https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 09 May 2026 23:12:12 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-couldnt-nurse-would-you-consider-a-wet-nurse-for-your-lo#post-64153 Tue, 31 Jan 2012 18:47:13 +0000 Boogs 64153@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Jacks: In your case that is your baby, so I see no problem with that.</p> <p>I actually had never heard of a wet nurse. I wouldn't consider hiring one because I would worry about disease, what she is consuming, etc. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-couldnt-nurse-would-you-consider-a-wet-nurse-for-your-lo#post-64133 Tue, 31 Jan 2012 18:36:36 +0000 MrsH 64133@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd just go with formula. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-couldnt-nurse-would-you-consider-a-wet-nurse-for-your-lo#post-64050 Tue, 31 Jan 2012 17:50:49 +0000 skibobrown 64050@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I really really want to breastfeed, but if I can't I'm pretty sure I would just go with formula. The logistics of having a wet nurse in this day and age sound very confusing to organize and navigate. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-couldnt-nurse-would-you-consider-a-wet-nurse-for-your-lo#post-64028 Tue, 31 Jan 2012 17:22:03 +0000 cyneswith 64028@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No. I'm fully for breast-feeding, but not to that extent. </p> <p>As for an adoptive mother breast-feeding, that's different - you're the mom, you know what you eat/drink and that you are free of breast-milk communicable diseases. Little weird, maybe, but understandable (if I adopt, any older sibling would be weaned.) 'Course, I plan on homebirth, which is weird to others too - I don't care, because I think it's the safest option for me and my baby. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-couldnt-nurse-would-you-consider-a-wet-nurse-for-your-lo#post-64021 Tue, 31 Jan 2012 17:15:17 +0000 MamaMoose 64021@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Jacks: Ah in this case then no I would not consider you a wet nurse. You are the child's mother end of story.</p> <p>You can control everything you put in your body where you can't do that with a hired wet nurse. Additionally, you should be forming a bond with that baby since it's your baby.</p> <p>My issue with a wet nurse is not the fact that the milk is coming from someone who isn't biologically related to the child. It's the control and bonding issues that I raised above that wouldn't be an issue for you since Jack Jack will be your child. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-couldnt-nurse-would-you-consider-a-wet-nurse-for-your-lo#post-64008 Tue, 31 Jan 2012 17:02:29 +0000 HabesBabe 64008@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would if I had tons of money-- after reading that article, it seems like the wet nurse lives with the family and makes about $1k/week. I definitely wouldn't be able to afford that!</p> <p>If I had a friend who wanted to nurse or offer her milk, I would take it. I think breast is best, regardless of who the source is (as long as the woman is healthy, etc.). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-couldnt-nurse-would-you-consider-a-wet-nurse-for-your-lo#post-64007 Tue, 31 Jan 2012 17:01:30 +0000 Adira 64007@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Jacks: I agree with others. If you can do it, more power to you! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-couldnt-nurse-would-you-consider-a-wet-nurse-for-your-lo#post-64005 Tue, 31 Jan 2012 16:57:33 +0000 mrskc 64005@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Jacks: I don't think there would be anything wrong with you doing that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-couldnt-nurse-would-you-consider-a-wet-nurse-for-your-lo#post-64003 Tue, 31 Jan 2012 16:53:13 +0000 Maysprout 64003@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Jacks: The womanly art of breastfeeding book has a section about adoptive mothers nursing. It sounds like a lovely thing to do for a new child. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-couldnt-nurse-would-you-consider-a-wet-nurse-for-your-lo#post-64001 Tue, 31 Jan 2012 16:44:09 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 64001@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sorry, I should have clarified. For example, Little Jacks is only now weaning completely... so technically it could be possible for someone like me to nurse a baby... I was just seeing how people felt about that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-couldnt-nurse-would-you-consider-a-wet-nurse-for-your-lo#post-63997 Tue, 31 Jan 2012 16:36:55 +0000 Adira 63997@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would probably just formula feed. I'm not completely attached to breastfeeding, although I'll definitely give it a try, but if I can't do it, formula all the way for me!</p> <p>@Mrs. Jacks: If the adoptive mom could breastfeed, I wouldn't consider that a wet nurse. Adoptive or not, the mom is the child's mother. To me a wet nurse is someone who just feeds the baby (via breastfeeding), and doesn't take on all the additional bonding/tasks/etc as the real (adoptive or birth) mom . </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-couldnt-nurse-would-you-consider-a-wet-nurse-for-your-lo#post-63980 Tue, 31 Jan 2012 16:16:24 +0000 Mrsbells 63980@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>nope, I would rather formula feed than give mybaby someone else breast milk. Breastmilk is very sensitve to everything the mom consumes, I cant control everything the mom eats so I would not know exactly what was in the breastmilk </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-couldnt-nurse-would-you-consider-a-wet-nurse-for-your-lo#post-63979 Tue, 31 Jan 2012 16:15:25 +0000 MsMini 63979@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Jacks: If the adoptive mom was able to induce lactation (which doesn't always work) I wouldn't consider them a wet nurse, as that is their baby as far as I am concerned. