https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 19 May 2026 00:47:01 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-did-cio-with-checks#post-1322231 Mon, 06 Jan 2014 10:47:30 +0000 MamaChin 1322231@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We CIO at 5.5 months and it took a week, with a couple of mini regressions - night 3 was worse than 2 and 6 was worse than 5. We did checks at first and found that it just made him even more hysterical so we switched to extinction on night 2. First night he cried for an hour (threw up at minute 12, we just cleaned up and put him back in, that was heartbreaking but we didn't want him to have cried in vain). Second night was around 50 mins, and third night was another hour with a throw up. It got better from then on, he even night weaned himself during that time. By night 7 he was sleeping 8-9 hours straight with no crying and it lengthened as he got older. </p> <p>That was a tough week but our lives are better for it. I hope this works for you, hang in there mama! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-did-cio-with-checks#post-1322146 Mon, 06 Jan 2014 10:29:57 +0000 Revel 1322146@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@hilsy85: I totally get what you're saying about the meaningful crying. Like last night, she woke about 20 mins after I put her down and cried for a few minutes, got to that hysterical point, we picked her up, and then it took soothing from me and FI for the better part of an hour, that finally ended in nursing. So I was thinking, I guess maybe I should have just let her cry - because she easily cried 20 mins or more in our arms as well over that hour.</p> <p>I guess if we try it out to see if she will calm down, a night or two isn't the end of the world, even if all we learn is that CIO won't work for her. </p> <p>Right now I'm on night four of moving nursing away from sleep (rocking to sleep instead) and she's getting used to that, so maybe at least that's a (tiny) step in the right direction. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-did-cio-with-checks#post-1322079 Mon, 06 Jan 2014 10:17:14 +0000 hilsy85 1322079@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Revel: I think it's the sort of thing that you won't know until you try...when we first did it, LO wasn't just whining and fussing when we left--he was SCREAMING. But he did calm down eventually, over time and as we did the checks. But some babies don't, and CIO is probably not good for those babies. Or your LO just might not be ready--we tried CIO at 5 months and it was a disaster, and then tried again at 6.5 months and it worked. So you just never know! Good luck! I think whatever method you choose to do, you MUST be consistent. One of the things Ferber talks about in his book is "meaningful crying"--another words, if you let LO cry for 10 minutes and then go get him and just nurse him/rock him to sleep anyway, it's like those 10 minutes were pointless crying. But if you continue to stick to your plan, then at least the crying has a purpose, if that makes sense? It made it easier for me to continue on! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-did-cio-with-checks#post-1322068 Mon, 06 Jan 2014 10:14:05 +0000 Revel 1322068@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@hilsy85: @knittylady: @calsmom: Thanks for replying! I got away from this thread for a few days.</p> <p>So we've continued to put off the training, but it's starting to feel inevitable. I'm sometimes doubtful it will even work. Right now, she goes from 0-60 immediately (there is no whiny/fussy time) it is full on crying, hysterical within like a minute or two. Three minutes of crying in the crib can lead to 30 minutes or more of soothing required, sometimes only remedied with nursing.</p> <p>Did any of you with sleep training success have an LO that behaved this way? The high-pitched screaming cry and hysterics so quickly is not really what I expected. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-did-cio-with-checks#post-1319841 Sat, 04 Jan 2014 19:24:32 +0000 calsmom 1319841@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We did CIO with checks but didn't have increments set. We went in when we felt necessary. We pat him for a bit then left. He did well with that approach. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-did-cio-with-checks#post-1319789 Sat, 04 Jan 2014 18:58:00 +0000 knittylady 1319789@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We started with 5, 10, 15 minute checks. Ferber says to start with whatever you're comfortable with and then increase it by a minute every night, if I remember right.</p> <p>Very similar experience to @hilsy85. By the third night he was falling asleep on his own! Sleep training/Ferber-ing absolutely saved me. Good luck! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-did-cio-with-checks#post-1319769 Sat, 04 Jan 2014 18:52:07 +0000 hilsy85 1319769@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We did CIO with checks. the first night we did checks at 3 min, 5 min, and 7 min, and then repeated 7 min if necessary. During the check, we laid our hands on him, said something soothing, patted him, and then left the room. He usually continued to cry while we did the check and ramped up for the few seconds right after we left. </p> <p>Here was our experience:<br /> I just wanted to update on our sleep training experience!! It has gone REALLY well...the first night, LO cried for 20 minutes (with checks at 3, 5, and 7 min) and then went to sleep...he woke up at 1am, cried for 3 minutes and then put himself to sleep (and then I accidentally woke him up but that's another story...) and slept til 6!<br /> night 2, he put himself to sleep no problem, woke up at 130, I nursed him, woke up at 5, cried for 23 min (with checks at 5 min, and then he was mainly just fussing), and then slept til 715.<br /> night 3, he put himself to sleep no problem (at around 7pm) and slept til 5! He then went back to sleep til 730, when I woke him up for the day.<br /> I by no means think that every night will be like last night, but I feel SO positive about the whole experience and am a total Ferber convert :) So if anyone is debating, I say go for it!! There was so much less crying and fussing than I thought there would be.<br /> (copy and pasted from my thread: <a href="http://boards.hellobee.com/topic/talk-to-me-about-ferber)" rel="nofollow">http://boards.hellobee.com/topic/talk-to-me-about-ferber)</a> </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-did-cio-with-checks#post-1319760 Sat, 04 Jan 2014 18:45:53 +0000 chopsuey 1319760@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>no experience, but bumping! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-did-cio-with-checks#post-1312730 Thu, 02 Jan 2014 08:52:10 +0000 Revel 1312730@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We may be going down the CIO road, but there seem to be a lot of different approaches to what intervals to use for checks and what to actually do when you check.</p> <p>What did you all have success with? </p> <p>How long did it take (how many days and how much crying)? </p>