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Hellobee Boards Topic: If you did CIO, what was your mental cut off time or did you have one? https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 25 Apr 2026 17:20:37 +0000 Mrs. Blue on "If you did CIO, what was your mental cut off time or did you have one?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-did-cio-what-was-your-mental-cut-off-time-or-did-you-have-one#post-1121794 Mon, 30 Sep 2013 13:49:19 +0000 Mrs. Blue 1121794@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @MamaMoose: They actually sleep through each other crying generally. I kind of wish they would just do it at the same time because the effect is just a whole night of one or the other fussing. hilsy85 on "If you did CIO, what was your mental cut off time or did you have one?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-did-cio-what-was-your-mental-cut-off-time-or-did-you-have-one#post-1121399 Mon, 30 Sep 2013 11:32:26 +0000 hilsy85 1121399@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Totally depends how hard he's crying. If he's crying hard, ill wait 10-15 min. Hysterics--i go in after 2 or 3 if he hasn't calmed down. Fussing--I let him go for a while--maybe an hour although its never come to that. looch on "If you did CIO, what was your mental cut off time or did you have one?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-did-cio-what-was-your-mental-cut-off-time-or-did-you-have-one#post-1121379 Mon, 30 Sep 2013 11:25:49 +0000 looch 1121379@https://boards.hellobee.com/ My husband had to do the sleep training, I had to sit outside on the balcony. I wouldn't recommend this approach though, because I had to do the nap training and I basically negated any progress we made at night with my inability to actually let any CIOing occur. meredithNYC on "If you did CIO, what was your mental cut off time or did you have one?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-did-cio-what-was-your-mental-cut-off-time-or-did-you-have-one#post-1121357 Mon, 30 Sep 2013 11:19:45 +0000 meredithNYC 1121357@https://boards.hellobee.com/ My personal limit was about 20 minutes, though she rarely cried for longer than like, 5. As others said, it really depends on whether you're dealing with fussing/crying/full-on hysterics, and you just have to use your mom judgement, really. erwoo on "If you did CIO, what was your mental cut off time or did you have one?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-did-cio-what-was-your-mental-cut-off-time-or-did-you-have-one#post-1121345 Mon, 30 Sep 2013 11:16:53 +0000 erwoo 1121345@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I consulted with my oldest's ped and she said (he was 5.5 months at the time) don't let him cry longer than an hour. Thirty minutes was the average time I could stand the crying. I might have went 45 once or twice at most. He was fully sleep trained two weeks later. My second, he was a breeze to sleep train. I don't think I had to CIO? I lucked out with this one! Good luck! mrs. wagon on "If you did CIO, what was your mental cut off time or did you have one?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-did-cio-what-was-your-mental-cut-off-time-or-did-you-have-one#post-1121337 Mon, 30 Sep 2013 11:15:19 +0000 mrs. wagon 1121337@https://boards.hellobee.com/ We sleep trained at 4.5 months with Wagon Jr. We let him cry for 5 mins (had to be consistent crying, not on and off) then went in and rocked him back to sleep. Next time he cried, we waited 10 mins. The next time, 15 mins. We only had to wait 15 mins twice. It was torture. But he was sleep trained in a week or two. Same strategy with nap training. By the end of it all we could put him down fully awake and he'd fall asleep on his own with no crying. He woke crying several times a night for years. But he could always fall back asleep on his own. LMW we never sleep trained. She started STTN at 8 months on her own. We only have to go in if she's sick or something. But she let us put her down awake pretty early. She fell asleep with her bedtime feeding when she was little, and after we got rid of that feeding she was ok with being put down awake. We are lucky, I know. And of course we didn't have two at the same time... :T MamaMoose on "If you did CIO, what was your mental cut off time or did you have one?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-did-cio-what-was-your-mental-cut-off-time-or-did-you-have-one#post-1121333 Mon, 30 Sep 2013 11:14:33 +0000 MamaMoose 1121333@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I'm a wuss and give in after 10 minutes. I've never been able to successfully do CIO. I'm wondering if it's tougher with twins. Will they just keep each other going longer? I hope you guys find a solution. I know how hard it is to work on no sleep and I've only got one! edelweiss on "If you did CIO, what was your mental cut off time or did you have one?