Hellobee Boards Topic: If you had an unpleasant birth experience..do you still think about it?

Hellobee Boards Topic: If you had an unpleasant birth experience..do you still think about it? https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 13 Apr 2026 13:00:20 +0000 CupQuakeWalk on "If you had an unpleasant birth experience..do you still think about it?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-had-an-unpleasant-birth-experiencedo-you-still-think-about-it#post-432541 Wed, 05 Dec 2012 02:51:39 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 432541@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @Mrs. Pen: there's always kidnapping from toy stores? I might try that if I get baby fever...cuz pregnancy ain't lookin too appealing to me! CupQuakeWalk on "If you had an unpleasant birth experience..do you still think about it?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-had-an-unpleasant-birth-experiencedo-you-still-think-about-it#post-432538 Wed, 05 Dec 2012 02:50:12 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 432538@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @junebugmama: seriously. I always wanted a few kids...but at this point, I can't imagine having any more. Pregnancy,labor,recovery & PP hormones are all things I can do without! As much as I want more kids...it'll take lots of time & convincing to get me on that bandwagon again. And I had a great labor! But still : everything prior to and proceeding was just...exhausting. Mrs. Pen on "If you had an unpleasant birth experience..do you still think about it?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-had-an-unpleasant-birth-experiencedo-you-still-think-about-it#post-432321 Tue, 04 Dec 2012 22:28:15 +0000 Mrs. Pen 432321@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Yes it was so traumatic I still think about it a lot. It's really hard and it took me a long time to come to terms with it. I am truly scared to have another one. I just wish there was an easier way to have babies :( sarac on "If you had an unpleasant birth experience..do you still think about it?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-had-an-unpleasant-birth-experiencedo-you-still-think-about-it#post-432317 Tue, 04 Dec 2012 22:24:41 +0000 sarac 432317@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I have a lot of sadness about mine. I'd say that I'm at peace with it, but very disappointed. I have a few friends pregnant now and planning on natural birthing, and I can't even hear them talk about it. I really hope to have a successful natural birth one day. Your experience sounds really scary - have you considered counseling about it? I've thought about it myself, but I'm managing to work through it well on my own. junebugmama on "If you had an unpleasant birth experience..do you still think about it?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-had-an-unpleasant-birth-experiencedo-you-still-think-about-it#post-432251 Tue, 04 Dec 2012 21:59:12 +0000 junebugmama 432251@https://boards.hellobee.com/ My whole pregnancy sucked. I will not being doing that again. mrs. wagon on "If you had an unpleasant birth experience..do you still think about it?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-had-an-unpleasant-birth-experiencedo-you-still-think-about-it#post-432243 Tue, 04 Dec 2012 21:55:21 +0000 mrs. wagon 432243@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I had good deliveries for the most part, but horrible anesthesia situations for both, which I've blogged about and probably scared all of you to death with. Honestly though now that I'm completely recovered from both deliveries and my babies were both born super healthy and have only been thriving, I don't think about the deliveries anymore. After my first delivery I did get sad every time I watched a delivery on TV (like on A Baby Story) where it was magical and emotional and perfect, but I don't care anymore after #2. When people mention how crazy my deliveries were I'm almost surprised to find they're talking about me because it's all behind me now. It helps that I know that I'm probably done with having children so I never have to do it again. Finally my body is my own again! autumnlove on "If you had an unpleasant birth experience..do you still think about it?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-had-an-unpleasant-birth-experiencedo-you-still-think-about-it#post-432140 Tue, 04 Dec 2012 21:08:10 +0000 autumnlove 432140@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @MamaBehr: Good to know! :-) MamaBehr on "If you had an unpleasant birth experience..do you still think about it?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-had-an-unpleasant-birth-experiencedo-you-still-think-about-it#post-432129 Tue, 04 Dec 2012 21:02:10 +0000 MamaBehr 432129@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I labored, pushed, c-section with my first LO as well. I thought about it (and cried about it) all the time. In fact, sometimes I struggle to read the beautiful birthing stories on here, I get very jealous and that happened almost three years ago! However, I was scheduled C with my second, but water broke early. It was a COMPLETELY different experience. I wasn't as tired, because there was no labor, the recovery was faster and just a better all around experience. I wouldn't be too worried about a schedule c-section, I was so much happier with this one :) Mrs. Sunglasses on "If you had an unpleasant birth experience..do you still think about it?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-had-an-unpleasant-birth-experiencedo-you-still-think-about-it#post-432110 Tue, 04 Dec 2012 20:42:23 +0000 Mrs. Sunglasses 432110@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I didn't have a bad labour but a bad experience afterwards that left a sour taste in my mouth and yes I think about it. So I think those who have had a bad experience with birth would tend to think about it. only normal i think. mrstilly on "If you had an unpleasant birth experience..do you still think about it?