https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 06 May 2026 09:26:07 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-dont-plan-on-spanking-your-lo#post-582390 Thu, 21 Feb 2013 11:46:35 +0000 Honeybee 582390@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We use positive parenting techinques, which seem to work really well so far. It depends on the situation how we would respond to it, but right now we use time outs for "serious" infractions like violence or repeatedly doing somethong unsafe when asked not to. DD also responds very well to talking things out and I hope DS will follow suit! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-dont-plan-on-spanking-your-lo#post-582366 Thu, 21 Feb 2013 11:40:25 +0000 Arden 582366@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I intend to focus on the good rather than the bad, but occasionally of course there will need to be consequences for bad behavior. I want to spend a lot of time talking to my kids and explaining the "why" behind our rules, not just randomly lashing out when they push me too far.</p> <p>Special privileges given for good behavior, privileges taken away for bad behavior. This was very effective for me growing up. </p> <p>"Quiet Time" when they need to calm down. I like the idea of the shake bottle of water with glitter in it and they have to watch it and wait till all the glitter settles to the bottom before they may get up. I think it gives them time to chill and regain control of their behavior. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-dont-plan-on-spanking-your-lo#post-582318 Thu, 21 Feb 2013 11:30:47 +0000 jmarionsmith 582318@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think when they're old enough to understand, taking away screen time will be a big incentive to not misbehave! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-dont-plan-on-spanking-your-lo#post-582301 Thu, 21 Feb 2013 11:27:34 +0000 hilsy85 582301@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I guess probably time outs? I'd like it to be more of a "Reward positive behavior" thing rather than "discipline for negative behavior" but I know that's probably not realistic...so probably time outs and maybe taking away privileges temporarily as a consequence for poor behavior. I really have no idea though; interested to see what other people's approaches are! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-dont-plan-on-spanking-your-lo#post-582299 Thu, 21 Feb 2013 11:27:17 +0000 Bao 582299@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I plan on using redirection or time outs, as well as taking favorite toy items away once she's a bit older or taking privileges away. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-dont-plan-on-spanking-your-lo#post-582287 Thu, 21 Feb 2013 11:25:03 +0000 lovehoneybee 582287@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>How do you plan on disciplining them?</p> <p>For most things we've seen making them sit "on the step" work really well with our nephews. When they aren't listening, are fighting with each other, or doing a number of other things they aren't supposed to they have to sit on a step (or stool) for 5-10 minutes. It's been effective for them because they aren't allowed to talk to anyone or be talked to (but have to watch the others running around having fun) and aren't in their own rooms with their toys. </p> <p>If it's a severe offense we'll have to decide on something more than that, but for the immediate it's our plan. And we're not completely shutting the door on the idea that there are some offenses for which spanking is warranted (although DH has mentioned that he would want it to be something that happened an hour or two later, not as an angry, heat of the moment action) but it is something we plan on using as a last resort for...well I'm not quite sure what would warrant it yet. </p> <p>What are you alternatives to spanking? If you're already implementing them do you find the </p>