https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 20 Jul 2026 11:48:39 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-got-multiples-through-iui-or-ivf-do-people-ask-you-if-it-was-natural-or-through-treatments/page/2#post-1714259 Sat, 21 Jun 2014 17:13:27 +0000 FliegepilzHut 1714259@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Caly: I :heart: :heart: :heart: that onesie! If I'm successful with IVF, that's a must-have! (PS: I also want your attitude...I'm against shaming in general and being open about IF helps that, I think. Also, for years I've been the curious imbecile who's REALLY wanted to know about all those spontaneous -- and treatment-related -- multiples!) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-got-multiples-through-iui-or-ivf-do-people-ask-you-if-it-was-natural-or-through-treatments/page/2#post-1515358 Sun, 23 Mar 2014 12:15:14 +0000 Reese 1515358@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Wow.. Pre HB I have definitely asked people with twins if multiples run in the family. Only because I was intrigued by multiples... Being nosey about IVF was never a thought in my mind. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-got-multiples-through-iui-or-ivf-do-people-ask-you-if-it-was-natural-or-through-treatments/page/2#post-1515271 Sun, 23 Mar 2014 11:04:07 +0000 beachbee 1515271@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes! We went through IVF and got pregnant with triplets. As soon as we announced three babies the questions stared coming out. I wasn't hiding the fact that we did IVF, so I was pretty open with most people who asked if we were close. But there were tons of casual acquaintances, co-workers and just general strangers who asked. I usually had a smart comeback for them because I was so off-put that they would really ask that not really knowing me at all. DH and I had fun coming up with responses to really prying questions :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-got-multiples-through-iui-or-ivf-do-people-ask-you-if-it-was-natural-or-through-treatments/page/2#post-1515198 Sun, 23 Mar 2014 10:11:33 +0000 Andrea 1515198@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am always curious, but would never ask! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-got-multiples-through-iui-or-ivf-do-people-ask-you-if-it-was-natural-or-through-treatments/page/2#post-1515095 Sun, 23 Mar 2014 08:43:33 +0000 Grace 1515095@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't even wonder with twins, but definitely higher multiples. It's not that I'm curious about IVF, more that I'm curious if something with such low odds happened spontaneously. And no, I would never ask a stranger. I think that's weird. For that matter, I wouldn't ask a friend either, because if they wanted me to know, I'd know already. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-got-multiples-through-iui-or-ivf-do-people-ask-you-if-it-was-natural-or-through-treatments/page/2#post-1515079 Sun, 23 Mar 2014 08:30:59 +0000 twodoghouse 1515079@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LMOG47: love that onesie design! </p> <p>People mostly ask us if twins run in the family. I've been very open with almost everyone who asks that and just say "oh we went trough fertility treatments." I'm not ashamed of it or anything. Some people at work that are older or just annoying I just say "no twins in the family - isn't that amazing!" And leave it at that. I've only had one person flat out ask me if we did treatment. Turns out she was going through IVF at the time too! I have heard a lot more crazy questions are going to come out when they are actually here and we take them in public! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-got-multiples-through-iui-or-ivf-do-people-ask-you-if-it-was-natural-or-through-treatments/page/2#post-1515067 Sun, 23 Mar 2014 08:25:23 +0000 thisisme 1515067@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LMOG47: I just gave that onesie to my husband for his birthday yesterday! I'm six weeks pregnant with our IVF baby. Just one though! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-got-multiples-through-iui-or-ivf-do-people-ask-you-if-it-was-natural-or-through-treatments/page/2#post-1514730 Sat, 22 Mar 2014 22:24:46 +0000 Mrs. Pinata 1514730@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>And interestingly enough, there were IDENTICAL twins at my school that were actually born via surrogate! But since they're identical they aren't twins due to the fertility treatment, but just luck/God because they came from the same sperm/egg. So interesting how the reproduction system works! (or in some cases doesn't work I guess.. blergh) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-got-multiples-through-iui-or-ivf-do-people-ask-you-if-it-was-natural-or-through-treatments/page/2#post-1514726 Sat, 22 Mar 2014 22:22:32 +0000 Mrs. Pinata 1514726@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsSCB: Oh my gosh! That's crazy! Well, he and his sister now definitely know how MUCH their parents wanted to have them! :-) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-got-multiples-through-iui-or-ivf-do-people-ask-you-if-it-was-natural-or-through-treatments#post-1512656 Fri, 21 Mar 2014 15:27:05 +0000 MrsSCB 1512656@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Shutterbug: Yup! She just mentioned something about, "well since you and your sister were IVF babies..." When she left the room, I whispered, "So...did you know that?" and he was like, "NOPE." Lol, it doesn't bother him, though, we mostly just laughed about it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-got-multiples-through-iui-or-ivf-do-people-ask-you-if-it-was-natural-or-through-treatments#post-1512652 Fri, 21 Mar 2014 15:24:36 +0000 msmug 1512652@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm currently expecting twins (via ivf) but I've never been asked if it was through IVF or infertility treatments. The question I have gotten a million times thought is, "Do twins run in your family?"