https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 15 Apr 2026 09:09:22 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-could-tell-a-new-mom-just-one-thing-what-would-it-be/page/3#post-1566384 Sun, 13 Apr 2014 21:00:03 +0000 dagret 1566384@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The advice I give expecting moms now is this: before you have a baby, take a long, long shower - the type where you're in there till the water runs out. I still miss that shower. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-could-tell-a-new-mom-just-one-thing-what-would-it-be/page/3#post-1566371 Sun, 13 Apr 2014 20:55:50 +0000 autumn865 1566371@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ignore the well meaning people that will tell you to "enjoy every minute!!!!!!!" There will be many wonderful times but other times that feel just plain torturous (sleep deprivation, inconsolable baby etc.) you are not a bad mother for not enjoying EVERY minute :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-could-tell-a-new-mom-just-one-thing-what-would-it-be/page/3#post-1565360 Sat, 12 Apr 2014 23:30:39 +0000 googly-eyes 1565360@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MsMini: that's a good one too... I think lots of the anxiety stems from expectations that were formed hen "you" just couldn't possibly know what to expect. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-could-tell-a-new-mom-just-one-thing-what-would-it-be/page/2#post-1565022 Sat, 12 Apr 2014 17:37:51 +0000 Greentea 1565022@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MoonMoon: yes! :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-could-tell-a-new-mom-just-one-thing-what-would-it-be/page/2#post-1564974 Sat, 12 Apr 2014 16:52:16 +0000 Honeygold89 1564974@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ElbieKay: yeah Noah the sane way he doesn't care long as he eats. I wish I had some of this advice before but I learned by following my own feelings </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-could-tell-a-new-mom-just-one-thing-what-would-it-be/page/2#post-1564832 Sat, 12 Apr 2014 13:38:50 +0000 ElbieKay 1564832@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Honeygold89: Yes, I had to pump and bottle feed early due to nipple pain. I was worried about nipple confusion. No one told me that plenty of babies don't get confused at all. My son could not care less as long as he gets to eat!</p> <p>Basically, don't anticipate problems because they probably won't apply to your baby! I was also worried about getting a 3yo to quit his binky, and my son loved his for 2-3 *weeks* and has now virtually lost interest. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-could-tell-a-new-mom-just-one-thing-what-would-it-be/page/2#post-1564824 Sat, 12 Apr 2014 13:20:32 +0000 singingbee 1564824@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Life is different. Not bad, but different. You have a new normal now. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-could-tell-a-new-mom-just-one-thing-what-would-it-be/page/2#post-1564818 Sat, 12 Apr 2014 13:11:46 +0000 Greentea 1564818@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Listen to yourself! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-could-tell-a-new-mom-just-one-thing-what-would-it-be/page/2#post-1564817 Sat, 12 Apr 2014 13:11:41 +0000 Honeygold89 1564817@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ElbieKay: I so agree especially about the paci I would have lost my mind if I had waiting the recommended 6 weeks before giving a bottle or paci. </p> <p>@LovelyPlum: don't worry your still new just try to look at it like this it's only a phase and as baby grow it gets better just breath ask for help if you need it and don't be afraid to let people know need some privacy or mommy baby time. It's much easier without everyone in your ear telling you what and how to do things just follow your mommy instincts :goodluck: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-could-tell-a-new-mom-just-one-thing-what-would-it-be/page/2#post-1564808 Sat, 12 Apr 2014 12:58:26 +0000 Honeygold89 1564808@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The same as @Arden: I love mines and DH's family dearly but it's my baby and I do what I feel is right and follow my instincts and if I need help I'll ask for it. So do a lot of ignoring </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-could-tell-a-new-mom-just-one-thing-what-would-it-be/page/2#post-1564794 Sat, 12 Apr 2014 12:43:25 +0000 MsMini 1564794@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Let go of your plans and expectations, it will be much easier on you if you just relax and go with the flow. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-could-tell-a-new-mom-just-one-thing-what-would-it-be/page/2#post-1564767 Sat, 12 Apr 2014 12:15:01 +0000 hummusgirl 1564767@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>"Babies be babies" and "Your spouse is not the enemy. The baby is the enemy." ;-) </p> <p>Stolen from Cup of Jo: <a href="http://joannagoddard.blogspot.com/2013/06/5-wonderful-motherhood-tips.html" rel="nofollow">http://joannagoddard.blogspot.com/2013/06/5-wonderful-motherhood-tips.html</a> </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-could-tell-a-new-mom-just-one-thing-what-would-it-be/page/2#post-1564696 Sat, 12 Apr 2014 10:18:08 +0000 ElbieKay 1564696@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LovelyPlum: Congratulations! Glad I could help... Feel free to PM me if you want to vent/emote. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-could-tell-a-new-mom-just-one-thing-what-would-it-be/page/2#post-1564585 Sat, 12 Apr 2014 08:18:38 +0000 LovelyPlum 1564585@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ElbieKay: thank you so much for this, especially #4. I had a good long cry about this very thing last night, because I was just so overwhelmed and not having any fun. Thanks for the reminder that it's a process, and that I'm learning, too! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-could-tell-a-new-mom-just-one-thing-what-would-it-be/page/2#post-1564573 Sat, 12 Apr 2014 08:00:53 +0000 ElbieKay 1564573@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Don't buy any clothes that have to be pulled over the head. It is 10x harder to get their arms through the arm holes. We pretty much only use his outfits that snap or zip up the front, or kimono-style. So much easier!</p> <p>Ignore all the pro- and con- pacifier advice and just do what you need to do in order to maximize sleep and peace.</p> <p>Lactation consultants often have an agenda. Expect breast feeding to be difficult, so you need to decide how important it is to *you* and work at it accordingly.