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-couldnt-nurse-would-you-consider-a-wet-nurse-for-your-lo#post-63978 Tue, 31 Jan 2012 16:15:25 +0000 mrsjyw 63978@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope, I wouldn't. I just wouldn't be able to trust the wet nurse/health/sanitation/etc. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-couldnt-nurse-would-you-consider-a-wet-nurse-for-your-lo#post-63975 Tue, 31 Jan 2012 16:09:56 +0000 mrskc 63975@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Maybe she means the birth mother acting as a wet nurse? @Mrs. Jacks: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-couldnt-nurse-would-you-consider-a-wet-nurse-for-your-lo#post-63967 Tue, 31 Jan 2012 15:59:04 +0000 MamaMoose 63967@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Jacks: I'm a bit confused by the question. An adoptive mother wouldn't be able to nurse so how could she operate as a wet nurse? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-couldnt-nurse-would-you-consider-a-wet-nurse-for-your-lo#post-63959 Tue, 31 Jan 2012 15:47:15 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 63959@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I just wanted to see what people thought about the question I posed above? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-couldnt-nurse-would-you-consider-a-wet-nurse-for-your-lo#post-61895 Sat, 28 Jan 2012 18:29:19 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 61895@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Just curious... Would people consider an adoptive mother a wet nurse? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-couldnt-nurse-would-you-consider-a-wet-nurse-for-your-lo#post-61845 Sat, 28 Jan 2012 16:25:06 +0000 sulli301 61845@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would use breast milk donated or purchased in order to make sure my baby got breast milk. I pump all the time so that I will be able to continue giving her breast milk even after I've weaned her from nursing. As far as wet nursing goes, I do not think it is gross but I don't think I would choose that route. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-couldnt-nurse-would-you-consider-a-wet-nurse-for-your-lo#post-61756 Sat, 28 Jan 2012 11:04:21 +0000 MH.Abroad 61756@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would use a milk bank. But the wet nurse idea doesn't freak me out. I totally get it. And if a friend needed it, I'd nurse her baby. Doesn't bother me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-couldnt-nurse-would-you-consider-a-wet-nurse-for-your-lo#post-61751 Sat, 28 Jan 2012 11:01:05 +0000 tequiero21 61751@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>no way. i don't want my baby bonding with a wet nurse! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-couldnt-nurse-would-you-consider-a-wet-nurse-for-your-lo#post-61747 Sat, 28 Jan 2012 10:57:15 +0000 heffalump 61747@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I couldn't breasfeed, and I feel much better using formula than a wet nurse. It just weirds me out. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-couldnt-nurse-would-you-consider-a-wet-nurse-for-your-lo#post-61720 Sat, 28 Jan 2012 09:09:13 +0000 winniebee 61720@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MsMini: Ditto! Also, the idea of LO consuming someone else's breastmilk freaks me out. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-couldnt-nurse-would-you-consider-a-wet-nurse-for-your-lo#post-61716 Sat, 28 Jan 2012 08:48:09 +0000 chicagowife 61716@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We formula fed our baby from day 1, and I was fully able to produce milk. (There we a lot of other factors I was considering. I made a fully informed personal decision.) Formula is fantastic these days and I am going to feed all my kids with it! People get way too wound around the axle about breastfeeding. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-couldnt-nurse-would-you-consider-a-wet-nurse-for-your-lo#post-61689 Sat, 28 Jan 2012 06:55:52 +0000 mediagirl 61689@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ew no! Not a chance! My baby, my boobs or a bottle. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-couldnt-nurse-would-you-consider-a-wet-nurse-for-your-lo#post-61680 Sat, 28 Jan 2012 03:01:29 +0000 cupcakemama 61680@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope. Absolutely not. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-couldnt-nurse-would-you-consider-a-wet-nurse-for-your-lo#post-61655 Sat, 28 Jan 2012 00:08:56 +0000 SAHM0811 61655@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>nope... would prefer formula </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-couldnt-nurse-would-you-consider-a-wet-nurse-for-your-lo#post-61633 Fri, 27 Jan 2012 23:02:25 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 61633@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We donated all of our extra breast milk to the adopted neighbor baby. We were happy to do that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-couldnt-nurse-would-you-consider-a-wet-nurse-for-your-lo#post-61631 Fri, 27 Jan 2012 22:53:32 +0000 Andrea 61631@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think so. I think that is why there is formula available now. We can take that option versus having to hire a wet nurse. </p> <p>My boss in the UK did have a wet nurse living with his family. That's the only family I've ever known with one. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-couldnt-nurse-would-you-consider-a-wet-nurse-for-your-lo#post-61624 Fri, 27 Jan 2012 22:29:38 +0000 Maysprout 61624@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: There was just a recent article about it.<br /> <a href="http://jobs.aol.com/articles/2012/01/20/the-return-of-wet-nursing/" rel="nofollow">http://jobs.aol.com/articles/2012/01/20/the-return-of-wet-nursing/</a> </p>