https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 16 Apr 2026 13:31:14 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-have-2-kids-and-you-solo-parent-a-lot#post-2319185 Wed, 14 Oct 2015 10:09:22 +0000 NovBaby1112 2319185@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Following...my DH works long hours and last night was my first night solo with both kids and there were tears shed by all! Curious how others do this all the time without ripping their hair out... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-have-2-kids-and-you-solo-parent-a-lot#post-2319052 Wed, 14 Oct 2015 09:18:42 +0000 yellowbird 2319052@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't solo parent a LOT but my husband gets home considerably later than me. I do definitely have a routine and I try my hardest to give my older a lot of attention because she really needs it or her behavior suffers. I really try to include her in the dinner making process and whatever I can with care for her brother. I also give them a bath together as much as I can and it helps! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-have-2-kids-and-you-solo-parent-a-lot#post-2319042 Wed, 14 Oct 2015 09:13:39 +0000 twodoghouse 2319042@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH doesn't work terrible hours, but I sah with A and B so I'm on my own with them most of the time. There are days when just dealing with the sleep/eat/diapering needs of two babies consumes so much of the day that we can't get out of the house nearly as much as they'd like. Going to the park daily would be ideal but we make do with playing in the basement. 😉 Having twins made me adjust a lot of my ideas about how I would ideally parent. Some weeks we are just getting by, you know? Some days we watch too much TV and I pretty much let them still nurse on demand because it's just easier. Both of them needing me at the same time was very difficult when they were infants (when I couldn't expect either one to understand that they just need to wait a minute while I tend to the other) and it's still very hard when they are sick. But at 17 months it's much easier, of course, because they do understand things like "I have to go upstairs to get your brother, can you look at this book until I get back?" Generally I think it's a good thing for kids to learn that their parents cannot always be 100% focused on them 100% of the time. Since I have twins, they've just had to learn that as they go along and now at 17 months they are extremely good at sharing, taking turns, and waiting for their turn with each other and other kids because that's their daily reality. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-have-2-kids-and-you-solo-parent-a-lot#post-2319036 Wed, 14 Oct 2015 09:11:16 +0000 Bao 2319036@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We don't have much of a plan. I wing it and often lose my mind. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-have-2-kids-and-you-solo-parent-a-lot#post-2319012 Wed, 14 Oct 2015 09:03:19 +0000 sorrycharlie 2319012@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had to loosen my crazy reigns. The day doesn't always go to plan. My kids don't always listen ;) sometimes my dinner plan falls through. We get out of the house a lot, even just to run errands, and dinner/bedtime is a set time. </p> <p>I actually have found when DH is home when he normally isn't, it throws us off! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-have-2-kids-and-you-solo-parent-a-lot#post-2319009 Wed, 14 Oct 2015 09:02:26 +0000 Mrs. Oatmeal 2319009@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>All that to say, K watches more TV than I'd like. Also, I prepare 'stations' for the day- her sticker books, her crayoNs, some playdoh, so there are new things for her to play with while I'm nursing or changing the baby. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-have-2-kids-and-you-solo-parent-a-lot#post-2319005 Wed, 14 Oct 2015 09:01:25 +0000 Mrs. Oatmeal 2319005@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's hard right now because M is only 3 weeks old, so I can't ask him to wait a minute if he's screaming for me. The hardest part is bedtime or naptime, when I need a good 25 minutes with K. Thankfully there is family close by, so I've called in a relative to hold M during bed/bath routine if he's fussy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-have-2-kids-and-you-solo-parent-a-lot#post-2318993 Wed, 14 Oct 2015 08:58:42 +0000 Mamaof2 2318993@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think that is the hardest part - both kids wanting you at the same time. I am constantly saying "Look, there are 2 kids and ONE mommy!' </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-have-2-kids-and-you-solo-parent-a-lot#post-2318964 Wed, 14 Oct 2015 08:54:17 +0000 blackbird 2318964@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I did this last week for a full week by myself and I ate Chinese food for three meals. Including a breakfast. It was such a hot mess! </p> <p>The most smooth nights were the ones 1) MIL came over to play with E and 2) i walked both kids up to the park and we had a hodgepodge picnic there for dinner and E got to run around and play and I laid T on the blanket next to the playground and he chilled by himself (much happier outside than inside). You know, until i found mosquitos nomming on his delicious head :meh: *facepalm* </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-have-2-kids-and-you-solo-parent-a-lot#post-2318944 Wed, 14 Oct 2015 08:50:27 +0000 mediagirl 2318944@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I know there are a lot of families where one parent works much longer hours than the other (or one stays home and the other works long hours). If you have this situation and you have 2+ kids, how do you manage the daily routine? Do you have a schedule you follow? How do you deal with both kids needing you and you are only one person? </p>