https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 05 Jun 2026 20:00:41 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-didnt-sleep-train-when-did-lo-learn-to-self-soothe#post-2164629 Sat, 02 May 2015 02:13:55 +0000 Boogs 2164629@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Jacks: I have one of those stubborn ones and our kids will need to share a room, so baby is still in our room for now. Dying for a full night of sleep, so I hope we don't have to wait until 1-2! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-didnt-sleep-train-when-did-lo-learn-to-self-soothe#post-2164625 Sat, 02 May 2015 01:44:47 +0000 Bubbles 2164625@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would always bf DS to sleep when he was small, and then one day around 5 months I think he just didn't fall asleep so I put him in his cot to see what would happen - and he dozed off v quickly on his own (prior to this I would always need to put him down asleep). From there on I could always put him down drowsy at bedtime (naps took a bit longer, maybe 6.5mo). Motn wake ups continued though until I night weaned at about 8 months. He deffo learned to put himself to sleep though without any sleep training or even any help at all on my part - I was so surprised as I thought I'd be bfing him to sleep forever! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-didnt-sleep-train-when-did-lo-learn-to-self-soothe#post-2164613 Fri, 01 May 2015 23:29:45 +0000 PinkElephant 2164613@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We tried to sleep train DD2 for middle of the night wake ups to no avail. She just wasn't having it when we tried to let her cry it out, so we stopped. At almost one she still wakes up and needs to be held/fed. However, she puts herself down for naps and bedtime with no fuss. That started around 7-8 months when we finally settled into a good and fairly regular nsp/bedtime schedule. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-didnt-sleep-train-when-did-lo-learn-to-self-soothe#post-2164609 Fri, 01 May 2015 23:04:40 +0000 ChiCalGoBee 2164609@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I started "drowsy but awake" from about 2 months onwards, and it took a bit, but it's paid off. My son is almost 6 months old and will put himself to sleep about 90% of the time. The other 10% of the time he just needs a few back pats and he's out. Key for us was (as hard as it seems) making sure we burped him after nursing/bottle to wake him up a bit, and then put him down tired but awake. PM me if you want more info! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-didnt-sleep-train-when-did-lo-learn-to-self-soothe#post-2164453 Fri, 01 May 2015 19:19:03 +0000 pmrlady 2164453@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@snowjewelz: LO slept through the night by 2 months. No sleep training, just followed a routine of eat play sleep. I guess i was lucky. Wish you the best of luck in whatever you choose! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-didnt-sleep-train-when-did-lo-learn-to-self-soothe#post-2159504 Tue, 28 Apr 2015 11:12:41 +0000 miramira 2159504@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@snowjewelz: he's 6m. We don't plan on sleep training. He's so little and even in a couple of years he'll still be little.. I'd rather have to lie next to him in order for him to fall asleep than sleep train. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-didnt-sleep-train-when-did-lo-learn-to-self-soothe#post-2159438 Tue, 28 Apr 2015 10:32:03 +0000 nana87 2159438@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is really interesting! my lo is 13 months will sttn a fair amount, but more often has just 1 wake up, but I still nurse or rock to sleep most of the time (sometimes just holding her in the glider, rather than actually standing and rocking, which is way more tiring! esp motn). she has never done the drowsy but awake business, it just makes her angry and wakes her up more. sometimes now if she's really having a hard time settling down, I put her in the crib for 5-10 mins, and when I come back she falls asleep almost immediately in my arms, but that's not really cio since she falls asleep on me...I'm hesitant to make a change, at least until we night wean, since she is a good sleeper. at her 1-year check up, our ped seemed to think her 0-1 wake ups was totally normal for this age, and basically said if it's working then keep things as is...so I'm just going to keep going with the flow, I think... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-didnt-sleep-train-when-did-lo-learn-to-self-soothe#post-2159416 Tue, 28 Apr 2015 10:22:08 +0000 snowjewelz 2159416@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrskc: That's helpful! I just want to know realistic where kids would do it by themselves if we never force them to learn it. I think the biggest challenge at a week shy of 5 mo is that she is not consistent.. If she will only be consistent at something (whether it's good or bad) then at least I can make a decision from that! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-didnt-sleep-train-when-did-lo-learn-to-self-soothe#post-2159400 Tue, 28 Apr 2015 10:09:58 +0000 mrskc 2159400@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My son started falling asleep with out any help somewhere around 2 years (I'm sure not what you want to hear!). But we did no sleep training and he eventually did it on his own. He probably could have been able to do it sooner but one of us always stayed with him until he was asleep. He was STTN around 16-18 months. It wasn't like we were rocking a 2 year old. We would just lay next to him in his floor bed until he was asleep. </p> <p>My DD is 8 months and doesn't STTN or fall asleep on her own, but I know she'll get there eventually. </p> <p>Just follow what you feel is right for you and your LO. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-didnt-sleep-train-when-did-lo-learn-to-self-soothe#post-2159390 Tue, 28 Apr 2015 10:02:36 +0000 MamaG 2159390@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@snowjewelz: I truly believe in this area, we all have different tolerances and we all break at different points. You will find your point where it's just not working anymore and you want to do something different (whatever that is). And if you don't reach that point, then you are okay with your current situation.</p> <p>We used our own CIO method on C, and K is a different kid, we are doing it differently this time around. I can't say it's better, it's just different. And we are different parents now, too. There's no magic recipe (unfortunately). C was "trained" in 3 days. And while I thought I could never listen to her cry and DH would have to do it, in the end it was just the opposite. I had to send him out of earshot and toughen up and get through it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-didnt-sleep-train-when-did-lo-learn-to-self-soothe#post-2159377 Tue, 28 Apr 2015 09:57:16 +0000 snowjewelz 2159377@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MamaG: Everyone else does the same thing we do for her to sleep haha. Ugh, I really just can't decide what I want to do! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-didnt-sleep-train-when-did-lo-learn-to-self-soothe#post-2159319 Tue, 28 Apr 2015 09:19:02 +0000 MamaG 2159319@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>How does she do for naps with others? Are they taking the same actions as you do or having a different routine? That might give you some insight into her soothing capabilities.</p> <p>LO can self soothe at daycare but isn't great about it at home. Which gives me hope that if we setup some good routines and consistency it will fall into place soon. But I've also reached my breaking point where I'm okay with letting her cry for a set amount of time to give her the chance to dig up her soothing ability. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-didnt-sleep-train-when-did-lo-learn-to-self-soothe#post-2159291 Tue, 28 Apr 2015 08:56:24 +0000 snowjewelz 2159291@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Peasinapod: exactly the junction I am at! If she is capable of learning with minimal training I am willing to stick it out b/c sleep training does stress me out a lot! But then again, if I don't try, what if she's one of those easy ones that cries for 10 min and falls asleep?</p> <p>@lamariniere: No it's helpful b/c that means they do eventually learn to fall asleep on their own! I know they do but I just wasn't sure if I'd need to be rocking a 2 year old!? lol </p> <p>@Trufflehunter: Haha oo I should try! I try not to look at her in fear of stimulating her haha. Sometimes I close my eyes too! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-didnt-sleep-train-when-did-lo-learn-to-self-soothe#post-2159258 Tue, 28 Apr 2015 08:42:14 +0000 Trufflehunter 2159258@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think ours could self-settle (go to bed awake) at about 3 months about 60% of the time. It's more or less the same strike rate now at 5 mth. 40% of the time we sing and rock the cot (it's on wheels). Another thing I do is get eye contact and make my eyes slowly close while I'm singing and it seems like she gets it and mimics me. Dunno if it's just coincidence but it seems to work every time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-didnt-sleep-train-when-did-lo-learn-to-self-soothe#post-2159254 Tue, 28 Apr 2015 08:38:48 +0000 lamariniere 2159254@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm not going to be much help, but DS learned to STTN at just after one year and DD around 14.5 months. We did some sleep training with DS (but it didn't work) and never did it with DD. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-didnt-sleep-train-when-did-lo-learn-to-self-soothe#post-2159253 Tue, 28 Apr 2015 08:38:00 +0000 Peasinapod 2159253@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@snowjewelz: my lo at 7 months still doesn't fall asleep on her own, but she did learn to connect her sleep cycles without training. I wish I'd known that was possible, month 4 &amp; 5 I was convinced I'd have to sleep train or never sleep again. Stressed me out ! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-didnt-sleep-train-when-did-lo-learn-to-self-soothe#post-2159249 Tue, 28 Apr 2015 08:35:13 +0000 Mamasig 2159249@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So far not yet. My boys are 2.5 and almost one year. I never sleep trained. They need me to fall asleep. They can self soothe sometimes when they wake up in the middle of the night but not always. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-didnt-sleep-train-when-did-lo-learn-to-self-soothe#post-2159245 Tue, 28 Apr 2015 08:33:21 +0000 snowjewelz 2159245@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@miramira: how old is he? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-didnt-sleep-train-when-did-lo-learn-to-self-soothe#post-2154540 Thu, 23 Apr 2015 15:45:13 +0000 miramira 2154540@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No advice, but just wanted to chime in to say that our LO doesn't fall asleep on his own or go down drowsy but awake either even though we have a good bedtime routine (low light, story, pacifier, white noise etc). It's just not how he's programmed! ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-didnt-sleep-train-when-did-lo-learn-to-self-soothe#post-2153913 Thu, 23 Apr 2015 10:15:01 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 2153913@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@snowjewelz: for our second two kids, the pre-sleep routine, white noise, swaddle, binky gave enough sleep cues to help them do the drowsy thing. I'll be honest though, I think breast fed kids have a much harder time in my experience :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-didnt-sleep-train-when-did-lo-learn-to-self-soothe#post-2153907 Thu, 23 Apr 2015 10:12:08 +0000 snowjewelz 2153907@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Jacks: STTN isn't an issue. but she has never been able to fall asleep on her own. The drowsy but awake has not worked at all for going down (but I do see her do it for MOTN sometimes). I guess she's a stubborn one too.. Just like us, lol! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-didnt-sleep-train-when-did-lo-learn-to-self-soothe#post-2153892 Thu, 23 Apr 2015 10:03:20 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 2153892@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We didn't do CIO with either girl. We didn't do any training with #1 (no sleep cues, white noise, breast fed to sleep) and she slept through the night somewhere between 1-2 years old. With #2 we used great sleep hygiene, sleep cues, white noise and own bed and she slept through the night at 4 months. </p> <p>This little guy we've been kind of sloppy but he only wakes up once each night now at eight weeks so we're feeling pretty good about it.</p> <p>I feel like if you "sleep train" by using sleep cues, white noise, good sleep scheduling and putting the baby down drowsy but not asleep that it all kind of falls into place without CIO. Of course temperament comes into play too and our oldest was very stubborn about sleep- still is! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-didnt-sleep-train-when-did-lo-learn-to-self-soothe#post-2153885 Thu, 23 Apr 2015 09:59:51 +0000 mrsjyw 2153885@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>3 months, w a short regression at 4 months. Never formally sleep trained. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-didnt-sleep-train-when-did-lo-learn-to-self-soothe#post-2153861 Thu, 23 Apr 2015 09:53:02 +0000 snowjewelz 2153861@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH &amp; I are still super undecided about sleep training.. We were about to start in the midst of her 4 mo leap/regression, but I'm seeing her make a lot of progress, mainly being able to STTN now here &amp; there so now I'm thinking maybe just give her more time and opportunities to learn to self soothe but not crossing the line into formal sleep training.. </p>