<br /> and I've volunteered the 'ivf' information to some people. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-got-multiples-through-iui-or-ivf-do-people-ask-you-if-it-was-natural-or-through-treatments#post-1512625 Fri, 21 Mar 2014 15:10:22 +0000 Shutterbug 1512625@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsSCB: wow, really? That's wild! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-got-multiples-through-iui-or-ivf-do-people-ask-you-if-it-was-natural-or-through-treatments#post-1512603 Fri, 21 Mar 2014 15:02:40 +0000 Caly 1512603@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bluestriped bee: omg, I LOVE that! I want one (or two...heh)! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-got-multiples-through-iui-or-ivf-do-people-ask-you-if-it-was-natural-or-through-treatments#post-1512597 Fri, 21 Mar 2014 14:59:56 +0000 MrsSCB 1512597@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband is a twin -- I don't think people have asked HIM that question, but not sure about his parents. But even if they had asked him, they wouldn't have gotten a correct response until recently. He and his sister were conceived through IVF but he didn't even know until his grandma mentioned it offhand a couple of years ago! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-got-multiples-through-iui-or-ivf-do-people-ask-you-if-it-was-natural-or-through-treatments#post-1512579 Fri, 21 Mar 2014 14:53:12 +0000 SweetiePie 1512579@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was wondering this same thing when we did IVF and the doc told us about the increased chance of twins. We only transferred one so the chances were still pretty low, but I wondered if twins would be a dead giveaway. Although since we transferred one, they would likely be identical and I think that people automatically think identical = natural. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-got-multiples-through-iui-or-ivf-do-people-ask-you-if-it-was-natural-or-through-treatments#post-1512572 Fri, 21 Mar 2014 14:51:12 +0000 SweetiePie 1512572@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bluestriped bee: O.M.G. I am in love with that!!! We're expecting our IVF baby boy and that almost made me cry! So funny and cute! I'm not sure Id put him in it in public just because it invites lots of comments and questions, but for around the house and family...I want it!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-got-multiples-through-iui-or-ivf-do-people-ask-you-if-it-was-natural-or-through-treatments#post-1512519 Fri, 21 Mar 2014 14:36:36 +0000 Jenn23 1512519@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LMOG47: I LOVE that onesie!!</p> <p>I never ask, but I always wonder. But I think that is because I did IVF so the idea of twins has been in my head for years now. There is a woman at my son's music class with fraternal twins that I chat with every week and I so badly want to ask her just because if she did IVF, I would love to talk with her about it since we have that in common. But I don't ask her, because I know it is rude and I wouldn't want people asking me the same. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-got-multiples-through-iui-or-ivf-do-people-ask-you-if-it-was-natural-or-through-treatments#post-1512472 Fri, 21 Mar 2014 14:24:00 +0000 Trailmix 1512472@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Allllllll the time. As in, it's wierd if I don't get asked. I don't mind, I'm very upfront about having interventions and it really doesn't bother me at all. But yes, this is a constant question when you have multiples. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-got-multiples-through-iui-or-ivf-do-people-ask-you-if-it-was-natural-or-through-treatments#post-1512400 Fri, 21 Mar 2014 14:00:25 +0000 sotofamilia 1512400@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think I've used the term "spontaneous" instead of natural, because I didn't like the connotation...a friend of mine is having twins, and I definitely waited until she mentioned it was a surprise. I might wonder but I wouldn't ask. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-got-multiples-through-iui-or-ivf-do-people-ask-you-if-it-was-natural-or-through-treatments#post-1512391 Fri, 21 Mar 2014 13:58:33 +0000 sunshineandsushi 1512391@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@dc yoga bee: I don't really consider it offensive, I think just because I get the question ALL THE TIME, it wears on me. Twins really don't run in my family, so I answer no and then people are surprised. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-got-multiples-through-iui-or-ivf-do-people-ask-you-if-it-was-natural-or-through-treatments#post-1512372 Fri, 21 Mar 2014 13:53:45 +0000 dc yoga bee 1512372@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Is it offensive to ask if twins run in the family? I never thought to ask that to figure out if it was through intervention, i think twins are cool and wonder if there are more sets in the fam! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-got-multiples-through-iui-or-ivf-do-people-ask-you-if-it-was-natural-or-through-treatments#post-1512364 Fri, 21 Mar 2014 13:51:51 +0000 sunshineandsushi 1512364@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Blue: Yep, I agree, you get this question regardless. </p> <p>I kind of think when people ask if twins run in your family, they're trying to subtly ask if you had fertility treatments or not.</p> <p>I had a woman ask me in a restaurant if I had my twins "naturally." Personally, I think it's an intrusive question, and I did NOT have fertility treatments. So, if you're "only" having one child, it's okay for me to ask, did you get pregnant on purpose? Just none of your business and the answer doesn't make the baby/babies any less precious. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-got-multiples-through-iui-or-ivf-do-people-ask-you-if-it-was-natural-or-through-treatments#post-1512350 Fri, 21 Mar 2014 13:49:03 +0000 twoofeverything 1512350@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yup. It usually comes in the form of, "do twins run in your family?" At first I played stupid/lied...then I decided to just tell them what they really wanted to know! Now I just say, "yep, they're IVF babies!" and go on with my day. Usually people look totally shocked, but whatevs...it wasn't their business in the first place! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-got-multiples-through-iui-or-ivf-do-people-ask-you-if-it-was-natural-or-through-treatments#post-1512341 Fri, 21 Mar 2014 13:46:50 +0000 MamaMoose 1512341@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@looch: I know someone who had triplet boys through IVF and two were identical and one was fraternal. She actually specifically requested they only do two embryos instead of three because she was concerned about multiples. The real kicker? She was 46 and her husband was 56 when the boys were born!!!! But they are the sweetest kid! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-got-multiples-through-iui-or-ivf-do-people-ask-you-if-it-was-natural-or-through-treatments#post-1512314 Fri, 21 Mar 2014 13:40:04 +0000 pui 1512314@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think if someone were to ask that I would say that's a rude question. It really is! Why would you ask that!? Why does it matter?</p> <p>It's one thing to ask "do twins run in your family?" and another to ask "are they natural?" as if IVF babies are freaks or something. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-got-multiples-through-iui-or-ivf-do-people-ask-you-if-it-was-natural-or-through-treatments#post-1512310 Fri, 21 Mar 2014 13:38:39 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 1512310@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think if I ever had twins with intervention, no one would ask because we have about 5 sets of "natural" twins on my moms side between cousins/aunts/grandparents. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-got-multiples-through-iui-or-ivf-do-people-ask-you-if-it-was-natural-or-through-treatments#post-1512248 Fri, 21 Mar 2014 13:26:23 +0000 BSB 1512248@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LMOG47: love that onsie!</p> <p>[attach=147/14/n2stw0.540x591.image.jpg]</p> <p>I saw this photo recently and had to save it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-got-multiples-through-iui-or-ivf-do-people-ask-you-if-it-was-natural-or-through-treatments#post-1511970 Fri, 21 Mar 2014 12:15:46 +0000 Anagram 1511970@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LMOG47: super cute onesie! And I agree, no reason to be ashamed! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-got-multiples-through-iui-or-ivf-do-people-ask-you-if-it-was-natural-or-through-treatments#post-1511918 Fri, 21 Mar 2014 12:00:19 +0000 twobee 1511918@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LMOG47: You are awesome! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-got-multiples-through-iui-or-ivf-do-people-ask-you-if-it-was-natural-or-through-treatments#post-1511903 Fri, 21 Mar 2014 11:55:04 +0000 Caly 1511903@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My twins are 4.5mo and I haven't been asked this yet. Many people have asked if twins run in our family or if we were shocked when we found out were were expecting twins. To these questions I've always answered "they're IVF babies, so, we knew our chances of twins were very high." I don't say this to make them uncomfortable, I honestly respond this way to make fertility treatments less of a hush hush topic. I have no issue talking about our experience. Plus, if it helps someone else going through the same thing, that's great. If, (or perhaps, when) someone asks in the future outright if they were the result of fertility treatments, I won't be offended or upset, I'll just tell them, yes, they were, with a smile :grin:</p> <p>Eta: we have these onsies for them, "made with love...and science" </p> [attach=3358/14/n2spyr.153x100.image.jpg]