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-had-an-unpleasant-birth-experiencedo-you-still-think-about-it#post-432088 Tue, 04 Dec 2012 20:22:33 +0000 mrstilly 432088@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I would say my experience was okay. I was induced 2 weeks late, in labor for 24 hours and ended up with a spinal block when my contractions were on top of one another. I still think about it now and then. I thought about it a lot more right after DS was born. He is 20 months old now, and I'm pretty much at peace with what happened. I wish I hadn't had the spinal block and that I asked for the pitocin to be increased more slowly. I actually have more residual anger toward my in-laws for ignoring us and camping out in the hospital the entire time, my MIL tryin to sneak in my room while I was delivering, and my MIL taking DS from me to hold right after he was born. My step mom had held my leg for nearly 3 hours and had been up all night with me while I was in labor and MIL swooped in and held DS before she got to. We are planning on another child and hopefully I'll go into labor on my own. And we are not telling my in-laws right away when we go tithe hospital or if we are scheduled to be induced! BabyBruins on "If you had an unpleasant birth experience..do you still think about it?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-had-an-unpleasant-birth-experiencedo-you-still-think-about-it#post-431842 Tue, 04 Dec 2012 17:25:28 +0000 BabyBruins 431842@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Like @Mrs. Bee said, I thought about it constantly right after he was born and up until his due date. I still get a little sad but not as much about it as we approach his first birthday, but then I realize that he (and me since I had complications) is happy and healthy and thriving and nothing will be accomplished by me being upset by something that is over and done with. I also sometimes feel jealous of women who have a birth experience that is what everyone hears about (get to or close to their due date, go into labor spontaneously, push, etc). I did none of those things. Sometimes it almost feels like I didn't give birth. I really try to focus on and hope that each pregnancy is different and I can take my knowledge of my first pregnancy and birth to my next experience(s) but know that it won't necessarily be the same. Mrs. Bee on "If you had an unpleasant birth experience..do you still think about it?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-had-an-unpleasant-birth-experiencedo-you-still-think-about-it#post-431822 Tue, 04 Dec 2012 17:16:25 +0000 Mrs. Bee 431822@https://boards.hellobee.com/ i thought about it a lot the first year after i had charlie, but now it seems like a distant memory, especially since i had a pretty easy labor with olive so i know that all labors are not as difficult as mine was with charlie's. mrsjazz on "If you had an unpleasant birth experience..do you still think about it?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-had-an-unpleasant-birth-experiencedo-you-still-think-about-it#post-431812 Tue, 04 Dec 2012 17:12:16 +0000 mrsjazz 431812@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Yep. I think about it a lot, especially since the I have an itchy C-section scar to remind me. I've always wanted to have at least 2 children, but that experience changed things. I had convinced my husband we had to have two and got him on my side--and now I'd be fine with one and he wants 2. mrsmenow on "If you had an unpleasant birth experience..do you still think about it?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-had-an-unpleasant-birth-experiencedo-you-still-think-about-it#post-431798 Tue, 04 Dec 2012 17:06:32 +0000 mrsmenow 431798@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I had abruption of the placenta with my first and I was such a wreak towards the end of my pregnancy with my second. The fear of having something go wrong again was overwhelming. I think it is only naturally to look back at how things have gone before and feel sad or scared when they don't go the way you invisioned. With my third now I do have to say that I have felt much more relaxed and go with the flow in my thrid trimester then I did with my second, so I guess it is getting better with time. BelugaBean on "If you had an unpleasant birth experience..do you still think about it?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-had-an-unpleasant-birth-experiencedo-you-still-think-about-it#post-431786 Tue, 04 Dec 2012 16:57:32 +0000 BelugaBean 431786@https://boards.hellobee.com/ My birth went fairly well from a general standpoint but I didn't have time for an epidural. I was in so much pain that I honestly wasn't sure I could do it. I can't exactly remember the pain, but I remember how I felt. I do think about it sometimes and it's one of the factors that makes us think we might just have one child. autumnlove on "If you had an unpleasant birth experience..do you still think about it?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-had-an-unpleasant-birth-experiencedo-you-still-think-about-it#post-431784 Tue, 04 Dec 2012 16:54:44 +0000 autumnlove 431784@https://boards.hellobee.com/ My baby and I were both healthy so it wasn't that bad but I still had a rough time with my induction, long labor, emergency c section and anesthesia wearing off during the surgery. I still think about it a lot and while I can't wait to meet LO#2...I am absolutely terrified about my scheduled c-section. I broke down in tears at my 18 week check up when my OB told me that he will give me a few surgery dates to choose from around 30 weeks. I was his last appointment of the day so he talked to me for a bit and told me all birth experiences are different, etc.