https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 14 Apr 2026 17:36:28 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-dont-live-near-family-how-did-you-decide-where-to-settle-down#post-2615618 Sat, 03 Sep 2016 06:00:18 +0000 Mrs. Champagne 2615618@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We moved 3 hours away from family (we met in high school so our families live in the same town) for DHs job straight out of university. We love love love our new small town life and DH has an incredible job. I really wish family would move here, lol. I can't see us moving unless DH got an even better job offer where our parents live... But even then we would love a bit far away because they live in a busy city and we don't love that any more.</p> <p>ETA we live in our probably forever home. Definitely will be here for a while unless something on the water came up for a really good price or something but that doesn't happen so I think this is where we shall stay! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-dont-live-near-family-how-did-you-decide-where-to-settle-down#post-2615610 Sat, 03 Sep 2016 05:17:54 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2615610@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We moved to our new city because of my husband's career. We are not in our forever home. For now we are staying put on the East Coast to be closer to family. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-dont-live-near-family-how-did-you-decide-where-to-settle-down#post-2615597 Sat, 03 Sep 2016 01:43:26 +0000 808love 2615597@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm in my forever home in theory. Occasionally dream of moving but probably won't. We decided to live in close proximity of our work. We are in our forever careers. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-dont-live-near-family-how-did-you-decide-where-to-settle-down#post-2615583 Fri, 02 Sep 2016 23:50:48 +0000 lamariniere 2615583@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We don't live anywhere near our families and probably never will. We are where we are now because of my DH's job. But it's a medium term contract that will be up in 3 years and we will definitely move on after that. Location is dependent on where DH finds his next job. We have no plans to settle anywhere specific anytime soon. Luckily, we are both fine with that lifestyle. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-dont-live-near-family-how-did-you-decide-where-to-settle-down#post-2615537 Fri, 02 Sep 2016 20:08:14 +0000 catlady 2615537@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We actually do live close to family but we don't live here for that reason. It just happened that we both got into grad school in this city, and then afterwards, we got job offers here and one other city and we preferred the job offers here. If we had preferred the job offers in the other city, we would likely have moved there. There aren't too many cities where we can both get jobs in our (different) fields and we are just lucky that our families happen to live close to one of them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-dont-live-near-family-how-did-you-decide-where-to-settle-down#post-2615513 Fri, 02 Sep 2016 18:42:40 +0000 Periwinkle 2615513@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We moved from the west coast to where we live now almost 10 years ago because it was much, much closer our families. We don't live that close to either (still within a few hours' driving distance but not super nearby) but found our way to this state because of job opportunities for my husband. We have moved around here a bit, also because of jobs, and have started to feel like this is home. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-dont-live-near-family-how-did-you-decide-where-to-settle-down#post-2615507 Fri, 02 Sep 2016 18:30:02 +0000 KayKay 2615507@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We've moved a lot for DH's medical training. For med school/residency, we made choices based on best fit of program, not really location at all (that is, we picked locations we wanted to live, but not necessarily close to any family). For fellowship especially (only 1 year), we picked a place that would be somewhere "different" to live, since it had a very short, defined start and end date. After that, we just looked based on his job prospects primarily. Once we knew where his opportunities were, we then weighed other factors (eventual job prospects for me, other things we like/like to do, etc) to pick our choice. None were particularly close to family at that point, so it didn't really factor in...other than being close to a big airport! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-dont-live-near-family-how-did-you-decide-where-to-settle-down#post-2615503 Fri, 02 Sep 2016 18:21:02 +0000 Andrea 2615503@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We both studied business/economics so the NY metro area was a logical place to be after graduation. We've also lived in London, another big financial hub. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-dont-live-near-family-how-did-you-decide-where-to-settle-down#post-2615489 Fri, 02 Sep 2016 17:36:21 +0000 Ms.Badger 2615489@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My now husband and I moved from the midwest (we met at college in a large college town in between our two hometowns) to the west coast for graduate school. I had always planned on moving after we both graduated but he ended up finding a job at a great company. 5 years or so later, we both work for that same great company. They really supported us when we went through a really rough time and it would take an incredible opportunity for us to move any from our jobs here (or them opening a second location).<br /> I don't really believe in the concept of forever homes. I know that we'll "trade-up" in a few years, most likely in the same area we are in now, however, I'd always be willing to move if the right situation presented itself. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-dont-live-near-family-how-did-you-decide-where-to-settle-down#post-2615488 Fri, 02 Sep 2016 17:35:56 +0000 peachykeen 2615488@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I went to grad school in Atlanta (best opportunity for my program), liked the area, and had good job opportunities here after graduation. I didn't meet DH until I'd been living here for 3.5 years and he was pretty settled here as a teacher (paying into teacher's pension makes it not advantageous for him to move states). Both of our families are out-of-state but we're here to stay. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-dont-live-near-family-how-did-you-decide-where-to-settle-down#post-2615486 Fri, 02 Sep 2016 17:23:40 +0000 Cole 2615486@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband took a job in an area we never even considered, col and the job opportunity made it a hard offer to refuse so we said we'd do it for 2 years. It turns out we love, love, love it here so we're staying. We've been here 9 years and have bought our forever home. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-dont-live-near-family-how-did-you-decide-where-to-settle-down#post-2615478 Fri, 02 Sep 2016 16:38:55 +0000 Foodnerd81 2615478@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We met at college in this city. DH stayed here while I moved back closer to my family, but ended up moving back here again to be with him. We certainly didn't need to stay and could move back closer to where my family is but I like it better here, even if I wish I was closer to family. </p> <p>We recently had to decide about moving cross country for DH's job and decided we want to stay here long term. Then we bought what will likely be our forever house! (Or at least until the kids graduate high school). We move next week. </p> <p>I love this area (Boston area) and it's a comfortable distance from my family that we can drive down for a weekend, but not just for the day. Wish it was closer but we don't want to live there. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-dont-live-near-family-how-did-you-decide-where-to-settle-down#post-2615476 Fri, 02 Sep 2016 16:16:47 +0000 yellowbird 2615476@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Just dreaming of the day I can say we live in our forever home. 2.75 years and counting before we can decide where to live for the rest of our lives. I have no idea where we will end up though. It will most likely be where we can find jobs, but the city and state will have to be somewhere we love. I don't think we will end up near family due to job prospects in our fields. </p> <p>How did you end up where you are? Are you in your forever home? </p>