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Hellobee Boards Topic: if you had a m/c and are pregnant now, do you say this is your 1st? or 2nd? https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 30 Apr 2026 02:45:28 +0000 MamaLove on "if you had a m/c and are pregnant now, do you say this is your 1st? or 2nd?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-had-a-mc-and-are-pregnant-now-do-you-say-this-is-your-1st-or-2nd#post-23732 Tue, 29 Nov 2011 13:11:02 +0000 MamaLove 23732@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @junebugmama: Awww, I love "our first take home baby." Very sweet! We haven't told anyone, but when we do, we'll probably say first. Except to my doctors. junebugmama on "if you had a m/c and are pregnant now, do you say this is your 1st? or 2nd?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-had-a-mc-and-are-pregnant-now-do-you-say-this-is-your-1st-or-2nd#post-23346 Mon, 28 Nov 2011 19:55:14 +0000 junebugmama 23346@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I try to allude to what happened. I feel like miscarriage is such a dirty subject and I hate that. There's so many of us that have been through it and IRL it's never mentioned. When people ask me I say, "We're hoping this is our first take home baby". Most people understand what I'm saying. winniebee on "if you had a m/c and are pregnant now, do you say this is your 1st? or 2nd?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-had-a-mc-and-are-pregnant-now-do-you-say-this-is-your-1st-or-2nd#post-23342 Mon, 28 Nov 2011 19:48:20 +0000 winniebee 23342@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Ditto to what PP''s have said. I say it's my first, except to medical professionals. Practically speaking, though, all of our close family members and friends know that we had a miscarriage. ALittleP on "if you had a m/c and are pregnant now, do you say this is your 1st? or 2nd?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-had-a-mc-and-are-pregnant-now-do-you-say-this-is-your-1st-or-2nd#post-23337 Mon, 28 Nov 2011 19:45:20 +0000 ALittleP 23337@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Agree with most PPs. I will tell most people that it is our first but with medical professionals that it is my 2nd pregnancy. MaisyMay on "if you had a m/c and are pregnant now, do you say this is your 1st? or 2nd?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-had-a-mc-and-are-pregnant-now-do-you-say-this-is-your-1st-or-2nd#post-22852 Mon, 28 Nov 2011 11:09:07 +0000 MaisyMay 22852@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Depending who asks, I imagine that I'll reply that "This is our first, but we previously lost one at 10 weeks." We're ttc again now, and in the two week wait, so this is a good time to start thinking about this. heffalump on "if you had a m/c and are pregnant now, do you say this is your 1st? or 2nd?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-had-a-mc-and-are-pregnant-now-do-you-say-this-is-your-1st-or-2nd#post-22844 Mon, 28 Nov 2011 10:52:46 +0000 heffalump 22844@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Depends who I'm talking to. If it's for medical purposes, I say second. If it's a stranger asking, I say it's my first. Friends and family already know (or think they know) the answer, so they never really asked. I feel like people don't really want to get that deep into it if they're asking, so I'd feel bad telling them my whole life story and depressing them. tequiero21 on "if you had a m/c and are pregnant now, do you say this is your 1st? or 2nd?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-had-a-mc-and-are-pregnant-now-do-you-say-this-is-your-1st-or-2nd#post-22827 Mon, 28 Nov 2011 10:38:20 +0000 tequiero21 22827@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @themcmom: i would consider stillbirth to be a pregnancy. unfortunately, i lost the baby at 13 weeks, but stopped growing at 9. Lozza on "if you had a m/c and are pregnant now, do you say this is your 1st? or 2nd?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-had-a-mc-and-are-pregnant-now-do-you-say-this-is-your-1st-or-2nd#post-22826 Mon, 28 Nov 2011 10:36:50 +0000 Lozza 22826@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I'm not sure why, but I felt kind of differently about this depending on where I was in the second pregnancy. We lost the first around 13 weeks, so with the second pregnancy, I had this feeling of "I've done this before" for the whole first trimester, and that's when I felt weirdest about saying "Oh, it's my first." But somehow once I got past that 13 week mark, and everything was new, I didn't really hesitate to call it my first in the same way. themcmom on "if you had a m/c and are pregnant now, do you say this is your 1st? or 2nd?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-had-a-mc-and-are-pregnant-now-do-you-say-this-is-your-1st-or-2nd#post-22821 Mon, 28 Nov 2011 10:26:29 +0000 themcmom 22821@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I had a stillbirth, so I say that Wombat is my second. Moose will always be the older sibling. cyneswith on "if you had a m/c and are pregnant now, do you say this is your 1st? or 2nd?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-had-a-mc-and-are-pregnant-now-do-you-say-this-is-your-1st-or-2nd#post-22817 Mon, 28 Nov 2011 10:21:30 +0000 cyneswith 22817@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I agree with Mrs. Bells - they're generally referring to successful pregnancies. I had a super-early miscarriage a few years ago (at just under 5 weeks. While I would've kept and treasured the baby, it was a very fortunate miscarriage.) When I get pregnant with my husband, I'll say it's my first. Lozza on "if you had a m/c and are pregnant now, do you say this is your 1st? or 2nd?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-had-a-mc-and-are-pregnant-now-do-you-say-this-is-your-1st-or-2nd#post-22805 Mon, 28 Nov 2011 10:09:10 +0000 Lozza 22805@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I always felt weird about this too. I generally just said "yeah, it's my first" unless it was somehow relevant... like when the wife of one of DH's friends wanted to reassure me that my morning sickness would get better (which, in fact, it did not with that pregnancy!) I think I said something like "yeah, I had an earlier pregnancy and I was really sick up until 12 weeks on the dot, and then suddenly felt better, so I'm hoping that will happen again!" But generally, anyone that I would have told about the earlier loss already knew and didn't have to ask if it was our first. (And, um, even those who didn't know about the loss still knew that we didn't have any hidden children lying about the house) Mrsbells on "if you had a m/c and are pregnant now, do you say this is your 1st? or 2nd?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-had-a-mc-and-are-pregnant-now-do-you-say-this-is-your-1st-or-2nd#post-22804 Mon, 28 Nov 2011 10:05:55 +0000 Mrsbells 22804@https://boards.hellobee.com/ If you are being asked by friends and family I think they typically ask about successful pregnancies, so in that case its your first. but if its a medical professional asking then you can give all the details. Thats my opinion anyway. tequiero21 on "if you had a m/c and are pregnant now, do you say this is your 1st? or 2nd?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-had-a-mc-and-are-pregnant-now-do-you-say-this-is-your-1st-or-2nd#post-22799 Mon, 28 Nov 2011 09:58:00 +0000 tequiero21 22799@https://boards.hellobee.com/ i never know what to say. at first, i was wishy washy. yes. no, i miscarried previously. now i just say, yes, it's my first pregnancy. unless a doctor asks.