax a little. I still have moments of worry but I am trying to welcome that as a natural part of motherhood and not let it grow to big.</p> <p>It's hard. But helped me to think about it like falling in love and that always comes with risk and great joy.</p> <p>good luck! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-conceived-after-a-loss#post-1865100 Tue, 16 Sep 2014 18:25:12 +0000 Ash 1865100@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The worry never went away for me...</p> <p>We took the first cycle off and conceived 4 months later.</p> <p>So sorry you're going through this. It's such an awful feeling. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-conceived-after-a-loss#post-1865098 Tue, 16 Sep 2014 18:23:25 +0000 knittylady 1865098@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lilteacherbee: fwiw I wasn't very anxious at all for my second successful (?) pregnancy. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-conceived-after-a-loss#post-1865074 Tue, 16 Sep 2014 18:03:53 +0000 lovehoneybee 1865074@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Big hugs, again. </p> <p>We didn't wait to start trying again, and it took 3 cycles to conceive E. It was a pretty early loss (just short of 5 weeks), and happened naturally. </p> <p> :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-conceived-after-a-loss#post-1865068 Tue, 16 Sep 2014 18:00:46 +0000 littleveesmommy 1865068@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Big hugs and so sorry about your loss :heart: I had a chemical pregnancy at 4 weeks in August 2013 after taking a few months off from a blighted ovum in March. The chemical happened on the first day of a cruise vacation so I didn't get to speak with my OB until a week later and she said I didn't need to go in since it sounds like everything happened naturally. She also said we didn't need to wait a cycle. We ended up conceiving DD#2 the next cycle but it took a long time for the worry to go away. I didnt take weekly belly pics like I did with DD#1 because I was afraid to get too attached. I greatly regret that now but at the same time it was really hard to not worry. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-conceived-after-a-loss#post-1864661 Tue, 16 Sep 2014 13:39:10 +0000 Pepper 1864661@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It took us awhile, I think I had some luteal phase issues that interfered with TTC after my early m/c. 8 active cycles of TTC that spanned over a year and a half. I got pregnant the cycle that I started progesterone. I worried the entire pregnancy... It didn't help that I bled for most of it. I will say that once I could feel consistent movement and reached viability, I worried a bit less. Hugs, friend &lt;3 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-conceived-after-a-loss#post-1864567 Tue, 16 Sep 2014 12:58:57 +0000 chibee 1864567@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry - no matter how early or how late, a loss is always devastating. I had a D&amp;C at 8 weeks early September. My doctor said we could go on trying when my cycle returned. My cycle returned in October and we did try but didn't succeed. The cycle after that, I got my BFP. The time between the BFP and the first ultrasound was the hardest - it was at the first ultrasound where it was discovered I had a blighted ovum with my first pregnancy - so I was convinced it would be a repeat. But even after the first ultrasound, I didn't really feel at ease and able to enjoy the pregnancy until after the NT scan at 12 weeks - and here I am on maternity leave with my LO now! The worry, really never goes away - when you experience a loss you kind of lose that innocence in a way, but you just have to learn to push that aside! Good luck to you :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-conceived-after-a-loss#post-1864549 Tue, 16 Sep 2014 12:51:35 +0000 2PeasinaPod 1864549@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So sorry again to hear about your loss :heart: </p> <p>We waited a different amount of time after each loss. My 2 D&amp;Cs, I waited a full two cycles to allow my body to heal appropriately. Because I was knocked out, I felt like I needed to allow more time there.</p> <p>My first natural miscarriage, we didn't wait at all and conceived our son 2 months later.</p> <p>We're holding off on my fourth since we're now seeing a RE for multiple miscarriages. </p> <p>Sending lots of love your way. :heart:</p> <p>Edited to add: After the first miscarriage, I unfortunately never got the excitement that should come with getting pregnant. The constant worry is always there for me...especially now that we've dealt with our 4th. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-conceived-after-a-loss#post-1864537 Tue, 16 Sep 2014 12:43:47 +0000 winniebee 1864537@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry :(</p> <p>My doc told me to wait a full cycle before trying again, which we did. My period came back 6 wks after the loss and we started trying again and it took 3 more cycles to get pregnant (almost exactly 4 months post loss) I did test early and went in for betas and repeat betas. I also got an early 6w ultrasound. I never really stopped worrying until I could feel the bay move regularly. This pregnancy I didn't worry nearly as much though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-conceived-after-a-loss#post-1864528 Tue, 16 Sep 2014 12:38:07 +0000 catlady 1864528@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry for your loss. In my case, we waited one cycle and then it took two cycles of TTC to get our next bpf. That one stuck and now LO is 11 months old! I was super freaked out at the beginning, but after the 20 week ultrasound, I relaxed more. Once I could feel her kicking regularly, that also helped. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-conceived-after-a-loss#post-1864522 Tue, 16 Sep 2014 12:34:05 +0000 GoGoSnoGirl 1864522@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrsjyw: I'm sorry for your loss. It is good you'll meet with your OB. M/c is common (which I only learned HOW common after my own in May), but I think it's good to keep an eye on what's happening with your body. </p> <p>We tried again the first cycle after a normal AF, which fortunately returned for me 29d after the m/c (@6w2d). We just got a BFP in our 4th cycle post m/c. I'm excited, but so cautiously optimistic &amp; not ready to allow any worry to go away. I'm now under the care of an RE (mostly b/c of my advanced maternal age), &amp; hope to get plenty of monitoring, whereas with the first pregnancy I hadn't even yet been seen by an OB. :goodluck: :heart: :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-conceived-after-a-loss#post-1864505 Tue, 16 Sep 2014 12:19:11 +0000 bushelandapeck 1864505@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We had a loss at 10w in November 2013. We concieved in late Jan 2014 during my first normal cycle post-miscarriage. I'm 37w now :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-conceived-after-a-loss#post-1864501 Tue, 16 Sep 2014 12:13:32 +0000 travelgirl1 1864501@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We will be on our third cycle post loss this month and will see what happens. I was more hopeful early on. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-conceived-after-a-loss#post-1864492 Tue, 16 Sep 2014 12:07:23 +0000 singingbee 1864492@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry for your loss. We had a loss at 20 weeks which ended in delivery because we were so far along. We had to wait two cycles because my body was healing from delivering. We waited another cycle because I wasn't ready emotionally. It took us 7 months after that. I felt better after we got pass 20 weeks, but I truly didn't believe we were going to have a baby until she cried and they held her up. My mind just didn't want to believe it in case something happened. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-conceived-after-a-loss#post-1864454 Tue, 16 Sep 2014 11:53:01 +0000 Freckles 1864454@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My second miscarriage was a chemical (on Christmas Day, no less) and I got pregnant on the second cycle. I still took an HTP early because i'm crazy like that.</p> <p>With my first miscarriage, it was later on at 10 weeks so i had to have a D&amp;C. My memory is super hazy but i had the D&amp;C in early May and got pregnant in late July. </p> <p>I may have mentioned it in your other thread, but i waited it out just in case i ended up with another CP. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-conceived-after-a-loss#post-1864447 Tue, 16 Sep 2014 11:48:41 +0000 blackbird 1864447@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Both times, it was my second cycle (once i was ovulating, anyways...i stopped ovulating after my first mc) The worry doesn't ever really go away; it just changes and morphs throughout your pregnancy. I felt like the stakes got higher the more I progressed. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-conceived-after-a-loss#post-1864434 Tue, 16 Sep 2014 11:41:30 +0000 78h2o 1864434@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am so sorry for your loss. I had a natural mc at 7.5 weeks. We waited until I got AF again, then tried that next cycle (so sat out that first ovulation between the mc and my period). My daughter was conceived the next time we tried. I got a positive at 8 DPO. I continued to test early because I was concerned about having a shorter LP (11 days with spotting before) and wanted to know if I was having a CP/miscarriage. I was very anxious in the beginning, but still enjoyed my pregnancy (sickness aside). I had spotting at 6.5 weeks which terrified me, but had an US and saw a heartbeat. Dr. was "cautiously optimistic", which did not really ease my fear. I remained pretty anxious until my 9 weeks US when the Dr. said the odds were very good. I bought a fetal doppler and checked on baby A LOT between 10 weeks and 18 weeks or so, when I could regularly feel movement. My sister really encouraged me to have a positive attitude and to expect the best, which I believe helped me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-conceived-after-a-loss#post-1864416 Tue, 16 Sep 2014 11:36:08 +0000 Tidybee 1864416@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've had 3 losses. I've started taking HPTs earlier because there is a suspected progesterone issue and they want to get me on progesterone ASAP. I was good about not worrying but we found out pretty early each time that the possibility of a sticky baby was very very low so I was worrying for good reason. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-conceived-after-a-loss#post-1864409 Tue, 16 Sep 2014 11:34:58 +0000 Littlebit 1864409@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I posted this thread and got lots of helpful answers, maybe it'll help? <a href="http://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-bfp-ended-in-a-mc-how-many-cycles-later-did-it-take-to-get-pregnant-again" rel="nofollow">http://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-bfp-ended-in-a-mc-how-many-cycles-later-did-it-take-to-get-pregnant-again</a></p> <p>But to answer yours questions, I had a chemical in October. Started trying the very next month, BFN, got my sticky BFP the second month in Decmeber. I was very early in the MC process and my period came back quickly. I was terrified I would have another chemical, and it was actually really hard for me to 'connect' to the pregnancy. It wasn't until I started feeling him move and found out the gender that I started worrying less. </p> <p>I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. It can be very isolating. Feel free to PM me if you'd ever like to talk to someone. November was a very dark, sad month for me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-conceived-after-a-loss#post-1864406 Tue, 16 Sep 2014 11:32:41 +0000 lilteacherbee 1864406@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We had a m/c in July, took August off, and then started TTC. It took until February to conceive again, but I have really long cycles. For me, the worry consumed me and I was terrified until he was in my arms. I'm truly hoping that since I've had a successful pregnancy, I won't be as anxious next time.</p> <p>Big hugs :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-conceived-after-a-loss#post-1864397 Tue, 16 Sep 2014 11:29:16 +0000 mrsjyw 1864397@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@BandDmommy: @knittylady: @Alivoo01: thanks ladies! :heart:</p> <p>I'm in that weird space, where it was so early on (4 weeks) that I feel glad that it was earlier than later, but still sad it happened at all. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-conceived-after-a-loss#post-1864391 Tue, 16 Sep 2014 11:27:17 +0000 Alivoo01 1864391@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrsjyw: *tight hugs* I'm so, so sorry! &lt;3</p> <p>We had our loss in mid-summer (july or august) 2 years ago, and didn't get a BFP until a few months later in November. We waited a month till we started trying again. unfortunately, the worry never stopped until he arrived. I tried to think positive thoughts, and it helped as we reached each in utero milestone, but my heart always skipped a few beats right before an appointment. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-conceived-after-a-loss#post-1864376 Tue, 16 Sep 2014 11:19:27 +0000 Mrs. Jump Rope 1864376@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We had a loss in July and another in August. We were told to wait two cycles, and I went back on BCP while we waited to start IF treatments at my REs office. </p> <p>We started in October, bfn<br /> Chemical in November<br /> Sticky baby in December</p> <p>The worry never went away for me. I didn't fully enjoy my pregnancy bc I was consumed with worry. I wish I would have relaxed a bit &amp; allowed myself to enjoy it more! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-conceived-after-a-loss#post-1864370 Tue, 16 Sep 2014 11:15:44 +0000 knittylady 1864370@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We waited a full cycle and conceived DS 1 two months later. The worry didn't go away for me till he was in my arms :/</p> <p>So sorry for your loss. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-conceived-after-a-loss#post-1864366 Tue, 16 Sep 2014 11:14:43 +0000 BandDmommy 1864366@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrsjyw: I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-conceived-after-a-loss#post-1864361 Tue, 16 Sep 2014 11:12:41 +0000 mrsjyw 1864361@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>how long did it take? Did you take HPTs later or earlier? When does the worry go away (if ever) that it's a sticky pregnancy?</p> <p>I'm meeting with my OB on Friday to go over any questions/details, and am wondering if we should sit this cycle out or just go on with another cycle, since it was so early on. But, at the same time, I don't want to rush the process and end up not giving my body enough time to "reset." </p>