https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 10 Apr 2026 19:07:01 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-get-a-little-visitor-in-bed-in-the-middle-of-the-night#post-1875093 Tue, 23 Sep 2014 23:41:22 +0000 Espion 1875093@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You could spray the inside doorknob to his bedroom with Pam... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-get-a-little-visitor-in-bed-in-the-middle-of-the-night#post-1875086 Tue, 23 Sep 2014 23:23:24 +0000 ScarletBegonia 1875086@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have no experience personally but my sister has this issue with her 4 year old, and they have been using a reward chart for the past couple of weeks which seems to have worked pretty well - when she has 5 nights in a row of staying in her room she gets a little reward, or she can keep accumulating her little rewards for a bigger one if she chooses. They have also done a little mattress on the floor of their room that she has to sleep on rather than allowing her to get into bed with them - the combination of those two things seem to have done the trick. It has definitely taken some time though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-get-a-little-visitor-in-bed-in-the-middle-of-the-night#post-1875066 Tue, 23 Sep 2014 22:17:00 +0000 JennyD 1875066@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sometimes I let her stay for a little while. She always gets sent back after about an hour or two. LO is 2.5. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-get-a-little-visitor-in-bed-in-the-middle-of-the-night#post-1873820 Tue, 23 Sep 2014 07:59:21 +0000 mamimami 1873820@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ugh last night we decided to try "my way" AKA softie mom's lenient approach -- in other words just let him get in bed the *second* time he came into our room. FAIL. He hogged the whole bed and then the other one woke up crying (still in their shared bedroom - I seriously think she can feel it when she's left alone) and I took the older one back to his bed when I went to check on the little one, and they were both just totally out of control. My husband got so frustrated!! And I was half asleep. And "my way" was a total failure. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-get-a-little-visitor-in-bed-in-the-middle-of-the-night#post-1873398 Mon, 22 Sep 2014 16:30:41 +0000 enjollah 1873398@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We do! Our LO is 2 1/2 and if we're awaken by him coming in, then one of us will bring him back. But a lately I been so tired and when LO comes in around 5 or 6am, I just welcome the snuggles. If DH has a problem with it, he can put him back haha. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-get-a-little-visitor-in-bed-in-the-middle-of-the-night#post-1873018 Mon, 22 Sep 2014 12:42:01 +0000 mamimami 1873018@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@blackbird: maybe a board with a thin woolen blanket on top. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-get-a-little-visitor-in-bed-in-the-middle-of-the-night#post-1872978 Mon, 22 Sep 2014 12:18:31 +0000 blackbird 1872978@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mamimami: awwww haha. then i have no ideas! Mine is still barricaded in her crib. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-get-a-little-visitor-in-bed-in-the-middle-of-the-night#post-1872944 Mon, 22 Sep 2014 11:55:51 +0000 Mrs. High Heels 1872944@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We get a lil visitor anywhere from 4-6 am and we let her stay. She's almost 4, and has been doing this since she was 2.5. We don't mind because she just snuggles up in a little corner of the bed and we like the cuddles. It's a good balance because we still get our alone time at night to unwind after we put her to bed, and we get the benefits of the cuddles when we wake in the mornings. We always tell her she has to sleep in her bed first, but she can always come to our bed later if she wants as long as she sleeps in her bed first. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-get-a-little-visitor-in-bed-in-the-middle-of-the-night#post-1872910 Mon, 22 Sep 2014 11:27:52 +0000 LuLu Mom 1872910@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Lo is almost 2 and she likes to visit way too often. We usually take her back to her room but it's always a big meltdown! If it's close to time to wake up we let her stay, but she's a kicker so no one gets sleep but her! