https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 13 Apr 2026 18:39:33 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-found-out-your-so-cheated-on-you-would-you-stay-married-for-the-kids#post-122076 Sat, 14 Apr 2012 07:12:59 +0000 tequiero21 122076@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Don't think it'll ever come to that... But I would try to give my all to make it work... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-found-out-your-so-cheated-on-you-would-you-stay-married-for-the-kids#post-121999 Sat, 14 Apr 2012 03:43:48 +0000 cupcakemama 121999@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would try to make it work but wouldn't stay together if the kids were all that held us. That would be an awful marriage. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-found-out-your-so-cheated-on-you-would-you-stay-married-for-the-kids#post-121894 Fri, 13 Apr 2012 21:15:38 +0000 Maysprout 121894@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I know my husband would stay if I did. It would be hard to give up everything we've tried to build together. I'm not sure if I could be so forgiving but I'd probably try to work through it, though the enormous time and craziness of trying to work through something like that would be nauseating, plus the thought of what happened. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-found-out-your-so-cheated-on-you-would-you-stay-married-for-the-kids#post-121893 Fri, 13 Apr 2012 21:15:32 +0000 SAHM0811 121893@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I feel the same way as those who said they'd try to work it out. The kids would be part of the motivation to work it out, but not all of it. I believe that marriage is not perfect, people make mistakes, and that forgiveness would be enormously difficult, but not impossible. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-found-out-your-so-cheated-on-you-would-you-stay-married-for-the-kids#post-121891 Fri, 13 Apr 2012 21:12:38 +0000 mediagirl 121891@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have no idea. He won't, so it's a non-issue. :-) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-found-out-your-so-cheated-on-you-would-you-stay-married-for-the-kids#post-121889 Fri, 13 Apr 2012 21:06:56 +0000 SugarplumsMom 121889@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hell no! I can't live with cheating and believe that kids need a happy environment - there can't be much happiness going around after something like that (at least for me). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-found-out-your-so-cheated-on-you-would-you-stay-married-for-the-kids#post-121846 Fri, 13 Apr 2012 19:31:23 +0000 BSB 121846@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I guess I do have to add that I will try to save the marriage by going to counseling. If that doesn't work and I'm still not happy then I would end the marriage. I don't want to give up on a marriage too early. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-found-out-your-so-cheated-on-you-would-you-stay-married-for-the-kids#post-121842 Fri, 13 Apr 2012 19:17:05 +0000 mrbee 121842@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@banana: I was speaking hypothetically!</p> <p>We've definitely talked about this before though, and she knows where I stand. :-) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-found-out-your-so-cheated-on-you-would-you-stay-married-for-the-kids#post-121822 Fri, 13 Apr 2012 19:05:25 +0000 banana 121822@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mr.bee: Awwww....that's sweet. Wait, is @mrs.bee reading this? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-found-out-your-so-cheated-on-you-would-you-stay-married-for-the-kids#post-121820 Fri, 13 Apr 2012 19:04:14 +0000 mrbee 121820@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would definitely try to make it work. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-found-out-your-so-cheated-on-you-would-you-stay-married-for-the-kids#post-121813 Fri, 13 Apr 2012 18:55:46 +0000 Rainbow Sprinkles 121813@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>HELL NO.<br /> If he cheated, I am done. </p> <p>Trust and respect are the foundations of a healthy marriage. When one cheats, both of those are lost. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-found-out-your-so-cheated-on-you-would-you-stay-married-for-the-kids#post-121808 Fri, 13 Apr 2012 18:43:55 +0000 cyndistar3 121808@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would honestly want to try to make the marriage work as long as he did too because of my love for him and that is what God would want. Sure, I definitely want the kids to have their daddy around but I feel like a marriage based on that is bound to fail and is not fair to the kids. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-found-out-your-so-cheated-on-you-would-you-stay-married-for-the-kids#post-121785 Fri, 13 Apr 2012 17:58:39 +0000 BananaPancakes 121785@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@miss-spunkin: I feel exactly the same. As long as he was still willing to work on the marriage, I'd stay. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-found-out-your-so-cheated-on-you-would-you-stay-married-for-the-kids#post-121781 Fri, 13 Apr 2012 17:54:59 +0000 mrsjyw 121781@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hell no. That's how much of a deal breaker it is for me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-found-out-your-so-cheated-on-you-would-you-stay-married-for-the-kids#post-121776 Fri, 13 Apr 2012 17:52:55 +0000 heffalump 121776@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No way. That's not forgivable in my book. We'd be done. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-found-out-your-so-cheated-on-you-would-you-stay-married-for-the-kids#post-121763 Fri, 13 Apr 2012 17:32:21 +0000 winniebee 121763@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't do it for the kids - but would consider staying in the marriage depending on the circumstances of the affair. On the one hand, I'd like to say I'd be able to get over it, but I kind of doubt that I could....on the other hand, I can't imagine divorcing, either since we have been together for 11 years. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-found-out-your-so-cheated-on-you-would-you-stay-married-for-the-kids#post-121761 Fri, 13 Apr 2012 17:27:57 +0000 Mrs. Pen 121761@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't do it for kids, I would do it because I want my marriage to work. I can not imagine leaving my husband. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-found-out-your-so-cheated-on-you-would-you-stay-married-for-the-kids#post-121757 Fri, 13 Apr 2012 17:20:52 +0000 Andrea 121757@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If the kids were the only thing keeping us together then no way ... no one ends up happy in those types of scenarios. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-found-out-your-so-cheated-on-you-would-you-stay-married-for-the-kids#post-121756 Fri, 13 Apr 2012 17:20:37 +0000 Honeybee 121756@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Regardless of the kids, it would take a lot for me to leave my husband. As long as he was willing to recommit to me and work on our relationship, I would probably stay. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-found-out-your-so-cheated-on-you-would-you-stay-married-for-the-kids#post-121755 Fri, 13 Apr 2012 17:18:12 +0000 Arden 121755@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think I would. It wouldn't be worth it to me, I'd be miserable all the time. I'd rather be a happy and independent mama. That said, I REALLY don't think my DH is the cheating type. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-found-out-your-so-cheated-on-you-would-you-stay-married-for-the-kids#post-121748 Fri, 13 Apr 2012 17:11:21 +0000 BSB 121748@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think I could. My parents should not be married. I don't think my parents cheated on each other but they are on two different wavelengths for so many years and we definitely saw the negativity. I still wish my mom was strong enough to leave my dad. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-found-out-your-so-cheated-on-you-would-you-stay-married-for-the-kids#post-121746 Fri, 13 Apr 2012 17:08:50 +0000 hilsy85 121746@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't stay married JUST for the kids...that sounds like a miserable marriage. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-found-out-your-so-cheated-on-you-would-you-stay-married-for-the-kids#post-121741 Fri, 13 Apr 2012 17:05:10 +0000 HabesBabe 121741@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No way. It would be so obvious to the kids (especially later in life) that you stayed together for them-- they might see it as staying together BECAUSE of them. I wouldn't be able to trust hubs and I would be miserable, which means our family would be miserable.</p> <p>It wouldn't be fair for yourself, your husband, or your kids (especially your kids!). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-found-out-your-so-cheated-on-you-would-you-stay-married-for-the-kids#post-121731 Fri, 13 Apr 2012 17:00:29 +0000 chopsuey 121731@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>As much as I would want to, i dont think i could. Trust is such a fragile thing.. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-found-out-your-so-cheated-on-you-would-you-stay-married-for-the-kids#post-121729 Fri, 13 Apr 2012 16:58:37 +0000 Running Elley 121729@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would love to be able to strongly be able to say definitely not but I'm not sure. I think it would depend on the circumstances (who it was, whether it was a one time or ongoing thing, how he was approaching it, how I found out, etc.). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-found-out-your-so-cheated-on-you-would-you-stay-married-for-the-kids#post-121726 Fri, 13 Apr 2012 16:54:18 +0000 banana 121726@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My best friend went through a nasty divorce last year. She found out her husband was cheating on her 2 years ago, but she decided to stay married to him for her kids. She wanted them to be around their daddy full-time (he was great with the kids). That is, until she found out he got his mistress pregnant. Then she just couldn't do it anymore and left the bastard.</p> <p>If you found out your SO cheated on you, could you/would you stay married for the kids? </p>