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-did-cio-what-was-your-mental-cut-off-time-or-did-you-have-one#post-1121309 Mon, 30 Sep 2013 11:07:33 +0000 edelweiss 1121309@https://boards.hellobee.com/ if he was full-on crying (not hysterics but also not just fussing), my limit at the beginning was an hour. however i discovered that if i went in, it would make things worse and restart the vigor of the crying, so there were 1 or 2 times where he cried for 2 hours (again, not hysterics, but just a consistent low-level cry). it was horrible and it's hard for me to type out that i let him cry for that long. also, there was one night where he was learning how to suck his thumb and he intermittently cried/fussed for 3 hours. he would cry for 5 minutes, stop for 5 minutes, fuss for 5 minutes, stop for five minutes, and so on. this was painful because it dragged out so long but he was not full-on crying and i could see on the monitor that he kept trying to suck his thumb. he was about 12 weeks old. i have to note that my LO really, really fought sleep. he would not fall asleep in our arms, in the stroller, a carseat in a moving car, a carrier, a swing, being rocked...even daycare mentioned that the usual tricks did not work for him. so i feel like we were a bit more extreme than most. Smurfette on "If you did CIO, what was your mental cut off time or did you have one?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-did-cio-what-was-your-mental-cut-off-time-or-did-you-have-one#post-1121301 Mon, 30 Sep 2013 11:04:46 +0000 Smurfette 1121301@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Checks just make her more pissed off, so we just watched on the monitor. 1hr 15mins was the longest she ever cried, but she might stop for 5 mins here and there and then start up. So I counted till she fell asleep. HabesBabe on "If you did CIO, what was your mental cut off time or did you have one?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-did-cio-what-was-your-mental-cut-off-time-or-did-you-have-one#post-1121289 Mon, 30 Sep 2013 10:59:24 +0000 HabesBabe 1121289@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Our cutoff was 1 1/2 hours... LOL. She would only get more frustrated if we came in at smaller increments, so we just let her at it. Rubies on "If you did CIO, what was your mental cut off time or did you have one?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-did-cio-what-was-your-mental-cut-off-time-or-did-you-have-one#post-1121254 Mon, 30 Sep 2013 10:49:47 +0000 Rubies 1121254@https://boards.hellobee.com/ We sleep-trained and nap-trained at the same time and nap-training was worse. The longest she cried was almost an hour - but this was during nap-training. For night time sleep-training, I did checks at 5, 10, 15 minutes...She never cried for more 20 or so minutes at night time. Mrs. Blue on "If you did CIO, what was your mental cut off time or did you have one?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-did-cio-what-was-your-mental-cut-off-time-or-did-you-have-one#post-1121244 Mon, 30 Sep 2013 10:44:03 +0000 Mrs. Blue 1121244@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @scg00387: Bahaha! I've heard most people just block out the first year! :happy: They've had some great nights, but the one we're in right now is just brutal. Blech. At least they are always all smiles the next morning, which makes me feel like I can somehow keep going! immabeetoo on "If you did CIO, what was your mental cut off time or did you have one?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-did-cio-what-was-your-mental-cut-off-time-or-did-you-have-one#post-1121230 Mon, 30 Sep 2013 10:39:19 +0000 immabeetoo 1121230@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @Mrs. Blue: just wanted to say I am sorry you're having sleep troubles- my nieces are twins and my sister has completely blocked out the early days of sleep from her memory I think! Hope you can hang in there :heart: lovehoneybee on "If you did CIO, what was your mental cut off time or did you have one?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-did-cio-what-was-your-mental-cut-off-time-or-did-you-have-one#post-1121219 Mon, 30 Sep 2013 10:34:10 +0000 lovehoneybee 1121219@https://boards.hellobee.com/ We first did a modified CIO when he was 6ish months old, and my personal cut-off was 15 minutes. I would let him cry for up to 15 minutes UNLESS it was hysterics, and then I would in sooner (usually around 10 minutes) or if it was just a drawn-out, tired but fighting it whining cry, and then I would let it go to 20. Once or twice I went in earlier (once he was wet, the other time he had dropped his pacifier out of the crib). A few times I let him go longer (he always fell asleep by 20). Most of the time he was asleep within 12 minutes. But this was strictly in transitioning him to sleep in his own crib in his own room (he was co-sleeping in our bed before that), not night-wakings. I still respond to night-wakings pretty much as soon as they wake me up. His room shares a wall with another apartment and the walls aren't thick, so I'm not comfortable letting him cry for however long at 4AM. It's not a huge bother to me, as he usually only wakes up once during the night (unless he's actively teething, and then I'm not sure CIO would work anyway...) Mrs. Blue on "If you did CIO, what was your mental cut off time or did you have one?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-did-cio-what-was-your-mental-cut-off-time-or-did-you-have-one#post-1121194 Mon, 30 Sep 2013 10:23:49 +0000 Mrs. Blue 1121194@https://boards.hellobee.com/ What was the longest you felt comfortable letting your LO CIO, and what age were they at the time? What was the longest your LO ever actually CIO?