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-get-a-little-visitor-in-bed-in-the-middle-of-the-night#post-1872901 Mon, 22 Sep 2014 11:18:02 +0000 Little Misters Mom 1872901@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mamimami: When I was little my parents would let us stay in a sleeping bag on the floor if we came to their room. I think we liked the novelty of it for about one night but it was uncomfortable enough that there wasn't much appeal on a regular basis. </p> <p>I would think it would be important to have a consistent policy with your husband, so he doesn't learn to divide and conquer. :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-get-a-little-visitor-in-bed-in-the-middle-of-the-night#post-1872864 Mon, 22 Sep 2014 10:51:47 +0000 mamimami 1872864@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@blackbird: I have thought about that. I don't want him to get too comfy though, haha. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-get-a-little-visitor-in-bed-in-the-middle-of-the-night#post-1872800 Mon, 22 Sep 2014 10:14:49 +0000 blackbird 1872800@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Can you put a little mattress on the floor in your room so he can be near you but not in bed with you? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-get-a-little-visitor-in-bed-in-the-middle-of-the-night#post-1872798 Mon, 22 Sep 2014 10:14:23 +0000 mamimami 1872798@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mamaof2: oooooh interesting!! That might work! Worth a try, especially considering the alternative :/ </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-get-a-little-visitor-in-bed-in-the-middle-of-the-night#post-1872796 Mon, 22 Sep 2014 10:13:26 +0000 Mamaof2 1872796@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mamimami: we went thru this earlier this year with my almost 6 yr old</p> <p>I will say it didn't work for us and had to cut him cold turkey after being in our bed for 5 months but maybe it will work for you.</p> <p>Use a stoplight clock or a small light on a timer - tell him when he wakes up if the light is on he can come in your bed if not he has to stay in bed.</p> <p>Depending on what time your DS usually come in your room use that as a start time.<br /> So for the 1st week have the light come on at say 1am.</p> <p>Then the 2nd week or even a few days later move it to 2 am</p> <p>slowly move the time up until he is staying in his bed all night. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-get-a-little-visitor-in-bed-in-the-middle-of-the-night#post-1872751 Mon, 22 Sep 2014 09:48:04 +0000 mamimami 1872751@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@BandDmommy: Yeah, I think once it's starting to get light out it's OK. But before that can be tricky.... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-get-a-little-visitor-in-bed-in-the-middle-of-the-night#post-1872614 Mon, 22 Sep 2014 08:50:32 +0000 BandDmommy 1872614@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My LO likes to join us in bed at 6 or 7 am. I just let him stay. If it was earlier I'd put him back in his bed. He's 2. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-get-a-little-visitor-in-bed-in-the-middle-of-the-night#post-1872606 Mon, 22 Sep 2014 08:44:13 +0000 Dandelion 1872606@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mamimami: he likes to cuddle, but he's always liked his own bed. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-get-a-little-visitor-in-bed-in-the-middle-of-the-night#post-1872604 Mon, 22 Sep 2014 08:43:09 +0000 mamimami 1872604@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Dandelion: Haha I can see how that would be good and bad! I might feel hurt if my kid didn't want to cuddle, but at the same time, that obviously solved that issue for you right off the bat! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-get-a-little-visitor-in-bed-in-the-middle-of-the-night#post-1872596 Mon, 22 Sep 2014 08:37:43 +0000 Dandelion 1872596@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>M is too young to visit. I don't think D (7 years) has visited me since he was under 2. But, he has yelled for me in the night. He's never liked sleeping with me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-get-a-little-visitor-in-bed-in-the-middle-of-the-night#post-1872584 Mon, 22 Sep 2014 08:32:13 +0000 mamimami 1872584@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>... What do you do? (And what age is your visitor?)</p> <p>My son will be 4 in a few months. He comes to our room with some frequency, either climbing into bed without my noticing or he will ask us to come to his room and lie there for awhile. My husband is quite strict and will take him back and return after a couple of minutes. Sometimes my son will refuse to go back so my husband will tell him he can sit on the floor or go to his timeout area and sit. But, I am a softie and I feel sorry for him. We are now trying to come up with a policy! FWIW he shares a room with his little sister but she's in a crib still. </p>