https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 08 May 2026 21:10:32 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-have-2-kids-of-the-same-sex-when-did-the-comparing-start#post-1252947 Mon, 02 Dec 2013 08:10:14 +0000 looch 1252947@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Haha, I love the older generation and the freedoms they take with saying things that are rude and inappropriate! I address with eye rolls, equally inappropriate! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-have-2-kids-of-the-same-sex-when-did-the-comparing-start#post-1252942 Mon, 02 Dec 2013 08:08:59 +0000 mediagirl 1252942@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Rubies: GRRRRR!!! That's all. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-have-2-kids-of-the-same-sex-when-did-the-comparing-start#post-1252878 Mon, 02 Dec 2013 03:22:43 +0000 BabyMats 1252878@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That is super rude! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-have-2-kids-of-the-same-sex-when-did-the-comparing-start#post-1252855 Mon, 02 Dec 2013 01:21:54 +0000 NurseMommy 1252855@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ugh, that's frustrating. I only have one so far, but I distinctly remember as a child being referred to by most of my parents' friends as "the smart one" while my sister was "the pretty one". Not gonna lie, it's played a role in my life... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-have-2-kids-of-the-same-sex-when-did-the-comparing-start#post-1252840 Mon, 02 Dec 2013 00:53:08 +0000 MrsMccarthy 1252840@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh my goodness that woman deserves a slap in the head!!! I wish people wouldn't do that. My sister and I went through a lot of that because she was heavy growing up and I wasn't. It was awful for both of us! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-have-2-kids-of-the-same-sex-when-did-the-comparing-start#post-1252834 Mon, 02 Dec 2013 00:42:00 +0000 lemondrop 1252834@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>In utero ;) Poor #2 is in for it being compared to his big brother. </p> <p>Heck, my brother and I were compared a lot and we are different genders and 4 years apart. It's definitely something I felt that I had to protect him from as a big sister. </p> <p>PS- People need filters and rewind buttons! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-have-2-kids-of-the-same-sex-when-did-the-comparing-start#post-1252830 Mon, 02 Dec 2013 00:35:33 +0000 SAHM0811 1252830@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have two girls too, and have heard similar comments, but am sure even if I had a girl and boy, there would still be comparisons! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-have-2-kids-of-the-same-sex-when-did-the-comparing-start#post-1252626 Sun, 01 Dec 2013 21:22:54 +0000 swedishfish 1252626@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I only have one LO but my sisters played a sport and I didn't. I clearly remember a teammate's parent exclaiming that she didn't even know they had an older sister. That hurt. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-have-2-kids-of-the-same-sex-when-did-the-comparing-start#post-1252617 Sun, 01 Dec 2013 21:13:50 +0000 Mrs. Twine 1252617@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It is unfortunate. And immediate. :( I always try to say something positive about the maligned girl, especially if she is in earshot. And, yes, it is passive-aggressive, but I do want to send some sort of message that we have two wonderful girls and we value both of them. It's so much nicer when people can compliment each kid without making a comparison to the other. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-have-2-kids-of-the-same-sex-when-did-the-comparing-start#post-1252606 Sun, 01 Dec 2013 21:06:39 +0000 pui 1252606@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>WTF who says that!? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-have-2-kids-of-the-same-sex-when-did-the-comparing-start#post-1252565 Sun, 01 Dec 2013 20:49:20 +0000 Greentea 1252565@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That is so rude and so annoying! It is so unfortunate that people compare. It might be inevitable but it is such a bummer. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-have-2-kids-of-the-same-sex-when-did-the-comparing-start#post-1249908 Fri, 29 Nov 2013 10:26:21 +0000 Rubies 1249908@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MamaMoose: she is an old Cantonese lady and apparently the positioning on her ears to her eyes tell it all. *eye roll*<br /> @Andrea: grrrr. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-have-2-kids-of-the-same-sex-when-did-the-comparing-start#post-1249902 Fri, 29 Nov 2013 10:22:39 +0000 MamaMoose 1249902@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Um...... while I'm sure your baby will be a genius, I'm not really sure how your MIL's friend made that determination this early on in her life?? People are so freaking weird. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-have-2-kids-of-the-same-sex-when-did-the-comparing-start#post-1249898 Fri, 29 Nov 2013 10:21:41 +0000 autumnlove 1249898@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Andrea: same! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-have-2-kids-of-the-same-sex-when-did-the-comparing-start#post-1249894 Fri, 29 Nov 2013 10:20:32 +0000 Andrea 1249894@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ha. Immediately. Yeah, it's annoying, but I don't think there is any solution! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-have-2-kids-of-the-same-sex-when-did-the-comparing-start#post-1249874 Fri, 29 Nov 2013 10:10:25 +0000 Rubies 1249874@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have two daughters (2 years old and newborn) and already I have people making comments (ranging from not bad ones to downright irritating). </p> <p>A friend of MIL said, in front of everyone including my toddler, "The new baby looks prettier and smarter than your first daughter." What the what!?!?!?</p> <p>In general, people just like commenting on differences between the two girls and I don't like it.</p> <p>How do you deal? </p>