https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 16 May 2026 09:18:07 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-have-2-of-the-same-gender#post-1627072 Sun, 11 May 2014 01:38:35 +0000 Kimberlybee 1627072@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>People can be so rude and awkward! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-have-2-of-the-same-gender#post-1625738 Fri, 09 May 2014 21:00:35 +0000 BabyBoecksMom 1625738@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I hear it all the time, and when I say I only want 2 kids, they look at me with their mouths open like they can't believe I only want 2. Um... 2 kids that are about 2 years apart is enough birth control to last me a life time! mmm-k, thanks </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-have-2-of-the-same-gender#post-1625610 Fri, 09 May 2014 19:45:26 +0000 wonderstruck 1625610@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@blackbird: I am totally going to say this when it comes up. I'll report back on how it went, haha. Hopefully it would shut people up. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-have-2-of-the-same-gender#post-1625565 Fri, 09 May 2014 19:18:53 +0000 blackbird 1625565@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>"cant you just say congrats and be happy that i am having a baby"</p> <p>You can just SAY that to these nosy busy-bodies! :) People need to learn that it's inappropriate to imply otherwise. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-have-2-of-the-same-gender#post-1625524 Fri, 09 May 2014 18:59:21 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 1625524@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We got that a fair amount. It didn't really big me. People always want to comment on something... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-have-2-of-the-same-gender#post-1625476 Fri, 09 May 2014 18:33:15 +0000 MrsMccarthy 1625476@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@wonderstruck: aww I'm so sorry honey. I know you are thrilled for your new little boy and he will rock your world but I also think its okay to be a bit sad you may not get to experience a daughter. Especially now because you don't know your new son yet so its all an abstract idea at this point anyway. People are so annoying about this kind of stuff. Congrats on your healthy little boy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-have-2-of-the-same-gender#post-1625330 Fri, 09 May 2014 16:53:04 +0000 Mrs. M 1625330@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That would annoy me too! We have a daughter and are expecting a boy. Now we constantly get the comment, "oh good, now you don't have to keep trying for that boy!" Wtf! We were planning on stopping after two and would have been just as happy with another daughter. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-have-2-of-the-same-gender#post-1625319 Fri, 09 May 2014 16:46:06 +0000 Dandelion 1625319@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yep all the time. They even act sad when I say no...what's it to them? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-have-2-of-the-same-gender#post-1625307 Fri, 09 May 2014 16:42:06 +0000 wonderstruck 1625307@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsMccarthy: Yes, this completely!! And honestly, I've wanted a daughter for basically forever. I don't want the whole world knowing that because I love my boys...but I also don't need people reminding me that I don't have a daughter. And it's not like having a third child, even if it is logistically and financially possible (which I'm not sure it is) would guarantee a girl.</p> <p>I was dreading announcing that we were having another boy on FB because last time a bunch of DH's relatives posted crap like, "Oh, ya'll need some girls!" Um..it was our first child! But apparently since my SIL had already had a boy, it didn't matter. So far people have surprised me and I am relieved about that, but I'm sure the comments are coming ... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-have-2-of-the-same-gender#post-1625285 Fri, 09 May 2014 16:30:02 +0000 Honeygold89 1625285@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I only have one right now (a son) and people keep asking are we going to try for a girl and I'm like noooo I want another boy and really am hoping when we TTC next year that it is a boy I always dreamed of having sons but of course if it's a girl I will still be happy babies in general are such a joy to me </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-have-2-of-the-same-gender#post-1624914 Fri, 09 May 2014 14:13:19 +0000 MrsMccarthy 1624914@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I really hate when people say "try for a girl/boy" it's so annoying. As if we have any control???!!! This would annoy me too. It's not respectful of the new baby and the fact that they are an entirely new person! It's also not nice for someone who might be experiencing a bit of gender dissapointment. I know you aren't but if you were it would sting. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-have-2-of-the-same-gender#post-1624905 Fri, 09 May 2014 14:11:24 +0000 Bao 1624905@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes all the time, and the answer is still always no. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-have-2-of-the-same-gender#post-1624895 Fri, 09 May 2014 14:09:25 +0000 cyndistar3 1624895@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes! We had 2 girls and everyone always asked if we were going to try for a boy and now that I'm pregnant again everyone keeps telling me I better have a boy this time... I would sarcastically tell them that I'll try my hardest ;) but hey, it looks like we are having another girl so hah! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-have-2-of-the-same-gender#post-1624867 Fri, 09 May 2014 14:00:18 +0000 stargal 1624867@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lilyann: ya its weird bc its strangers that are disappointed lol! but my family is happy which is nice :)</p> <p>@BakerBee: aww thanks! :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-have-2-of-the-same-gender#post-1624863 Fri, 09 May 2014 13:59:33 +0000 Mamasig 1624863@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes - all the time. I am truthful and say that we probably will. But that even if I have a 3rd boy, I will be happy because I picture my life with 3 kids. Sure, I hope to have a girl to experience a daughter, but ultimately healthy baby is what I want. People usually like that answer. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-have-2-of-the-same-gender#post-1624778 Fri, 09 May 2014 13:40:30 +0000 swurlygurl 1624778@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@BakerBee: That's a good point - I bet DH is getting comments about it at work. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-have-2-of-the-same-gender#post-1624776 Fri, 09 May 2014 13:39:49 +0000 Weagle 1624776@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>People haven't asked us that yet, but I'm sure we'll get it at some point! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-have-2-of-the-same-gender#post-1624769 Fri, 09 May 2014 13:38:46 +0000 LBee 1624769@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@swurlygurl: I think it may be a "wanting your own sex" thing. I would think if anyone would get comments in your situation, it would be your husband about whether HE wants a boy. People are so silly. It doesn't matter what we want - we get what we get! </p> <p>@stargal: People are annoying. I am having a little boy and I was talking to my husband last night and told him for the next I actually WANT another boy. I want my boy to have the bond my sister and me had. Plus these people obviously haven't seen your adorable DS - who wouldn't want a second version of him? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-have-2-of-the-same-gender#post-1624768 Fri, 09 May 2014 13:38:13 +0000 lilyann 1624768@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am getting the same comments as you and I am expecting my 2nd boy (I couldn't be more thrilled!)....At least the people who really matter are excited about this little bundle of joy! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-have-2-of-the-same-gender#post-1624763 Fri, 09 May 2014 13:37:11 +0000 autumnlove 1624763@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, I hear it a lot! :P </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-have-2-of-the-same-gender#post-1624756 Fri, 09 May 2014 13:35:18 +0000 swurlygurl 1624756@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am actually surprised that this hasn't been brought up one single time to me! I'm pregnant with my second daughter, and everyone is so normal about it! Pretty much everyone says something like 'Yay sisters!!', which is exactly my thought :)<br /> Although, everyone that knows me *knows* that I really want 4 girls, so they know better than to say something about me hoping for a boy. But I am definitely surprised at the strangers' reactions... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-have-2-of-the-same-gender#post-1624673 Fri, 09 May 2014 13:14:56 +0000 stargal 1624673@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>do you get asked a lot if your going to try for the opposite sex?</p> <p>urgh im getting asked this a lot since i am pregnant with another boy and its annoying! like cant you just say congrats and be happy that i am having a baby! im excited to have another boy why do people act disappointed or ask if we will try for a girl! </p>