</p> <p>It's ok if you don't feel an immediate bond with your baby. Lots of people feel this way. It takes time to form a relationship, and that is ok. I personally like my baby a lot more now, at five weeks old. When he was born, he was cute but very overwhelming. I couldn't shake the feeling that I was just taking care of someone else's baby! I had a much stronger sense of responsibility to take care of him than anything else. It's a process, and you should feel ok about taking time to let things sink in if necessary, even though that is not our cultural expectation.</p> <p>Advocate to get the kind of labor/delivery and first few weeks at home that you want. This includes researching care providers and hospitals, making it clear what kinds of interventions are acceptable to you, and also pushing back on family and friends if you want privacy at the hospital and/or when you get home. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-could-tell-a-new-mom-just-one-thing-what-would-it-be/page/2#post-1564260 Fri, 11 Apr 2014 22:04:15 +0000 LovelyPlum 1564260@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thank you for these :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-could-tell-a-new-mom-just-one-thing-what-would-it-be/page/2#post-1563857 Fri, 11 Apr 2014 17:59:27 +0000 MamaMoose 1563857@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@junebugmama: :happy: it's the one thing I always tell my new mama friends so they know they aren't alone, and they have someone they can call to talk to without judgement when they are going through a rough period. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-could-tell-a-new-mom-just-one-thing-what-would-it-be/page/2#post-1563702 Fri, 11 Apr 2014 16:27:18 +0000 Rocker2014 1563702@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thank you thank you thank you for this! I'm so nervous - this is great! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-could-tell-a-new-mom-just-one-thing-what-would-it-be/page/2#post-1563687 Fri, 11 Apr 2014 16:18:20 +0000 googly-eyes 1563687@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MamaMoose: @jessibear: I struggled with that too! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-could-tell-a-new-mom-just-one-thing-what-would-it-be/page/2#post-1563655 Fri, 11 Apr 2014 16:02:18 +0000 littleredhairedgrl 1563655@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>love this thread! thanks everyone for sharing!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-could-tell-a-new-mom-just-one-thing-what-would-it-be/page/2#post-1563642 Fri, 11 Apr 2014 15:52:49 +0000 junebugmama 1563642@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MamaMoose: This is my favorite so far &lt;3 </p> <p>Thank you ladies for all who have shared. I hope that it's ok, but I'm putting together a little book for a friend of things to remember and am going to use lots of these :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-could-tell-a-new-mom-just-one-thing-what-would-it-be/page/2#post-1563561 Fri, 11 Apr 2014 15:15:18 +0000 abbydabbydoodlebug 1563561@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MamaMoose: this is me right now :( </p> <p>All this advice is really helpful coming from this new mom. I've had a really hard week and this is exactly what I needed. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-could-tell-a-new-mom-just-one-thing-what-would-it-be/page/2#post-1563539 Fri, 11 Apr 2014 14:59:01 +0000 2PeasinaPod 1563539@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You're doing a wonderful job!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-could-tell-a-new-mom-just-one-thing-what-would-it-be/page/2#post-1563529 Fri, 11 Apr 2014 14:56:07 +0000 anonysquire 1563529@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@spaniellove: well and it didn help that I had given up on her being a girl and had started only buying boy clothes like at 6 months. So sometimes she wears boy clothes. With a cute matching bow of course :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-could-tell-a-new-mom-just-one-thing-what-would-it-be/page/2#post-1563517 Fri, 11 Apr 2014 14:52:04 +0000 Madison43 1563517@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Just when you think you have your baby figured out, everything changes. So frustrating .... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-could-tell-a-new-mom-just-one-thing-what-would-it-be/page/2#post-1563496 Fri, 11 Apr 2014 14:43:17 +0000 spaniellove 1563496@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@jessibear: @MamaMoose: This must be why a PP doula said it would be good for her to be here in the evening, that they get fussier around then? </p> <p>@anonysquire: I feel like I already have enough but have also tried to account for this just in case! Thank you for mentioning that it really happens! </p> <p>I love this thread. I need to print it out or something. Please share everything you know, mama bees! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-could-tell-a-new-mom-just-one-thing-what-would-it-be/page/2#post-1563451 Fri, 11 Apr 2014 14:26:56 +0000 MamaMoose 1563451@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@jessibear: I had the same situation with really struggling when the sun went down!! It's why I refuse to have another winter baby. I think having the sunset at 4pm really increased my baby blues. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-could-tell-a-new-mom-just-one-thing-what-would-it-be/page/2#post-1563356 Fri, 11 Apr 2014 13:54:53 +0000 MoonMoon 1563356@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Don't listen to the internet, don't worry about schedules or what you think you should do or buy! Just take it one day at a time and listen to what your gut and your baby are telling you. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-could-tell-a-new-mom-just-one-thing-what-would-it-be/page/2#post-1563245 Fri, 11 Apr 2014 13:19:55 +0000 swurlygurl 1563245@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Take LOTS of videos and pictures of that sweet little baby. Sleeping, moving, looking at you, all the small details. It changes SO fast and you miss the adorableness!!</p> <p>I do not have enough pictures and videos of L for the first few months! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-could-tell-a-new-mom-just-one-thing-what-would-it-be/page/2#post-1563030 Fri, 11 Apr 2014 12:22:17 +0000 MamaPhoenix 1563030@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>After having that baby, there will be a mama lion inside of you released. That baby will change the way you think about everything, and give you courage like you've never known. </p>